Outercourse Another New Term For Non-penetrative Sex

[NWUSHorny]

7 hours ago, chiilfuck said:

Hello,

Not that there is anything wrong with any person’s way of experiencing  sexual pleasure or expanding the definition of sexual pleasurability, but  to me, this is another example of how today’s general gay scene, particularly here in the USA, seems to prioritize everything EXCEPT the primal, uninhibited man-to-man fucking.   

 

 chiilfuck

 

It's not a recent problem here in Portland, I'm sorry to hear it is spreading to other parts of the US.

[badubydo]

If somebody on Sniffies messaged and their profile said “outercourse” they’d get laughed at and then blocked. I’m on there to get fucked. I want dick inside me. I’m not there to “connect on a spiritual plain where our emotions transcend the living and the pleasure is euphoric” bullshit 

[chiilfuck]

Hello,

I think it has been a gradual change for several years throughout the country, maybe not noticeable on a day-to-day or week-to-week basis, but very apparent if one looks at today’s scene compared to years ago.   
 

In contrast to one of the quoted paragraphs, I think it is heteronormative NOT to acknowledge that we men are pigs by nature and want to fuck as much as possible to spread our seed.  Maybe I have a primitive view, but men are….fill in the blank:  sluts, dogs, pigs, as are males in most species.   
 

chiilfuck

[NWUSHorny]

1 hour ago, chiilfuck said:

Hello,

I think it has been a gradual change for several years throughout the country, maybe not noticeable on a day-to-day or week-to-week basis, but very apparent if one looks at today’s scene compared to years ago. 

There are definitely regional differences, it smacked me in the face when I moved from Denver, where I had a very active sex life in mostly in bathhouses and outdoor cruising spots to Portland. Guys in Portland to to bathhouses and outdoor cruising areas, but there is less physical contact and a lot less actual penetration. It is so bad that you are likely to offend them by even suggesting you want penetration with a penis. Fingers, fists, toys and tongues are for some reason acceptable to a lot of guys who would never consider sticking their dick in someones ass or letting someone shove a cock up their hole.

I travel quite a bit, and haven't seen the extreme bias against fucking with a dick outside the PNW and west coast of Canada anywhere else. I'm not saying there hasn't been a slow decline elsewhere in the US, but we always seem to be well ahead of the trends on it here.

The heteronormative aspect is an interesting point, I believe Portland is #1 in the US for gay marriage per capita, and you can even find guys in bathhouses looking for a monogamous LTR.

Edited 4 hours ago by NWUSHorny

[blackrobe]

32 minutes ago, NWUSHorny said:

[...] I believe Portland is #1 in the US for gay marriage per capita, and you can even find guys in bathhouses looking for a monogamous LTR.

That's is as ridiculous as those fake Grindr profiles looking for LTRs and monogamy.

[NWUSHorny]

52 minutes ago, blackrobe said:

That's is as ridiculous as those fake Grindr profiles looking for LTRs and monogamy.

I just googled it, for gay marriages per capita in the US here are the top 5:

1 San Francisco, CA

2 Portland, OR

3 Seattle, WA

4 Austin. TX

5 Boston, MA

There are definitely a lot of guys that claim to be looking for a white picket fence and monogamy, even in the bathhouses. There is less sex and more socializing in PNW bathhouses than most of the world, but it still seems like a strange place to look for a husband.

[NWUSHorny]

I think I need to start asking: "Do you do dick IN butt stuff?" Maybe I should incorporate that into my online profiles.

[hntnhole]

2 hours ago, NWUSHorny said:

and you can even find guys in bathhouses looking for a monogamous LTR.

That sounds like your area has turned into Cloud Cuckoo Land.  It occurs to me that the tubs is just about the very last place on earth to look for a LTR. 

Oddly though, it can happen;  it did to me.  That's where I met (the guy who became) my "other half".  And, neither of us were prowling for one.  

[NWUSHorny]

7 minutes ago, hntnhole said:

That sounds like your area has turned into Cloud Cuckoo Land.  It occurs to me that the tubs is just about the very last place on earth to look for a LTR. 

Oddly though, it can happen;  it did to me.  That's where I met (the guy who became) my "other half".  And, neither of us were prowling for one.  

I'm guessing it started with a fuck, not a long conversation, and ended in an open relationship. I think the baths are probably great place to look for what you had.

[hntnhole]

12 minutes ago, NWUSHorny said:

I'm guessing it started with a fuck,

In my case, yes - and in his case, a suck.  He loved sucking off cocks, and he was really good at it.   

By chance, however, we both were "finished" at about the same time:  both of us wound up in the showers, then the locker room at about the same.  For some reason I had a pocket full of change (and no, it wasn't from that), and the change spilled out of my pocket, onto the floor.  He smiled, I blushed (so he later told me), and we decided to grab a beer at the Eagle next door.  And that, my friend, was how it all came to be.  

I don't know if the location is crucial though; I suppose it can happen anywhere, but in the locker room of a pigpen is as good as any.  

[blackrobe]

1 hour ago, NWUSHorny said:

There are definitely a lot of guys that claim to be looking for a white picket fence and monogamy, even in the bathhouses. There is less sex and more socializing in PNW bathhouses than most of the world, but it still seems like a strange place to look for a husband.

Interesting. 

When I contemplate being single, I'd be focused on relationships that open up to more sexual expression, not less. 

A companion or companions into us all fucking as many people as we can quite openly. I think having lived a life and a lot of life challenges to deal with makes you more compassionate, more open, more likely to chart your own course in the types of relationships you invest in. I don't think marriage is antithetical to a more sexually open life. Straight people have had open marriages and slutty promiscuous sex for centuries. Relationships are what those in them decide they are.