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As a member of the gainer/encourager community for over thirty years, I've seen it ALL! The thing to bare in mind is that there are 100's of variations to this fetish, and not just gaining and not just encouraging. I have been searching for that perfect encourager all these years, and he has been elusive. I did have an encourager top boyfriend for a while who took me up to 300+ pounds. What a ride!

I don't have anything against gainer, encourage, feeders, I don't think that's what this thread is about. I love bears. I love bears with bellys or daddies and older guys with a little belly. The first time I had sex with a chub was with a guy who was probably 270LB-300LB. I don't know his exact weight but he was a big guy. Very sweet, affectionate, bearded, damn good kisser. And a top. He fucked me on the ground several times and it was incredible. I loved feeling his dick and weight fucking me. I like it when bears or bigger guys use their weight to fuck it's incredibly hot.

I saw him on and off. I felt a little strange though. I don't ever call a guy ugly, fat, or anything insulting. I don't view people that way. I just know there are some guys out there that don't do it for me but know that for others it's what they want. But he was the heaviest guy I've ever been with. I met someone through a friend who was around my age, poz, cute black twink boy. He was a total cumslut like me, a techno geek, and we had fun. We even both played with a guy once (unfortunately safe top) but it was fun servicing a cock side by side. I told him about my chub bear guy wondering if he'd be into him too and he was. The chub bear guy was too and wanted to fuck us both. I felt kind of stupid for even having doubts like "Should I really be into a guy that's this large?". I like what I like and if I like someone that's a bear, chub, leather, or whatever then fuck what others think. It's who or what I like that matters. And if they like me back. I don't see the chub bear guy anymore because last time we fucked he was more than willing to fuck and breed me which I loved. But he wouldn't let me fuck him without a condom because he's neg. And he wouldn't let me cum inside the condom too. Kind of pissed me off that he could fuck me bare but I couldn't with him. But he's neg so it's understandable.

But I've been playing with bears and chubs lately fucking and getting fucked by them I love it. I think it's more the person and the personality that gets me going. Of course, furry, hairy ass, a little facial hair and belly definitely makes me hard. So maybe I do have a little bit of a chub fetish.

I'll be honest I don't really buy or get porn movies. I just watch clips online. But anything by Treasure Island, Tim, Dickwadd, Dark Alley, Or Raw Fuck club always gets me going. It doesn't hurt to go to a porn store and see the new releases. Although not my favorite studio a friend gave me a copy of Raw and Hairy Amateur Fuckers Vol. 3

I've yet to watch it but he's in it.

Just out of curiosity but is this the guy who also is the reason it's actually mandatory or law to wear condoms in a dungeon playspace? I heard of that in California and I couldn't fucking believe that? Don't know how the hell you'd enforce that too. Could only be for private dungeon.

I'm starting to see myself less and less of a bottom each day. I love bottoming but I seem to be meeting more verse guys lately which is good. I was broken of the whole "Boy did I say you could touch your cock" a long time ago. That being said I don't always touch my cock or cum during sex. Reason is sometimes if I touch my cock or start to jack off I fucking lose it. I'm beyond ecstasy and I like to enjoy the flow getting there. There has been a top or two who prefer me to jack off when they are fucking me and I do it.

I think I normally cum usually after a guy fucks me. Or now if I breed a guy. Usually though a guy feels so good in me that I just don't want overload on sensation. If I wasn't for that I wouldn't mind touching my cock. So probably when I'm in bottom mentality or mode I'm less likely to. But when I'm topping I definitely touch my dick and jack off when I'm with someone and cum. Especially if it's breeding him.

I do like though that I can cum and still have a top fuck me. A lot of tops (including ex) tell me that most bottoms once they cum their done. For me it's just the start of the next round

That scene from cruising comes to mind...

In all seriousness if you think it's hot go for it. I'm a bit hesitant about blindfolds myself and only do it with guys that I trust. Although keep in mind if you wear a blindfold you might as well wear an orange jockstrap. Anything, anytime, anyplace.

Also, I recommend Clubhouse II. Not sure if you were referring to that or more of the bath house place. Clubehouse II is more of a cross between a sex club and sort of a bath house. I think it's a great place. Lots of hallways and rooms to explore, a fun back area and even an open area. And showers, steam room, and sauna. I had lots of fun when I went there a few years ago. But I'm sure Club Fort Lauderdale is fun too just never went there. I hope you have fun.

It could have been because of the HIV/STD testing going on. When guys are in a sex zone or mentality they don't always think of condoms and safe sex. But have safe sex posters around, people there testing guys or encouraging them, and or condoms. Well, any worry or fear kind of pops back up and they question if they should be doing it bare or not.

I used to go to the baths sometimes and I noticed generally on Wednesdays, I think, when they did the HIV tests guys seemed a bit more hesitant. Maybe some guys get tested and they are scared waiting to see if they are poz or neg. And if they get it back as neg they might decide to keep playing safe. If you can find one that has it black out nights are always good for baths. Lots of barebacking goes on there. I saw someone once at a bath house who had a bracelet on that said raw. This was before I really started barebacking and it scared me but intrigued me. He fucked me raw for a while but then I told him to pull out because I was chicken shit. He did.

Another good thing to do is if you have a room to yourself wear a jockstrap or some sexy underwear and have only lube or poppers on the stand next to you. Hell maybe even just poppers. Guys should get the hint. But the baths can be unpredictable. Hell I went to the bookstore a few nights ago and I was lucky that the first guy who hit on me was okay when I told him i was poz. Because he was too. But I asked him honestly how often he gets turned down by guys at bath houses and bookstores and he told me it happens a lot. But that's another matter. I'm still going to find a way to take raw loads at the baths and bookstores and give them too to guys who are willing and okay with it. Don't let one off day throw you off.

I had a guy when I was 18 or 19. I went over to his place and he told me how fucking horny he was. As soon as he entered me he came. I was surprised like hell. That was condoms at the time. I can't recall any top guys that he ever bred me in 4 strokes or less. I fucked someone once though and came in just about 4 strokes. But I think I edged like hell earlier. My moto is if the guy is gonna cum as soon as he enters he should at least cum again and again. That's what I aim to do.

If you remember the US version of Queer as Folk, the popular club was called Babylon. That's actually a club on Church Street in downtown Toronto and goes by a different name. Anyways, it was a Thursday night, I was there w/ some buddies and this little slut kept coming around and rubbing his ass against my cock. I finally had enough and when he came back around and turned his back to me, I pulled his shorts down, spit on three fingers, rubbed his hole, spit on my cock and impaled him. We were against a back wall towards a corner. I had a beer in one hand, my hand on one of his hips and just drilled him for about 90 seconds before I popped. When done, I just zipped back up (I just pulled my cock out of my jeans), he pulled his whore shorts up and walked away.

that was the one and only time. That said, I saw a lot of fucking going on in that club. A lot of fucking.

Holy shit I just finished watching that show. That's a real club? Incredible. That's fucking hot too. I've always wanted to be fucked on dance floor. You see guys grinding against each other all the time in dance clubs but never see em penetrate or sucking the other guy. At least here you don't. There used to be black out nights at some clubs in Atlanta. I don't think they do those anymore. I'm sure shit like that would go on during a black out party.

Damn, now I have new goal. To get fucked on the dance floor. Been fucked over a pool table though that's fun.

I signed. Damn, I didn't know he was the guy that got bareback porn banned in LA. Worse that he takes money from groups that help people with HIV. I like AHF a lot they have a lot of centers in Ft. Lauderdale and at least one in GA. Thanks for making us aware rawtop. I hope he gets removed.

Ah time to dust off the old keyboard for this one.

Really had high hopes on saturday night being leather night. A tad bit nervous being back in town and so many changes. Fortunately someone on manhunt was also going out and we decided if we saw each other we'd chat. We just cruised the guys at first then I finally had the balls to ask him if he wanted to fuck. So we made out some and left. We went to another bar for a drink and then went to one of the sex clubs. It was fucking hot once the clothes were off the man was a damn good kisser. I sucked him and he fucked me a few times. We eventually found a room with a bed. I blew him mostly to the point where he was getting ready to cum. I pulled off and slide down on his cock taking his load up my ass. He shot a huge fucking load. After that I just walked around sucking a few guys.

I left the club and went to someone's place. Big beefy hairy man he fucked me as soon as I got over. We fucked for a few hours and he bred me. I slept over and he fucked me again in the morning. He didn't bred though. I went over to someone else's on sunday afternoon and as soon as I got there I was stripped, on my knees, and he was face fucking me brutally. He pulled me onto the bed, bent me over, and shoved his huge dick in me. I had poppers thank god but it hurt a bit at first but then felt good. He fucked me really rough and shot 2 loads in me.

And the finale I went to a fun party. I fooled around with one of the guys serving drinks and some of the other people as well. I was drunk and taken into another area and the couple I went to meet fucked me. At least one of them did. I know he shot at least two loads in me. Some other guy fucked me too and shot a load but I don't remember the rest I was in haze.

Monday as in today. Seemed like a boring uneventful day. I got a text after I had a drink and getting ready for bed. I planned on going to bed early tonight. A leather top whom I told I was more of a cumdump now and discovering myself messaged me. He told me he needed some ass and wanted me to come over. Of course I did a quick rinse and headed over. This was different then last time he took me being a cumdump to heart. There was no foreplay, no kissing, none of that was present. I was told to strip and he pushed me on my knees and choked me with his huge cock. He was intentionally making me choke on it and making me gag and repeating. He pushed me to the ground and while I was bent over he slapped my ass HARD several times it fucking hurt. He raised pulled me up and bent me over the bed. I knew what was coming so I took a good hit of poppers. As expected he didn't use lube and he pushed in. I had no time to relax but fortunately the poppers were kicking in and I was starting to relax. Before I could relax completely though he shoved it in and I had to fucking take it. He fucked me very brutally calling me his cum dump bitch and asking if I still wanted to be a cumdump.

He flipped me on my back and had me hold my legs and he pounded me hard until I heard him start to groan and growl and he shot a huge fucking load in me. We talked a little bit after that though. He still wants me to be his boy. But won't tell me what that involves. He told me from here on out I'll be his cumdump and it will be similar treatment. I was a little disappointment because I really enjoyed licking his pits and nipples but it's the only way to see him currently. There was some small sentiment that was mentioned when I was walking out the door.

Since the fuck was quick and I was a cumdump I was fucking horny still. I went to the book store and found a guy and first thing I said was, "I'm poz." He said, "Cool."

He fucked me with just the load in my ass. I don't know if his cock is bigger than leather Sir but I was really feeling his cock pounding the hell ou tof me when he fucked me. He stopped himself from cumming though and he kept building up and pounding me so hard my fucking cock felt like it was about to blow. But then he'd stop. We went to a bed area and different positions but same thing. I was pretty fucking load, but I haven't had a fuck like that in a long time. He reached a spot. Don't know how I know I've had guys bigger and thicker than him. But for some reason I could really feel it. Unfortunately he didn't breed me though. Some cryptic advice he gave me was some insight of his own. I asked about him being poz and he told me he was. I asked how that went in clubs. He told me he's honest and he gets rejected quite often. So unfortunately that's something to look forward to. Although, I know where more of the poz guys go to play.

So back to counting. 5 loads that I can completely confirm over the last few days. Maybe 4 or 5 on sunday night but I was in a haze so not entirely sure. I did suck a guy at the bookstore and he had a HUGE fucking cock. I wish he would have fucked me.

I agree with Rawtop and others that not saying no thanks isn't the end of the world. I am sometimes on my phone so I can't always respond to guys. And other times I just don't think I'm in the mood whether it's topping, bottoming, or whatever the guy wants to do. Or I just don't feel like talking and responding.

I have rarely gotten a no thanks but yes if you get a no thanks that's it. The guy will more than likely never want to do anything with you. I think the problem is some people get their hopes up and wonder and wait for a guy they want, to respond to their message or unlock pictures. Move along. There's a shit load of guys out there if one rejects you go for another.

I take it when no responds that they aren't interested or just not in the mood. I actually did used to say no thanks when I was younger and I had guys who used to try to hound me too. For some guys if you give communication they see that as an opening. I think there a lot more of problems with online ettiquite than the not responding to someone sending you something. Very minor imo

Great points everyone. I'm glad that I'm not the only one who fears the same and worries. Yes, an group where everyone is tested is ideal but so fucking unrealistic. Playing outside of town is a great idea. That's why I was so desperate to go to phouse in the past.

A little experience from tonight I'd like to share.

Be fucking careful where you decide to be a cumdump. I won't say where I was but lets just say I had a few too many drinks and a bartender who wanted me to get smashed. I got a few extra drinks and shots. I sucked him and any guy he told me to. I got my ass spanked several times, nipples played with and a little making out.

I went to this place to meet two guys a couple. To fuck and get fucked by both. I was late because I got a few loads earlier in the day and got home late so I went to play late. I also wanted to make sure I was properly cleaned. Thank fuck ing good I did.

So as I was saying. I sucked off the man serving my drinks, made out with him, got my body played with and any man he told me to suck or any guy who came over I took care of him. And that was all she right. I vaguely remember one of the guys I was meeting fucked me a few times. He wanted me to fuck him and I think I fucked him for a little bit. I don't remember how many guys fucked me but I think it was 5. There no mention of my status I just remember cocks going up my ass and taking a few loads. The two guys his partner I didn't do much with him I asked but he didn't want much. At the same time I saw lots of guys getting fucked and gangbanged and after I was fucked a few times that was it. Just a piece of used meet basically.

I barely remember the guys who fucked me. I just remember that I did some shots and got drinks so I was completely naked. When I was given water and told to try and settle down I was in the bathroom and a hot guy said he already fucked me and wanted to breed me again. He fucked me in the bathroom, don't know if he bred me or not. So that's the hot side of this story. Now for the reality.

The guys I went to meet told me they were leaving. The guy who fed me the drinks and made out with me gave me my clothes so I could get going. Some of the guys that fucked me bred me and used me so that was it.

I was taken outside but walked to the car by myself. I remember sitting in my car with the car on and passing out quickly. I don't remember if it was a dream or not but I think some guy warned me not to turn on my car especially being drunk and that I could get fined by a cop for that. I don't know if a guy actually said that but I dreamed it. Abandoned by everyone I blacked out and I woke up. I was surprised I actually woke up. Every single car I was gone I was the only one left. Not one person cared to make sure I was okay, the guys I was supposed to meet didn't give a fuck neither did the guy who fed me the drinks. Maybe because I'm new back in town, but I think most guys would have probably been treated the same.

So yeah I'm young but that appeal only goes so far. I was a little pissed, hurt, scared, and sick from being drunk and left all alone. I can't tell you how fucking hard it was to drive home. I was so fucking careful and waited at mcdonalds like hell forever waiting to get some damned food to wake up. But yes I'm at home and barely okay after eating some food and ginger ale. But i took care of myself. I left my hat at the place which I liked too. Not sure if I'll try and get it back.

So yes I got to be a cumdump. I don't know how many loads I really took, I don't know what the guys looked like, all I know is that I took raw cock and loads. I only told the guy that gave me the drinks I was positive since I was more sober at that point. Lesson learned, make sure I have some kind of back up or plan if I get shitfaced to save my ass or help myself. Because no one else will or care.

That being said 2 failed poly relationships and trying to make connections with vanilla guys has failed. Attempts at learning leather and other things from a Sir has gotten me no where. I don't really give a fuck anymore. I think I'm just going to find someone to whore me out and I'll take all the cock up my ass and loads that he tells me. I believe that's truly what I'm meant for not a relationship. I know this doesn't apply to everyone but that's how I feel anyways. And as some have said, this means that certain Sirs will get the proper service and mouth or ass that they need. I look forward to being able to provide that service.

Another thread about cumdumps and sluts

I'm single now but I had an experience before I moved back to where I live now. I drank with two guys just beer, wine, and cocktails. They had friends over and I was hard and horny from the alcohol. One of the guys who was the host ordered me to play with myself and stroke my cock. Then I was told to go around and let the other guys feel my hard cock. Someone had his cock out and I was ordered to suck him. Before I knew it guys were groping, grabbing me, and my hole was being played with and complimented. And then I felt a bare cock in my hole and one of the guys was fucking me raw. By this point I was in such as haze it's a blur and I'm not sure how many guys fucked me. I remember being fucked in different positions, poppers inhaled, and hearing the guy yell as he bred me. I only remember one.

This experience re-awakened the slut, whore, and pig in me that I suppressed when I was in a relationship. Now that the pig is out, can he be caged again? I know of all the diseases and consequences for whoring out. If I were to truly became a cum dump and take all loads I'd take all of that as well.

I've talked to someone lately who goes to sex parties and orgies and has invited me to one this weekend. He wants me to breed him and he'll fuck me too and fuck and bottom for all kinds of guys. He told me he's not a cumdump though he cares more about the guys than the cocks. Which is how I feel as well. I think a true cumdump wouldn't care about the guy and just the cock and size. I want to go and I want to fuck him and get together with him regularly too. He's fucking hot.

I'm just afraid that if I go through with the orgy and sex party and start going to cumunion with him or someone else that the pig will be unleashed and I won't be able to go back. I told myself that I was just going to hook up with guys sometimes but not that much and focus more on friendships. Being a cumslut gets around. People do view you a certain way. They'll be more than happy to fuck and breed your ass or take it up their ass but that's it. It's harder to make friends. But if it's who I really am do I just ignore it and suppress it and just focus on making friends, building a career and life. I'll still be working a job even if I whore out. Lots of guys tell me how they would have done things different if they were me at my age.

I'm just not sure what I should do. Go out sometimes and fuck some guys or take it up the ass. Find a fuckbuddy or two and stick with that? Slut and whore myself out to either preference or any load any cock. Or have a guy or group of guys who me out either as just doing it for fun and the sex or because I like them.

I know not one person can tell me what's best for me but everyone has their own opinions and I'd like to hear them. I just want to live life honestly and freely and not worry about limits or restrictions. But I also know every choice has a consequence whether it's good or bad.

I thought I still had some vanilla left me in but I literally have none left. Dirty talk, dominance, brutal, rough, it all gets my dick hard. Being man handled, shoved, grabbed makes me fucking rock hard. Love a rough dominant top fucking me and love to fuck rough when I'm giving it to someone. Especially love biting a guy's ear or neck when I'm close to cumming. That sends me over the edge.

I know not everyone is ready to completely slut out but bottoms or curious guys still go to bath houses and sex clubs. It's one thing for someone to be curious and a little bit conscious who and who they don't want to play with. That's what rooms are for and cruising halls, showers, saunas, or etc.

But when you are in a sling or in a room with the door open with your ass in the air that is the universal sign for any and every cock. I do agree with hungry_hole about hating when a top walks into a room when you have your ass in the air and too much time is spent sucking their cock and fucking doesn't happen. But I don't think every bottom is really aware that presenting their ass for everyone means it's for everyone. I don't have a problem with bottoms being more specific about who and what they want. But a sling or ass up in a room isn't the place to do it.

Unfortunately bottoms can't really learn about this until they experience it or find someone else who's experienced and lets them know.

Aside from the personality compliments I'll focus on the sex ones more. "You were made for fucking" or "Good boy".

What's impressed me even more is a guy I haven't talked to in two years I contacted when I was in Ft. Lauderdale. I didn't get to see him unfortunately but he remembered exactly who I was and he wanted to fuck me again. I got together with it an old bud of mine now that I'm back in GA and he remembered me as well. Lots of guys who I got together with in the past remembered me. Maybe it was only for sex but I was remembered.

Actually now that I think about it my favorite one is probably. "You're a great kisser."

I know lots of guys here love anonymous but I love kissing a hot and rough top or horny bottom. Makes me hard and makes me horny as fuck. I've fucked and gotten fucked without kissing before but it makes it better when there is some passion and lust.

Awesome post TigerMilner

I remember when I first barebacked and bottomed. I wouldn't take a lot of loads and usually once I hooked up with someone that was it. But I think one of the first times I hooked up with someone after I already had a load in my ass I was scared. I don't think I initially said anything. At the bath house I just let another guy fuck me but he never said anything. Once I hooked up with someone and said someone else I did get a comment about the cum in my ass and the guy loved it. Most tops seem to like it. There was one top I talked to once who was turned off by the fact that I already had loads up my ass and didn't want to meet me.

I did used to push out the load at first but after a while I kept it in so top after top could use it as lube. Those were fun times.

In my experience real ginger guys are Celts, having coarse red hair, and often a distinctive odour to our pubes that only some notice (and some actively dislike). We go directly from ginger to white with ago with no thinning of hair and we rarely go bald.

Hmm. My former Sir was celtic. Scottish. Last name was Scott. He had a book in his house which said all about the different Scottish clans. I read it once, it was interesting. He wasn't that hairy though, he called himself a behr because he only really had a beard, mustache, hair, and hair around his balls and cock. His chest, body, belly was actually smooth. His ass didn't have any hair in it either. I think, maybe just a little in his crack. I only rimmed him a few times. But I never remember his pubic hair being that coarse. His hair was also more blonde/white since he's in his 50's. He showed me pictures of when he was younger too and his mustache (no beard back then) seemed pretty damn red and so did his hair.

I'll have to pay more attention to that if I ever meet more Celtic guys. Don't forget the lumpy cum and the pink head of the dick

I still think my hair is coarser, rougher, and thicker then Scottish guys or other guys. And I'd be willing to compete like that too. I know I could never beat a Scottish man in a drinking contest but I know I'd definitely win with the thickest, most stubborn hair contest

A friend of mine who is also Incan had really thick hair too. Don't know if it's an Incan or Hispanic thing.

Thank you Real ginger hair is probably the thickest hair type for caucasians - certainly the coarsest - and I've found whatever's on special works. What you're paying for is the packaging and the perfume, not the actual conditioner. By the time you've been round Wikipedia and doing the research you might as well have just have bought the cheapest on on offer...

So ginger is the thickest hair type for Caucasians huh. I never knew or noticed. I haven't been with that many ginger guys. Never seemed that thick to me Yeah, but hispanic/incan/asian mix makes for super thick hair. I keep my hair short now which is why I don't use conditioner anymore.

I guess your right. I'll just grab whatever on clearance next time I go to the store and see if it works.

Although you said real ginger. I'm not sure what real a real ginger is except red hair. But I've known guys that are gingers who have blondish white hair because of age. Do real gingers never lose the red hair color or something?

Hair conditioner helps stop body hair from getting too itchy as it grown back (experience from the few times when I had no choice in the matter), but I'm firmly in the "let it grow" camp...

As always, your extremely helpful bearbandit. Any certain type of hair conditioner. The thing is because of my ethnicity, my hair in general (hair, pubic, goattee, balls, ass hair) is extremely thick. Much thicker then most. If it wasn't so thick and it was lighter I wouldn't mind it so much. I remember I used to sometimes use shampoo or conditioner for my pubic hair sometimes. I think there were times when i used it on the hair around my ass too and it made it less thick. I'll give that a go before I decide if I'm going to shave it or not.

personally I like them smooth, but as the other posts have shown, that preference is far from universal.

I've shaved mine before and what I remember was that the stubble can be irritating as hell when it grows back in, so if you're going to shave it, you'll probably want to do it fairly regularly so it doesn't start itching.

I shaved mine a long time ago when I was 18 for a guy. He loved it, and I admit I did like the feeling of my hole being smooth. But I also like it hairy. But it can be irritating sometimes. I know times when I got fucked a lot another guy pushing in would hurt a bit pushing/pulling against the ass hairs. Just like with cock and balls. I never shave my pubes though because they get itchy as fuck when they grow back. Same as when they're shaved. I'll think about it.

Thanks.

It's your choice to stay online and meet people like that if that's how you wish to do things. No one is forcing you to use online hook ups like BBRT, Growlr, Grindr, or to filter people based on appearances, cock sizes, and etc. But you are absolutely right at the same time. Someone you reject online or whom rejects you, might have actually grown into a really good friendship or caused you to meet someone else even. They say a door opening is a good thing and the more doors or opportunities opened the better. It could be looked at as a negative thing as well.

You are correct that most guys now do use Grindr, Growlr, BBRT, Breedingzone and hook up sites but you don't have to? Don't think of technology or the web as a negative. Think of it more like an accessory or a tool. Use it find places where guys hook up like a local cruising spot? Use it to find events going on that you might be into. Yes, a lot of the mystery, suspense, and art of cruising is probably declining. But it doesn't mean that it doesn't happen anymore.

Not everyone lives in a big mecha city where they have gay bars, bath houses, and everything at their disposal. Some people don't have internet or have slow internet too so they don't rely on technology.

Even though I live at a gay campground without internet in my trailer I do like it. I don't talk to guys a lot (especially since I'm off the market now) but sometimes a man cruises me and I cruise him back or we talk and just chat. Maybe I'll talk to them again or maybe I won't. For a while I talked to two guys and we'd go to the bar every saturday night and eat dinner together too just hanging out as friends or buds. There was no sex that was demanded or required, although I'm sure they would have liked to. They made it apparent too. Granted, not everyone is in that type of environment.

After I became positive I hooked up less than I did before. Multiple loads up my ass, multiple guys in one day or sex clubs or bars turned into maybe just going out to a bar once or twice a month and a sex club once a month. Hooking up with a guy or two every month. Yes, I was partially scared from being HIV Poz and sort of left out in the cold.

But reflecting on how much of a slut and whore I was it was a lot of fun. But all the time I spent hooking up with men and taking multiple loads I missed SEVERAL chances to make friends, buds, and people to hang out with regularly. It was a miracle I had even a few fuck buds because I was moving so fast. So I told myself that I'd no longer be a slut and I'd go to bars, events, and places to meet people, socialize, cruise, and just have fun. And I ended up getting partners. Although, when we were in NY briefly the seasonals at the gay camp ground there had a sunday cosmo party. God, those drinks were good. Going to friend's trailers for dinner or having them over was fun.

Groups..social groups can also be joined to make friends or cruise too. Also, I did use to be part of a famous gay forum and they had "MEETS" that were popular. We all met in Anaheim California for gay days. It was a blast and a few guys I talked to on the forum I got to meet in person and it was awesome. And one guy I talked to a lot and liked, we had sex. It was hot.

Events for rawtops new site are a good idea but lets be real. Most people on here just want sex or loads. If you try to do an event at a bath house..well it's going to be about sex. It's better to find people who seem to have an interest in more than just sex and as you said, throw a small party, nude even and just let people relax and have fun. The old ways aren't dead and gone. It's just most don't follow them anymore and use their phones and computers. But I use both. Technology, History, and Tradition.

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So I've been thinking about this lately. I know that several men find it hot for a bottom or a man in general to have hair around his hole. Some prefer smooth and some don't care. I've found recently that after my partner fucks and breeds me there is sometimes irritation with the hairs on my ass. I've found it it's because of the cum, lube, that gets stuck around and in the hair. I know some guys find caked cum around the hole a turn on though.

I'm sort of contemplating if I should shave my hole so that way that damn ass hair isn't pulled or thickened from the cum and lube. But I do like having a hairy hole. Wondering how the men with hairy holes feel about this one. Doesn't help that the hair on my ass is rather thick and long too.

You are absolutely correct. I've seen so many damn swinger groups on fetlife or guys or girls who have nothing put pictures of raw cock up "her" ass and getting fucked and sucking cock.

Another word for it would be hedonism. But some straight/bi swingers are extremely sexual and they just fucking go at it. Movie theaters, parks, groups scenes, or big events. And of course at bars. You are correct it is a double standard. But at the same time a man isn't really considered a whore as much if he sleeps around. But a woman is. Well depending on the culture the man is involved in. Gay's have no problem calling a man a whore.

I'd say swingers and bi married have more sex and just fucking go at it similar to how gay men are sometimes. Less bullshit more action. But on the same token sometimes kinky/vanilla couples or pansexuals can be very slow when it comes to action while the gay men will go at it. I think it's more about a straight/bi/ man or woman being more hedonistic and about pleasure. Not all straights or bi's or like that but some are.

I have been in a similar mindset lately...I feel much more in tune with myself...and find myself actually DATING !

Congratulations fillmyholeftl. That's what I started doing once i realized it too and I have two great men now. I hope you enjoy dating and meeting others.