Boyfriend cheated

[Poz50something]

16 hours ago, Webster9 said:

You're projecting unrealistic straight community standards onto a gay relationship.  Jealousy  will not hold your man closer.  It will drive him away.

Just think of the reasoning behind monogamy....it's to ensure that children who are conceived are actual blood relatives of the father. We know they come from the mother so there's no question about that. As gay men, and other iterations of the rainbow community, I think it's unrealistic knowing our nature....now, we can talk about love, and expectations of not spreading diseases, but an adult convo between two adults about plenty of things is always in order before a relationship begins. And healthy communications is def. in order.   

[Webster9]

4 hours ago, Poz50something said:

Just think of the reasoning behind monogamy....it's to ensure that children who are conceived are actual blood relatives of the father. We know they come from the mother so there's no question about that. As gay men, and other iterations of the rainbow community, I think it's unrealistic knowing our nature....now, we can talk about love, and expectations of not spreading diseases, but an adult convo between two adults about plenty of things is always in order before a relationship begins. And healthy communications is def. in order.   

 

4 hours ago, Poz50something said:

Just think of the reasoning behind monogamy....it's to ensure that children who are conceived are actual blood relatives of the father. We know they come from the mother so there's no question about that. As gay men, and other iterations of the rainbow community, I think it's unrealistic knowing our nature....now, we can talk about love, and expectations of not spreading diseases, but an adult convo between two adults about plenty of things is always in order before a relationship begins. And healthy communications is def. in order.   

Among men, monogamy is unrealistic.  Men are, by nature, designed to have numerous sex partners in order to preserve the species.  Even though that is no longer a priority, the natural urge to spread our seed is still there.   Just look at the popularity of sex clubs, ABS video arcades, bath houses, and hook-up web sites.  Men are looking for sex, not so they can procreate, but for the pure animalistic pleasure of sex.

[sissy4breed]

leave the LIER

[Hungryforbbc]

On 11/16/2016 at 3:23 AM, bboi90 said:

So just wanted some input...

I had a suspicion my boyfriend had cheated on me a few months ago. I made a blank Grindr and got hit up by some guy. He asked for a pic so I sent him a pic of my boyfriend. Immediately was like hey dude its been awhile how have you been etc...so I probed and got that he fucked him on his friends couch a few months ago.

 

I confront the boyfriend who denied for 45 minutes, then admitted he met him at the casino, brought him back, did some oral and jerking off, fingering, rimming...but claims no actual sex. The dude explicitly said in the messages "I loved fucking your ass" so I think he's lying. Maybe he thinks getting fucked would be too far or something...

 

opinions?

 

(FYI - not even mad. dude was hot as fuck. I jerked off thinking about it. just wanna know if he did or not...)

I’m just gonna say this- if you want your bf to be honest with you then don’t behave the way he thinks you will, because that’s why he’s lying to begin with. If you demonstrate that he doesn’t have to be ashamed or afraid of being judged because you genuinely aren’t bothered about it then you’re changing the paradigm and choosing to live outside of the traditional norms and narratives and in my experience you’ll both be better off for it.

People only lie because they’re ashamed or afraid of being judged or shamed and they’re not typically wrong either so if you legit love him give him the chance to be his authentic self without shame or apology and show him that he can trust you and doesn’t have to do anything but be honest with himself and you.