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  1. So simping is a concept they I’ve heard of primarily used in the straight community. At its most basic, is it’s a willingness accept an unequal exchange of time, attention and/or resources for the possibility of sexual attention. Some examples may be:

    1. Buying a regular at a bar drinks you have interest in, but he never talks to you.

    2. Letting men you want to sleep with lie to you about, or avoid the topic of sex with you, but put out for others. 
     

    3. Allowing men to tease and giving them money or attention for nothing in return.

    4. Subscribing to OF, JF or C pages where it’s clear the guy would never sleep with anyone like you. He may have even made disparaging comments about your kink or subgroup. 
     

    5. Always attending events that interest a potential love/sex interest, yet they never attend yours.

    6. Feeling like you are more interested in a person than they are about you. They never ask you anything in depth about you and you willingly accept it. 
     

    7. Spending money, or providing resources with no sexual return. For example letting a non friend stay in your house rent free or drive your car for free. 
     

    8. Willing to be a third wheel, ignored or footing the bill so you can be in the in crowd. 

    This doesn’t apply to real friends, or occasional pickup. Usually, simps are in a long term sexual pursuit with no promise of a “payoff.” 

    Again, I know this is a straight concept. But the reason simps are mocked in the straight community is they are perceived to have a low sense of self esteem and mess up the sexual order by pedestaling and encouraging narcissistic, misplaced ego driven behavior.

    Im wondering if this concept may also apply in the gay community?

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  2. On 6/9/2024 at 2:58 PM, BirminghamBB said:

    p.s. Not an American, so miss me with all the name-calling about me being a MAGA-tard or something. Underestimate international support for Trump by the plebs at all your perils, and say what you want about him but he's the FIRST president ever since Reagan for whom the world actually held a degree of respect and FEAR for as POTUS. 

    And that's a very good thing. Because it is better to be feared than be supposedly loved, but only in the way an old grandpa is in a hospice home. 

    Interesting how “international communities” respect two of the most presidents who were most overt with their racism….a lot to unpack their if it’s true….

  3. 3 hours ago, Normaldude said:

    I don't want you guys so think this post is superficial, but Im gonna be straightforward with the problem.

    Im on my late 30's ( 37 ), I consider myself a normal straight-passing guy, not ugly, not handsome, just normal. 

    My body is something that I don't like. I never really made sports in my life, so I have almost no muscles, and a belly, that I hate.

    During my life and during my time living in the States, I don't remember lots of episodes of rejection, maybe, because I was meeting people on Grindr, or maybe because living in a small town in South Carolina the things work a little bit different.

    But then, last year, I moved to Europe. And I started going to sex clubs and their sex parties. So for the first time I experienced what is rejection. and what is like to be invisible.

    =(

    I went to party in Berlin last night and there were probably 1000 guys inside, and nobody wanted to do anything with me, nobody looked at me.

    It looks like everybody in that club was super young and super hot. and I feel that I was the only person there that was being totally ignored. 

    I know the place is like a meat market and everybody can one day experience rejection, but it is something that really makes me sad.

    well, but my questions in this post  (  and I would honestly want to  hear the opinion of my > 35 guys who are not gym rats! )

    - how do you deal with rejection in sex clubs / parties?

    - what should I do to improve my chances of getting laid? should I start going to the gym? is it too late for that?

    - I try to always wear a t-shirt at those clubs ( I don't wanna show my body naked ), is that also a turn off for guys?

     

    thank you 

     

     

    Sometimes it does hurt when people go to other places or these big cities and we get reminded that there is another “weight class” above us. 

    well, I do believe that everyone does have a type, the problem is time. You can spend your time looking for the person/crowd  that will accept you, or you can spend that time getting competitive with the rest of the guys in Berlin. 

     

  4. As much as we like to lie to the public about gay culture, the fact is many gay men lonely and long for the affection of others. Im not talking about the men who are eternally holding out, but men who don’t fit into the gay stereotype of attractiveness

    If a man wants a hit experience, and someone will give it too him, I don’t see what’s wrong with that? Do you get some sort of sick, twisted satisfaction in depriving men from happiness?

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  5. 1 hour ago, bbzh said:

    I have also seen where some places are making the code to the front door and the code to the room the same, so if you give that code out, you've essentially given that visitor access to you and your belongings for the entire length of your stay. That's a real deterrent.

    Also don't understand that website listing cumdump hotels...that's just flagging to the world that it's time to beef up security. People forget there are gays among us that report that kind of stuff. 

    Funny you say that. A few weeks ago a guy set up an open door cumdump in Sniffies. As I was ready to walk out the door, I got an email from an anon profile saying he called the hotel and told them about the party. Then chastised me. The party was cancelled.

     

     

  6. 5 hours ago, BootmanLA said:

    "Our government" (in a general sense) did no such thing. The U.S. House (which is one half of one branch of the US government) passed a bill that did something else entirely.

    What the proposed law in question does is codify (in Civil Rights Act of 1964) the definition of anti-Semitism used internally by the International Holocaust Remembrance Alliance. That definition reads as follows:

    "Antisemitism is a certain perception of Jews, which may be expressed as hatred toward Jews. Rhetorical and physical manifestations of antisemitism are directed toward Jewish or non-Jewish individuals and/or their property, toward Jewish community institutions and religious facilities."

    Note that there is no mention of the word "Israel" or the phrase "government of Israel" in that definition, whatsoever.

    The law goes on to incorporate the IHRA's "contemporary examples of antisemitism", but none of those examples "codifies" the relationship between the U.S. and Israel. It's simply false to say that they do.

    Now, one may argue whether that's an accurate or good enough definition of anti-Semitism; that's a reasonable debate to have. And one may say that this, or that, example of antisemitism shouldn't be considered as such, and that, too, is a reasonable debate to have. But it's false - provably, demonstrably false - that this law "codifies" any sort of relationship between the United States and Israel. For one thing, that's a huge separation of powers problem; the president, not Congress, is given the power to recognize foreign governments. See Zivotosky v. Kerry, in which the Supreme Court held that the power of the president to recognize foreign nations is exclusive (ie that Congress cannot interfere with it).

    So the war sparked the need for a bill. However, me even connecting Jewish people to Israel is anti Semitic by their definition: 

     

    [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] https://holocaustremembrance.com/resources/working-definition-antisemitism

    Oh, a few more things in that definition:

    ”Drawing comparisons of contemporary Israeli policy to that of the Nazis.”

    ”Denying the Jewish people their right to self-determination, e.g., by claiming that the existence of a State of Israel is a racist endeavor..”

    If it’s separate, why use “Israeli policy?”

    I don’t have a dog in the fight either way. Just sparking conversation….

  7. 28 minutes ago, BootmanLA said:

    That "if" is a mighty big "if". As in "IF". The reality, of course, is that such a bill is unlikely to even be brought up in the Senate, much less passed, and even less to be signed into law.

    My question was about the separation or connection of Israel and the Jewish community. 

     Whether the bill is passed or not, it’s still a question of people perceive Israel and Jewish people, so much so, out government attempted to codify the relationship. 

  8. On 5/8/2024 at 11:16 AM, BlackDude said:

    The article says:

     

    “If passed by the Senate and signed into law, the bill would broaden the legal definition of antisemitism to include the “targeting of the state of Israel, conceived as a Jewish collectivity.”
     

     

  9. On 4/29/2024 at 11:52 AM, hntnhole said:

    We're seeing increasingly strident unrest at many Universities/Colleges throughout the country lately, and the issue has become urgent.  

    What presents as anti-"Jewish" demonstrations, is - as I see it - misplaced anger.  While the plight of the Palestinians is truly desperate and only getting worse by the day, and the perpetrators of that outrage are obviously guilty of inhumanity and worse, blaming "The Jews" is misplaced, reactionary, and poorly-thought-out - as I see it.  

    The blame doesn't lie with "The Jews" - it lies with the Government of Israel, and particularly with a soulless and utterly corrupt Prime Minister, devoted only to saving his own political skin, which is a completely different issue.  He has resisted calls for elections, invents every conceivable excuse for postponing them, because he knows his "war plan" to murder as many Palestinians as possible is a crime against humanity, and not supported by a clear majority of the voting public in Israel. 

    The "eye-for-an-eye" equation of antiquity has morphed, in this depraved P.M.'s limited vision, into visiting that which The Jews suffered in the last century, upon the Palestinian population, a handful of which deserve punishment, with the vast majority of these people remaining innocent of the October attack.  

    I don't have any issue with students everywhere protesting the actions of the Israeli Government, steeping in it's hateful inhumanity.  I completely support Bernie Sanders in his stand against allowing one penny of US funds to be used in any way to further this atrocity against men, women, children, babies, that have in no way injured the State of Israel.  I well remember the anti-war demonstrations of the last enormous folly of US foreign policy, (when the Draft-Dodger-in-Chief's father hired a quack doctor to diagnose his worthless p.o.s. son with "bone spurs").  That greasy-headed McNamara, with his policy of "containment" is worthy only of contempt, and Westmoreland should have refused to carry out his President's orders, including the "carpet-bombing" of neighboring non-combatant countries. We're seeing parallel examples of misguided and tragic policies today in the Levant, by an equally depraved PM.

    Making this distinction clear - "Jews" vs the Israeli Government - is critical to the US as well, since it is the US who is Israel's chief ally.  Anything else is nothing less than hideously Hitler-esque, and could cost a kind and decent man his re-election.  

    The US government disagrees with you.

     

    [think before following links] https://apnews.com/article/israel-palestinian-campus-protests-columbia-congress-df4ba95dae844b3a8559b4b3ad7e058a

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  10. 9 hours ago, hntnhole said:

    We're seeing increasingly strident unrest at many Universities/Colleges throughout the country lately, and the issue has become urgent.  

    What presents as anti-"Jewish" demonstrations, is - as I see it - misplaced anger.  While the plight of the Palestinians is truly desperate and only getting worse by the day, and the perpetrators of that outrage are obviously guilty of inhumanity and worse, blaming "The Jews" is misplaced, reactionary, and poorly-thought-out - as I see it.  

    The blame doesn't lie with "The Jews" - it lies with the Government of Israel, and particularly with a soulless and utterly corrupt Prime Minister, devoted only to saving his own political skin, which is a completely different issue.  He has resisted calls for elections, invents every conceivable excuse for postponing them, because he knows his "war plan" to murder as many Palestinians as possible is a crime against humanity, and not supported by a clear majority of the voting public in Israel. 

    The "eye-for-an-eye" equation of antiquity has morphed, in this depraved P.M.'s limited vision, into visiting that which The Jews suffered in the last century, upon the Palestinian population, a handful of which deserve punishment, with the vast majority of these people remaining innocent of the October attack.  

    I don't have any issue with students everywhere protesting the actions of the Israeli Government, steeping in it's hateful inhumanity.  I completely support Bernie Sanders in his stand against allowing one penny of US funds to be used in any way to further this atrocity against men, women, children, babies, that have in no way injured the State of Israel.  I well remember the anti-war demonstrations of the last enormous folly of US foreign policy, (when the Draft-Dodger-in-Chief's father hired a quack doctor to diagnose his worthless p.o.s. son with "bone spurs").  That greasy-headed McNamara, with his policy of "containment" is worthy only of contempt, and Westmoreland should have refused to carry out his President's orders, including the "carpet-bombing" of neighboring non-combatant countries. We're seeing parallel examples of misguided and tragic policies today in the Levant, by an equally depraved PM.

    Making this distinction clear - "Jews" vs the Israeli Government - is critical to the US as well, since it is the US who is Israel's chief ally.  Anything else is nothing less than hideously Hitler-esque, and could cost a kind and decent man his re-election.  

    Are there any Jewish people or organizations speaking out against the Israeli government?

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  11. 2 hours ago, Bottom Jim said:

    I met a guy on sniffles several weeks ago . He claimed he was 100% straight. Then he asked to come over 

    When he arrived he gave me a deep tongue kiss while feeling my ass. He proceeded to pull down my pants as he pulled down his. In no time he had his bare dick in my ass fucking me hard He then shot his load deep in me.

    He then went on to say he was 100% straight 
    He is a little in self denial Any comments 

    Words have no meaning anymore. And when it comes to straight identifying men, the gay community will accept anything, no matter how outrageous or how tall the tale. 

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  12. So there is this guy on Sniffies who claims to be under 30 who enjoys berating people locally who bareback. “Haven’t you guys learned anything from the 80s?” He says. Or “Lol if BB is in your profile, no wonder your poz!”

    This guy must be lying about his age because  just have a hard time believing in the day of algorithms and personalized advertising, a gay man had never heard of prep or doxy. Even if a doctor sees your gay in your chart, most will discuss it with you. 

    This is not a rant against condoms as I still use them if the occasion calls. I trust condoms still more than prep. But I don’t understand the guys (pretending) that being ignorant to the latest trends in medicine makes them qualified to chastise the rest of the community on a public forum. 
     

    Thoughts? 

  13. So we have this bartender at a local gay dive bar who apparently decided it’s okay to add a “surcharge” to certain patrons drinks. I don’t think it’s racially motivated, I just think it’s the typical above average gay guy who thinks being a dick somehow elevates him. I try to avoid his shifts, but sometimes he’s there coving for another bartender.

    Regardless of his intentions, rather than confront him, I’ve just decided to not tip him. A friend of mine says if it bothered me that much, I should complain to the manager. I doubt the manager or owner would do anything, and could say I was a trouble maker. so this is my “passive aggressive” way to handle it.

    Any advice or antidotes would be great!

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  14. 1 minute ago, 50latinos said:

    Apparently not.

    Is this sort of like the Biden thing where “ if I don’t vote for him I’m not Black?” I don’t think as a Latino you’re qualified to make that judgment

  15. On 3/5/2024 at 6:45 AM, hntnhole said:

    Currently we're seeing Veep Harris being unleashed, on the anniversary of Bloody Sunday at the yet-un-renamed Edmund Pettis bridge.  One admirable quality the Veep possesses, which the President does not, is the willingness to get bluntly tough - unmistakable - in delivering a thinly-veiled warning message.  Apparently shortly, the US Navy will begin delivering crucially needed supplies directly to the Gazan seacoast.  The airdrops of the most basic necessities of maintaining life are better than merely words, but once the Navy starts delivering shiploads of food / medical supplies, the relief of the tragedy suffered by the Palestinians can be substantially addressed, and despite the narrow self-centeredness of the PM of Israel.  

    While I would have rather heard the threating language from the President's mouth directly, I'll take it from Harris' mouth too, and she's better equipped to deliver a kick to Netanyahu's balls anyway.  It's not 'about time' - it's past time for this humanitarian message. 

    The President didn't neglect to make his own statement however, hosting Nettie's chief political opponent - Benny Gantz - without so much as mentioning the Prime Minister of Israel.  That would be as substantial a kick in Nettie's balls as we'll get from the President; in any case, it was definitely a double-barreled "shot across the bow" to said Prime Minister. 

    TODAY is Super Tuesday - primaries in many States are taking place today, and I hope every one of us that can, makes his voice heard by voting today.  

    That was an absolutely disgusting and villainess display by Kamala Harris. Using the trauma and events that happened to Black people to signal boost someone else’s struggle. She wouldn’t dare go to a Holocaust museum and speak about black peoples interest.
     

    And these are the kind of disrespectful actions that are going to keep black voters at home in November

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  16. Decided to hit up the local bookstore which has been absolutely horrific since the pandemic. A bunch a regulars standing wrong waiting to give you fully clothed head until completion. Not my thing.

     

    I walk in and there is this tall, curly hair,  strapping mid twenties guy with it construction pants down jacking off. I walk over and he seems receptive. I move my finger to his ass and he rest his head on my shoulder and lets out a submissive whimper. My lucky day!

    I guide him to a hair a chair and he pulls his pants own to his construction boots. Not only is this boys underarms ripe, his crotch smelled like a hard days work. Absolutely intoxicating. Made me hard as a rock. After a brief BJ, I slid into this boys surprisingly clean hole. With each thrust in this tall stud, I feel he lets out a more submissive groan. Finally his ass was too much and I literally feel myself squirt in him. I smack him in the ass, and go in my way, spent and satisfied.

    What made it hotter is this is a blue collar guy no one would ever think had a gay bone in his body. And here he is unashamedly looking for dick in an ABS after work. 

    Man I love the prep era! These younger guys are so much fun!

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  17. 1 hour ago, BootmanLA said:

    If that's the criterion we're going to use for racism - giving a eulogy for someone who was a friend, even if he differed dramatically from you politically (and bear in mind, Thurmond joined the Republican Party in 1964, at the very bleeding edge of racist white flight from the Democrats), then there's an awful lot of today's Republicans who need to be labeled racist - because they go a lot farther than giving such a eulogy. And yet you seem happy to lick their boots for some reason.

    1. You’re assuming I am a Republican, which I’m not. I’ve already pointed out the blatant racism in the Republican party. Apparently you’re perfectly fine overlooking the racism of the Democratic Party as long as it means them getting in power.

    2. Yes befriending and giving the eulogy for a Klan Member should be a barometer, for racism. Racism and segregation isn’t simply a “political” difference. If a man was a friend to a Nazi no one would dare say it’s OK They just have a “political difference.”

     

    The problem with most Democrats is that they feel casual racism is OK as long as it does not get in the way of their desire for power. So they may not like the racism, but they feel that it gets in the way and they are more pressing needs that need to be addressed. 

  18. On 2/27/2024 at 3:30 PM, BootmanLA said:

    I'm all for pushing politicians to do better. But we won't GET politicians who do better if we keep letting the racist, misogynistic, homophobic right win elections simply because we fail to sufficiently support the only real alternative to that. 

    I would call giving the eulogy for Strom Thurman, a stun crow segregationist and then the affiliated with the Klan, pretty racist, but hey that’s just me.

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