Titus

There was a window of my life - only a couple years - when I was into "safer sex only". During that time I did manage to stick to my self-imposed prohibition against barebacking. Of course, it didn't last, so make of that what you will. Believe it or not, during my teens and early twenties I used to find condoms rather arousing. As someone growing up in the late 80's and early 90's, condoms just seemed so inextricably linked to sex that, to me, they took on a sexiness all of their own. That said, barebacking was the norm throughout my relationship with my first mentor/fuckbuddy. Every once in a while we would use condoms, but we used them almost the way you would a sex toy - just a break from our normal routine. I enjoyed rolling them down over his shaft. And even though I preferred the feel of his bare cock inside me, I liked seeing the pocket of trapped cum after he'd fuck me. Our relationship had been relatively exclusive, so I felt pretty safe going bare with him. But just as that relationship was ending due to him moving away, I started visiting the local bathhouses. Suddenly, thanks to anonymous strangers at the baths, my number of sexual partners was skyrocketing. I felt like the only way that I could continue to be that promiscuous while still remaining safe was if I resolved to only fuck with condoms. And at that time (mid 90's), the safer sex push were still going strong, and condom use was much more widespread, so it actually seemed like "safer sex only" would probably lead to more sexual opportunities than not. But then one night at the bathhouse, I got stealthed by someone who removed the condom mid-fuck. I was enjoying one of the best fucks of my life, but at first I didn't realize what was making it feel so amazing. It was a steady, prolonged fuck that seemed to go on forever. At some point he pulled out so we could adjust positions. I rolled over to face him, and that's when I noticed his bare cock. Admittedly, my initial reaction was one of alarm. I couldn't believe he had decided to take it off and continue fucking me without even telling me. He could tell that I was unsettled by what I had just discovered. He didn't try to justify or explain himself. Instead, he gently asked if I wanted him to put a new one on. I was still nervous as hell at the thought of what I might be risking, but in that moment, after how good it had felt, there was no way I could ask him to put a condom back on. I gave him the go ahead, and he slipped back inside my ass, and we finished our fuck. Skin on skin. Cum in ass. After that, I didn't immediately make the switch to barebacking all the time. But it did open me up to being much more flexible. At first, I was still telling partners that I was safe sex only, but unlike before, if any of them went ahead and penetrated me bare, I never tried to stop them. And over time, that eventually shifted into me finally admitting to myself and my potential partners that I want to be fucked bareback.

Thanks for that suggestion too. Unfortunately for me, my visit to Toronto takes places over a Monday/Tuesday... the two days of the week when the Attic is closed.

Neither of my choices are options in the poll. For me, I feel sexiest in briefs. I like my daddy tops in boxers. Although neither should remain on for too long.

No more sensitive than any other place on my upper body. When guys play with my nipples I appreciate their efforts, but it does nothing for me. I always wonder what it is that I'm missing out on when guys ask me to play with theirs, and they're so clearly getting off on it. But I suppose everyone's unique, and we all have certain places that are more sensitive on us than they are on others.

Thanks for the response. I prefer older guys, so The Cellar sounds tempting, although I'm not too into the leather scene. If I don't go there, I'll probably try Steamworks. Do you have any experience with Central Spa? I have to go to the west end anyway, so maybe I'll check it out late afternoon, and then spend my night at one of the ones downtown.

I'll be making a short stop in Toronto soon, and was wondering if any locals can tell me which bathhouses are still around and preferably open 24/7. St Marc/G.I. Joe was always my go-to place, but I know it closed down a few years ago. Thanks.

Yes, I've seen a huge difference in how busy they get. Over the last decade there's been a huge drop-off in attendance. I first started going to bathhouses nearly 20 years ago. It used to be that no matter when you went you could count on there being a decent-sized crowd of horny men. I would often head over late on a weeknight, and there would always still be plenty of men actively cruising and fucking each other until the brink of dawn. But as people started to become more connected by the internet, the crowds started to dwindle to the point where they could no longer afford to stay open 24/7, and now close up at 11:00 each night except on weekends. I really miss what the baths used to be like. They were a convenient and relatively safe place for me to experiment and explore my sexuality while still in my late teens/early 20s, in a way that I don't think would have been possible without them.

Yeah, it could be that you have exceptionally good technique that your bottoms have enjoyed... I don't know. I can say that while I don't usually enjoy being fingered, I generally don't tell my tops that I'm not into it, or ask them to stop. The only time I'll say something is if they ask me point blank if I like being fingered. Then I'll tell them 'no', and they're usually happy to move on to something I do like. But most of the time I'll just endure it, and try to focus on the fact that it shouldn't be too much longer until their cock is deep in my ass instead of their fingers.

I'm in complete agreement. I appreciate that most tops think they're doing me a favour by penetrating me with something smaller before giving me their cock, but I find it counterproductive. It actually makes my ass tense up rather than relax. We always think of cocks being "hard", but unlike a boney finger, they're a soft fleshy type of "hard". I think that's what makes them feel so much nicer than a finger, despite their larger girth. If a top wants my to help my relax my hole, some poppers and/or his tongue will get the job done perfectly. No need to go poking around with your knuckely fingers.

If I'm in a sling or it's a gangbang situation, I'm pretty much open to all cummers. If I'm looking for one-on-one sex, I'm a little more picky, but still somewhat flexible. With me, it's age that's usually the issue. As a daddy chaser, I just don't get as much of an emotional/psychological turn-on when giving my ass up to someone who's closer to my own age. I typically look for guys who are at least 10 years older, but ultimately I'll compromise on that if it means the difference between getting fucked or going home unfulfilled.

In that moment I often imagine what it would be like if people from my past could see me, what would they be going through their heads as they watched? My thoughts usually turn to my mom, grandparents, aunts and uncles, teachers, parents of friends, and ex-girlfriends. I can't help but wonder what they would think if they knew that the quiet, boring, well-behaved boy they once knew was actually a cock-hungry slut who regularly lets total strangers cum in his ass.

I agree with RawLeather, although I take your point about not wanting to put yourself and others at risk. My first gangbang was at a sauna. Although I enjoyed myself, I was quite worried throughout, because I hadn't even intended to get gangbanged and because I was not as accustomed to barebacking with strangers as I am now. It happened while visiting L.A., and it was the first time I had seen a full mattress set up for use in a common area at a sauna. Even though I had paid for a room I was immediately excited about the possibility of being fucked where others could watch. Although I had been going to baths for a while, I was still young and innocent enough that it didn't occur to me that it was unlikely that the other men would limit themselves to just watching. I lingered in that common area until a daddy top invited me to join him on the mattress. By the time I got off the mattress I had taken 8 cocks up my ass.

I think I've experienced the phenomenon that highlife is describing. It's not really an aversion to cum (or more specifically - one's own cum). It's just that when I'm feeling horny and the idea pops into my head that I should taste or swallow my own cum, it's that thought that's exciting me and propelling me towards orgasm. But the second my orgasm hits, it's like my brain automatically decides that it's no longer necessary because I've already achieved the sexual release I was after. It's sort of like how many bottoms will tell you that they don't like to cum until after they've been fucked because they don't always feel like getting fucked immediately after an orgasm. I agree with what others have said about positioning themselves so they can cum directly into their own mouths. That's one way to overcome this problem. Another way I've sometimes dealt with it is to cum into a cup or a shot glass. If I don't feel like drinking it immediately, I set it aside while I look at porn. Usually within 10 minutes I'm feeling really horny again, and my desire to swallow my own cum has returned to full strength. Then it's down the hatch.

I've always just thrown my unwanted stuff in the garbage. Growing up when magazines were one of the more prevalent types of porn, it seemed like a lot of guys used to "pay it forward" by leaving it a public space for others to find. Before I was old enough to buy my own porn, I had already amassed a large collection just by exploring the back lots of the commercial strip near my place. Most of it was straight porn mags (Hustler, Hawk, Club, Swank, Penthouse Forum), but I had did find a few issues of Playgirl that served me quite well.

The expected dress code at most bathhouses is either; towel, naked, or underwear. When cruising the halls, unless you feel like you look especially cute/sexy in your undies, I would suggest you simply wrap a towel around your waist. It's minimal, but it still leaves you with something for others to discover. If you're in the sauna, open it up, and let others see what you've got. When you're in your room, it just depends on what you think works for you. Many guys will get naked and leave their door open. I like to drape my towel halfway down my ass, for a Coppertone girl effect.