Stop Cheating?

[sinfuljock]

Have any of you who have cheated stopped cheating? Were you able to for a long time? And did you tell your partner you had cheated?

 

I've been cheating a lot and think it may have been a mistake...but I'm wondering if stopping is really even a real option long term and if I should tell him what I've been doing or if I should just stop and not speak of it. 

 

I'm conflicted on this. Part of me wants to say it was partially due to depression and also feeling I'm not good enough for him (which this serves as evidence for). But then part says I'm looking for reasons beyond it was hot and I'm slutty. So I'm not sure what I will do.

[everopen1]

I've tried to stop cheating but finally gave up and now just enjoy the strange anon hookups

[barehole4use]

If you are going to cheat, I would never admit to it at a later date & if you want to stop cheating then stop but that does not mean you have to tell anyone about it.

[NLbear]

My few cents.

 

f you continue to have unprotected sex with others then it is bound to come out one day when you catch an STI. Then you're in an awkward position and would have to explain where that comes from and admit you are having sex with others.

 

It depends om your relationship I think. Are you sure your bf is 100% faithfull to you or do you suspect he is havng some fun on the side as well? Do you know what his opinion is about open relationships? If you don't know then you could bring up the subject of couples who do have an open relationship and ask him what his opinion is about that. He could be totally against it and wants to stay monogomous. He could think that once you open the relationship the relationship itself will detoriate. He could be willing to try (even if only starting with a 3some for instance) if he is secure about the relationship. He could be willing as long as you both tell each other. Or the opposite, a "don't ask, don't tell". Or he could be willing as long as sex with others is safe only. There are many possible reactions.

 

If he is willing to try you could start (in one form or another) and don't tell him you have been doing this for a while already. What he doesn't know doesn't hurt. Or he could be dead against it. In that case you will have to make a choice what is more important to you. Your relationship or the ability the fuck around as much and with as many as you want and break up. It would not be fair to your bf to continue if he is against it. As I said it is bound to come out one day. If he thinks he is in a monogomous relationship and finds out he is not it will be a blow to him that probably will end the relationship. My opinion of course, mine ended that way.

 

I am sure I am not complete in my answers but there will be others replying with their views.

[not_sure_bb]

have tried but cant stop cheating. it is what it is

[TigerMilner]

In my experience all men cheat.  You may be doing it for the reasons you touched on or you may be subconciously sabotaging a relationship that isn't working.  I've also seen that relationships that work include some type of agreement on sex with other men.  The arrangement may be a "don't ask don't tell" approach or it may be playing together.  I think the point is that for a relationship to work, there has to be honest communication.  I'm not suggesting you reveal the details of what you have been doing, rather that you are honest with him about your desires. 

[uclatinosj]

Ive cheated in all of my relationships, not because i did like my partner simply because i needed random cocks. Whatever your decision maybe dont admit to cheating instead like others have stated come to an agreement or compromise.

[Subbottom27]

Entering my current relationship was kind of a slow going.  After like 6 months we declared we would be bf's and i took that as being monogomous.  i couldnt stop fucking around though.  I stopped the ritual of looking for new cock but wasnt ready to give up my regulars.  Well like a month or so ago i was like i am gonna try to stop. It hasnt been easy.  i dont see my BF often enough to quench my need for cock and when i get texts from FBs i am like....DAMN.....but i really wanna be a good boy...lol.

[bberik]

No, I gave up relationships altogether, and am happily single ever after.

[Bottomhole]

I much prefer to be single. I've only ever been in relationships with girls, and I've never cheated. Been cheated on and it isn't fun. If you've been seeing this guy for long and really like him, I think it's good to be honest. Some people I know who go from relationship to relationship, and never give themselves time to be single. It's very alien to me. It can get lonely, but it's also very freeing. Plus who wants to have to lie all the time, that sounds like no fun. Let him know I say.

[evilqueerpig]

There was a reason you cheated to begin with.....if that can't be dealt with, will you be able to stop?

[cumslut23]

You cheat because you need it. The rush but also the variety of cocks. However, given that there are more STDs than just HiV, I suggest safe sex with your bf if he is monogamous... 

[sinfuljock]

So...I didn't even make it a full day

 

Neighbor came over and I told him I was going to stop and get sat down and was watching TV with me...and just started rubbing my back and then kissed me neck and the next thing I know I'm bent over the ottoman and he's pounding me from behind. 

 

Still not sure what I want to do

[sinfuljock]

Oh and I forgot to answer what someone asked before. BF is not open to open relationships or even threesomes He doesn't even like porn with more than two guys. He thinks it's dirty...and he doesn't like dirty. So opening up relationship isn't an option. Well I mean admittedly opening it up.

[uclatinosj]

Oh and I forgot to answer what someone asked before. BF is not open to open relationships or even threesomes He doesn't even like porn with more than two guys. He thinks it's dirty...and he doesn't like dirty. So opening up relationship isn't an option. Well I mean admittedly opening it up.

Sounds like you need to be single bro