A sad sigh

[ftm-fuckmeat]

I've used a local gay online hookup forum to look for bb company (alongside apps, etc.). But what really sucks is that there's someone on that forum who basically floods all my posts with comments on how, if I want to BB random dudes, I must be mentally ill, suicidal, and also how I am draining the public healthcare budget coming from his taxes... all the usual ignorant shit.
The guy is obviously wrong, a prude, and there's something wrong with him (as evidenced by spending time online calling random people names), but anyway it's a real downer.
The way the forum works is I can't block him from commenting on my posts, though I can stop _seeing_ those comments. But still, way to rain on my parade. I think I need to stop using that forum because I don't want my posts to be flooded with that shit. Which is a shame, it used to bring me nice encounters. Could use one more fuck and maybe even a hug to cheer me up.
Anyway, how do y'all respond when you get shamed for barebacking?

[Iker80]

I tell them we're living through a huge sex revolution. And in the future when everyone is remembering and talking about this moment in time they'll be talking how people suddenly connected like never before with new compatible partners online, they're going to be talking about people like me who went out and had fun with this new freedom. Not talking about the people who stayed home talking crap about it. Who's going to care about the story of those guys? They'll be the guys everyone rolls their eyes at and skims over, like the people who said the pill was slutty in the 60s. Nobody wrote a book about them, there was nothing to say and basically nobody agrees with them now anyway. So I'm going to spend this very sexy moment in time having fun with as many sexy men as possible.

[pupHawaii]

if you can't block him - can you contact the site (somehow) - and report him as abusive?  
whether you can or can't - maybe you do need to leave the site .. but i would check if you can delete your posts and profile before you leave .. 
some users on many sites -  you just wanna tell them - if you can't say something nice - SHUT THE FUCK UP!  😉

 

[blackrobe]

4 hours ago, ftm-fuckmeat said:

I've used a local gay online hookup forum to look for bb company (alongside apps, etc.). But what really sucks is that there's someone on that forum who basically floods all my posts with comments on how, if I want to BB random dudes, I must be mentally ill, suicidal, and also how I am draining the public healthcare budget coming from his taxes... all the usual ignorant shit.
The guy is obviously wrong, a prude, and there's something wrong with him (as evidenced by spending time online calling random people names), but anyway it's a real downer.
The way the forum works is I can't block him from commenting on my posts, though I can stop _seeing_ those comments. But still, way to rain on my parade. I think I need to stop using that forum because I don't want my posts to be flooded with that shit. Which is a shame, it used to bring me nice encounters. Could use one more fuck and maybe even a hug to cheer me up.
Anyway, how do y'all respond when you get shamed for barebacking?

Firstly, when people come for you for the kind of sex you're having, what's happening is about them, not you.

They could simply be a troll (Don't feed the trolls!), but I suspect something else is happening. Envying how much sex you have, and the kind of sex you're having that they want and are (unreasonably and pathologically) afraid of are strong starters. All kinds of projection are possible too.

I challenge you to flip the script and see every ignorant, pathological, and pathetic word they type as evidence of their twisted psyche unraveling. I'd be tempted to find a well known mental health organization in their location and after every unhinged post they make on yours, I'd post something like "If you're in a mental health crisis, please contact NAME on CONTACT_INFO for help" and say nothing else.

I had the same kind of fixated obsessive guy dogging me in a forum and in the end I robbed him of all the attention he needed by utterly ignoring him.

[Sfmike64]

8 hours ago, ftm-fuckmeat said:

I've used a local gay online hookup forum to look for bb company (alongside apps, etc.). But what really sucks is that there's someone on that forum who basically floods all my posts with comments on how, if I want to BB random dudes, I must be mentally ill, suicidal, and also how I am draining the public healthcare budget coming from his taxes... all the usual ignorant shit.
The guy is obviously wrong, a prude, and there's something wrong with him (as evidenced by spending time online calling random people names), but anyway it's a real downer.
The way the forum works is I can't block him from commenting on my posts, though I can stop _seeing_ those comments. But still, way to rain on my parade. I think I need to stop using that forum because I don't want my posts to be flooded with that shit. Which is a shame, it used to bring me nice encounters. Could use one more fuck and maybe even a hug to cheer me up.
Anyway, how do y'all respond when you get shamed for barebacking?

Puphawaii is right.....contact  the moderators of the forum. Ask them to stop this person from harassing you. That's fucked up and rude and creepy. It's also borderline stalking. If it was my forum (and I moderate a Facebook group for bears) I would immediately ban the person with no warning and no second chance. I have no tolerance for that shit. Luckily we have few people who pull stunts like that. 

I'm sorry that happened to you. Anyone making comments like that doesn't understand the current HIV regimes such as PREP and U=U.

[ftm-fuckmeat]

Thanks everyone for the supportive comments! And y’all are right, the moral panic our sexual freedom elicits in some is a them problem. Still, it got to me a bit, and reading these responses cheered me up.

[sleazebugga]

Sorry you are having to deal with this idiot. Stressful and unpleasant, but as people have said above, he is the one with the problem.

[Olderkinkybiguy]

That really sucks. It’s a shame people still feel the need to shame and condemn others. I know it happens, probably more frequently than I can even imagine. Most of us have way too much on our plates in our daily lives. At least for myself, my online presence is a sacred space where I can let my hair down and reveal my true self and hopefully connect with others with similar interests and desires. You should definitely be allowed the same privilege, no matter your interests. Sounds like breeding.zone can be that safe place you need. Granted it’s not typically the “hookup” site like others sites are, but you might get lucky. Hopefully if you contact someone from the website, they can at least block him for the time being. I have found most negative stalkers find a way to come back online eventually. Good luck and hold fast to your desires. Don’t let the A-hole win!