Young Guy Needs Advice

[NLbear]

Just my opinion, but you are too young to be in a monogomous relationship. How old is your BF by the way? You are just starting your life as a gay man. Your BF sounds dominating. You have to do what he says and do nothing he dislikes. But he hasn't have to do anything you want (in his opinion). Sounds like he takes you for granted because you don't know any other gay guys where you live.

If you can, try to get a job in a bigger city and move there. Start living YOUR life instead of focusing on the life of another guy.

Get on PrEP if it is available in Canada to reduce the risk ofgetting HIV and get fucked senseless in the next few years before you start a new relationship. Get comfortable with who you are and find a BF who is comfortable with that and feels the same. Enjoy life!

You and your BF are sexually not compatible (from what you write). Find one who is somewhere else.

[secretslut]

Just my opinion, but you are too young to be in a monogomous relationship. How old is your BF by the way? You are just starting your life as a gay man. Your BF sounds dominating. You have to do what he says and do nothing he dislikes. But he hasn't have to do anything you want (in his opinion). Sounds like he takes you for granted because you don't know any other gay guys where you live.

If you can, try to get a job in a bigger city and move there. Start living YOUR life instead of focusing on the life of another guy.

Get on PrEP if it is available in Canada to reduce the risk ofgetting HIV and get fucked senseless in the next few years before you start a new relationship. Get comfortable with who you are and find a BF who is comfortable with that and feels the same. Enjoy life!

You and your BF are sexually not compatible (from what you write). Find one who is somewhere else.

 

Is PrEP free?

 

My boyfriend is 27

 

I do love him, and we have some fun times, and i know he feels bad when he yells at me because he buys me stuff after(even bought me tickets to a music festivel). So i just feel bad , but i also really really really want to know what its like to take a cock raw and hard

[NLbear]

I still feel your BF is bossing you around. He is 9 years older than you.27 vs 18 is a big difference (less when you get older).  I do not know you personally, and not your exact circumstances. But based on what I read I would still advise you to get out and start a different life somewhere else, if you can. Are you tied to the place you live or could you move easily?. You're too young to be tied up with someone who is not compatible with what you want sexually. 
 
As for prEP. This is what came up on google, but maybe someone else from Canada can get you better, more recent information.
 
http://www.catie.ca/fact-sheets/prevention/pre-exposure-prophylaxis-prep

[geardog]

I think you're going to have to admit to yourself that you've already made up your mind.  The fact that you're asking these questions on a blog devoted to hot, raw, uninhibited and non-monogamous bareback sex (rather than going to a more mainstream gay blog or writing somebody like Dan Savage) suggests very strongly that you really, really, really want to be given permission to have lots of hot, raw, uninhibited and non-monogamous bareback sex.  In your first post, your questions # 3 and # 4 area already asking where you can meet or PM other guys. Your screename is "secretslut."  And the posts where you're clicking "like" are pretty much exactly all the ones that are telling you to ditch the boyfriend and plunge into a wild quest for cum.  If your love for this guy was really stronger than your lusts, you probably wouldn't have come here at all, or, at least, these wouldn't be the kinds of questions you'd be asking.

 

As others have pointed out, there are a lot of warning signs in your current relationship:  you say he can be "mean," he won't apparently consider your sexual needs even enough to simply try something other than missionary (which is both controlling and not even trying to address any of your needs), he's still insisting on condoms even when you've both been monogamous which could suggest that he already doesn't trust you, etc.  You're young and, as other have said, at 18 it's awfully early to be fully settled down.  Ask yourself: do you really strongly love the current BF or is it that you're more afraid of hurting him?  Because, again, from the questions you're asking here, it doesn't sound like too far in the future where you're going to end up meeting someone hot (or a group of hot someones), the clothes are going to come off and no condoms are going to go on, and rather than be able to fully enjoy your newfound freedom you're going to have to go back and have an even harder and more hurtful discussion with the current BF.  I'd recommend dealing with it as soon as you can (best to first try and find other living arrangements if at all possible; this will immediately give you a bit more control no matter how things go).  If you go ahead and deal with it soon, then when things get messier it'll be because you're happily covered in cum from all the hot guys you're fucking, and not messier because things have gotten even more complicated with the BF.

[secretslut]

I think you're going to have to admit to yourself that you've already made up your mind.  The fact that you're asking these questions on a blog devoted to hot, raw, uninhibited and non-monogamous bareback sex (rather than going to a more mainstream gay blog or writing somebody like Dan Savage) suggests very strongly that you really, really, really want to be given permission to have lots of hot, raw, uninhibited and non-monogamous bareback sex.  In your first post, your questions # 3 and # 4 area already asking where you can meet or PM other guys. Your screename is "secretslut."  And the posts where you're clicking "like" are pretty much exactly all the ones that are telling you to ditch the boyfriend and plunge into a wild quest for cum.  If your love for this guy was really stronger than your lusts, you probably wouldn't have come here at all, or, at least, these wouldn't be the kinds of questions you'd be asking.

 

As others have pointed out, there are a lot of warning signs in your current relationship:  you say he can be "mean," he won't apparently consider your sexual needs even enough to simply try something other than missionary (which is both controlling and not even trying to address any of your needs), he's still insisting on condoms even when you've both been monogamous which could suggest that he already doesn't trust you, etc.  You're young and, as other have said, at 18 it's awfully early to be fully settled down.  Ask yourself: do you really strongly love the current BF or is it that you're more afraid of hurting him?  Because, again, from the questions you're asking here, it doesn't sound like too far in the future where you're going to end up meeting someone hot (or a group of hot someones), the clothes are going to come off and no condoms are going to go on, and rather than be able to fully enjoy your newfound freedom you're going to have to go back and have an even harder and more hurtful discussion with the current BF.  I'd recommend dealing with it as soon as you can (best to first try and find other living arrangements if at all possible; this will immediately give you a bit more control no matter how things go).  If you go ahead and deal with it soon, then when things get messier it'll be because you're happily covered in cum from all the hot guys you're fucking, and not messier because things have gotten even more complicated with the BF.

 

 

Your right i probably should have never came on here. Maybe i should just be happy with what i have, I was likeing posts as a sign of "Thanks" for commenting.

 

I am sorry for wasting everyones time, i am just going to go.....

 

Sorry

[TigerMilner]

Thank you, i think i have a nice bum boyfriend says i need to do more squats 

 

I just feel a bit bad...almost like i am going to ruin your relationship over sex

 

But he wont even watch porn with me(i showed him a T.I.M. video once and he called me nasty)

 

I know he would not cheat on me, and thats what i have told him, but he says "ya never know" and that the idea of cumming inside me is gross 

 

but i do love him.

 

Ugh i am so confused

Dump him! Quickly. The more you say about him the less I like him. He's a controlling asshole.