I wonder why it is that bottoms so outnumber tops...

[Guest Matias47]

When I post an ad or go to a bh as a top, I get tons of bottoms pulling their cheeks apart. Yet, when I look for tops it can be like looking for a glass of ice water in the middle of the Sahara.

I know from reading these posts that there does seem to be consensus that bottoms outnumber tops.

I'd like to hear theories on why you think this is.

[rawTOP]

My theory is... If you're a bottom by nature, you're clearly not straight - women just don't have the equipment to satisfy you. But for someone who's a top by nature, it's easier to take the easy route and be straight. To a point a hole is a hole - and women give tops more holes to fuck. You've gotta really be into masculinity to take the hard road and be gay when you're a top.

[bbzh]

I think it depends on where you live and/or travel. Whenever I visit Germany, I find plenty of tops. Even more so in Spain. And even more so in the Arab countries. Most of my good friends are tops and they sometimes complain that the guys they want to fuck won't bottom for them. Imagine that!

I wish more total bottoms would be versatile bottoms. There would be a lot more satisfied bottoms in this world. I see a lot of bottoms discriminating against versatile bottoms, versatiles and even versatile tops. Wassup wit dat?

I grew up in the States and I think Americans are way too hung up on the top or bottom thing. It's fine to have a preference but why limit yourself? I started out as a total top, went to total bottom and have settled somewhere in between. There's always something on the menu for you.

My bf is a versatile top. I haven't fucked him yet but I will. Variety is the spice of life.

[Belfast-Bottom]

"women give tops more holes to fuck" I have occasionally been known to refer to women as "three socket jobs". No misogyny intended - men are "two socket jobs".

[hungry_hole]

It's obvious that there are more bottoms than tops. One reason may be that we bottoms are more vocal about it. At my age I have to be creative to get attention and usually that entails advertising myself as a take-all-loads bottoms. Many tops seem to like that.

Many guys prefer older but I do insist that a young bottom gets much more attention that an older one. I know that if I were 20 with the same kinky attitude I have now I would be a very popular bottom and getting all the cock and cum I want.

[MountainBound]

I hang out with a lot of total bottoms because it is so much more fun to go top hunting with a bud. I would have to say that I get fucked equally by so called total bottoms and tops. Besides, I think bottoms are more piggy, we like putting our mouths on everything man. The best tops are bottoms.

[Pig Bottom]

My theory is... If you're a bottom by nature, you're clearly not straight - women just don't have the equipment to satisfy you. But for someone who's a top by nature, it's easier to take the easy route and be straight. To a point a hole is a hole - and women give tops more holes to fuck. You've gotta really be into masculinity to take the hard road and be gay when you're a top.

Being gay is not about sex. It's about who you want to build a romantic partnership with.

[Tailgunner]

Being a Top I consider it a blessing that most of the guys I fucked didnt ask or demand that I reciprocate. All but a couple of versatiles respected me and my manhood enough to not ask me to reciprocate beyond jacking them off.

[HolePunchSD]

My guess is a lot of bottoms have never tried topping. You're likely to meet a top that has/will bottom, but you'll seldom meet a bottom that tops or has.

I think its because they've never tried it. Hell, I'm 95% top and every blue moon, I'll get the urge to bottom. Bottoms pretty much accept that label and what comes with it and they're okay with it.

[vrsbbltn]

I think it depends on where you live and/or travel.

I agree with this, I feel the USA gotta be one of the bottomest countries in the world. Why this is like that, could be due to so many things. I feel every total bottom is born like that, and he hardly fucks another guy. Instead, top guys, even though are born being top as well, tend to be more curious and bottom from time to time. A top never run short of options in this side of the world. Sadly, many bottoms don't find what they are looking for, constantly need to lower their standards to get some dick.

[nu_abo]

I remember when I first came out and started having sex most guys were shamed to say they were a bottom (even worse if you were a strict one). Now it seems alot more guys, especially younger are mostly bottoms.

It's really whats got me thinking I should start topping more.

[simmerole]

in my opinion... I feel that when I top I end up guys who just lay there and let me use them... which for me... doesn't work. I need more than just moans... I give more than just moans...

[HardhatBB]

when i lost my virginity i was 15yo bottom..for the next few years i got the chance to explore and tried topping...It was like night and day...luv'd fucking. getting fucked i was never into. but that first Bareback ass i took...i never went back to btm again..theres something about giving my DNA to a another guy and shooting cum feeling his ass suck it in...

and then theres the ass for feasting

[fuckboy20]

I do agree that for some or maybe the majority if their equipment isn't as good as others or they feel awkward about it they might lean more towards bottom and being gay.

Bigger dicked guys who can fuck women and impress their friends and be a stud. It's easier for them to be straight or pretent to be straight.

It's different with me though. I remember being able to jack off when I was like 12 or so I was at a friend's house and was surprised as fuck I could do that. Starting looking at gay porn when I was 14 or 15. But that was painful because I jacked off for 3-4 years waiting for sex with a man. My dick has always been somewhat big though. I'd always get nervous in class or out and about trying to hide it. At my first job too. And wearing that apron made it more awkward when I was a bus boy.

The first gay porn I viewed I thought, "This is fucking hot as hell. I want to get fucked". And then I thought for a second.."But I could put all this gay porn away...date a nice girl, marry her, have kids and make everyone proud and please everyone including myself. Because we are supposed to be straight and I could probably do it with a girl."

*looks at more pictures of cock going in ass and group scenes*

"Fuck that. Don't care if I'm gay and like men. I wanna have lots of sex and have fun. Don't care about women, marriage, and etc. Just wanna have fun and have a good life . But before "porn" I did try to date a girl or two in school. I remember that endless bitchy blog about always complaining and pining over here. Glad that shit got deleted with the whole internet blogs when free webs went bye bye. Or was it geocities?

I have a pretty big dick. I don't get into fucking but that's definitely not why I am a bottom. I am a bottom because I am naturally subservient, I like to give men pleasure and I like to feel a man's will, power, and their lust as they take control over me. Whether it's fucking me, kissing me, getting blown by me, or just the foreplay.

I have been a kid growing up, to a teen, to a boy, to a slave, and now I am finally starting to become a man. Someday I might be a top or versatile. I always look up to men who have strength, will, and confidence. But if I finally develop that for myself completely maybe I'll look up to myself

[REDNECKBIKERDADDY]

I was strictly bottom for years. It was a combination of several factors. I have a relatively smaller cock, smaller than the horsehung fuckers you always saw pictures of, so it probably was a matter of confidence. I always got off on the pain of a big ol' hateful cock tearing my insides up (still do). Pull that big hateful cock out and if I saw blood, I wanted to taste my bloody ass juices. And I liked the feeling of my fuck shoot being sore for days......a nice reminder of what happened. As I got older, the more bottoms only guys that I met and I started topping. I loved the powerful feeling of putting my poz load in a fucker's ass. What a mind trip it was. And hey, if he wanted a bigger cock in there I would stick a dildo or a fist in there and fuck him on top of that. As a bottom, there are a plethora of more intense physical sensations going on. And aren't we in general all about intensity?