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6 hours ago, topblkmale said:
How does this relate to the topic of Grindr v. racism in the US, Mexico and Canada?
How is coding racist and against whom?
Grindr can’t be vs. racism. The people I referred to in my post find safe harbor and validation on the Grindr app. So of course the app is racist and directs resources to racist of gays.
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Racism isn’t just about what you do to people, it’s often about what you won’t do.
Many of the people who practice preferences really want to participate in racism. Unfortunately for them, alot of them have no power or resources to deny black people anything tangible in the real world. The only currency they have is Whitness in a community that values it above all else.
Many of these men need someone to feel superior to, so they get a psychological benefit of denying black men of their whitness sexually and/or socially. It makes them feel empowered. We all see it in a regular basis: men who go through almost comical lengths to show their not having sex with black men, or even convince others not too,
And unfortunately, we have so many black men in the gay community so desperate for interracial access, these men get plenty of practice inflating their own fragile egos.
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2 hours ago, topblkmale said:
More are coming from the US-MX border here to the NYC area where we have adequate if not UNLIMITED resources to house, feed and provide free bilingual education to their kids.
Then two decades from now, they’ll be wagging their finger at black people, telling them they just need “work harder” and telling us tall tales about how the came over here with $8 and made something from nothing.
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My advice would be to stake the place out a few times and get the lay of the land and the guys who frequent.
Is their security? What’s their patrol time? Where are the cameras?
Who is near on the sex apps? What does their profiles say?
Is the place to busy for it to be worth it?
If questioned, do you have a reason to be there? Do you look like you belong?
Who come daily, or stays long periods of time (this usually means they’re picky and not getting off)?
Do you have time to stop before anyone approaches or comes in?
Who do u see there you know is fucking? Did this guy come alone or is their a family or GF waiting?
All this stuff needs to come into consideration for your safety and enjoyment.
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On 5/9/2023 at 12:34 AM, Luxbrit said:
Yes I’m exactly the same, I love the weight difference ( as I’m fairly slim and short ) and also hairier the better.
Nothing is more sexy and than man with some overhang
Stocky/bear porn is just elite 😍
I’m kind of hairy myself and always loved hairy men.
But I’ve definitely have some fun with some twinks
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3 hours ago, 120DaysofSodom said:
Well, we are trashy. Were filthy. Probably plague rats. Disgusting, deviant, sex addicts, fucking in nasty piss soaked basements with all kinds of bodily fluids spilled on the floor, but exactly in what world does that make us the ones void of morality?
Our morals are different from those boring dregs that sit around thinking their body is some kind of a temple, and go so further as to preserve their pleasure organs for a jackass that wants to own their body and posses it for themself. What an egotistical way of thinking of the world. Nature demands we do what feels good, and if that be sharing our bodies for pleasure with as many mates as possible, then so be it. There is nothing wrong about it, so those that call us the deviants: theyre the ones that are missing out on the fruits of life, and I feel sad for them, and find that freight of thinking to be rather pathetic. theyll go their whole life to the end of it regretting that they could have indulged in so much and instead missed out on it all.
The problem is a lot of these folks themselves are lying. Most of these “paragons of moral virtue” and doing the same the things in private they denounce publicly. Babies, STDs and they like don’t come out of nowhere. People are fucking. The world has just conditioned a lot of us to feel shame about it and lie about sex.
Women lie about sex for sympathy, especially a lot single mothers. Instead of telling everyone about their sexcapeds, they tell us they just happens to get pregnant the one time they’ve ever had sex with a guy who promised to marry them.
A lot of gay men envy and want to emulate these women, so they patten this behavior.
We also have a lot of guys who just have low self esteem, and just play this mind game with themselves that they aren’t looking for sex.There is ask a generation of feminist who have told the world no man should be allowed to cum unless their is some woman who is extracting resources from it.
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On 4/28/2023 at 3:35 AM, ellentonboy said:
It was just a question I felt could be answered in an adult manner, not to be used as a platform for some to state just how difficult their lives are because of the color of their skin. This was about sexual likes and dislikes, not a Forum on racism.
1. An adult manner?2. Your original question included a racial component.
3. If you have a specific group who sexual ideology basically says, “if you’re not fucking, go away unless your white” some people may get offended.
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On 4/26/2023 at 9:52 AM, Poz50something said:
BlackDude said
'A lot of these other cultures are the antithesis of masculinity. Allowing yourself to be colonized, gentrified and genocided at the mere presence of whiteness is beta at best, and suicidal at worst.
Many of these cultures didn't have a choice in the matter, not by any means. I think it's easy from today's perspective to look back at our ancestors and say 'oh boy, were they dumb/weak/beta' or what ever adjective you may want to attach to their situations, and laugh and shake your head. In the 19th Century, the height of colonialism, many Western colonial powers colluded with each other to sell outdated and useless munitions to local kingdoms and empires all over the world which were no match for the automatic machine gun. It was one way of dumping useless arms to trusting foreigners, who, until then were operating under the notion that the British hated the French, the French hated the Germans and everyone else feared the Russians. The Qing government only gave up Hong Kong to the British after the signing of the Treaty of Nanking, in 1841, as its navy had been blown to bits, all because the Brits wanted to continue importing opium to the kingdom, which had seen a striking rise in addiction and deaths. It wasn't the mere presence of whiteness that caused minorities to fall to our knees. Nope. It's the fact that war after war had been fought, and huge numbers of people were decimated. Do not for a second think that the Chinese, Indians or local Native Canadians have forgotten what had been done. In fact, the Chinese government called the Treaty of Nanking the start of a century of humiliation. The same thing in India, where several treasures were openly robbed by colonial powers, starting with the British East India Company, which was a private interest, and ended up eventually representing the Crown until its dissolution in 1799. Same with the VOC in Java and many of the island nations that eventually made up Indonesia. Nobody has forgotten.
"There has been studies which have show how many Latin, Arab and Asian men identify as white. Not to mention the anecdotal stories of these other men in the gay community genuflecting at the mere sight of a white man."
Receipts please? Which studies? In fact, we are told precisely the opposite. Growing up in our cultures, for about two centuries, we have had it rammed down our noses that we are anything but European. White skin, we've been told, is prized because we've been told that European culture is the epitome of civilisation, beauty and elegance. Somehow, foreign cultures aren't good enough because they're foreign. I don't know anyone who's a minority who sees himself as white. We are keenly aware how we are not white.
"submission of one’s culture is no more masculine." We see the resurgence of Black power, Asian nationalism, Caribbean nations breaking ties with the UK to become republics, and self-determination since about the 1940s. Indian nationalists boycotted British made goods since the 1920s, and eventually, refused to cooperate with the colonial powers. It is no longer the case that people look at European-made goods and services as the height of sophistication, because it isn't. South American countries have seen the rise of Native politicians being voted into office. This is the submission of one's own culture?
Here’s your receipts. Oh, and Google :
I don’t really need to address the colonization issue, because as we’ve seen with the recent coronation in the UK, pictures and video are worth 1,000 words. Many of these commonwealth nations will not amend their constitutions to separate themselves from the commonwealth.
These folks don’t want to fight white supremacy. They just want to improve their position within it.
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So someone decided to post some partial identifying information about me in a Gay site online. Part of me wants to confront the two “suspects.” They other part doesn’t care because I could always deny it. Again, I try to be very careful out and about, so I don’t know how much more this person knows about me.
I tried to flag the comment, and report with little to no results. And idea of where to go from here? Has this happened to anyone before?
Never ceases to amaze me how goofy and immature some guys can be.
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How can you advocate for a group if you don’t first acknowledge its existence?
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Never understood gay mens’ obsession with other gay men who won’t call themselves gay…
So much to unpack…..
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On 3/29/2023 at 3:21 PM, Muscledadbod said:
I notice Scruff has a search hashtag for "blackonly", but they don't have a "whiteonly" hashtag.
Not that I would ever use that, because I like black men, but sometimes see that when cruising some black guy's profiles.
Out of respect for the preferences of others, they should accommodate everyone or none at all in that regard.
Honestly do Scruff and Grindr need a white only hashtag? I mean that is the default…
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A lot of people who work at those stores seem to be pretty u happy most of the time.
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2 hours ago, ellentonboy said:
I have to admit, in all honesty, I am scared. When I first arrived here I did not think much about politics, yet I was a Federal employee. I have been a Federal employee all my working life. I never thought about Republicans and Democrats, I NEVER THOUGHT PERIOD. See, that is the problem, someone in their 20a who does not care much, does not understand how their lack of involvement can shape the results of what might come for all gay people in the future.
I am not preaching, I know some posters may think I am not speaking for the majority. But am I am scared? HELL YES, and do I know what will happen in 2024, I don't know.
I am willing to be screamed at by veteran posters, I am educated yet stupid. But DeSantis and the rest of them scare the hell out of me and I am willing to admit to that.....
So, with that being said, anyone have any suggestions regarding my lack of involvement? Frankly, I am damn embarrassed. I should know better....
Ron DeSantis specializes in performative extremism due to his lack of charisma. He has no original ideas, and most of his policies shot down at the court level. He barley beat Andrew Gilliam for the governors seat, who was a dumpster fire as a candidate.
Those antics may fly in Florida were alot of the electorate are these self hating, anti-black immigrants, but you can’t run a county being against everything.
Also, real recognize real. If Trump runs, Desantis is finished. He won’t survive one debate.
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1 hour ago, ErosWired said:
As to this whole sense that seems to pervade the air that all white people in the society share guilt for having benefited, by circumstance of their genetics, from a system that they were born into, by that logic, this must then apply equally to the white abolitionist as to the white supremacist, both equally condemned, as both benefit the same. If you draw the same brush against all, all receive the same coat of paint.
That’s not how it works, of course. An individual is directly responsible for how he treats others; he is not necessarily responsible for how others treat him. To claim that every stratum of a stratified society is equally responsible for the stratification simply because they are not on the bottom is absurd, and utterly ignores the reality of the inequity of power. A dirt farmer in the rural antebellum South may not have been treated as a slave, but he had no significant power to change the system, either. He had no money or influence and, critically, little education, so even his vote was subject to the manipulations of political operatives (and don’t try to pretend it wasn’t, because it’s happening right under our noses today). Similarly, if the stratum of society wielding the power to wage war opts to use it in support of an unjust system, that is not a decision that the soldier is in a position to make, and if the result of the decision to wage war is that William Tecumseh Sherman is planning to come burn down his house, he may not even have the luxury of deciding whether or not to be a soldier. If Henry V is correct, even if every man’s duty is the King’s, every man’s soul’s his own and he must be individually judged - he cannot be judged on the basis of the motives of the King.
The only way any of this ever gets resolved is at the individual level, one brain at a time, teaching people to respect the priceless value of every human soul.
And then, once we get all the issues of white privilege finally squared away, we can get started on Neurotypical privilege, and how it works the same way when neuronormative people - of every skin color - make life a living, breathing hell for people with different brains. Don’t imagine for a moment that they stop at race.
1. Abolitionist also benefited from slavery and white supremacy. Many didn’t care about the issue at all, it was something they could make money off off (similar to the relationship the feminist and LGBT community has with blacks).
2. This isn’t a teaching issue. There are to types of people: those who want to end white supremacy and racism and this who want to find comfort in it.
3. Even those “poor dirt farmers” were allowed to own land, given property rights, and will it to their heirs. Land that was not there’s indigenously. Regardless of how it was acquired, they were not just ants blindly going through the world waiting to be crushed. They were given a choice of hoe and where to live, and may have found comfort in the political climate of the region.
4. When other groups are harmed, we hold groups responsible: nations, religions, political bodies, etc. When blacks people are harmed, people want to parse out blame to individuals.
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38 minutes ago, BootmanLA said:
Oh absolutely. Not denying that in the slightest. My point was merely to refute a poster's notion that because his own ancestors (save one) didn't own slaves, they didn't benefit from that institution and its progeny (like de jure segregation/discrimination).
And this brings us back to Desantis, who’s using the same strategy LBJ laid out years ago: tell white Americans they are they greatest success story in the history of civilization, and they had no help, as a means to justify keeping all power and resources in the hands of white society.
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1 minute ago, BootmanLA said:
Certainly not going to dispute that. But there is a distinction between "I believe in white supremacy" and "I believe slavery is a moral good" (or, if you prefer, between "I believe in racial equality" and "I think slavery is a moral abomination"). It's possible to believe that one race is "superior" to another while not believing the "inferior" one can morally be enslaved, which I think probably accurately reflect Lincoln's views (as far as I have been able to determine).
Yet that is the very essence of white supremacy.
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19 minutes ago, BootmanLA said:
Indeed. If Eros's daughter marries a black man and has children, most of society is going to consider those children black, Even if the parents may sometimes use the term "mixed" or "bi-racial" on forms, or whatever, people will see those kids and say "black".
I think it might be useful to draw a distinction between feeling personally ashamed for something you didn't yourself do (which is admittedly silly) and being cognizant of the advantages you've enjoyed because of generations of mistreatment (both slavery and discrimination) of people not like yourself. Thus far, in my limited genealogical research, I've identified no slaveowners in my lineage, but I know absolutely that my forebears benefitted from that system. One of my great-grandfathers worked as the livestock (mostly horses and mules) manager on a post-bellum plantation. Not a single black person ever worked in a supervisory capacity on that plantation, ever. Even now, when the plantation is almost totally mechanized, I don't think there are any African-American supervisory people there. In 2023.
I can't say I'm "ashamed" of any of my ancestors for benefitting from this kind of system, but at the same time, I am disgusted by the social fabric that created the system and allowed it to flourish for so long.
I agree with 90% of what you said. But it wasn’t just the ancestors who benefited. Those ill gotten resources didn’t disappear. They were used to create institutions and systems which are still present today.
Those resources are used to empower and incentivize those to keep those systems and institutions in place today. Unfortunately, the benefits for whites are often additional resources passed down, while the resources for black and non-black “POC” are usually only symbolic or psychological.
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24 minutes ago, BootmanLA said:
Lincoln was on record as early as 1854 saying he was personally opposed to slavery, period. I agree he wasn't "perfectly fine with the status quo" but it's a slur to suggest he had no feelings on the issue. He was simply resigned to the fact that keeping slavery where it existed was almost certainly a prerequisite to maintaining the union, despite his clearly and unequivocally stated opposition to the institution.
Two more points about Lincoln: he is also quoted as saying he vowed the superior position as being “assigned.” Not through capitalism, morality or productivity.
He also had a well documented plan to send all the freedman to Panama.
Im not going to even go into his own suspected lineage.
He was no friend to black society.
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On 3/4/2023 at 2:33 PM, NWUSHorny said:
I am in no way condoning but bugchasing, and this may be the wrong forum, but here goes.
I know there are a lot of "bugchasers" posting here and on hookup sights that I have to wonder if they are actually having any kind of sex. I'm pretty sure they aren't actually going to bathhouses, fuck clubs, ABS or other places guys cruise and have random sex with multiple partners. I don't personally know anyone who is actually positive, who actually wanted to become positive or caught it any other way. I'm sure there are some but I don't know them.
So it seems me that posting about and trying to have sex for a single purpose or fetish is probably not an effective way to actually fulfill a self destructive fantasy. The way to actually catch is not take any precautions and fuck bareback with as many deprived sex addicts as possible, not sit home and jackoff to your fantasy. I don't think you even have to bottom, I was very paranoid about not allowing anyone to cum in my ass, but I shoved my dick into, probably thousand, of cum filled sluts in the 10 years before I found out I was poz.
What I'm really saying is, give up the fantasy get out there and enjoy yourself by fucking with as many guys as you can. While I would prefer you take all of the precautions available. I fully realize I am asking you to do as I say, not what I actually did.
I think this was more popular before prep, because guys wanted to not “worry” about catching HIV. In their eyes, they could now freely. But I think wad very few.
Mostly, I think I was just a bunch of guys fantasies about ja I g some sort of dangerous, sketchy sex
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I prefer to go right in. Sliding takes along time. Especially if people are waiting.
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I think it’s up to you. Personally I like hairy, and I myself don’t shave.
But like you said it’s 50/50. A big part of sex is you being comfortable and confident.
Also, you have to be realistic. Sometime certain looks don’t fit us, no matter how hard we try to force it. If you force it, it’s going to be in the back of your mind.
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3 hours ago, ErosWired said:
Are you saying that white America doesn’t have to feel ashamed that white people owned slaves in America? Really? Whew, that’s a relief. For a while there I thought there might be something legitimate to the argument that the dominant majority unjustly profited from the mistreatment of minorities for 400 years.
Of course we have to feel fucking ashamed of it. The whole damn nation needs to be cringingly ashamed of it. If we’re not ashamed, it means we don’t get why it was wrong or how wrong it was, and why every vestige of its legacy needs to by God be dug up by the roots and burned in fire.
People who are continuing the legacy of white supremacy in ideology and in practice should be ashamed. However, a person is responsible for their own feelings.
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On 3/4/2023 at 2:43 PM, ErosWired said:
What follows, then, is an interesting question. If we assume that the benefits of the white-established society accrue to whites, what are the implications of the fact that in 2044 white people are no longer expected to be in the majority? This won’t mean that all the systems established by white, legacy-of-slave-owner-society are abolished; it will simply mean that those benefits that accrued from the institution of slavery will then accrue to People of Color as well. One might say, Well, it’s about time they got a little of their own back, but that’s not how it works - it’s still modern people benefiting from the enslavement of others in the past. They just happen to have skin closer in color now.
Full disclosure: I’m white as paste. I’m see-thru white. My family is all from Appalachia (God help us). I do a lot of genealogy, and I have never found an ancestor who owned a slave.
Except for one. He owned one slave, and I know this because there is a photograph of the enslaved man in a book of local history. I cannot bear to look at it. It makes me viscerally sick. The shame is almost unbearable, and this is five generations later. No doubt this will gratify some People of Color, who will say, Good - you should be ashamed because your ancestor owned a slave.
1. We learned in South Africa power is not in numbers, it’s it economics. White people don’t have to be a majority.
2. Most “POC” can be classified as white, and many choose to be. Black people are the only people who can’t be classified as white. That’s why many black people differentiate between POC and black, because doing something for POC oftentimes does nothing for black people.
3. Bi-racial people are considered black in America culturally. That’s not what I say, that’s what white society has decided. Society operates along cultural lines, not genealogy.
4. Nothing will happen in 2044. America will resemble South Africa politically and economically (and the LGBT community culturally): white peoples on top with majority of the resources, POC serving as a buffer class with some benefits, and black people on the bottom.
5. If you don’t want to feel ashamed because white people owned slaves, you don’t have to. Hell, I’m not ashamed when a black person commits a crime in Chicago.
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Racist Grindr - privilidge or prference
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I agree with mostly what you said. If you don’t like your doctor, get another. You can always ask for an LGBT friendly doctor or nurse.
My only quibbles are:
1. Some people may not have adequate healthcare for one reason or another.
2. A doctor wouldn’t dare lecture a woman or straight male about promiscuity. Facts are facts, but somehow we have been brainwashed into thinking men having sex is bad.