BlackDude

I’m not going to say it only ABS. Sniffies is notorious for the “oral” crowd.  Guys on there, who you know are fucking, offering no reciprocation head. As if (pretending to) not fucking gives you some kind of moral high ground. 

10 minutes ago, topblkmale said:

I agree but I believe its the fact that ABS tend to be mostly oral. Its always a cocksuckers first choice.

Most bathhouses, sex parties and sex clubs I frequent guys are into anal primarily. I find myself seeking out the good cocksuckers as I LOVE good oral. I never have a problem finding asses to fuck.

 

Case in point - Slammers Fort Lauderdale.

The suck ramps are always half-empty and barely used. However the group fuck room (round bench) and the dark fuck room (regular bench) are always jam packed.

I mostly agree with you about ABS. But, I’ll give an example.  I was at the local ABS this week. This super sexy middle aged blue collar man walked in the main theater, pulled his pants down, and immediately started taking dick. He was offering both ends. I get guys not wanting to BB. But half the guys (yes they are gay for a fact) started clutching their pearls, and ran out the theater. You’re that horrified/offended of a guy getting fucked? In a gay space? 
 

Now in the Bay Area, Totally different. 

1 minute ago, topblkmale said:

For context, in what part of the US are you located? I'm guessing South Florida.

West Coast. The black/Latino decide is real in some places out here. 

On 10/24/2022 at 4:15 PM, topblkmale said:

As a black American, I have never experienced racism from gays in Mexico, Central or South America. 

 

Now I HAVE received negative energy in bars and bathhouses in Latin America for being perceived as an English-speaking foreigner.

Many seem disappointed I'm not Colombian, Panamanian, Cuban or Dominican.

 

For them its cultural difference. And I agree with them.

Interesting. I don’t have alot if issues with guys from Central America and Mexico. We get along just fine for the most part. 
 

But most of the Latino guys I meet for the Carribean or South America are just as racist as the white guys. In fact, they go further.  Almost like they have something to prove. And they have no problem with American culture, as long as it’s packaged in whiteness. 

My body doesn’t agree with poppers for whatever reason. Even the scent of someone else using them make my heart race, and I feel like I just ran a marathon. I’ve never used them. 

21 hours ago, hntnhole said:

It seems that a lot of guys have gradually altered what used to be fairly clear definitions:

1.  "Top" means (or used to) a guy who will only fuck.  Active only, nothing passive.

2.  "bottom" means (or used to) mean a guy who will only get fucked.  Passive only, noting active.  

3.  "Verse" means (or used to) a guy that potentially will both Top and/or bottom, depending on the scene.  

When the above turns into an alphabet soup, the meanings are rendered moot. 

Point:  Less talk, more Breeding.  Less endless time-wasting on the cruise apps, go to where the pigs are, shuck your jeans and jump in.  

I like this. Words have to have meanings. I think too often, gays use terms loosely intentionally, or we just flat out allow people to lie. We make exceptions the rule. 

It leads to confusion and ultimately sexual frustration. 

Most guys are holding out for something better. They’ve made a calculation that they’d rather save their nut for that perfect situation/guy. 

Possible incoming rant:

What is going on with the seeming increase in guys who do “oral only?” Maybe TIM and the Internet has poisoned my view of sex, but with COVID and MP out the way, and with Prep, I anticipated and easier time fucking and breeding. But everywhere I go, there seems to be guys who “only want to suck.” I go cruising, 75% of the guys only want oral. Even on BBRT, there are only oral guys. Alot of these guys don’t even want to do mutual, and won’t take their dick out. 
 

Let me just add, I know most of these guys are full of it, especially middle age to older men. They aren’t really oral only, alot are eternally holding out for something hotter. But my premise stands there’s less fucking than there should be in the Prep era. 

Especially if you’re at an ABS, who cares if you take it up the ass? I’m not saying everyone has to put on a show, but damn loosen up. 

When I saw Elliot Stabler from Law and Order in a pair of bikini briefs, that was the final nail in the coffin. 

I’ve always kinda trusted my instincts and the energy. It’s more of feel and observation. If you got to a spot, and there’s a bunch of dudes with dour, holier than tho looks on their face, that non-sexual energy is gonna rub if on other guys. It only takes a few guys to throw the entire place off.
 

If I go, and dudes are cool, even if they aren’t into me sexually, I feel eventually someone/somebodies gonna come my way cause guys don’t want to be left out of the fun. 

On 10/17/2022 at 3:04 PM, Muscledadbod said:

There was a hot guy in my gym who used to shower after his workouts. He taught a spin class and then he lifted weights afterwards. I cruised him regularly. One day while he was showering he left his bag open in the locker room outside his locker. I went to my locker, got my shit and walked out. I did manage to grab his wet underwear from his bag and shoved it in my jacket pocket and left.

Went out to my car and huffed it and jerked off. Like you said, it was the closest to getting your face all up in their crotch.

You lucky guy! Took a risk, but paid off!

This hot younger blue collar guy made the mistake of dropping his boxer briefs in the floor. I jo with those for a week. Smelled intoxicating. 

On 3/5/2020 at 10:36 AM, find91 said:

That dude was a dick and wanted to stir up shit between you and your bf. I see this type of behavior among gay men a lot. They not only reject but they have to twist the knife deeper to cause damage and pain due to their own lack of esteem, pire and jealousy.

One thing your bf has to remember is that not everyone will be into you and that is ok. As the same you aren't into everyone. Where the difficulty stems from if you belong to an outlier group, being too fem, over weight, older than 40, you don't fit a certain category like twinks, bear, jock; not having 6 or 12 pack; being attracted to different body types; acting first like a human being and not some homo caricature. Those people get rejected so often it's easy to become jaded and bitter.

He just needs to divert his mind from a bit and focus on what makes him a good guy.

Have you both thought about cruising separate? Your look my attract a certain type of guy, while his another.

Also have a backup plan to when you cruise, so in case it's a bust you both can have some sexy alone time.

You spoke 100% truth. A lot of these dudes now were raised by angry single mothers, and they have that same, messy mentality. 
 

I also add if you’re in an interracial relationship, the games and the rabbit hole gets deeper when it comes to being open. 

Maybe minority here, but I always thought Messi was kinda hot.

And I miss the Turkish team not being there. 

So there are two guys. Both equally attractive and take loads. I see them out and about. One has a good job, intelligent, kinda picky, very handsome. Great body. Says all the right things, feels good, kisses good. He invites me over. But for some reason my dick just won’t respond. I want to be into him but my mind won’t let me. My body feels good, but my hormones don’t respond. 

The other guy is an unashamed slut. Hot as well, but straight out the gutter and bad news. Takes loads in front of anyone. I’m almost sure he gave me an STD once. And when I see him, I feel like my dick is going to explode it’s so hard. I fuck him for a minute, I start cumming. Just typing this now has me horny.

Why? There is nothing wrong with the first guy. Usually I’m very logical and rational. But when it come to sex, I guess the body wants what it wants. 

I agree. Soccer players are always the best looking athletes. I don’t think I’d survive in some of these other countries. 

14 minutes ago, Marlin said:

I'm disappointed and a bit angry that a guy I've been having sex with, told me he wanted to "slow down" after I told him I was poz undetectable.

I met him on gridr almost two years ago. He was about 10 years younger than me, south asian from India. About 5'-5" with a nice hairy chest and a smallish uncut dick, He said he was a bottom and  loved passionate kissing, mutual oral and general making out.  He seemed somewhat demure and maybe even a bit vanilla. We didn't talk about bareback or status either, We chatted for about a week before we decided to meet at my house, We undressed and immediately started making out and kissing. He had a nice body and was a wonderful kisser. We were both hard quickly and proceeded to suck each other off. While sucking me I grabbed my poppers and did a few hits. I handed them to him and he took two huge hits....I really didnt expect him to use poppers and was thrilled he would partake. I flipped him on his back and sucked his uncut dick. licking the shaft and his balls. I then lifted his legs over his head and began eating his hole. He was hairy down there but shaved. I was in heaven and so was he. Now that his hole was really wet I lined my hard dick against his hole and slowly started sliding in. He didn't say anything about condoms, he just moaned. I fucked him for a while then put him on his stomach, dove my tongue in his hole again, then swapped my tongue for my cock and went in deep. I was lying on top of him fucking hard and he had his head turned to me so we could kiss. My breathing got heavier, my thrusts got deeper and soon I was cumming inside him.  We both kissed passionately. He rolled on his back so I could suck his dick. He jerked off and shot in my mouth. 

We met dozens of times and each time our sex was incredible. We even found a third so he could get two raw dicks and a few times he would come over with his ass full from another guy who fucked him. I soon found out he was married to a guy through facebook but I never said anything nor did he,

One day we were messaging and we started talking about barebackbastards videos. I told him I liked some of the pozzing videos. He then says "can I ask what your status is" I immediately said poz undetectable. He didnt respond right away. A bit later I message him to see when he's free and he responded he wanted to slow things down.

I feel terrible. I really didn't mean to deceive him as he didn't seem to care. Our sex was great and I really liked him.....I guess I should have lied.

Well honesty is always best. Especially if it’s going to be a long term relationship, even if it’s just sexual.

Although, that could have been his way of breaking things off, and you gave him the out he was looking for. If he’s already married, best for both of you to not get too attached. 

People will do what they always do: fight for what they believe in or for what’s right. I’m the U.S.

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1 hour ago, BootmanLA said:

That's kind of what I was getting at - to the extent there's a problem, to the extent that racial preference slides well into racism territory, it's almost exclusively a whites-excluding-others problem, and most of that is whites-excluding-blacks. It's just sad. 

I’m not going to give all the blame to the white guys. Unfortunately many Latinos, and most Asians have the same energy toward black guys. 

On 10/14/2022 at 1:16 PM, BootmanLA said:

I respectfully disagree at least for some (though not all) such people.

Some white guys doesn't want to have sex with a black guy because they're fixated on, say, thin, small-framed Asian guys, or beefy muscular Arab men, or whatever, They're not targeting black men because they have something against black men; they're targeting all non-[whatever] guys, including white, black, or whatever men who don't fit the profile of the kind of guy they find appealing. There's an element of racism involved - but for lack of a better way to phrase it, one race is being elevated above the rest to the exclusion of everyone else, including the person's OWN race. That's not quite the same kind of racism as excluding everyone who doesn't match oneself.

In many ways, that kind of  "I only like" racism is not really any different from guys who will only have sex with redheads, or guys over 6'2", or guys who are at least 250 lbs.

But yes, there are also some white guys who don't want to have sex with a black guy, even if they'll have sex with another white guy (and maybe a Latino guy, an Asian man, an Arab man, an Inuit man, or a First Nations man). And yeah, that's racism of a much worse kind, because it's targeting one race or ethnicity (or sometimes, a few races or ethnicities) for exclusion. 

Well I didn’t say all, just certain guys. Being black for a long time, I see people actions toward other black people. 60% of non black gays will not sleep with another black guy. And that’s okay. Black guys in general need to stop begging for interracial sexual access. We waste too much time and resources. 

As far as comparing “white only” to other preferences, all of those are usually negotiable, except race. For certain guys, the number one criteria is to be white. Weight, age, fem/masc is evaluated on a case by case basis. NO ONE in the gay community is turning down hoards of white guys. 
 

And the number of black guys who turn down white guys is negligible. They few that do, usually have a strong fetish for Latino men. 

1 hour ago, BootmanLA said:

I'd only add that what also can offend people is how one express to others what does and does not get one's dick hard.

If one follows a handful of basic guidelines:

--focus on what you do like, not on what you don't like;

--avoid reducing the kind of people you DO like to stereotypes;

--if you must rule out certain characteristics, do so with polite, non-offensive terms;

then one's not likely to offend.

Let's say that what you like is Latin men who are muscular and hairy. Instead of saying "No blacks, no Asians, no pasty white dudes", you could say "attracted primarily to fit and hairy men of northern Mediterranean heritage, especially Italians and Spaniards". Instead of saying "no smooth chests", say "body hair, especially chest hair, really is important for me." And if it's absolutely critical to be muscled and masculine, for god's sake don't say "no fats, no femmes"; you can say the same thing nicely by saying "fitness is important to me, and traditional masculinity is key". You can soften the blow of implicitly rejecting those who don't meet such limits by stressing - if it's true - that "this applies only to sexual interest; my friendships transcend any such boundaries." Just don't say that if 39 of 40 of your closest friends are all furry Latin gym rats. 

That’s a battle not worth fighting. I understand certain people get psychological benefits from only having sex with white or white identifying men. That’s like asking a peacock not to show its feathers. It’s core to their identity. 

What they need to understand is that certain responses online may have legal or even physical consequences in the real world. 

Incoming non PC rant coming:

This summer was one of the best summers ever. With the pandemic dying down, guys were out and horny. This large oasis in the middle of the city became cruising central. On any given night, 20-30 guys would be there, most fucking, sucking or on there way to doing  so. Guys were giving in to there most carnal desires right there in the woods.

After a few months, the homeless people stated creeping in. The cruisers and the homeless mostly stayed out of each other’s way. Neither was a public nuisance since the park was large enough and wooded so no one could see what was going on within.

Then one day, the cops decided to do a sweep and arrest all the cruisers. They homeless, who were trashing the place, trafficking and doing every drug in the book, were left alone. Fortunately, I wasn’t there with this happened and I’m an extremely caution cruiser.

I still don’t understand why cruisers are being targeted for “loitering” when they are allowing the homeless to run amuck. 

Well, it was fun while it lasted. 

While I’m more into masculine men, I appreciate a faggot. They know who they are, and there is no games. Kind of refreshing.

I was recently out on the prowl, and this twinkish fag showed. All it took was some eye contact, and he had his pants off, and was blowing my dick in preparation for breeding him. 
 

No pulling out, no “asking for a break,” no pretending like he wasn’t there to fuck when he was, no “I can’t cum because I have to fuck my wife/GF/BF” later. None of the BS moralizing “clutching my pearls” at another gay guy approaching you. Just two guys getting what they want

On 10/11/2022 at 9:03 PM, Alcatraz19 said:

This might offend people but I cannot help who gets my dick hard.

I don’t think that offends reasonable people. You do have some guys who may be offended because they rely on validation of white men, but normal guys with there self esteem in tact just keep it moving.

What “offends” people is when you let your feeling in the bedroom determine how you treat people in the real world, especially in a professional or business  environment. 

Location and hotel is important. If your too far out from city center or somewhere way off the freeway, I think that could make a difference. 
 

I also went over to this Cumdump party late night. When I got to this seedy motel, the front entrance had a lock so you couldn’t drive in without a guest pass.