Turning potential fucks away

[topstud127]

Show up and things weren't as advertised, catfish, the environment looked a bit sketchy, questionable health, surprise drugs, extra participants, etc, stories of you bailing on fucks. Always interesting what people tolerate for the sake of being polite to strangers (even when they were wronged).

Edited November 29, 2016 by topstud127

[Guest JizzDumpWI]

Topstud127, sounds like you have your own story to share....

[topstud127]

7 hours ago, JizzDumpWI said:

Topstud127, sounds like you have your own story to share....

 

Not really. Some cases where I should have, but went along with it anyway or found a reason to excuse myself early.

[endowed]

A few months ago, a guy contacted me on Adam4Adam.  I went to his house horny as hell and ready to fuck him.  He turned out to be a real talker.  I listen to his stories about his past sexual escapades while he we watch one of his porn videos.  We were sitting on his couch.  I was on one end and he was on the other.  I was wondering when he was going to stop talking so we could start fucking, but he just kept going on and on. So, I thought I'd give a signal to give him a hint. 

I unzipped my pants and started rubbing my dick through my underwear.  He didn't make a move or show any sign of interest.  He just kept telling me his life story.  So, I just zipped up my pants and told him that I have to go.  When I got home, he sent me a message asking me why I left.  I told him that I was under the impression that he changed his mind about having sex.  He said that he was waiting for me to make the first move.  I told him that he was so wrapped up in his stories about himself that I was under the impression that he was no longer interested in me.  He asked if I would come back.  I said I would think about it.  Eventually, I declined.

[Guest JackWmspt]

A4A seems to be a site for pic collectors, who have no intent on meeting.. I go there to hopefully find action.. I don't need all the drama.. 

[NLbear]

I think I only turned one guy away. I had a planned date with a guy who had to drive an hour to get to me. I was all set up, showered, douched and so on and horny as fuck. An hour before he was supposed to arrive he texted he couldn't make it. Fuck! Went online looking for a potential fuck nearby. No tops close. It was almost midnight on a week day. While I was browsing I got a chat message from a guy saying he loved sucking dick and wanted to try "Daddy Dick". I looked at his profile. Only joined recently, 18yo, one pic of a twink chest, said he liked sucking dick.

I wasn't really into getting sucked at that moment, I wanted a load in my ass. Plus I am not into young guys so held off, just chatted a bit back and forth. But he was very persistent and not far away (which, looking back, is why he contacted me I think as there was nobody else around that close). In the end when I couldn't find a top and still too horny I told him to come over. A blow job was better than nothing. As soon as I opened the door I knew it was wrong. Small guy and didn't look like he was 18 at all but younger. Out of politeness I let him in but after a few minutes told him it was not going to work and sent him away. He did sent me a few chats after that but I politely refused.

 

[daddyboyleo]

I have turned guys away, mostly because they were on Meth, sucking their teeth constantly, acting jittery. I used to do that shit and don't like being around guys who are on it.

Meth fuckers end up being mechanical and boring. Just not my scene. I like a little passion and excitement.

I expect guys to lie about their age or cock size. So I'm OK if they look different from their pic, as along as it's really them.

I'm open to most ages 20's to 60's and all races.

When my hole is really hungry it just needs to be fed and bred.

[phukhole]

Only time I do is when someone is not at ALL what they purported to be. I give  a lot of leeway - old pics, put on a few pounds, etc, but if they've clearly sent me someone else's pics, it's a non-starter for me.  I find a lot of guys hot - they don't have to be models (in fact, i respond better if they're not). Just be up front with me who you are, what you want and be able to perform.  Once in a blue moon, something will just be 'off" and I'll have to decline...  It sounds like I've been luckier than most when it gets to the actual meet.  I've had LOTS of guys flake on me or just disappear after trading chats, but if we're face to face, unless my serial killer alarms go off, they're gonna be balls deep in me.

[einathens]

Doubt means don't.

[ejaculaTe]

On 9/11/2017 at 7:05 PM, einathens said:

Doubt means don't.

Exactly. First impressions are everything, and if your first impression is "WTF am I doing here?", then it's time to turn around. 

[18plus]

On 2016-11-29 at 1:47 AM, topstud127 said:

Show up and things weren't as advertised, catfish, the environment looked a bit sketchy, questionable health, surprise drugs, extra participants, etc, stories of you bailing on fucks. Always interesting what people tolerate for the sake of being polite to strangers (even when they were wronged).

I think most guys will have experienced some of these at some point. I’ve been fortunate can only recall two experiences where I left a potential fuck. 1. Dude was not as advertised and a meth head, clearly used his pre-meth pics when I showed up he literally look 100 years older, I literally just said nope and walked away. 2. Was just creepy, he was a sexy older guy but when I showed up to his place he opened the door wearing a weird black plastic drench coat, the vibe felt off. When I walked in he had cats all over the place, his place smelt so bad. I asked to use the bathroom waited a couple mins came out of the bathroom and said I have to leave and just went for the door.   

[Guest Dickmagnet]

I've had it i think 2 times, one time if felt weird like the guy was or off his head or could just be a serial killer anyway he gave me the creeps so i made an excuse & just left. Second time it happened i was invited to a sex party of 3-4 guys when i showed up the host who i had chatted to online did not look like his pics at all, He looked like 100 years old. So when i walked in the door & noticed this i said it out load you don't look like your pics. He in turn shuffled away complaining to another guest that was there. WTF i thought here i am if you are going to set up a sex party you better be fit like your pics suggest or just piss off if you are going to use someone else's pics. Anyway i took 2 loads from friends who made it down there too & they also agreed the host was lying. I think the guy really got pissed off that i confronted him about it & the other guys there agreed with me too. I just blocked him when i got home. His profile said he was all muscles or something like that but in reality the guy was like 50+ a flabby too. Who was he kidding.

[Guest SWRider61]

Let's see.  There was the guy who said come over in an hour, then when I got there, said he had gotten out of the mood.  I shrugged & left.  Got a text from him an hour later asking me to come back because he hadn't been with many guys, and I surprised him by actually showing up.  Nope, not driving back another 30 minutes each way on a work night.

[raunchycumslut]

Let's see:

One time I had a guy on A4A hit me up, I told him "no thanks" because his profile indicated we were looking for different things. He sent me pics and told me his profile didn't cover everything he enjoyed, that he was horny and wanted some ass for a quickie breeding before going to sleep. I went because it was late, not many guys available, and I wanted a load. I got there, sucked him a while, until it became clear he wasn't going to get hard, and I realized he wasn't drunk or on weed, he was wrecked on some hardcore stuff. He admitted he had been doing drugs for about half a day, had gotten horny and had invited me over expecting me to hang out and suck his (limp) dick for several hours while he continued his drug binge, but he expected to fuck me eventually after the drugs wore off some; the whole story of a pump-and-dump was a lie. I told him I had work soon and couldn't do that (didn't call him out for lying or the drug use or his cock being useless, figured there was no point in arguing with a drug addict while he was high). As I was leaving, he got bitchy and told me I seemed very self-centered and uptight, I expected too much of people, I needed to learn to have fun (think he wanted me to come back inside and get high with him), all sorts of stupid bullshit. The next day he messaged me saying he'd had a great time and wanted to know if I could come back sometime. I don't mind guys having a few drinks, doing poppers, smoking weed, or even doing some coke, but after that guy, if I meet a guy into serious drugs, I bail.

I kicked a guy out of my room at a bathhouse once. The guy was younger than I usually go for but hung and very fit, and had been following me around. When it came time to play, he got all nervous and didn't want to fuck or get blown, just jack off together. I said I wasn't into that and asked him to go. Then he started rambling about how he'd never been with a guy before, was super nervous about gay sex, was nervous about STDs, etc. I bluntly told him if he was worried about STDs and still coming to terms with his sexuality, he shouldn't be in a bathhouse. He thanked me and started talking to me and asking questions, in that naive way young gay guys do when they're fishing for their first gay friend/mentor. I (gently) made it clear I wasn't there for that, then in a "joking-but-not-really" way told him he was cock-blocking me and needed to get out of my room pronto.

I have also bailed on guys for: being a bottom when they advertised as a top, having a disgusting home (as in bad smells, bugs, etc), expecting to use condoms when they said they were into barebacking previously, expecting me to sneak in/out of their home so family/roommates don't find out, bad hygiene, having other people there (as in, expected to have group sex and didn't discuss it with me first).

[KindaBasic]

If I’m not into a guy I’m not into him. Vise versa. It happens. When it has happened to me it can be disappointing. It can even hurt. But you move on to the next one.