what NOT to do if you're a cumdump hosting

[gwmxyz]

Reminding your visitors when arrival is imminent that you're putting the blindfold on - they can have you wearing the blindfold or on whatsapp but not both.

[LetsPOZBreed]

This is an excellent thread.  I've been in this situation as both a top and a bottom, and most everyone has put the basics here.  Here's mine:

1.  If you're a "beginner" at hosting these, it's advisable to have a top buddy there to monitor things just in case.  Also, if you live somewhere near a bathhouse/sauna, try it out there first.  At least you know what everyone is there for, so no risk of flakes.  

2.  Blindfolded is better (but not required).  This way, your inhibitions will allow you to easier let all tops fuck you - the minute you take a peek, you'll never like what you'll see.  It's better to have your tops contact you via text/WhatsApp when they are almost there; that way you can slip it over your eyes at the right moment.

3.  Be upfront about what you want.  If you're not into tops that take ages to cum, say so; weeds out the guys who take ages, so you're not bent over for what seems like an eternity waiting for your prize.

4.  Prepare in advance!  Douching, of course, should be done beforehand (and during if you feel you need to).  Also, it's good to work yourself with a dildo/vibrator when you don't have anyone there to make sure you're not too tight.

5.  Have lube...lots of it.  You don't want to be caught running out in the middle of the night.

6.  If you need poppers, have two bottles; one for you, and one for your top.  This way, the top can skip it if they aren't into using them.  Also, it means you can hit together instead of alternating.

7.  Easy access:  When I lived in the US, my apartment complex was laid out very nonsensical.  My friend had a playroom and his place was easier to find; I would usually have him host (see point 1 above).

8.  Lock away any valuables.  You're not going to be watching anything that's going on, so you need to be sure you don't end the night with a nasty surprise.

9.  Some guys like being watched/playing in groups.  Others don't.  Be upfront, and ask him which he prefers.  If he's not into playing with others, make sure he arrives when no one else will be there.

9a. (related)  If a guy is into groups, don't waste time on him if he's insisting on not coming over until you've found "others".  You'll lose lots of time and energy that way.

10.  It's perfectly fine to have your top tell you how he wants to find you.  You're serving him, after all.  Have a jockstrap on, which you can take off if he wants.  Have porn playing (not loudly) for a bit of ambiance.  I rarely do music, as preferences are too subjective there.

11.  Even in totally anon, dark room situations, have some lighting.  Your top at least has to see where he's going.  

12.  For God's sake, clean your flat/house!  Or at least the rooms your top will be walking through.  Febreeze is also your friend.

13.  Have a towel nearby for when your top is done.

14.  If you're chatting to a prospective top online or on an app, if something seems off - it probably is.  Anon pump and dumps should take no more than 5 or 6 messages back and forth (interested, address, time of arrival).  Be upfront about if you're going to be "partying"; if a top isn't into it, this is their chance to back out.  

15.  If you have limits (i.e. no FF, no WS, etc.) say so.  You may be a cum dump, but you shouldn't be forced into something against your will.

16.  At the end of the day, it's about your tops.  If they're satisfied, you're satisfied.  Let your inhibitions go, and just have fun!

[Dirtysouth]

The best cumdumps, for me, have been eager cumwhores who are ready to fuck, good lighting, chill vibes. Gets my dick dripping every time.

[LetsPOZBreed]

Also, as a bottom on an app/website, have a profile that explains as much of what you're into as possible.  Avoids unnecessary back and forth messages to suss this out.