Would you respect a neg bottom's wishes?

[Bluepsyclone]

Well I'm HIV neg as of Oct '09 haven't been tested lately but I like to occasionally have a raw cock tease my hole from time to time.

When I meet up with a sexy top who seems to be pretty dominate, i usually request one little thing:

"Please don't cum in me."

What do you think of bottoms who say that?

What would you do?

Just curious.

[rawTOP]

When I meet up with a sexy top who seems to be pretty dominate, i usually request one little thing:

"Please don't cum in me."

What do you think of bottoms who say that? What would you do?

When do you tell the top you won't take the load? Before the hookup or during the hookup? I would be REALLY pissed if that sorta thing wasn't mentioned ahead of time because my response would be "I don't pull out - if you want me to fuck you, you need to be willing to take my load." If a bottom told me that before we started fucking I'd probably stop it there until he agreed to take the load (or he'd have to leave). If he told me that after my cock was in his ass I'd probably ignore the request completely and give him the load or maybe I'd cum a little inside and then pull out so it's takes a while for the bottom to realize he got 1/2 the load.

The point is that if you don't want to take the load make it clear really early while you're still just chatting online. That will improve the chances the top honors the request.

[Bluepsyclone]

@ rawTOP

Oh I totally get your point. I would totally be upfront about what I want from the beginning just to avoid any type of confusion. (of course if you decided that you just wanted to take my hole and cum inside rawTOP, I wouldn't be opposed to that )

I'm starting to realize how screwed up the gay sex world can be. How would you feel if a guy advertises that he's negative and plays safe only and you show up to his house and he's playing BB porn on his TV and tries to fuck you raw?

there is a high percentile of guys who say they are negative and play safe but when you show up to hook up, its a completely different story.

I'm the easygoing type so I could easily say "Yeah sure, no problemo!", but i find it extremely annoying when they swear that they're neg but they only do BB.

I personally would rather hook up with a guy who admits he's poz and is willing to be flexible for the bottom if he likes him enough.

[submissivefaggot]

My philosophy is that I have no choice over whether a top cums in me or not, though I do always ask if they're neg or not. Even so, there have been a couple of occasions where during the fuck I've changed my mind and the top has rightly told me to shut up and take it.

[yunghungtop]

yeah, i mean, don't waste everybody's time.

If you know you don't want the load then fucking say upfront (like Rawtop says, while still chatting online)

[loverawcockinme]

i have fucked with tops that are happy to slide in raw for a bit then dom up before shooting full load, but at the end of the day, once a cock thrusts inside raw (with your permission), it is not fair for the bottom to ask top not to cum inside. if you don't want the guy to cum in you then don't take his raw cock.

[Belfast-Bottom]

If you let a guy fuck you bare, you can't really complain if he cums in your ass. Some guys have "hair trigger" cocks - they can't pull out in time.

[Guest cardoc49]

Hi loverawcockinme: agree with you: when a bottom takes my raw cock he knows he will get my raw load too:-)

[nicetighthole]

Im a bottom if i take raw cock i expect to take the load too its the bottoms duty

[boycunt]

Any bottom who will be fucked raw understands that he's going to be taking loads. a bottom who lets You fuck him raw and tells You not to cum in him is deluding himself or is fuckign with you.

[Grunt]

If you don't want cum in you, dont let the dick in you.

[Slut4anyload]

I think you can see what people think of "don't cum in me". I can fully understand why tops get mad at that, or will just go and load you anyway. The bottom is there to take the fuck and to take the load. The top is there to take his pleasure and the bottom should make it as great as possible. Bottoming is highly competitive - so serve that cock as you should do or it will find a better hole.

[Guest cardoc49]

Hi slut4anyload: certainly appreciate your comment, you are a very well trained and focused bottom - thanks for clarifying your role, totally agree - and also of course agree on my role as the TOP:-)

[drscorpio]

I am have two thoughts on the topic:

If you tell someone you won't do something in bed, you really ought to keep your word.

BUT

If I won't take your cum, then I don't deserve your cock. So I guess it really is the top's call.

[ruralguy7326]

I would respect the bottoms choice but there would not be any sex ! I would end it there. Just remember that HIV can still be transmitted through pre-cum. If you want it raw there is always a risk.