You Are Not A Top

[gaynevets]

This is a rant. I'm a bottom. On occasion I can, if the vibe is right, top with enthusiasm. Generally? No. I'm a bottom and never, ever put myself out there otherwise. So when I host a top, I'm expecting, eventually, to be fucked, preferably bareback. I will do a whole lot until then but sooner or later I want that cock in my ass. So when dude shows up, nice pics and all, and actually has a solid 6" limp, I feel I'm justified in hosting and in expecting that 6" to grow to 8" just before it penetrates me. Is that asking too much, really? Are my expectations too great? Because let me tell you all, WHEN THE LIMP DICK MOTHERFUCKER CANNOT GET HARD AFTER AN HOUR OF STEADY STROKING, SUCKING, AND FETISH PLAY, AND HE KEEPS HITTING THE FUCKING BONER KILLING POPPERS, well....it just really pisses me off. Total waste of an evening. I'm not even worked up enough to rub one out after I force the LIMP DICK MOTHERFUCKER to leave. -sigh-. OK, that is all, thanks for reading my rant.

[chubbybear]

Nothing worse than a guy who claims to be a top but can't deliver what us bottoms need. 

[schvenn]

First of all, I'm feel very lucky that I usually have the opposite problem: my cock won't go soft even in situations when a rock hard boner is not, erm, "useful". Secondly, I'm kinda into soft cocks on guys, even when I am in a bottom mood - there are a lot of other things to stretch my hole with besides a cock - and I can have fun with a hot guy even when he doesn't get hard.

But my point is: when a guy can't get hard even though he wants to, I usually wonder if there's anything about the situation or about me or what I do that causes that problem. I'm not as quick to put the entire blame on him alone...

[Guest]

I know it was just a rant, but in the guy's defense - every once in a while my cock just doesn't cooperate with no good explanation.  A few months ago I answered a CL ad from a visiting 36 yo hotel muscle bottom wanting anon loads.  Traded emails and pics but didn't set up a specific time, and almost seemed a little too hot to be true.  Then there he was posting a quick connect ad on bbrt, so I hit him up there.  Agreed to fuck him a few hours later Sunday night after he'd already taken a couple loads.  I waited in the lobby of a pretty high end hotel till he said he was ready.  I went up, opened the door, and he was waiting ass up and even hotter than his pics - decked out in a harness, nasty pig jock and socks, backwards cap, heavily tatted, broad muscled back and big round ass and legs with a little hair on his ass and crack.  As I was getting undressed I was honestly hoping I wouldn't cum too fast and embarrass myself for not being able to hold off a little longer.  Maybe it was performance anxiety cuz he was so fucking hot, but my cock just wouldn't get that hard - his hole was already lubed - probably with other loads like he said, so I managed to fuck him and finally gave him another load with a lot of jacking off involved.  But we both knew it was a pathetic fuck on my part.  He probably thought I was partying and couldn't get it up - but I didn't even have that as an excuse.  I don't claim to be a total top, but 9 times out of 10 I can throw a pretty good fuck to a hot bottom or flip fucker, but just didn't work that time - unfortunately!!   

[not_sure_bb]

same reason i avoid "vers" guys. in my experience "vers" guys are bottoms looking to suck my cock. Got no use for that, i want a TOP guy to fuck my ass at some point. 

[atlfukbud]

We've all been disappointed in this area, but I can tell you that my dick is directly tied to my level of attraction/connection. It doesn't get rock hard for just any hole, which is why pump & dump doesn't really work well for me. I'd rather have a chat, share a drink, make out a bit, talk dirty and let the desire to fuck grow. We're not fuck machines, we're social beings and sexual attraction can be complex --in my experience a bit of playfulness and extra understanding under pressure leads to a hotter fuck (not to mention repeat fucks!

[drscorpio]

There is a cute young (under 30) guy who is on Grindr in my area. He has a nice cock, and he is very into me. But both times, I have had him over he has been completely unable to get it up AT ALL. He keeps begging for a 3rd try. 

[dickluva]

I've been told by friends some porn companies require models to inject Caverject, part of the contract, say no & no deal. I've had my share of limpdik too. I'd rather never fuck again than use caverject.

[msbear627]

I agree, sex starts in your head. I have to have some connection to get hard and fuck. Can't just walk in and fuck.