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this! my biggest speed bump in daddy/son hook-ups is not actually looks/taste but time frame. i'm embarrassed to admit how many hot encounters i missed because i fell asleep before he texted back🤣bars seem to really get hopping just as im heading out the door. this is just about the only thing that hasn't changed over the years. younger me wouldn't be caught dead out before 11pm. older me is craving cocoa n slippers by 11p as much as i'm craving cock. im this close to asking the bathhouse if they have an early bird special 😜

same. i'd get spun and stay up all night worshiping a dom master's cock. it's like i lived in a parallel universe and makes me more frustrated when sober i gag after like 5 min 😜

🤣 so you inspired me look up the definition, and of course it's all over the fucking place like ask 10 people and youll get 10 different answers, including "one who prefers men with large bodies" 😮that was a new one for me. i've always understood it to mean guys who will only sleep w guys with big dicks. i've had guys tell me of hook ups that throw them out because they're not hung. but if we're defining it as guys who given the choice, prefer the bigger ones, than yeah, size queen guilty. 😜it's a preference, not a requirement.

it's the perfect marriage of praise and degradation you're shared because you're just that good, but you're passed around like an object they talk openly about how hot you are, but not to you, in front of you, to each other, like you're not even there but its not shameful because you're just living your truth, you're a shameless slut

i've been very lucky i'm very average and my BFs have always been similar or bigger. a few of them were much bigger. 1 was like crazy huge! ive certainly slept w guys with noticeably smaller dicks, i'm not a size queen per se, ive just never fallen for a small dicked man. my ex husband was not huge, maybe 6.5 to my 6 but much fatter.

i had a very similar experience. people can try and simplify it all they want and pretend we are saying we're attracted to ALL black men like we can't tell the difference from one to another, because that fits their woke agenda of scolding two consenting adults who just enjoyed sex. the first BF i really fell in love with was a muscled, big-dicked ginger. after that id sometimes hook up w similar guys and really enjoy the sex w the added bonus of nostalgia. but nobody's going to slut shame me for that or any of the other preferences we all talk about openly here. but there's a special fun i suppose in being a liberal white guy and condescendingly mansplaining to other liberal white guys that they are toxic on behalf of a disenfranchised minority like black guys need a white savior to speak up for them. every black guy who sticks his dick in my ass does so by free choice so maybe we just accept that it's mutually beneficial sex between two consenting adults.

you say "different", i say "better" 😜

lol i know what u mean: i do a lot of blindfolded, masked, face down/door open etc and a big part of the excitement is u really don't know who's fucking you. but u can tell in ways big n small: often these guys send dic pics when trying to hook up. also its seems weird to say in 2025 but white guys and black guys often do talk different, use different words etc. and last but not least, these dark room nsa for anon hook ups tend to attract a lot of black guys on the DL where as all those NPNC guys are almost always white.

i've done it but always with guys with similar tastes (no pun intended) count me amongst those who would consider scat a dealbreaker. im less surprised by guys who don't wanna clean a cock off than by guys who don't want their cocks cleaned off. one top even said "ew no it's dirty!" and pulled away when i tried to suck his dick.

i think ALL men have pig potential as it built into our DNA. it seems more nature to me. to act upon it or not act upon it seems more nurture to me. lonliness, slut shaming, guilt, all seem more like things society invented rather than intuition. it does appear that men are more naturally piggy than women, and certainly societal norms and sexist roll play exaggerate this. so it's not surprising to me that men often turn to other men for guilt free pig play even if they don't self identify as gay. then there's context: i came of age during the scary aids crisis years so it not surprising to me that everyone seemed much less slutty back then. it does seem some people are more drawn to it as a lifestyle but i'm always shocked to meet young pigs. for me i definitely got piggier and piggier as i got older. at this age it's like vanilla just does nothing for me i might as well just not bother. 😜 i can't remember the last time i met a married couple who weren't open. but then again, i was monogamously gay married for years and we rarely left the house even to non-sexually socialize. i lost all but 1 of my gay friends while married. so maybe non-piggy gays are all home netflix and chilling and i meet a lot of pigs looking for group action because they actually left the house 🤣

it can be frustrating i know. like everything else it takes time and often success happens suddenly by chance not by design. the only advice i can give is just keep trying. statistically the more you put yourself out there the higher the likelihood of finding a match. luckily you don't have to be out to enjoy kink. it's not really part of the out gay culture per se and most of the parties and hook up sites for kink are private and discrete. going to a FF party hosted at a bathhouse is not like marching in a pride parade: your coworkers aren't going to all "i saw you on the news!" come monday 😜

oh gays and their obsessive classifications lol im neither surprised by the "no, CNC is a very specific rollplay exercise with strict rules" responses that read more like "if it's not from the Champagne region of France, all you had was cheap bubbly wine dear" 😜 nor the "that's just generic gay sex honey" from people who have been so conditioned to normalize trauma that this forum often reads like "so i was fucked by my father at 6 years old, as we all were" 🤣 even bdsm sessions come w a certain amount of pre-negotiation i've seen guys who like rough sex put right up front in their bio "like to fuck dry no lube not even spit" so what do you label it when there's no pre- consent or agreement but you're just lucky that you were in the mood for it? cause i've been having rough sex for a long time and this wasn't generic rough sex. i was there.

i feel like you guys will get this. i just had a buddy come over to fuck and i don't know how to explain it cause if i describe the nuts and bolts of it it sounds like rape but it def wasn't cause i fucking loved every minute of it. if anything i'm surprised how well i could take it 😜 this guy is a 40ish beefy latino str8 guy on DL with a fat uncut cock. we've hooked up a few times and he has gotten a bit rougher each time pushing the boundaries. he asked to come over and i readily said yes. i waited on the couch smoking some 420 and chilling in a leather harness, used jock and gym socks. he arrived just as the buzz was starting to hit. i offered him some and he started smoking before sitting down so i noticed he was already raging hard under his shorts. i got on my knees, pulled his pants down and started sucking while he smoked but then he put the pipe down, grabbed my head and really started throat fucking me fast n deep, calling me bitch etc recently a buddy referred to me as a throat goat at a sex party but it's all comparative: i'm often disappointed how quickly i gag. but i guess the 420 had me relaxed because not only did i last longer but i could really just be in the moment and enjoy the feeling of getting deep throated. eventually i did gag and came up for air, he immediately said " come'on im gonna fuck you" i bent over the sofa and was surprised that he just shoved the whole fat thing in dry without even spitting on my hole. but what really surprised me was that it didnt hurt even a bit. he just went straight to pounding me hard and i fucking loved it. he pulled out the poppers and would take breaks sliding in slow and soft but then grab my harness and fucking drill me like a wild man. my moans we're loud and gutteral. so different than during a long session. i guess he was really pent up cause when he came it went on for a long time with him shouting 4 letter words like one does when the orgasm is super intense. other than a few quick pleasantries he was dressed quickly and out the door. and even though i'd been used like cheap rag doll, i was just sittin there panting in ecstasy because it felt great. 🐷 have i reached full fledged pig status? 😈

i go by a case by case situation. i def would have said no to the above as it seems u had plenty of dick to choose from. i usually only say yes on those nights your online for hrs and nothing is working out and youre down to get fucked w condom or not get fucked at all as your choice's. which tbh rolling over and going to sleep untucked sometimes is my choice depending on my mood.

lol i suspect you don't want those big behinds to be acting very "str8" tho 😜