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Yeah, but that was in 1977...in Denver at a place called - I'm not making this up - The Ball Park. It was a pretty nice place as I remember it, clean and well-maintained with a baseball theme.
There's a reason the 70s are known as "The Decade That Taste Forgot."
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A certain amount is in the eye of the beholder, as they say, but generally I think of myself as a completely identifiable gay man. I never troubled myself trying to pass, because I knew it wouldn't be convincing for one thing. Nothing is more obvious (or pathetic) than a guy trying to hide his non-masculine mannerisms; it sticks out a mile and not in a good way. I simply refused to hide, even when it was less than comfortable. My attitude was, "Well fuck that shit. You don't like me, guess what - it's a big world, you're free to go elsewhere and talk to other people. What I do is NOT. ABOUT. YOU." Of course, many couldn't deal with that, whatever I did was an affront to them, a provocation. They might have had an easier time if I'd gone all the way with it, meaning dressed especially femme, though even there I was/am "mainstream with that little twist" (bright colors, cowboy boots, etc. with business/business casual wear). With the guys I had sex with it could be painful. They loved fucking me, but didn't want to be seen with me in public. Sucks. More than one told me in no uncertain terms that I should butch it up, and that would be the death-knell for anything else ever happening between us. Sigh.
I say: LET YOUR FLAG FLY, WHOEVER YOU ARE, HOWEVER YOU FIND IT COMFORTABLE TO BE. Let's create a world where all of us can be genuine and comfortable with that. And if anyone isn't comfortable - inevitable, I know - just you do you and let others do themselves. Okay?
"If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away." - Henry David Thoreau
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Yeah, I've never tried this and have no ambition to do it. I'm tight - it's just how I'm built. I have been tag-teamed by two guys, which is more my speed. I may - underline the may - try for a couple more for my birthday celebration, but will likely stagger them over a period of hours. I'm a little old man, I need time to recover!
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I had sex as a teenager with an older man, and the thought honestly didn't cross my mind at the time. I think it was just that I couldn't conceive of anything "bad" like that happening. I was certain of my own immortality. Teens are impulsive and not inclined to consider all the angles in these situations. My prime goal, looking back, was to have the assurance that yes, I was attractive and lovable. Nothing else much mattered at that stage of life, when all I heard at school was "faggot" and how useless I was, and had only the rather distant love and caring my parents could give me. Growing up gay in the Midwest in the 70s was brutal, at least for me. So even though he wasn't the love of my life, afterwards when I would walk through the hallways of my high school and hear the never-ceasing taunts and slurs, I could think something to myself along the lines "You fucking idiots, you don't know anything."
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On 3/2/2020 at 7:50 AM, backdoorjimmy said:
I've always heard about lovers sleeping through the night with the top's dick in the bottom's ass but I've never actually experienced it. I wanted to try it this last weekend but the guy I was with said it wasn't a realistic thing. We talked it through and he said that people roll around in their sleep, and that alone makes it next to impossible. Also, he made a point about the bottom pushing it out during the night because, well, people fart. Plugs are designed to stay up your butt while dildos really aren't.
Has anyone on this site had any experience with this? Is it realistic?
It's a huge fantasy of mine to fall asleep with a hot, hard dick in my ass so I can wake up and just start riding it when I'm horny.
In my younger years, yes. There was one guy in particular with whom I had an affair (this was in the early 80s just as HIV was beginning, open relationships were a thing, though I don't know how his boyfriend felt about it). I'd wake up with his cock still in my ass, but it wasn't hard - he was probably in his 40s (smoking hot guy), I was 24 (ah, the beauty conferred by youth and my utter willingness to worship his body from head to toe) - and I had to ease it out of me so I could get to the bathroom! I remember feeling sore, too. I had forgotten that I was able to sleep comfortably cuddled with that man, thanks for reminding me. That brings my lifetime total of "guys I can sleep comfortably with" to two!
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I'm fine with it if the top man wants it...overriding kink as a bottom: MAKE THE TOP MAN HAPPY. Within reason.
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One of my most potent fantasies still is about the psychiatrist I was sent to as a child because I was obviously a little (not so) latent gay boy. He wouldn't even discuss the subject of my being gay with me, just tried to get me to butch it up. A fruitless (pun not intended) strategy. But for some reason I find it really hot to imagine having sex with him...probably something to do with the [banned word].
I was with a couple of physicians when I was younger (in my 20s, around 40 years ago). Both of them were fun...but no doctor roleplays! One was into rimming me. The other wanted me to rim him - it was extremely hot, he was a tall, burly guy, we were in the 69 position and he just pulled his cock out of my mouth and pushed his ass in my face. HEAVEN!
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1 hour ago, gwmxyz said:
The more they do so, the more there is for the rest of us. Whether it's race or anything else, guys with comically prescriptive criteria should be encouraged, I say.
Brilliant! Why try to save them from their own foolishness?
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12 hours ago, bluedragon said:
Lol keeping the focus on what matters eh?
For sure! It goes along with my earlier post on my general stance. I'm interested in all sorts of men, my tastes are, uh, eclectic, we'll say. (In this case, a euphemism for "slutty." 🤣)
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Just now, NYBBGUY58 said:
I suppose from that standpoint it makes some sort of sense, they want for the graduates to be conversant in English and another language. It's still sounds laughable, but there's a kind of logic.
Either way, I'd be happy to have the guy fuck my ass!
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4 hours ago, bluedragon said:
OK, it might sounds a bit odd but there's actually nothing wrong with that. The primary teaching language of his degree is English, so the 'foreign language requirement' would be to demonstrate capacity in another language than that: presumably in order to be admitted to the college he had already demonstrated his ability in English.
I suppose from that standpoint it makes some sort of sense, they want for the graduates to be conversant in English and another language. It's still sounds laughable, but there's a kind of logic.
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On 4/21/2022 at 3:18 PM, ellentonboy said:
I have really noticed an increase in the amount of men who turn down sexual opportunities based on race. When I first started hooking up online there seemed to be little discussion regarding the race of an individual when getting groups together for house parties. Sure there were questions regarding top/vers/bottom ratios, if the attendees were in shape, age questions, and of course, HIV status. As the years went by, since say 2004, there was less question about HIV status based on which sites I used. The use of chemical enhancements was a no brainer as the question was already posted in most profiles (if allowed by the site).
But recently, the issue of race has become the first question out of most attendees mouths. Who will be there or does their race match mine? I get a lot of "well I don't have a problem with them, but my partner is uncomfortable". Or "I have plenty of friends of opposite races, but I only have sex with men that are .....fill in the blank".
So, my question to Forum members is, do you take into consideration the race of an individual or those attending a group function before you make a decision to attend or not? Certain sites have organized group parties where you can see who has decided to attend. But what if a friend invites you? I know most ask for photos, but will the race be the final factor in deciding to attend or not?
Very curious and looking forward to responses. I am new to the Forum so please forgive me if I am repeating an often asked question but I haven't seen it discussed here much.
I'm not particularly concerned by having sex men of races and/or religions than mine. In fact, I've been known to identify as an "EOW": Equal Opportunity Whore, one who will engage in sex with men regardless of race, religion, creed or point of national origin.
I'm considering organizing a "diversity" bang for my birthday in August, already have a northern European guy, a Hispanic guy, a Middle Eastern guy, possibly a Central American guy and an Asian guy. Just have to line up an man of African ancestry, and when it's done I'll basically have the full range of DNA in my ass.
I've been with men who are into racial play, one black guy who got off on saying that I needed his BBC in my white boy butt, or something like that. It takes all kinds - a village, in fact - and I enjoy being with different sorts of men.
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13 hours ago, TheSRQDude said:
Why do I get the sense of irony on this one? No thinking outside the rather convoluted policies in higher-ed, is there?
It does give new meaning to the phrase "implicit bias" doesn't it?
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4 hours ago, blackrobe said:
Perhaps it's already been mentioned, but the headline and tagging of this post is worth noting.
"Inter-racial sex
sex with latinos, sex with black men, sex with asian men"
Why aren't white men on the tag list too? There are a lot of non-white men for whom white men would be inter-racial sex too.
So true. It's like a story I heard of a Spanish-born man at a Midwestern college where he needed to fulfill a foreign language requirement. He suggested that he take an English test, since English was a foreign language for him. They refused, but allowed him to take a Spanish test, since that was defined by the English-speaking administrators as a foreign language.
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11 hours ago, Njn0mc said:
Some tops like hairy asses I dont some like it smooth. So i just trim it to satisfy all. It also makes it better so when the top sticks things in my hole..
You have a really hot ass, btw...🔥🍑👃💋👅
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10 hours ago, T-Girl-Cumdumpster said:
yes, I was trained as a pussyboy to keep my body and my fuckhole silky smoother for the men who want to use it. men using a pussyboy fuckslut like me tend to prefer me as girly and smooth and delicate as possible. specially the straight guys who wanna feel like they are fucking a bio girl when they pound my pussy from behind.
Hat's off to you! I just have them sugar my back and around the anus as well as the "t'aint", wax the ears my nose tip, and the rest of my body hair trimmed and/or shaped. My skin is so effing sensitive I could never go totally hairless. Sigh...
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I go to get manscaped, but instead of wax they use a mix of water, lemon and sugar - it's called sugaring, in fact. It's easier on the skin than wax is.
It makes staying clean easier and also cuts down on irritation since the hairs unavoidably get pushed inside along with the dick.
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Believe it or not, years ago in the pre-prep period I would occasionally top and ran into 2 situations:
1. A guy whose ass was UNBELIEVABLY tight worked the condom off of me (on purpose as far as I know) and when I'd cum said casually "Oh, the bag fell off." Uh-huh. I felt pretty stupid that I didn't notice when the condom came off, but it felt so fucking good both ways! He hadn't asked about HIV status so I didn't choose to enlighten him.
2. Another time I responded to an ad on a phone bulletin board ( early 90s, pre-internet, pre-PreP and prior to my being diagnosed HIV+ by several years) saying something like "I'm throwing a party in my ass and you're invited." I called him, arranged a time and went over. He'd left the door open, was lying on a sofa bed with his head propped up by pillows and had his eyes shut. I think he kept them closed most (if not all) of the time which made me think he wanted to be blindfolded but was a combination of too embarrassed and uncomfortable to do that. We did a little foreplay after he asked me if I wanted him to "start sucking" - he taught me a great way to lick a guy's balls using his lips, felt awesome. When it was time to do the deed, he asked if I wanted lube. I said yes, and he handed me one of the lube/condom packets from GMHC. I lubed up and went in bare, he didn't ask and I shot a load in his ass. I still fantasize about it sometimes, that was an incredible orgasm.
Both of these situations were ethically cloudy; I probably should have behaved better. All this to say, in the heat of the moment you may be able to convince a safe sex top to bareback, but I would agree with @BootmanLA - there are plenty of guys who love to bareback, find one of them and go for it!
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On 1/26/2022 at 2:28 AM, Philip said:
Just curious about our community here. What key words do you usually search up for when you are watching gay porn (on GayTube, Google, PornHub, Xnxx, etc.)?
Mine has been, “bareback gay porn,” “gay glory hole,” “gay public toilet,” “gay cheating,” “gay muscles.”
I ask some of my gay friends and most of them are embarrass to tell me lol. I guess it reveals a lot about their personality, preferences, and type.
Mine are: sniff, smell, manscent, facesitting, face sitting, gay facesitting, faceseat, forced ass sniff...yep, definitely a theme here.
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On 3/11/2012 at 5:04 AM, Fickloch said:
Moderator's Note: This is one of a trio of posts the others being...
If you haven't voted/commented on those threads, please do.
When you first got converted, bow was your fuck flu? Was it nasty and did it turn you on knowing that you nuts were filling up with toxic man-juice?
I wasn't tested until 1993, and it came back positive. Honestly, I don't remember a specific illness prior to that. But in the late 80s there was a period where I would get what felt like an awful flu every summer. It was miserable, I felt like I had a bad case of norovirus (aka stomach flu), fever, chills, sweats. In 1988 I started getting skin rashes, which one doctor maintained MUST have been when I sero-converted (she was pushing for me to start cramming anti-virals down my throat before they'd come up with a reasonable approach; I refused because I'm a stubborn SOB). I also remember a really bad flu in the early 80s, again more like stomach flu. But there's no way to know for sure.
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2 hours ago, ellentonboy said:
I have had four colorectal procedures since March of 20202. I had a fissure that would not heal, and they did two botox treatments so that I wasn't screaming every time I went to the bathroom. I changed doctors and since that time, she found what she called a "pre-cancerous" lesion that she removed. At this point, I only have to see her every six months, and possibly be hospitalized again in a year so she can take "another look" to see how I am doing. I was told the chances of these HPV lesions becoming cancerous are about 5 to 10 percent, and I only had the one
Here's my question? Has this had an adverse effect on your sex life. I have been having anal sex a long time and it wasn't until I had to take hydrocodone for a foot surgery, became constipated and ended up causing a fissure while just simply going to the bathroom. I got a lot of grief from friends saying it was from taking too many big dicks, or being DP'd (which was not the case) or that my ass was simply worn out from all the action. I was really frank with my doctor and told her that the anal sex, at least I felt, had little to do with the fissure, and was most likely from all the pain medication. She said it looking, the area seemed fine, except where the tear was. She said the majority of her patients, gay and straight, have these issues because of pain meds, not anal sex.
Has this slowed you down, are you still able to enjoy yourself? I don't go back for about five more months, I believe my last procedure was in early February.
So, are you able to do the things you used to do, and enjoy yourself. I am almost afraid of attempting to "climb a mountain" that is too high, if you know what I mean. I am really glad I saw your post. Anything you can offer as far as information is concerned, post surgery, is greatly appreciated.
PS: for constipation, I use Miralax. If you're ever on medication that could cause that problem, check with your doctor about Miralax. It's tasteless and gentle, but you have to allow time (a day or two) for it to work. My gastroenterologist had me take it every day at one point, I don't think it will interfere with any other meds but be sure to consult your doctor before taking it.
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2 hours ago, ellentonboy said:
I have had four colorectal procedures since March of 20202. I had a fissure that would not heal, and they did two botox treatments so that I wasn't screaming every time I went to the bathroom. I changed doctors and since that time, she found what she called a "pre-cancerous" lesion that she removed. At this point, I only have to see her every six months, and possibly be hospitalized again in a year so she can take "another look" to see how I am doing. I was told the chances of these HPV lesions becoming cancerous are about 5 to 10 percent, and I only had the one
Here's my question? Has this had an adverse effect on your sex life. I have been having anal sex a long time and it wasn't until I had to take hydrocodone for a foot surgery, became constipated and ended up causing a fissure while just simply going to the bathroom. I got a lot of grief from friends saying it was from taking too many big dicks, or being DP'd (which was not the case) or that my ass was simply worn out from all the action. I was really frank with my doctor and told her that the anal sex, at least I felt, had little to do with the fissure, and was most likely from all the pain medication. She said it looking, the area seemed fine, except where the tear was. She said the majority of her patients, gay and straight, have these issues because of pain meds, not anal sex.
Has this slowed you down, are you still able to enjoy yourself? I don't go back for about five more months, I believe my last procedure was in early February.
So, are you able to do the things you used to do, and enjoy yourself. I am almost afraid of attempting to "climb a mountain" that is too high, if you know what I mean. I am really glad I saw your post. Anything you can offer as far as information is concerned, post surgery, is greatly appreciated.
Wow, you've gone through a lot! I've had problems with post op MRSA infections, but aside from that and waiting to heal I haven't been prevented from having anal sex. In my case HPV was complicated by having HIV: my immune system wasn't strong enough to prevent infection. When I switched HIV doctors, he changed up my meds so my health improved overall, and I've had many fewer problems. To my knowledge, none of the guys who have fucked me have experienced any issues. I agree it sounds like the pain meds were what really messed you up, but more importantly that's what your doctor said.
Hope this helps! HPV is really more or less ubiquitous from what I've heard. Everyone has them, the issue is that some strains can advance to cancer. So just keep up with regular check ups, allow yourself time to heal after any procedures and you should be fine.
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HPV infection is extremely common. I've been getting treated for years but a colorectal surgeon. They take frequent biopsies and remove anything that looks remotely problematic.
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On 4/10/2022 at 9:16 AM, onlyraw said:
Yes - this is the answer that would win if Jeopardy had a cum slut edition
They could, er, open up an entirely new market if they did a cum slut edition...
What are your favorite sex acts?
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YES! Agreed, with the addition in my case of extended ass/body worship of the top(s) prior to that, with them ordering me to smell, kiss and lick their ass(es). Heaven...so fulfilling.