Poll if you no longer doing apps.

[muscmtl]

Thanks 

Edited yesterday at 01:17 PM by muscmtl

[verbalBTTM]

Way to many flakes online. Miss the days of cruising at a bar or a club where you felt like you were hunting for a conquest. 

[hntnhole]

6 hours ago, verbalBTTM said:

Way to many flakes online. Miss the days of cruising at a bar or a club where you felt like you were hunting for a conquest.

That's for sure .... I used to use several of them, held on to BBRT for a while when I was keeping that cumdump, but when I got tired of all the drug-mess and kicked him out, I ditched that last one too.  Never missed it, either.  

[Norcalfukkr]

Miss having a local bathhouse. Although at times, even that would be a bust…nobody would be fucking. Usually, I’d still be able to find someone up for play and getting off. The apps  are full of fakes, you can tell the ‘visiting from….” Aren’t legitimate profiles. They usually are fit, uber hung, pornstar looks and don’t reply if you manage to contact them.  I’m kinda burned out on the apps right now. They’re a big fucking waste of time. 

[Pigboy71]

Agree 100%

[Barebacksletje]

I have a profile on a few apps, but never used them. Luckily the bathhouse is only an hour from my house and several cruising spots close by. Want to get fucked raw and anonymous

[BarebackedBear]

I honestly can't even blame the apps (although all the bots are a turn off). It seems like in general, at least where I live, folks just aren't the mood to get out and get laid since the pandemic. It's like everyone's just too comfortable sitting around at home with their Amazon Prime.

It's starting to feel like I couldn't even get laid if I was standing in a whorehouse waving a stack of hundreds over my head.

[SomewhereonNeptune]

6 hours ago, Norcalfukkr said:

Miss having a local bathhouse. Although at times, even that would be a bust…nobody would be fucking. Usually, I’d still be able to find someone up for play and getting off. The apps  are full of fakes, you can tell the ‘visiting from….” Aren’t legitimate profiles. They usually are fit, uber hung, pornstar looks and don’t reply if you manage to contact them.  I’m kinda burned out on the apps right now. They’re a big fucking waste of time. 

Must agree with you on bathhouses, and the one I used to like when I visited Philly has now since closed. I get the impression that no one really does that so much anymore so the demand has decreased and supply has shrunk like a micropenis.

I still have profiles on apps, and they are clear af on what I'm seeking, but I've as much as given up on every finding anything. And damn if I don't always get people who don't bother reading that and still respond if they aren't what I'm seeking. For instance:

• Bareback-only. I get every condom profile in a 500 mile range.
• Local only. Every fucking one who responds I need to get my travel agent involved in my sex life.
• NPNC. And here come the blank profiles with no pic or details.
• Lack of conversation. Again, it gets heavy and tiring lifting 100% of the weight of interaction to only get 5-word answers.

Makes me feel like Susan Powter wanting to yell "stop the insanity!"

[jeff238]

I was on a few apps over the years. Some disappeared, some just quit being of any value. The last two, A4A, BBRT were just flakes and bots. I did get a bunch of shit when I went on PrEp, so that was a thing. Seemed like I only got useless questions that were already answered in my profile. Pic collectors, one word answers, and of course bots. I deleted the last two nearly 10 years ago.

It's interesting to me that early days of apps, were very productive. I have always been baffled why it changed so drastically.

The first app I tried was gay dot com. I had a hookup with a cute 19yo within 20 minutes. Bear in mind, that I live in a very rural area to boot. What happened???

[AirmaxUK]

1 hour ago, jeff238 said:

It's interesting to me that early days of apps, were very productive. I have always been baffled why it changed so drastically.

The first app I tried was gay dot com. I had a hookup with a cute 19yo within 20 minutes. Bear in mind, that I live in a very rural area to boot. What happened???

In the early days the apps started out being used by motivated early adopters who were into meeting.

Then they became mainstream - there was suddenly a ton more choice - and people started to chase the perfect guy - and it's incredibly rare that if A thinks B is a hot ten, that B also thinks the same of A.  It's a bit like when saunas get busy everyone walks around and around. 

Now they are really a form of soft porn. People go on them to get off on the idea of meeting, not to actually meet. Hence why people disappear suddenly or ghost once the've shot their nut. 

I think if you want to meet people, then go out to cruise, saunas, bars, clubs, etc.. Support the businesses or we'll lose them.  

Can the apps be fixed? Probably not, but a lot could be done to improve them.  Some kind of uber like reward/scoring/rating system - maybe gated by having to have your smartphones in close proximity to perform the rating to prevent abuse.  

[jeff238]

1 hour ago, AirmaxUK said:

In the early days the apps started out being used by motivated early adopters who were into meeting.

Then they became mainstream - there was suddenly a ton more choice - and people started to chase the perfect guy - and it's incredibly rare that if A thinks B is a hot ten, that B also thinks the same of A.  It's a bit like when saunas get busy everyone walks around and around. 

Now they are really a form of soft porn. People go on them to get off on the idea of meeting, not to actually meet. Hence why people disappear suddenly or ghost once the've shot their nut. 

I think if you want to meet people, then go out to cruise, saunas, bars, clubs, etc.. Support the businesses or we'll lose them.  

Can the apps be fixed? Probably not, but a lot could be done to improve them.  Some kind of uber like reward/scoring/rating system - maybe gated by having to have your smartphones in close proximity to perform the rating to prevent abuse.  

Sounds logical. Im not one to notice what everyone else is doing, more focused on the hunt I guess.

The feedback/rating thing I'm totally on board with. Maybe as you say when the phones are in close proximity it would be automatic with AI assistance, such as how long the phones were near each other, how often they meet after. That kind of thing. Then when you logged in to the site at some later time, you couldn't contact anyone till you rated your last meeting. Maybe even a weighting system, like leaving a good rating would be worth 1.1 points and a less than good would only be worth 0.9 points. Maybe you get the same number of points as you awarded the other person. Just spitballing but accountability is something the internet sorely needs.

[NordicBtm]

For me personally the apps work pretty well, but I’m also not frequently online so I get messages from guys that see me suddenly online. The rule I try to stick by (not successfully always) is to only suggest meeting and making plans, and never to go online to chat or just because I’m horny. I found it to be a good method as I weed out the unserious ones since I almost always within a few chats check if there is a possibility to meet physically either right now or within a couple days. 

The big difference I notice now compared to before is the amount of all sorts of other people that are not gay men. I suppose it is inevitable but there seems to be a lot of posing and egotripping mixed with a strong desire to be present on a gay men’s app for validation… at the same time the general culture among gays is less toxic now compared to before so it’s a mixed bag I guess!

[Ludo164]

Personnally I was on Grindr and Scruff. When I was using them, I remember several time I stopped using them for few months before coming back and see. Nothing changed. I did that for few year before stopping definitively these apps. My main concerns were:

- Too much fake profiles. Even with the time, the fake profiles became better and better done, I have always detected them. I had a time with a lot of twink profiles, after muscular guy profiles, real female profiles (???  not trans or CD ...real ones)

- The distance calculation was eratic. Each time I refreshed the page (even every 1 seconde), profiles moved instantatly from 1 to 50 km (???)

- Too much totally blank profiles. I can understand that some guys do not want to add pics but not writing anything about what you want to or what you are looking for is incomprehensible. I hated starting conversation (or responding to "hey" message ... ) with Ok but what do you want or looking for ? I was a waste of time particurlaly when anwers took 10 minutes to come each time.

- Too much commercial profiles with URLs inside.

- Apps are not well adapted to my location. I mean I live not so far from the US border and I had mainly US profiles. I wanted to see ONLY Canada/Quebec profiles but impossible.

- I prefer to test and check apps before paying. I do not want to pay for an app I am pretty sure it is a big s.... Grindr was the worst. Too much commercials after 2 or 3 clicks. A nightmare.

- Last but not the least, too much people are just looking profiles like leafing through a book with sometimes a couple of words: "pics ?", "show me you pics" .......and nothing else, or yes sometimes a simple question where the answer is clearly written in my profile. For instance, It is writtemn that I am fully, 100%, exclusively bottom. Received question: "are you top?"    arrrrrggghh!!! People does not take time to read the few words on profile. I do not know if this is an impact of social media where everything goes fast but people does not take time to read or listen, or even write (gosting).   No cruisoing in the last two years of use....

😉

 

Edited 1 hour ago by Ludo164

[hungry_hole]

Cruising for sex has always favoured youth and masculinity. When I was young I worked-out, had a nice body, and I was also masculine, which made cruising for sex quite easy. 

I only used apps in foreign countries or if visiting a big city, because you are then "new meat".  

[muscmtl]

What killed the apps is onlyfans, and the insane amount porn out there with guys with 9 inches or more., everyone thinking they're going to get in real life what they keep seeing on x. When the apps started,  people remembered that there was a link between porn and fantasy, but no more.

For me  gay sex died in 2018, when a guy put an orgy add on bbrt only saying "send dick pics"