Unsuspectable or glaring?

[GexTrick]

I am the kind of guy who one would very hardly suspect to be a slut into raw sex, cocks and loads in the hundreds, orgies and overall an above average level of perversion and debauchery.
I still remember coworkers could hardly believe me to be gay at all when I told them. I live with three gay friends and despite living with me and knowing I am on the kinky side they don't have a clue actually how much, because I naturally dont look like hardcore sex is so often in my mind. It's not even "hiding" something, it comes natural to me to act like this

And to be honest, I love that.
The thought of people around me thinking I am a pretty ordinary guy, not even suspecting I not only think about being a hole for multiple men more often than not, used and filled with cum, but I already realized some of it and I am constantly trying to push my limit further and further down the rabbit hole makes me horny.
Sometimes I may be chatting with the roommates like nothing but I have a plug inside my hole to keep it well trained.

So, a couple days ago I was talking with a regular of mines and the topic surfaced.
To my surprise, he told me he would find it hotter if at some point I'd become so unashamed and unapologetic of a slut that I dont even "hide" it and instead talk and behave as such (not in EVERY context of course. He knows it cant be done all the time and with everyone. He just meant with those close enough to me or when the situation allows it).

Now, the discussion about what those contexts mean and are is way too complex and serious. Consider i oversimplified a lot the conversation with my regular.

But I am asking you: what do you find hotter? a total and shameless slut that looks like and acts ordinary guy or a total and shameless slut that is glaringly and very openly a shameless slut?
I described the thing from my point of view of a bottom, but I'm interested in what you think of it applied to tops and vers too

[Guest]

Short answer @GexTrick : a total and shameless slut that looks like and acts like an ordinary guy.

Being glaringly and very openly a shameless slut is good in a sex club. In any other setting, the answer is ... it depends on the context. 

At work, perhaps not the very best idea. At a supermarket, not really. On a cruising ground in a forest... hmmm... yeah, i'd go for it. At a restaurant? only with the waiter whose hand lingered just a fraction of a second more than usual on my shoulder. 

So, yes, depending on the situation, being a total and obvious slut is the way to go. But, getting there, even with close friends, is still a progression and evolution. I'd rather make sure they understand that there is a very much difference in being a slut and acting like one in a particular setting, and that also being a slut does not define my entire character. 

As someone put it to me a while ago: "I'm a slut and a whore. But I will always have dignity, self-respect and honour." 

If there are around here any screenwriters, how would you reply to @GexTrick's question if you were to put it in the words of a beloved character from Downton Abbey? (with the utmost respect and reverence for the actors and actresses in the show).

[JamesL100]

Butter wouldn't melt here 😎 

[hntnhole]

On 10/16/2024 at 4:14 PM, GexTrick said:

But I am asking you: what do you find hotter? a total and shameless slut that looks like and acts ordinary guy or a total and shameless slut that is glaringly and very openly a shameless slut?

The only thing I don't really care for in the above quote is the reference to "shame".  I'd prefer "natural", "guileless", or similar.  Yes, I know it ends in "less", but an affirmative word would be even better.  

I don't think any guy (or girl, for that matter) should ever feel ashamed of who he is sexually.  The only circumstance where "shame" is appropriate, is when it's cast at those who attempt to shame others for whatever reason.  When a guy honestly embraces who and what he is, and celebrates it without any hint of shame or guilt, I find that very attractive, and I want to "connect" with guys like that.  And, I don't mind waiting my turn at all.    

It's not what a guy says, it's what a guy does that counts, and I do love cumdumps.  

[subbottomguy]

Most say I look so innocent they question if I’ve lost my v let alone being a cum dump. Tho I find a lot of guys when I offer my ass up get off on my innocent look and sweet kind personality to abuse and breed like a slut

[KindaBasic]

Not really sure what a typical slut looks like. Most of the most sexually active and adventurous people I know are pretty staid and average looking in their everyday lives. The ones who work too hard at looking slutty always seem to be the most boring or timid people sexually   I guess you don’t need to advertise if you got the goods. 

[NWUSHorny]

If they are at a fuck club, orgy or cruising sot I want them to look and act like a glaring slut, the rest of the time I'm fine with boringly normal.

[PozTalkAuthor]

My partner and I are like this: "unsuspectable", at least concerning kinks. We're not (yet) an open couple but friends and co-workers or whomever we talk to, think we are the ordinary vanilla monogamous gay couple from hetero-based stereotypical disgusting romance novels where lovers know just one sex position or two, penis-anus and at the most penis-mouth. Someone even say "why on earth your nickname is 'gifter'" and I put out an excuse from "One Piece" manga characters. Fuck them.

But I let you imagine when we were joining an online conference where we had to read some contents and we both had an anal plug inside of us.

Or when I seriously talk to my boss on "ordinary" phone while I am NAKED and sexting with someone on this site through my tablet - just when I'm working from home of course.

Let alone when I mention plugins -technology related stuff- or "plug and play", and my partner winks at me or vice-versa.

It all started when I was a teen; despite being attracted mostly by guys, I played piano or sang at school and I had several girls at my feet if I wanted to. And I let them dream while thinking of men.

Now, my horniness and/or fantasies are stimulated my "unsuspectable": when I talk to someone who looks serious and ordinary I enjoy my mind elaborating him when he sets free from his official mask and then has deepest kinks.

Who is talking about politicians, or men working in the army, publicly homophobic and privately god only knows? ME|!