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I had one single guy top suit up and it wasn't a very hot fuck anyway.  He has reached out for a repeat and I just said no thanks.

The other guy and I talked after he fucked me with a rubber.  We had the 'prep' and U=U discussion.  He has been fucking me raw ever since.  He's married.

Otherwise, no other guys have asked for wrapped.   I travel a lot across Europe and Americas.  All raw fucking.  I love it. 

I met one guy.... he realized we were not far from one another and sent me a private message.  We got together a few times and played.  It was good piggy sex too... we both love ass play and so we would alternate on visits where I would top and he would bottom, then he would top and I would bottom.  Lots of rimming and fingering and plenty of hot loads shared.  One night we played for a couple of hours with big toys and fists and had a very good time - and neither of us came. 

We had read one another's comments and posts... and ended up playing for about a year.  He got relocated by his company.  Too bad.. 

Haven't met anyone else tho....

I totally enjoy the feeling of a juicy ass as I slide in and out of it.  Especially love working my cock into an ass that already has a load or two in it.  You can't feel that with a condom.   I'm uncut, so I also like to peel my foreskin back now and then when fucking... just for some variety.  It's hard to get the same feeling when wrapped.

When I bottom, I want to feel the natural warmth of a hot, juicy cock sinking inside of me.  I love feeling a guy slap his cock all over my ass lips before pushing inside.  I can feel his precum making my outer hole slick.... and then the feeling of my ass opening up when he starts to push in again.  

And of course, I love to seed a juicy hole just as much as feeling a hard top unload his seed deep in my guts.  That's a great feeling.

I work out of my home.... some days I have a sandwich and soup for lunch.

Other days, I take an extended lunch and feast on cock or ass. Grin.

In fact, just yesterday a regular FWB sent me a text around 12:15 and asked if I was free after work?  I had a meeting cancelled from 1-2, and I know he retired at a young age and had a lot of time on his hands.... so I replied with "Feel like a nooner??".

He was there in 20 minutes.  He wanted to see some hot cummy gangbang porn and while I found some on my network, he sucked my cock and nibbled my foreskin.  I found something for 'background' noise/viewing and he pushed me onto the bed... and ate my ass for a good 5-10 minutes.  Really worked it over slow and got open, wet and juicy.  Then he slid his big uncut cock into me in one smooth push.  He is a Dutch guy and has a beautiful thick cock... and his balls and pubes were slapping against my ass within minutes.

We had a good fast, hard fuck... one of those ones where you just want a good railin' on a guy's hole, ass slapping on both cheeks... that kinda fuck.

He blew a massive load inside and stayed inside.  This was a nice treat.  I'm not sure his cock even got soft... he just kept sliding his cock in/out slow and sloshing his cum all around my guts while talking dirty to me.

He suddenly pulled out and I felt the cold air hit my hole.  We've been FWB for quite a while and he knows my house.  He reached into my closed and pulled out my harness.  I raised an eyebrow as he passed it to me.  I slipped it on quickly and went to turn back to the bed, and he said.. "Nope.. follow me".

He went into my office and told me to fire up something hot on the 32" computer screen.   I leaned over to browse to a couple of 'office type' porn flicks I have and I could feel him slapping his cock against my hole a few times.  Just as the movie opened on the screen to a hung uncut guy fucking a guy with a shaved head, he rammed his cock in and pulled back on the harness at the same time.

He shifted his weight around a little, made sure he had the harness in both hands and started to fuck me slowly while telling me he was going to dump another load in me.  He asked if I enjoyed getting fucked over my desk? did I want his cum inside or all over my hole? was this turning me on?

Fuck ya!

We watched the movie, took our time, snorted some poppers and true to his word... he blew another load deep in my well used guts.

When he left shortly afterwards, I logged back onto my computer and prepared for my 3 pm meeting.  I fingered my hole and licked the cum that dripped from me as I listened to the folks on the call prattling on about projects etc.

I turned to my home computer and fired up Squirt and BBRT to see if I could find another hard cock to add his load into my hole.  My buddy literally planted a seed in my mind about home office sex.  LOL.

Cheers

I see a trend here towards 'less' condom use.... which suits me just fine.

I can count on one hand the number of guys who have fucked me with a condom in the last 15 years.  If they insist, they aren't invited back.... it doesn't do anything for me.

If someone insists I wear one if I am topping, I simply tell them I had prostate cancer (true) a number of years ago and won't be able to keep it up - but happy to give them a great blowjob.  Only one guy took me up on the blowjob - the rest all stuck their ass in the air. LOL.

I'm pretty open about my stats and tell people I am on PrEP and tested every 3 months (part of my program).  In general, even though guys on some apps say "Safe" or "Condom", I find they are happy to fuck raw and load me up.   I've had a lot of married guys slide in raw and load me up... quite often a couple of loads.  My thought is that they likely aren't getting blowjobs or sliding it into her ass.... so the idea of seeding a guy's tight hole after he has sucked his married cock, really turns these guys on.  

U=U has made a big difference.  

I like it.

Being a curious kinda guy, I spent some time reading how the current system works... (I think). Grin.  

Having said that, I read the site rules about 'what goes where' and I've been lucky so far that my posts appear to be going to the correct places.  That's one of the reasons I created my own blog here - to write down 'my life experiences' (for when I am old and in the nursing home).

I'm also an IT guy, so I know that when you purchase these 'packages', the purchaser is stuck with however the package creator envisioned 'their' system working.  As site owner here, you obviously have a much higher understand of the limitations of the current package (as you've said in the past - it's conversational board).  Reading your explanation above, it shows that you've looked at current pros/cons and are suggesting new features that will simplify the system and clearly explain credits/debits.  Any one of us with a bank account understands credits/debits. Grin

Attaching points is a great incentive for people to post new material, be it questions from newbies to raw sex, questions about risks, HIV, STI's, PrEP.  Personally, it has helped me understand the whole 'bareback culture' (even though I've been fucking raw for 15 years).  I have a better understanding of terminology thanks to this site.  I have seen some polite disagreements - often well presented by both sides.  We have some epic writers that cover a wide spectrum of materials.  That is very cool - in my opinion.  

The site gives people a place to come and feel safe (and cum and feel good!!).  There will always be people who are happy to 'read' and rarely communicate.  There will always be shit disturbers.  There will always be prolific writers.

And if people see they can get a 'reward' for participation, I believe it will make contributions increase.  For a lot of folks - it's fun to get a reward.

The result is an even better site for all of us to share.

BIG supporter of tags.  As you point out - it allows one topic to appear in multiple areas.  By providing a 'drop down list' for the first post on a topic/story - then allowing multiple tags, it might make it easier for people to understand where to post - thereby reducing their infractions.

It's great to see an opportunity to throw in our three cents!! Thanks man.

Cheers

PG

I spend a lot of time in Europe on business trips and I find European men very hot and sexy ... I stumbled across EricVideos and just love their stuff.  I agree with others.  I think they spend just enough time 'setting up' the scene - a random Scuff hookup, or two guys on a nude beach making eye contact and following one another home, guys on the subway - all kinda cool setups.  Followed by hot looking guys having some good piggy sex.  One on one or many-on-one.  I have really enjoyed their stuff.   

TIM has come good stuff like this where the top and bottom 'grunts and groans' are real.  Their 'fuck me' is deep and they mean it.  And of course, watching a top's ass and perineum pumping as cum loads up a bottom hole.  Love watching that cum start to leak out around the top as he continues to fuck it in. 

On 3/12/2019 at 11:55 PM, NLbear said:

Ah yes, the cameraman! Sometimes - mostly in amateur porn- you get a view of the cameraman's boner while he's filming (either naked or in shorts) or pulling his dick. Or he makes the bottom suck him for a bit before returning to fliming the scene.

I love catching a view of the cameraman when he doesn't realize he is being capture in the mirror across the room.  And yes!  I agree... they are often naked and hard or in shorts (and sporting). LOL.  I agree!

I travel a lot between Canada, Europe, UK and Africa.  So the time zone change for me is +6 hours on these trips.  So, like @FelchingPisser suggests, I have my phone set to remind me to take my pills at 0800 Canada time every day.  When I am in Europe... that becomes either 1pm or 2pm (depending where I am) and that is usually lunch.  It helps remind me to do my thing... at a fairly regular time.   And yes, the math people will point out I lose/gain 6 hours going there/coming back... but it IS fairly consistent for me.

I also went to the Dollar store here (Pound store for you - grin) and bought a pill dispenser for daily pills.  By looking at the dispenser, I can quickly tell whether I have taken my pill that day.  They come in different sizes... you might just take one medication (PrEP) and would require a small dispenser.  But it is a 'visual'.

As far as being concerned?  PrEP has proven to be pretty darn reliable.  There is always an 'exception' case.... but the science shows it to be pretty effective.  As you (and all of us at some point in time) have found out - it doesn't protect from OTHER STI's...  so, this is a risk when fucking raw regardless of whether you are on PrEP or not.... it will always be there.

I don't think you can shock a nurse or doctor in a sexual health clinic.  They have seen it all.  Don't worry about what 'they' think... they are there to help you.  The fact that you are being tested regularly is a good thing overall to your NHS in the end.  You are 'managing' your situation by being proactive and being tested/monitored.  In the end.. that is a good thing.

People will ALWAYS judge you... regardless of what you do or think... so do what is best for.. you!!

Cheers mate!

I always clean out well... so I know my ass is ready.  I have one top buddy who ALWAYS eats my hole and really opens me up with spit and takes his time.  Then he fucks me for a little bit, pulls out, eats my open hole and tongues and rims and licks and chews on my hole.  Then he gives me his cock to get wet again.  I love the taste of his pre-cum and my ass juices on his hard cock.

When he eventually blows his load, I just pull him in close to lick and suck all our combined juices from his dick.  I know he loves it, because he talks to me and tells me to clean his cummy cock and get it spotless.

When I'm done, he pushes me onto my knees and proceeds to eat his cum from my hole.  Every. Single. Time.  

Needless to say, he is one of my fave tops!

ATM is very hot in my books!! Fuckin' A!!!

On 1/12/2020 at 1:15 PM, find91 said:

Been turn Down due to my height; race; looking too young thus not masculine enough, for having too big a dick, for not having a big enough dick, for being into fisting.

People are weird they get hyper critical for no reason and most of the time end up alone bitching online how it's so hard to hookup.

Seriously? WTH is the matter with the men in Montreal dude!??  I would love to measure your height, dick size and nipple hardness with my tongue... not worry about your age and get naked with you on my next trip.  Your pics are hot.... your responses to these forums are even hotter!  Woof!!

(See? there is always someone interested!!!) Cheers

Sounds like we 'all' have been turned down at least once... or more. 

Used to make me wonder... "what's wrong with me".... for all the reasons I've read above... height? weight? age? shaved head? hairy enough? Not hairy enough? Not handsome enough? Cock too big? too small? Ass too hairy? too smooth? Uncut!? Gasp!! etc etc.

I have had many pleasant surprises over the years and met some interesting people and had some hot sex by... NOT trying to jump to conclusions. 

As an 'old man'... I  have learned that Everyone has 'their thing'. 

Social media and internet anonymity make people say hurtful things.  If not interested - just say 'no thanks man'.  And if I get that response, I've learned to think "Oh well.. their loss."... and then ... I try to NOT take it personally ... back to the "everyone has 'their thing'.  

I agree there is no need to be a prick about it tho.  And, if you blatantly lie about what your profile shows vs. what you really are - you shouldn't be surprised if someone politely says "no thanks".  Key word - politely.  Again - this internet mentality of treating one another like an IP address.

One satisfaction I do get at my age and with my life experience - from the "assholes with attitude" - is that karma is a bitch and they too shall grow older, or fatter, or uglier... cuz' it's already inside of them.

It just seems that a lot of folks are looking for that 'perfect guy that has '57' admirable attributes. LOL.  Not sure that guy exists.

Picture this.....  Lying naked on a massage table being massaged with... a blindfold on.  No clothes.  A blindfold.

Imagine someone running their hands across your body and tweaking all your 'hot spots'.  Just the way you like to be massaged and licked and stroked.  You don't see what they look like.

They suck your cock most excellently.  They slide their perfectly sized cock into your mouth.  It tastes wonderful.  You don't see what color it is....

So far, you haven't see a thing.  You've felt a lot.

Then, if you're a bottom he fucks you with the perfect sized cock... big? small? Goldilocks? (just right).  

If you're a top, you slide your hard, dripping raw cock into his hole.  Tight? loose? sloppy? Goldilocks (you're getting the point).

You have felt his touch. You have played with cock and ass. You don't know what color he is... how old he is... what he looks like... but the sex was hot.... 

Now take off the blindfold... what do you see?  How did he make you feel?

Hmmmm.

Just a different way of 'looking' at it (no pun intended)

Yes.  Twice.

First guy was versatile.  He was undetectable and we flip fucked raw for 12 years.  

Second guy was also versatile.  He was also undetectable and he bottomed about 80% of the time, but I took quite a few loads up my ass over the year we were together.

I was not on PrEP at the time with either guy.  So the U-U science definitely worked in my situations.

I actually prefer fucking with U guys, as they typically know their entire STI status due to fairly consistent 3 month appointments.  STI's like syphilis are definitely on the rise.

Now that I'm on PrEP, I am also tested every 3 months.  Ironically, I got a dose of both gono and syphilis from the second guy .... no HIV tho.

IMHO, I like to be 'aware' and take action if necessary.  But never had issues with HIV and sero-discordant relationships!

Based on your opening line, it sounds like you'd like to stay negative for now.  That might change later, but don't rush into it.  There are two camps.

I agree with @tallslenderguy and with @find91,,, how do you define "So far only been breeded by people i trust that are neg or undetectable".  Only you can answer how you determine 'trust'.

But...

As pointed out above, U=U is true.  I am a firm supporter. 

But there are people out there in our world who actually ..... lie about a lot of things.  Status could be one of these things.  Dude... they wanna fuck.

I have met MANY hot sex partners who are poz and undetectable.  They have chosen to medicate and disclose..... for which I am appreciative.  But 'some' guys will say anything you want to hear in order to fuck. 

So, I took the approach that it is MY responsibility to mitigate the risk of (at least) HIV.  You can still get lots of other STD's.

If you plan on barebacking and taking loads, you might want to consider PrEP for now - until you decide where you want to go with all this.....

Cheers dude!

When I read a story or thread I like... I do in fact hit the FOLLOW button.  However, I noticed when you do that, it asks you if you want a notification immediately, or daily, or weekly etc...

I select DAILY.  

What happens then, is a get an email to my email account showing my Daily Digest.  I can see quickly the 'one word' or... "hot" or "wow" messages and skip right past them.  Actual updates to a story (like the Doctor series I'm following) do show up as larger posts and I can gather quickly that it is new.  Plus, that particular author, numbers his original posts

It ain't sexy - but it works for me and all this is already available on our BZ site.... my three cents.

Cheers all.....

New Year's Day 2020.   I'm horny as fuck.  Have 3 loads in me from my overnighter with a poz FWB.  I'm on line and get hit up by a 32 year old bi black guy who is pissed off at his GF, cuz' she got hammered NYE - and passed out on his blue-balls ass. LOL.... New Year's day she is hung as hell and won't let him near her.  ..... 

He says he REALLY wants to get off.  He mentioned that he sees I get tested regularly and I'm on PrEP.  He also mentions that he has an older/younger interest... then sends a pic.  He looks big and hot.  I invite him over and say 'we can talk'. 

He is horny and so am I so, so he arrives shortly.  Handsome young black guy.  Quiet. Smiles a lot.  He clearly wants to get off.  He is still pissed at his GF and I figure I can start his new year off with a hot bang!!

We go upstairs.  I suck him and edge him a few times and he is using my spit on my hole to open me up.  I'm ass up on the bed waiting to feel this big 9" uncut cock slide into my hole when I hear the tear of the wrapper. Fuck.

I remind him I've got paperwork for recent tests and I'm on PrEP and actually prefer it raw.  He mutter something about GF and we fuck nice and slow for a few minutes.  I pretend that his big cock is raw and I get off on feeling his balls slowly slap against my balls with each slow, deep thrust.

He says he can feel my previous loads from earlier still sloshing around his rubber wrapped dick, but complains that it is just slippery with the rubber.  Almost a sigh.

I start talking dirty to him and egging him on each time he thrusts in and out to the edge and we hear a squelch or a juicy pop.  We both know he isn't getting the real 'feeling'.

He pulls out, mutters something else about GF under his breath, slaps his uncut cock head on my hole a few times then sinks into me balls deep and just holds it.  And flexes it.  So much for wrapped.  I could tell he had pulled off the rubber.

He started pumping into me slow again.  He was ooing and aahing with each slow stroke.    He said he didn't want to blow too soon, as he was hugely turned on.  He said fucking a muscular asshole full of cum was 200% better than anything he got from a chick.  I certainly agreed.  And I also told him to blow as soon as he would like.  I planned to keep him hard enough for a second load before I let him leave.

I just kept talking dirty to him about his cock stretching my raw hole and was he going to shoot his big load deep in my hole? or pull out and shoot all over the outside?  And I kept  talking to him on and on and telling him to slow fuck me and breed me.  I worked into the dirty talk that we were just new FB's and I was already willing to suck his big cock and take his load bare in my tight hole and she wouldn't let him touch her.  And that I liked his big cock deep in my hole.  And he got a little more noisy and frantic.  I told him to seed my hole and breed me.  Do it!  Do it!!!!! 

He went over the edge and unloaded a massive amount of cum inside me.  I could feel it filling me up.  Massive amount.  I could feel him flexing his head inside me while he pumped in and out gently.  I could feel it getting more slippery with each slow thrust.  He didn't make a sound.  It was wild. 

And he stopped.

He just collapsed across my back and was working on getting his breathing under control.  He hadn't moved in a few minutes and I was worried he was going to get 'goofy' about taking his rubber off and get weird.   

I need not have worried though, as it appears "Mike" had changed his mind about topping a hole raw.  I suddenly felt his flexing again inside of me.  I squeezed back and he groaned.  He flexed.  I squeezed.  He said he couldn't believe we were able to 'feel one another'.  I commented that with a rubber, he likely wouldn't get the same effect.  He agreed.

He pulled out of my ass and I felt cool air around my open hole.  It had to be gaping with that big thick tool pumping in and out of it.  The breeze said a lot about how stretched out I must have been.

He was fascinated by my leaking hole.  He started using his thumb to push the leaking loads back inside. I had my eyes closed and was enjoying the feeling when I felt a shift and his rock hard head slapped my hole again.  He was now using his hard cock to push any leaking cum back into my pucker.  Then he slapped my hole a few times with his dick again and just slowly pushed right into his shaved pubes in one long push. 

He held for a second to get his balance and proceeded to give me what I like to call a "VHF"... a vicious hate fuck. LOL.  A term my buddies and I used over the years to describe hard, raw fucking.  You try and kill one another by fucking VERY hard. Grin.

He pounded my ass.  He had me huffing poppers and slamming his cock into my hole.   He pulled out twice and fed me cum covered uncut foreskin fresh from my ass.  So yes, my younger friend got totally into fucking raw without being asked twice.

He bred me a second time and said he had to blow and go.  But he asked if we could do this again.  He wanted to try some more hard fucking and experimentation with someone else to guide him.  

Fuck ya!! I'm definitely in for that tutorial. LOL.

Turns out he lives about 20 minutes down the road from me.  We exchanged info and he is planning to drop over next Tuesday night for round 2. 

I asked him if we were going to fuck raw next visit.  He smiled and said... "Not a chance.  I don't know if I could ever fuck with a condom again".

I explained that my hole(s) were available if we both happen to be online at the same time.  That made him even more excited.

It turned my crank to know he enjoyed fucking a guy's ass raw more.... chalk one up for the gay guys! LOL. 

Cheers

My  partner loved watching me fuck a hot bottom OR take a big hard cock in my hole.  He was a real voyeur and (with permission), he videoed a lot of our fuck sessions.  He got pretty good with the camera, so I didn't need to cut out faces a lot... the continuity was good.  When I finished the videos, we would fuck and flip flop while watching our latest fuck session.  I often came home to find him naked on the couch or bed jerking off to me fucking someone or taking cock in my hole.

We only fucked raw with our FWB's as well... so there was alway lotsa cum. We liked watching the other guy pull off a cock just as it started to cum and let a couple shots run off our faces before swallowing the guy.  He loved to eat cum from a freshly fucked hole, so I would pull out and do a couple of shots around the bottom's hole so he could get it on film and then eat it, while I photograped. 

After a run in with some prostate surgery, I ended up bottoming a lot more often.  He would arrange for us to have another couple for dinner and hot tub and then have all three of them tag team my ass for a couple of hours.  

It was a lot of fun... cuz' it turned out, "I" was voyeuristic as well.  I still have a lot of those videos and go back and can remember 'exactly' how it felt at that moment as we filmed one another fucking.  Great times.

Cheers

Enjoy the journey.  As stated above "Cupid shows up at the strangest times... " (and often you may not realize it).  Don't make your age a 'thing'...

I came out at 42....to my two grown children and ex-wife.   I experimented with men for a couple of years and fell in love with a guy.  We lived together for 12 years until a drug addiction wrecked his life. So don't sweat the age thing man.... I'm 58 now and have LOTS of younger guys in their 20's and 30's hit on me - and I live in a region of about 750,000 people.  Region - not city.  So there is 'somebody for everybody' out there.  It just might be casual or grow to something serious.

Don't blame yourself.  Lots of these guys are kickin' tires and as stated above, 'window shopping'.  Believe me, they likely aren't introspective about themselves, their age, their body... they think they are above average already. LOL.  Don't feed their egos.   When you approach things like...'it's THEIR loss'... you will start to feel better about it all man.  The internet (theoretically) gives people anonymity and hence they think they are faceless, nameless and can do/say whatever they want.  That is THEIR problem.  Hear the theme here? YOU are good.  

You're a good lookin' guy.  Stats are nice as well.  And you write in complete sentences (grin).  These are all great attributes. 

Enjoy the journey dude... be patient.

Cheers and good luck in the new year!

The 'legal' part:

As others has said... the disclosure rules are different based on your home base.

I live in Canada.  The SCC (Supreme Court of Canada) and the Justice Department have updated our laws to reflect the strides made in low viral load (undetectable) and the their definition of 'realistic possibility of transmission'.  Perhaps fellow Canucks could take the time to read this important information.  

Just be aware of the laws in your home base area.  Laws are being adjusted in different countries based on scientific findings.

The 'awareness' part: 

Whenever I have a choice between someone I "knew" was U, I preferred to fuck raw with that person.  My thoughts? They know their status.  If they are undetectable and being treated, they were being tested and had decided to take the medicated route.  Their choice.  I have no qualms about raw fucking with an undetectable guy because I try and stay informed. I support U=U completely.  Anyone who is open to me about this - we're already in a good place.  (I know I am over-simplifying, but this is MY rationale).

Last part:

These apps are for meeting people.  Coffee? OK....  But typically... sex (maybe a coffee afterwards - grin).  So, educate yourself about this stuff.  I agree with a lot of the other posters that if people are handing out that kind of attitude, you're better to stay the fuck away from them.  They think they are invincible.  We know better.  And as other posters have mentioned - these are the once a year testers (if even that) who have NO idea what kind of STI's they might have.... fuck em'!!!!

If a guy doesn't tell me his status, I simply ask.  I realize there a lot of people who abuse the shit out of HIV folks for NO reason.  I lived with a poz partner for 15 years.  I saw some of the shit he had to deal with.  That might be why I am so open minded about it all - I had to understand how all this worked.  We lived in a sero-discordant relationship that entire time and fucked raw the entire time.  He was undetectable and I wasn't even on PrEP at that point.  So... some would say I'm lucky, and others would say.... "See!... U=U".

Sorry you get this shit thrown at ya man... there is some good advice.  The key one? It is THEIR responsibility to ask.  If they are boors - they will suffer the consequences one day. Karma's a bitch.  If they are 'aware' - the sex could be hot as hell! 

Many happy couplings to you in 2020!! Cheers

I do my best to clean myself out well.. I have a permanent shower attachment at home and carry a bulb when on the road.

Accidents happen... some guys lose their mind.... I have one buddy who has literally pulled my pants off in the kitchen and started to fuck me over the counter even when I have told him I haven't had time to clean thoroughly.  He doesn't mind if things get a little messy... in fact, he says the nastiness of it all turns him on a little.  

So - there are definitely both ends of the spectrum out there... but I personally prefer to be nice and clean.  I love ATM as well... I'm not into eating my top's dirty cock... but I love licking his ass juice/cum covered cock tho!

Different strokes...... etc etc...

First of all... I am truly sorry (and kinda disgusted) to read this... my sympathies to you for enduring this mess.

I think you #1 isn't a good option.  You are doing your best to honor your partner. 

Do NOT try #2... you already know... he will likely lie.

And yes... #3 sounds like sour grapes, and studios are in it to make money... they likely won't want to get involved.

I like the GLAAD approach.  Take your story to them... especially if you get a no cost visit to explain your situation.

I wish you well and I hope you are able to get some resolution here..... for your partner Mark, and your own sanity my friend!

Peace.

It was on by bucket list. I really wanted to try getting fucked by a guy who had his cock pierced.  The pictures kinda turned my crank and I was very curious.

On Squirt one night, and get pinged by this guy who is a top and says he likes my public pics.. would I like to share my private pics? And, he had opened his privates.

I clicked on his profile and he was a very hot butch looking guy in leather in his profile.  My cock started to twitch.  A top? Hot leather? Wow.

But then I went rock hard.  He had a PA.

Long story short... he came over and I took two poz loads from him.  He really knew how to work that big ring up against my prostate while he was fucking.  The feeling was incredible.

He took his time and really worked my hole over until I told him I wanted him to feel free to give me a good solid fuck.  That was foreplay to him I guess, because he really started deep dicking me and working that big head into my second hole.... THAT felt crazy intense and good.  

So.. In my one and only experience with a hot hung top with a big PA - this guy knew what he was doing and it was an amazing feeling.  So much so that I would do it again in a flash.

I think someone who is going to take the time to work up the gauge on the rings, is someone who probably knows how to use that big PA in a tight hole... just my opinion.  Based on a sample size of.. one. Grin.

Cheers

On 12/10/2019 at 4:33 PM, tallslenderguy said:

This is an excellent and informative pod cast, but it doesn't answer my question. 

The claim was: 

"Truvada is superior over Descovy when it comes to PrEP 

trust me I’ve seen the data "

I have not seen research evidence to support this claim.  

Good poing... and I agree it is CLEAR that Gilead is planning ahead.  And the rules will be different for every country the sale their product.  Whole different issue.  It sucks for sure.  That was a good podcast.. but it was around 'greed'.  And the complications of 'who paid for what part of development?'.  It will be a fight.  But I would like to think people are more aware it makes more sense to prevent ANY illness than cure it.   I am very fortunate - my drug plan will cover either... as an insurer, they would love to have me on generic Truvada (available already in Canada) vs. newer more expensive Descovy.

But even after reading a lot of literature, I still think it is the best move for me.  Personally.  My Doc sits and talks to me about this stuff.  He told me at my last appointment that he was recommending the change.  Find out if my plan was going to cover it (they are) and think about it for my next appointment and he will answer any questions I have..... hence my request to the community.  I've found almost ALL comments very thought out and people pretty open and honest.... and ya.. we don't all agree.  Hence my comment "personally'.

I have definitely read everyone's comments.... people are saying a lot of what I am reading.  I AM curious though when one of our members says Truvada is superior.... I am not seeing that anywhere.  One of our fellow members did have a point about TAF and 'timing'... but that is one of the questions I'll throw at my Doc after Christmas. 

So with the exception of the ..."trust me I've seen the data".... if there is data that I'm not finding... could you please point it out... I'm certainly very interested to hear a different view!

Again - thanks to all for a good thread.  Much appreciated.  

On 12/9/2019 at 1:44 AM, drscorpio said:

PrEP is definitely called for. I wouldn’t be secret about it either. “Because the two of you cannot abide by our rules, I am doing this to protect myself.”

I totally agree with this statement... don't pussyfoot around this... make sure they BOTH know you are doing this for YOUR personal protection... They can say what they want.... I see this as a case of 'actions speak louder than words".

" We discussed that we don't want to take it to the level of anal sex with "outsiders" because of the risks. 

     My husband and my boyfriend say they're monogamous, but I know they aren't. "

There is your answer.

I was in this exact same situation a number of years ago..... right down to having a 'third' that participated with us now and then for fun.  Like you, I also found out that every time I was travelling on business there were many, many situations with bareback sex and one day - my partner was diagnosed with HIV.  I tested fine.  So, that definitely put a bit of a monkey wrench into the relationship.

As stated by many others - get yourself on PrEP right away.

Your partner (and your boyfriend) are making decisions about YOUR health and lying to you..... you have to decide how much truth/lies you will accept.  But you should NOT accept that they are making health decisions that will affect you for the rest of your life.

Minimize your risk - whether you top or bottom.   You can still get STD's by the way... but PrEP will definitely help lower your risk of contracting HIV.

Do it now!!!!  

Good luck dude!