WiredMouse

Continued .... One correction to the above...the start of the last paragraph was to supposed to say I was "...3000 miles from the epicenters - SF NY."...of the AIDS crisis that besieged our community. The second important factor is that as a gay man coming out in a small town and isolated from the brunt of the AIDS epidemic, the question of using protection for sex or not and issue..in fact it never came up. By the time education began to spread to the rest of the country the only sex I had ever known was sex without a barrier between two men. That is really how I came to view it - that to have a barrier between myself and a man fucking me took the deepest level of intimacy away. I was not willing to give that up. Given the same circumstances, I don't think I'd choose any differently if I had to chose again. In the most "queer" twists of fate - a guy who chose to be HIV+ in order to belong now stands with my brothers and fights against the alarming and growing stigma against people with HIV.

Yes, but it's a much more complex answer than that. I was coing out in a mid-sized town..age 19. San Francisco seem like Mecca...far far away and of course at that tie the only SF I knew came from the Tales of the City, the just a trilogy. It was a time for our people when everything,n every body and every resource was devoted to HIV/AIDS. I consider that period in US History to be our Holocaust. It was a direct cause/need created from the refusal of government and our county to do something/anything to stop our, them men, from dying. Of course our result was a ravaged people including: Our Lesbian Sisters, to whom many owe their lives, sudden survivors as AZT and other meds a la horrid side effects kicked in, and the class that I belonged, the walk wounded. It felt in those years, for me, like I was invisible. I desperately wanted to belong. Then there was the whole Safer Sex model to integrate into our daily lives. It was difficult enough to find some one who would/could explain but it felt fake patronizing, cold. It was so "j\IS", Period. (ion the early days) I cant remember one single case worker, social worker or non profit work ever asking how I was doing with all this,or how Another important point - our men who died left a generation without fathers/mentors. For the many,many LFBTQ people who are sudden cast offs or when we arrived in Mecca - then a dynamic, political, growing community that was a force reckoned with. 2 more important factors. I was nearly 3000 from the epicenter -SF NY. Modern day technology did not exist at that time to support remote volunteerism and even had I been able to do so, my struggle was really wit ME v THEM. One more critical factor was that the only sex i know I had know, from the time i was ten, was sex without a condom. Suddenly telling me how to love a man at such a manner - well it did not nothing but push me away. And yes, at 20 with no mentors, elders, to help me understand or let me ask questions that I would only ask to a gay man. And when I say me, I mean the collective we of my generation that was coming and finding our own way. It os a loss that has not been repaired. Tp be continued shortly.

I would be willing to chat with you as well. Conference calls are best for me.

It is probably the software engineer in me that votes to perhaps look at a different way to accomplish the goal v without re-inventing the wheel. And as with any feedback/thoughts please take what your like if of any value and leave the rest From my perspective: We are over run with sites...the majority of which have adequate to poor functionality. Then you have hand full of little sites that have good functionality but are un-utilized/under-utilized due to poor or non-existant marketing. (the code is still alive) Then of course we have the niche sites that cater to anything from bareback to twimks to big dicks. Most of them appear complacent and are largely resistant to enhancement requests or feedback. SO....build from scratch (high risk/high capital), OR take one of the newer but domat systems as a starting point and add best of class** features then market the hell of it (moderate costs/huge project management) and third ... something in-between. Approach one of the larger sites with a proven robust and growing customer base and convince them to become THE best of class solution. (Low Risk/Low Captial) NOTE: If there is a vendor involved they pay the costs and hopefully you for consulting. **Any design, re-design should have a User Advisory Group that provides input into every single piece of code/functionality. WHO knows these systems better than those of us who spend our days or nights tapping and even grumbling to the shadow people about the pain of using a particular feature. Users are the ones that know the pains points. where there are too many steps or the flow is bad, or where the competing vendor has air tight functionality. THE RESULT: A single port/hub generalized to appeal to the widest gay male audience. The emphasis in this area is SOCIAL, informative, educational and site functions like profile maintenance of profile/settings. As a bonus there is also a Dating Service built in. Form there you branch off into secured area's for each of the niches (bareback, fetish, Poz Players. With some real arm-bending theoretically have the current vendors maintain the branches and the brand name Ok - Realty Check - Maybe it IS cheaper to build after all .. but what a grand prize a gay.central would be So those are my thoughts ..hope they helped and if not at least gave you folly for your day

My vote fully confirms what I already knew...we have a terrible shortage of tops! And add "enhancement" to the mix and you can turn a top to a bottom in about 60 seconds. In all seriousness I do believe that recreational drug use has reduced the pool of tops. Say 15 years ago - I had zer problems finding the problem was either holding him off or making sure your sex was fasty, furious and fabulous and his butt was out door before #2 arrived. Anyone else think it's changed or that chems have any impact? I'd be interested to know.

Best Results (I live in the South and geography does seem to play a role) BBRT and A4A are still the bread and butter ... guys switch over from those to systems to Manhunt around 6 AM - don't aske me why Manhunt. - as lame as lame gets and profiles are a joke. 50% of the profile information on MH will not match for the very same user on another sex site. Grindr- great if I want to know if my boss is surfing for gay sex during our Managers Meeting otherwise the most lame system of all ..designed so as to not recognize or inform the user about pnp or hiv status. Scruff - this little out of nowhere system has a pretty darn accurate gps, is easy to use, gives the user a good many controls (including stealth mode which means when users search for people in their area you won't show up) and by damn - it's a pretty darn good place for dick in the south . Two issues: HIV is stigmatized by the majority of the user audience and it's costly at $9.95 a month. Nastykinkpigs/ChemPigs - if you are a real pig at heart it's a great place to network. I've develop more friendships there than scoring dick but when I do, it's generally a wickedy-good experience. Get2thePoint2PNP (for those of us who point our party) ....great user videos, hands down the best, most informative, easiest to consume forums of any site that exists today. Techniques, Tips and Tricks, Guidance, Referrals you name it!! A site oddity: tho there is a Chat Feature it is rare that guys will actually chat. WARNING: When you submit your profile for approval it contains a phone number, email address, city and state. You can limit the audience for this information but only AFTER your profile is live. See the Forum and Guidelines for Using the Site for specific instructions. WARNING: I can't stress enough the importance of an alias name, email address and a phone number that is set up through one of the many free services such as Google Voice to ensure your identity is safe. This site: So far it's batting about zip in my first three weeks but I'm looking into a couple of things suggested in the forums to see if that improves. Asspig.com - Nada .....at least for us Southern Boys there just is not the volume to justify being on the system. PNPLA.net - This has blossomed into one of the cam to cam hot sites. The system really has nothing else to offer. It's costly for what you rare getting but if you cam to cam you can easily find yourself face to face with a local. That said if your live in LA it's the hottest ticket in town.. Squirt - For the South, I did not find the volume of users to justify being on the system. Worse yet the controls/functionality of the system are very confusing and poorly designed. raigslist - If you are willing to play high risk stakes, can overlook the lies, the number of times you will be asked for money ("are you generous") or hit up for party favors - then by all means have at it. Otherwise you can get much better results with the mainstays of bbrt and a4a. ALL that said I have profiles on all the main systems. In 65-70% of instances you won't have the complete picture on the person if you don't read across systems. Some make it easy by using the same name everywhere and for those that hide behind name changes and photo juggling - it helps if you've got a good visual memory. I can't remember your name for shit but I can identify you by screen name and photo (there is almost always one photo a user likes and will consistently use across systems. So u betcha I check bbrt, a4a, nkp/chempigs, get2 (if applicable),pnp, scruff ... it takes only minutes and I at least get a head start if the bullshit starts coming my way.

Robert Freakin Redford exactly as he appeared in The Way We Were - like since I was 5 years old

It used to be ICU II which had a super easy user interface and was cheap, great performance and a really robust audience. Then one day about a year and a half ago ICU lost their minds and shut down the pnp rooms...if you did not pnp you still had several chat rooms to play in but there was also a HUGE exit of users from the system and from what I hear it's just a lame duck right now. Warning: If you pnp Cam 4 has shut down their party Party Tab and is most unwelcoming to pnp extroverts. chempigs.com/nastykinkpigs.com is pretty cheap site for cam to cam with large scale groups but the controls are ancient and need upgrading in the worst way. Get2ThePoint has a cam room but uses Tinychat which is a pain in the ass to deal with and lacks good user controls. Oovoo has LOTS of party pigs and a good user interface but there is a HUGE snag in their design. If you accept someone to your contact list, the next time that user send his contact info to a new person he has the option of releasing ALL his contacts, including you, with out your permission or approval. For this reason I use Oovoo on a VERY limited basis. pnpla.net is not the most friendly of sites but it seems to be where folks are migrating for cam to cam on a large scale. I have seen as many as 78 people on line in the early morning hours of 6-8. They just upgraded their chat software and added a hefty user registration fee (yearly) to cam chat. The controls are not intuitive and can be a bit overwhelming. Ustream - AVOID IT LIKE THE PLAGUE...even tho you specify that your video is private there are loop holes and your session gets published to their servers whether you like it or not. That's not all. Your sessions get indexed on the World Wide Web search engines! It is a wretched system design. Skype - still the gold standard for direct cam to cam..but customer support is non-existant, you can easily select a feature and run into fees and it is imperative that you do not accept foreign calls unless you want your phone bill to reflect as much as $45 for 5 minutes. Limited Use. Who HAS impressed me is Zoom. You can set up a cam to cam meeting in less than a minute, email or text the meeting number out or it on a message board (caution is advised to issue your meeting number individually) and you alone retain full controls of who is in your room, what they can/can't do and when your meeting is done your meeting number is void...meaning someone from a prior call can't get into your next one. It's also FREE as of this date for basic functionality. Manhunt does have cam functionality but I am so biased against the site that I am not a good person to evalute them. For cam to multi cam for the price, the volume of users and the functionality I still don't think you can beat ChemPig.com/NastyKinkPigs.com` For direct cam to cam with great clarity, sound and bandwidth management I say Zoom away! CAUTION CAUTION I received some very sage advise. Set up an alias name for your email and a different email addy from your primary account for use on this and all other sites similar. Also check to see if there are user controls that allow for you to NOT show in a web search, this is usually touted as it "makes it easier for others to find you". If you want to test this out go to any internet search engine and type in your screen name. Look under both web and image results. It is highly likely you will have internet search indexes that you cannot get removed. Oh I should probably warn you to breathe during this exercise.

It is not so much the size of dick as it is how well you fuck. The BEST tops have had bottomed every so often and they were insanely good lays. For me personally, what feels insanely good is for the top to go all the way in (no matter how big) and stay perfectly still as my ass wraps around him, adjusts to him. It is like magic for opening up the ass and makes for one hell of a fuck.

Hello so I am assuming this got up and going or is there where the discussion ended? Thanks for any info u can provide

Hello could you please change mine to WiredMouse thanks much

Highest test score and first availability weigh heavily. Enhanced Participants requested/preferred. Pigs to the front oif the line

used to be on other systems now it's all games and expectations I learned the old school way of play .. where pigs stiil had respect for each other i get as nasty and as piggy as they come- point the way But I also play with personal integrity LOOKING NOW