Hooking Up with Social Anxiety

[ShyPiggy]

Hey all, 
So, I've got social anxiety and I used to isolate myself pretty good. I've stopped isolating myself, but the social part of hooking up makes me anxious. Does anyone else have social anxiety and hook up with guys? Any tips? 
Thanks, 

SP

Edited 23 hours ago by ShyPiggy
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[anonCUMtainer]

Thanks for your question! I do not suffer this type of social anxiety but as a friend / ally I have some thoughts for you to consider...

I met someone recently with severe social anxiety. He was awesome. I hope to meet him again.

I think we all need reminding that our brain is in fact our largest sexual organ, so even if your penis functions properly your brain can just not be into "it" whatever the "it" is...

So, be upfront about your anxiety. Especially things that would cause you particular discomfort and prevent or hinder performance. You also need to be prepared for it to not go great and to hit the "eject" button and have a polite exit strategy.

And wait for the right guy(s) - they are out there. No everyone is going to be a match but if the vibe is right put yourself out there. In my experience, everything gets a little easier with practice - including hooking up with random men.

[blackrobe]

20 hours ago, ShyPiggy said:

So, I've got social anxiety and I used to isolate myself pretty good. I've stopped isolating myself, but the social part of hooking up makes me anxious. Does anyone else have social anxiety and hook up with guys? Any tips? 

I get anxious meeting people sometimes. I find focusing on a service mentality is one way that helps me relax and connect with breeders in the moment. I also look for a shared non-verbal language like touch to get to know a man and explore. It avoids awkwardness and lets our bodies speak directly to each other. I don't get to go out much socially anymore, so when I hookup I need to get down to business to make the most of my time.