Tops: what gives you what you crave

[yoursinmine]

Tops aren't a monolith, if any of us were, we wouldn't want to fuck as many of us as we can. 

Since I get off on giving pleasure (often at the expense of my own), I often fantasize about what act gives a top what he needs, in the best way. 

If you like the feeling of ownership, domination, satisfaction, closeness, humiliation, etc--what act maximizes that feeling for you? 

My ex loved blowjobs and making me feel cheap. One of his favorite things was to make me suck his cock and finish on my face in public.  I had to be the one to jerk him as he came. I've worn his cum at the mall, at restaurants, to parties. Whenever friends would come over, I knew I was getting a facial. I've spent a night in jail because of it once. He really loved that. 

I suspect, being where this is, that most will say pumping cum into his guts, but is that only because it feels the best there?

[Throattopman]

3 hours ago, yoursinmine said:

If you like the feeling of ownership, domination, satisfaction, closeness, humiliation, etc--what act maximizes that feeling for you? 

 

Non-consentual consent. Rule One: I get what I want how I want it. If that gets you off, too, fine, but see Rule One.

[yoursinmine]

I love that. One of my fantasies is being woken up with a cock in my ass. Something is hot about being used and disregarded like that. 

[Bokkierob]

I fucking love when my bottom performs only for my pleasure. Like my Boy, Drew, he hates eating arse but will eat my hole on command. I’ll text him on my way home after work when I’m hot and sweaty to tell him to get ready to eat me out before I seed him. Like the obedient Boy he is he’ll be waiting naked for me in my bedroom. he will undress me and I will lie on the bed on my belly with my legs spread. Even though he hates eating my sweaty arse he will bury his face in my sweaty crack and eat me out from my ballsack to my hole. He knows I expect him to force his tongue deep inside my so he does that and won’t stop until I tell him I’m ready to fuck and seed his hole. 

[Westlonlad]

6 hours ago, Bokkierob said:

I fucking love when my bottom performs only for my pleasure. Like my Boy, Drew, he hates eating arse but will eat my hole on command. I’ll text him on my way home after work when I’m hot and sweaty to tell him to get ready to eat me out before I seed him. Like the obedient Boy he is he’ll be waiting naked for me in my bedroom. he will undress me and I will lie on the bed on my belly with my legs spread. Even though he hates eating my sweaty arse he will bury his face in my sweaty crack and eat me out from my ballsack to my hole. He knows I expect him to force his tongue deep inside my so he does that and won’t stop until I tell him I’m ready to fuck and seed his hole. 

Drew is a lucky boy getting to bury his face in your hole after a day at work. I'm rather jealous!

 

[LM10]

I think Drew knows he is on to a good thing. Like it or not, your wish is his command.

[fuckyouraw777]

Sometimes we overthink things. Back in the day, I had a fuck bud and I'd call him up, get off in his hole and then we'd usually just watch a movie or go get something to eat. Nothing at all complicated: he liked to bottom, I liked to get off in him, and we liked each other's company outside of bed too.

[meetme]

There has been such an assault on sex in New York. What Guilliani didn’t get rid of, Covid finished off. Meeting thru apps doesn’t work when you’re an older man. Getting ready to meet and then being let go when the door opens, is real easy to dislike. I was at the last bathhouse in NY on Monday, it had gone stone cold dead and as I left a young man from France was trying to negotiate check in. He ended up seeing my gestures and taking the elevator out with me. The place was empty. He wanted to have sex in NY and the pick up spot was literally empty. I wished him luck.  I don’t know where this city has gone, but the vitality is gone.

[LetsPOZBreed]

12 hours ago, fuckyouraw777 said:

Sometimes we overthink things. Back in the day, I had a fuck bud and I'd call him up, get off in his hole and then we'd usually just watch a movie or go get something to eat. Nothing at all complicated: he liked to bottom, I liked to get off in him, and we liked each other's company outside of bed too.

See, this is all it really takes.  I'm in agreement that we dont' need to contrive some elaborate scenario every single time - some role play can be fun, but it's not the be all, end all.

I read it in one guy's profile once - Relax, it's just sex 🙂 

[yoursinmine]

On 1/29/2025 at 11:33 AM, LetsPOZBreed said:

See, this is all it really takes.  I'm in agreement that we dont' need to contrive some elaborate scenario every single time - some role play can be fun, but it's not the be all, end all.

I read it in one guy's profile once - Relax, it's just sex 🙂 

Yeah, that sounds good to me. But it is important to me that he wants to come back the next time. I used to think that if I did squats to get that nice ass, the cock would come. What I didn't realize is that the hole is more important than the ass. And, I guess, that makes sense. 

[Bokkierob]

On 1/28/2025 at 8:29 PM, Westlonlad said:

Drew is a lucky boy getting to bury his face in your hole after a day at work. I'm rather jealous!

 

I enjoy it all the more cuz he doesn’t like doing it. He really goes at it and gets his tongue deep inside my `arse. I love lying on my belly while he eats me out. His reward is my load deep inside his guts. 

[PozBearWI]

@Bokkierob sounds delightful for both

[DNG999]

My first top had just separated from his husband. I think he was just missing the normality of a steady relationship so all he really wanted was someone to emulate that. I was in a straight relationship so could never fulfil this role.The sex was great, he taught and trained me well, so I always came back for more but he also became possessive and controlling. That’s what ended it after 15 odd years. I think at the end of the day all he wanted from me, other than sex, was affection and companionship.

[BBBxCumDumpster]

On 1/29/2025 at 12:01 PM, meetme said:

There has been such an assault on sex in New York. What Guilliani didn’t get rid of, Covid finished off. Meeting thru apps doesn’t work when you’re an older man. Getting ready to meet and then being let go when the door opens, is real easy to dislike. I was at the last bathhouse in NY on Monday, it had gone stone cold dead and as I left a young man from France was trying to negotiate check in. He ended up seeing my gestures and taking the elevator out with me. The place was empty. He wanted to have sex in NY and the pick up spot was literally empty. I wished him luck.  I don’t know where this city has gone, but the vitality is gone.

I'm inclined to agree with you. The sex scene is rather boring, more worthy of a Midwestern town.  I do have some success on the apps, but the ratio of flakes, no shows, ghosters, maniacs and theives and just plain ghouls  to good fucks is appalling and saddening. It's not just the lsck of venues, but also the zeitgeist is different.  The people are different, mercenary, jaded. I'm glad I was here for and survived NYC in its heyday. It wasn't all fun and games but it certainly and regularly had its moments. 

[NWUSHorny]

On 1/29/2025 at 11:33 AM, LetsPOZBreed said:

See, this is all it really takes.  I'm in agreement that we dont' need to contrive some elaborate scenario every single time - some role play can be fun, but it's not the be all, end all.

I read it in one guy's profile once - Relax, it's just sex 🙂 

I run in to the problem with guys that like a lot of role play, attempt to lure you with they might have sex, but more often than not they don't, and even the ones that do go through with having sex aren't really into it and wind up being a lousy fuck. It is equally true of guys claiming to be too and bottom, if they are into role play to the extent that they list it in their app profile or start the conversation with it at the bathhouse, they really aren't into penetrative sex of any kind.