How Do You Cope With No Action In Your Area...

[Guest ff-whole]

Let me start with saying that I live on an Island in the Caribbean, and you might think; WOW that'l be a sexy place...

Yes it could be, but the Island is not one much visited by people looking for sex... Some tourist might try to find some action while visiting here, but very rarely come alone, so there is the family member or jealous boyfriend that they will have to try to ditch...

It's a diving paradise, so most tourist visitors - I would say 90% of them, come for the diving... and let me tell you that after two or three dives; you're exhausted, and in no mood to go out and have an another exercise in bed.

The Island is small with only about 18.000 inhabitants so the local gay scene isn't that exciting either for someone like me looking for multiple loads... Also when a visitors comes here and advertising sexual intentions at one of the hook-up sites, there is an immediate and aggressive run from the local boys and some will bad-talk the other locals to have the kingdom for themselves...

If I am able to get off the Island, like maybe a big city on the main continent, be that Europe, Northern or Southern America, I will always seek gay saunas and clubs in big city's to get my share of dick and loads of cum... The last time was South America, and I went bananas in Santiago de Chile, Buenos Aires, Argentina, Montevideo in Uruguay, some in Ecuador, Peru and Colombia... This has been over almost two years now...

 

So here it is...

How do you cope with a near zero percentage of action in your area...?

 

I myself, I'll try very hard to find tourists, male flight attendants, sometimes a new person coming to live here...

Advertise like crazy on Adam4Adam, PlanetRomeo, BBRT, Craigslist, and roaming the streets at night, supermarket [just sitting in the cafe and watching] sometimes the beaches, walking into hotel lobbies and common areas...

I have some toys, which I use in the bathroom under the shower... training my ass....

And watching online porn every day and jerking the skin of my Weener... Every day sometimes multiple times....

Unfortunately, I am not so well of to do in finance to get off the Island at this time...

 

I am an older manufacturing date [56] so not so much in the mainstream to get fucked... but I try to cope... I am not complaining just curious how other do it, living in the outback, maybe small town away from the Metropole....

 

Write your story... and let us know and tell your side of the action...

 

Ps: btw if you ever thinking of coming to my Island [see my profile] don't forget to send me a PM... My ass will love you... ;-)

[submissivebottom74]

I know the feeling. I am from a small Amish village in Ohio and when not working, so exhausted to go out. Fortunately, I am moving to Phoenix where there is a tremendous bathhouse that caters to bigger guys like me. But in the meantime, stuck here until July. I wish you the best though, as I know how it feels.

[PozSlime]

I was in a similar situation. I lived in a small town in the upper midwest. No local gay scene or anything to do.

 

One day I said fuck that shit...

 

I moved to Chicago which has one of the best gay scenes on the planet and the rest is happy history.

 

I wouldn't change a thing. I will die happy in Chicago. I still like to travel occasionally to other great gay city destinations but my heart will forever be in my home, Chicago.

 

I'd say to anyone who hates where they live, lack of gay scene, too conservative, small town etc.

 

Do yourself a favor and move to a known gay city.

 

The weather may not be as nice in Chi as it is in the Caribean, but I'll take winter for the eternal smorgasbord of cock and ass at my disposal. I'll take that trade-off anyday.

 

And I will never look back with any regrets. Best decision I've EVER made.

Edited May 5, 2016 by PozSlime

[PozSlime]

I should also add..

 

At the time of my move, I was flat-broke and struggling.

 

I used the tools at my disposal(net) to find a cheap apt and find a job.

 

It was moderately tough at first but I made do. I was that determined to make it work because I saw the beautiful gay scene in Chi stand out like a turd in a swimming pool. I was hooked on Chi from the getgo.

[Guest]

Am an older BB bottom here in the midwest and out in the sticks. There are a few ABS's withing short driving distances, but not really much action goes on in them, at least not the kinds of action that a full time BB slut like myself craves anyway. If any fun is to be had, I usually have to drive at least 100mi to the nearest bathhouses and then it's usually a hit and miss on the times and days that I am free to go, so things are really pretty dull for me most of the time.  Am really hoping that since I'm retired and pretty much free to do as I please, maybe in the near future I'm going to try to visit a few of the larger gay communities in florida and a couple of the other states and stay awhile.

[gaynevets]

Wow, I've got nothing but sympathy, and to echo the advice that, just maybe, a permanent move is called for, if for no other reason than your mental well-being.

Best wishes and good luck!

[atlfukbud]

Start a throuple, quad or group relationship! Create your own gay commune in your home :-)

[nastybottom]

I agree that you've got to move. No sense in standing on the shore, complaining about no nibbles...go to where the fish are.

[NLbear]

I can relate to ff-whole's situation. When I lived on Gran Canaria (also a sunny island but a gay tourist destination) there was sex to be had everywhere. You could fuck your brains out 24/7 if you wanted.

 

When I moved back to NL due to circumstances that all came to a stop. Small town, no gay scene and only very few guys online locally (who seem to prefer the <35's). So it's a hit and miss, visiting business guys sometimes or a local guy who seems to ignore you after that one time.

 

It is easy to say to pick up your stuff and move to a big city. That may be easy when you're in your 20s or 30s but it is more difficult when you are a bit older. Jobs aren't up for grabs unless you have specific skills that are very much in demand (and I don't mean those between the sheets or in a sleazy dark room!).

 

All I can advise is that if you're not able to move you actively scout gay sites for future visitors to the island (if they have that feature) and establish contact. Or indeed start a group with some of your fellow islanders, but I guess you already tried that or you wouldn't have posted this. Whatever you do, good luck!

[KindaBasic]

Wow, I've got nothing but sympathy, and to echo the advice that, just maybe, a permanent move is called for, if for no other reason than your mental well-being!

I agree, hopefully it's an option. Whenever I visit family in the area I grew up I am quickly reminded of why I moved in the first place. Nice enough place, but a gay sex desert.

[bberik]

I live in the country side, and no gay action here. One 19-year-old guy who contacted me on Grindr one time drove half hour to my house and fucked me raw. Otherwise I make sure to travel as often as I can and my bank account allows it. I guess there is some action in the Caribbean as well. I had sex with a local guy in Curacao a few years ago.

[imamouseduh]

I live in a small town an hour south of New Orleans. There is a gay bar in my town but there are no guys that I see out that I want to have sex with. If I want the D, I gotta take a ride to the city.

[C10H15N]

I travel.