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instincts? - i love the whole idea of it and get turned on by seeing a slut bred in front of a crowd - i love the feel of sloshing around in a wet cunt. i'm as queer as a$3 bill but i do sometimes miss the slip-n-slide feel of a real pussy. this comes closest- a cum filled stretched hole - i'm unaware of any concept of pushing my competitors' babies out of the way. - but my problem is not instinct but ptsd. 😜i gotta get fucking dr fauci's "you're all gonna die!" hysteria out of my mind. it's bizarro world where my brain is going "this is 🔥af!" and my dick is going "danger! danger will robinson! abort mission" the opposite of most sex scenarios where my brain is "this is creepy and totally unwoke" and my dick just hardens more like "fuck yeah! use that stupid bitch" 😜 -
i've never gotten and complaints but i know im average because: math. sometimes guys will say something about it being big and i always have to suppress a laugh cause ive been w enough guys to know what a big D looks like and i ain't it. 😜 but in my experience of "can i fuck you or not?" dick size is the least of the issues. most guys are either too tied into uptight ideas of the top being the "man" and the bottom being the "woman" or anal is a step too far, i don't know u like that, or fear of disease (it was soooo much harder to get a guy to bottom for you pre-prep) or "i'll suck dick but i won't get fucked - that's gay!" etc etc
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Attraction vs Fetishism: Racial Preference
norefusal replied to KindaBasic's topic in General Discussion
this! i've both slept with and dated men of all races. but here's the rub: i live in usa which per last census is roughly 51%white, 33%latino,11%black, 3%asian and 2%other. you would think that scewers the odds. i have both dated and slept w more white guys than anyone but that's just because there's so many more of them. but, just by chance: i've had several LTRs w asians despite not having very many nsa hook ups w them. but i rarely go on dates w black and latin guys despite having nsa hookups w countless ones. in my experience they tend to be more on the DL, str8 or "str8" etc. and that's not me profiling them, that's just the facts of the stats how they coincidentally worked out for me. i know several who are out and date, just not me 😜 considering how many of my recent hook ups verbalize how they're into me being a thick-bottomed daddy, you could argue i'm the one being fetishized lol but i'm not complaining. being stereotyped is also getting me laid on the reg, so.... -
sex is 50% selfish and 50% empathy. i havnt worn a rubber since the last century but thats not a flex. for the first 20 of the 21st i only fucked my husband and the last 4-5 i can keep track of the times i've topped. no one asks for a condom. but most of these guys were cumdumps. one str8 guy had me impressed. trying anal to see what it's like, gettin raw dogged by an anon daddy in a seedy motel room while the wife waits at home? that recklessness turned me on 😈 but i mostly bottom these days and the only guys who use condoms are str8 guys on the dl. selfish: i'd rather get fucked w a rubber than not fucked at all empathy: when i tried to talk the last one out of it he said "i know. this isn't about you though" and i get that. if youre cheating on the reg anon youre gonna catch something at some point and who wants that drama. women take this stuff so seriously 🤬
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it depends but i have noticed in general that younger guys are much more open to kink and rough play than i was at that age, and that other guys my age still are. myself: i'm much more open to it as rollplay because things are so much safer now and ive gained so much confidence. this past WE i hooked up w a much, much younger guy and damn was he a nasty pig - it was wonderful. then i had a 3 way w 2 older guys and every time i tried something a tad outre it was "no not that. no i don't like that. "etc eventually i got bored and left 😜
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prepared to have your mind really blown: some people spend all day in the rain, cold or blistering sun protesting women going into clinics that also perform abortions. 😜 that's not including the people who go ahead and blow the place up
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i didn't see this one coming, given the types of stuff we discuss spreading on this site. 🤣 i've never even considered going celebate for an outbreak of jock itch but then again, i've been to 12 steps and therapy to try and curb my "sex addiction" so....
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this has been a great place to get info, connect w likeminded people, be challenged to think more openly by people w dif views, feel supported, see hot pics and i gotta say, the quality of the writing for the amateur porn is impressive. keep up the good work BZ 😘
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it's more a vibe. sometimes i can just tell that the anon guy really doesn't want to be cheating on his girl but he's so blueballed desperation has led him here where his body is relieved but his mind is disgusted. i just shake it off as what's the whole point of nsa hook ups if you're gonna let yourself get emotionally involved in your nameless guy's personal journey im more bothered by it on dates. ymmv but im shocked at the guys i meet. if they're out they're half my age and if they're my age, they somehow didn't realize they were gay until the kids were off to college. i sometimes mentor the young gays at work as it seems more natural. but on a recent date where a retired guy went "how does this work? if i asked you out do i have to pay? i don't know the rules of gay dating its all so new to me" and i repressed the urge to just scream STFU. 😜honestly, i have no patience to educate Rita. you're older than me dude, figure it out.
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this! i think why we even try chem sex is that it shortcuts the process and makes it easier to shut off all the voices and focus on the task at hand and living in the moment. i've tried to recapture that feeling sober and it's made me a much better bottom. overthinking has pretty much ruined me as a top. i've got to learn better how not to be triggered but today's climate is terrible for me. back in the day, you were lucky if a guy let you fuck him. since prep, suddenly the market is flooded with demanding bottoms screaming "breed me daddy!" as soon as you penetrate them. it basically throws gasoline on the fire of performance anxiety. that coupled with decades of "cuming inside is a fast pass to a grisly death" aids anxiety and the whole thing is a therapy session on steroids. nothing a good lobotomy won't cure 😜
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lol which is the part you are now sorry about? your protagonist is an illegal drug taking dishonest adulterer. are we now suppose to condemn him for also having a personal taste for well hung black men? 🤣 this is the fiction section. but should the woke police get words like "bbc" banned, we'll still have the majority of the fiction left to discuss rape, stealth pozing, older men emotionally manipulating naive teens, incest, etc. and all that will be fine just as long as we don't venture into morally objectionable areas like saying attractive men w dark skin and big D are 🔥 anyways, you did leave us with a cliffhanger. perhaps you can continue w the "sequence of events" storyline but make Reggie a multi-racial, polyamorous, gender neutral, entrepreneur who's fluent in sign language. 😜
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Am I too vanilla? How are you vanilla, or not vanilla?
norefusal replied to NWUSHorny's topic in General Discussion
the first thing i did was try to see the OP's age and yes, i was far less kinky at that age. i don't know if other guys feel the same, but ive def morphed into a dirty old man. 😜 -
How stupid is to propose taking a HIV test before sex?
norefusal replied to soki's topic in Making The Decision To Bareback
it's somewhat of a fool's errand imo the only time i ever did it was back in 2001 when my ex and i decided to become exclusive we both got tested, showed each other the negative results, then threw away the condoms. as an er dr pointed out to me circa 2009, trusting a man not to lie about cheating is not a 100% fool proof plan. 🤣 either u trust people or you don't but im on prep now so i never even have to ask. -
it's only gone in one direction for me: i've become friends w guys i originally just fucked, but i have never later fucked someone i started out as friends with. but people move on, or move away. sexual compatibility is hard to be enough for a sustained relationship.
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Finding guys online for relationship
norefusal replied to tallslenderguy's topic in General Discussion
spam and scammers are annoying but i find them relatively easy to spot and avoid. im more triggered by how unapologetically rude some regular folk are. there will be guys who are openly racist, ageist, body shammers, etc and then try to hide behind the excuse of "it's how all gays are, you should be used to it" um, no. it's just how YOU are. in a lot of ways, going online helped exposed the hidden ugly underbelly of the community - grindr is like a 60 Minutes expose 😜
