bareback weekend invitation - advice needed

[NLbear]

Need some advice.

The two guys who organise BB parties occasionally (last Friday was the most recent one) have asked me if I would be interested in going to a bareback weekend in November/December. A popular region for the Dutch to go away for a long weekend around the Xmas period is the Belgian Ardennes. A long weekend is arrival on Friday from 2pm and departing on Monday at the latest 12pm. They want to rent a large mansion and invite between about 16-20 guys (depending on # of beds in the house) for a bareback weekend. Costs (aprox. €1000-€1200 for rent + other) would be split evenly. They will supply viagra, X and G (they're a fan of those). The house/mansion(/castle even if they can get it) they will be looking for would be remote (i.e. no direct neighbors), would have 5-6 bedrooms and large living area. Sleeping arrangements to be determined by the hosts.

They will be looking to get a good 'mix' of guys to cater for everyone's different taste (e.g. bears, twinks, average Joe, older/younger and so on). Most guys will be top or top/vers and about 4-5 bottoms (including me). Their specific question to me was if I would be OK with that because it would mean bottoms would need to be ready to be available for tops at any time. No exceptions. If a top wants to fuck you, you need to take it. The hosts are top & top/vers themselves and most guys I met at their parties are too with a few bottoms (like me). So the weekend would be similar to their parties but just longer.

It has always been a fantasy to do this but now the opportunity is here I am wondering about how this will work out in reality. Main question would of course be how you make sure you are ready for tops at all times. Let's face it, you cannot be clean 24/7 for almost 4 days so it means constant cleaning. Another one is how it will be to be in one house for 3 nights/days with maybe 20 practically strangers. Some I may have met at their parties before but it's one thing to be fucked for a few hours at a party and another to spend days with them. There may be guys I really don't get along with (or they don't like me) but there will be no escape or leaving early (I need to hitch a ride to the location so depend on the ride back too). There won't be sex 24/7 so you will need to get along socially as well (live/eat/sleep/doing other stuff). Maybe it will turn out to be lame weekend and you're stuck in there. From a selfish sexual POV: what if the other bottoms are more 'popular' than you and you just get to watch them getting it on? It sounds like a very horny thing to do but will it be? Just a few thoughts that come to mind.

They sent me a few pics of houses (& bedrooms and living) they rented before and those look really fantastic. It's a very appealing invitation but I need to figure out if it will be something for me. My hole says yes, my head not yet. LOL!

So my question: Has anyone ever done something like this? How did that work out? Any advice?

[bigdick4you]

I would say do it...people will be there to fuck and if u r one of few bottoms it will mean u will get used quite a bit. Men r not going to stick to one hole the entire weekend. Unless u have trouble getting fucked I would do it.the idea that the bottoms r available 24/7 is also a huge turn on for me as a top.i would not think too much about it and just do it. The thing is that u will be seen as ahole to fuck and breed when tops want to unload. The only thing that puts me off is the drug use situation....I never do drugs besides poppers.

[NLbear]

Thanks for your reply. The opportunity is too good to decline. I may never get another one like it. So yeah, more or less already decided to go. Just wanted to get my head around a few practical things. They told me they only want a few bottoms. Less bottoms = more (room for) tops = more fucking = more sloppy holes and more chance of sex going on day and night (for others to watch as well as participate in). As for drugs, I am usually a poppers-only guy myself. Only used X once. Can't really tell what it made me feel like except very relaxed and horny. I know I could take dick for hours even after cumming (usually hit or miss for me if I want to continue after cumming but not then, couldn't get enough) The couple told me they take viagra, X and G and it makes them stay hard for hours. Others will likely do the same.

I know I will just be a hole for tops to fuck and/or dump their load in. In a 1-on-1 situation I still need to have some sort of attraction to a guy but not in a group situation. It's different then. The whole idea is a major turn-on. I wanted to know if there are others here who done something similar and what their experience was. There may be a few things I haven't thought of or tips about what to expect or do (or don't do). Could be from bottoms or tops.

[HornyTTB]

Would love to join your party :]

[bigdick4you]

Think u def. made right decision to go...keep us posted how u got on. Think that 4/5 tops to 1 bottom is about the right ratio. That's why I'm not a big fan of gangbangs with just  1 bottom. Too much of a wait at times. I also like to go from hole to hole to decide who gets my load. Think this is true for most tops! Have fun!

[gonopodium]

5 hours ago, NLbear said:

Thanks for your reply. The opportunity is too good to decline. I may never get another one like it. So yeah, more or less already decided to go. Just wanted to get my head around a few practical things. They told me they only want a few bottoms. Less bottoms = more (room for) tops = more fucking = more sloppy holes and more chance of sex going on day and night (for others to watch as well as participate in). As for drugs, I am usually a poppers-only guy myself. Only used X once. Can't really tell what it made me feel like except very relaxed and horny. I know I could take dick for hours even after cumming (usually hit or miss for me if I want to continue after cumming but not then, couldn't get enough) The couple told me they take viagra, X and G and it makes them stay hard for hours. Others will likely do the same.

I know I will just be a hole for tops to fuck and/or dump their load in. In a 1-on-1 situation I still need to have some sort of attraction to a guy but not in a group situation. It's different then. The whole idea is a major turn-on. I wanted to know if there are others here who done something similar and what their experience was. There may be a few things I haven't thought of or tips about what to expect or do (or don't do). Could be from bottoms or tops.

V, X and G!!!!!!!  Powerful triad and three legged beasts are enhanced this way, indeed!!!!!!!! Just so happens this was done a LOT... at a North Portland locale... For a long time ?. For reals and for truly ?

 

Those needing their memories and recalls refreshed ?? it was the now deceased patrician member of society that was gonna move big big things to the redwood forests of northern California??????

 

All that b.s. said, now here's my advice.  Very fun and effective this all is. Be sure good rest happens before vehicle usage? watch dosage of G especially in this triad / trilateral commission combo deal promulgated BUT!!!!!!! Have fun and a blast!

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[NLbear]

Thanks guys. It's still almost two months away but I will be getting more details in the coming weeks. Still have questions/concerns but the organisers say they have done this for a few years now and it has always been fun for all (they would say that of course. They're tops, they 'just' have to get hard and fuck...). But I indeed hope it's going to be a blast! I hope I'll be hearing soon who they have invited ;-)

[atlfukbud]

You'll have to post pix and details of your experience. As a versatile dude, who loves big dick in his ass, I'd jump at the chance for near, non-stop "semi-public" sex in a situation like this!! X will help you stay awake for long periods of time I image -- hope you get to take it outside and fuck outdoors , too.

[einathens]

I always say that doubt means don't.  but you have time enough to resolve the issues that are bothering you. 

first, I'd advise that you know at least one other person well before going. 

second, have your own transportation.  no hitching, and only carpool with the one you knew well before the weekend. this fantasy might turn into a nightmare, and you need to be able to leave at any time. 

being just a hole for a dozen strangers to dump in is a hot idea, but in reality can be much less appealing. manage your expectations and have an exit plan in place just in case. 

[NLbear]

13 hours ago, atlfukbud said:

You'll have to post pix and details of your experience. As a versatile dude, who loves big dick in his ass, I'd jump at the chance for near, non-stop "semi-public" sex in a situation like this!! X will help you stay awake for long periods of time I image -- hope you get to take it outside and fuck outdoors , too.

Í will share the details. Don't know what the plans are for taking pics or making vids. I wouldn't mind but others may object. As much I love outdoor sex it probably will not happen. It'll be freezing cold by that time, snow even. Then again, taking a few pics getting fucked in the snow is appealing ;-) The remote location would certainly offer that possibility.

[NLbear]

1 minute ago, einathens said:

I always say that doubt means don't.  but you have time enough to resolve the issues that are bothering you. 

first, I'd advise that you know at least one other person well before going. 

second, have your own transportation.  no hitching, and only carpool with the one you knew well before the weekend. this fantasy might turn into a nightmare, and you need to be able to leave at any time. 

being just a hole for a dozen strangers to dump in is a hot idea, but in reality can be much less appealing. manage your expectations and have an exit plan in place just in case. 

Sensible advice, thanks! Yep, there is a possibility it turns out that way, although I hope not. But it's good advice to have a back-up plan. I don't have a car but the organising couple offered me a ride when I brought that up. I think I know them well enough by now. I'm sure if things will not work out they can drop me off at the nearest train station. It will be a disappointment for them but they wouldn't object if I really would want to leave. They are nice guys.

[einathens]

still think you should take a buddy with you.  a vers top one would be perfect. 

[NLbear]

If I could I would. Only person I can think of is my FB. But he's a top and not into groups (3somes sometimes at the most). But I am not the one determining the guest list. The organisers only invite guys they know well enough.

[bbzh]

In theory, this sounds like it could be a hot, fun-filled weekend, but it could also end up being a not so hot experience. I'm a little bit too much of a control freak to allow what happens to me over a 72 hour window of time to be left to chance.

As mentioned earlier, I'd have an exit strategy (Uber, taxi to train station etc). I'd also try to prepare myself for the possible scenarios that could arise such as: 1) other bottoms getting most of the action, 2) tops I'm not attracted to, 3) drug use that makes me uneasy, 4) risk of STDs (I still think we as barebackers underestimate how risky group sex is), 5) wanting to eat but pressure to keep the runway clear, 6) being around people that annoy me, 7) potentially not having wifi (LOL), 8) no cell phone service, 9) no television, 10) uncomfortable bed) and try to work my way through how I'd deal with those situations. They better not be making the bottoms cook and serve meals! Ha!

Maybe I'm overanalysing this, but why does everyone have to share the cost equally? Aren't the hosts benefiting from this way more than you? They are presumably not going to invite guys they are not attracted to. They decide who sleeps in which room. And they know they can fuck all the bottoms, but you as a bottom don't know that you will be fucked by all the tops. And what if the tops start fucking the versatile tops? 

I think sexual energy-wise, it would be hotter if guys were going and coming. Or the bottoms and the tops were blindfolded for a block of time. Anyway, I digress. It probably won't be the hottest thing you'll ever experience in your life. It won't be a total disaster either. And you'll never know if you don't try. So I probably would go if I were in your shoes. 

[NLbear]

@bbzh Thanks. You're not overanalysing, I have been thinking about those scenarios too. Usually I want to be in control too so to let go and see what happens is a change for me as well. I have decided to go because it has always been a fantasy and this may be the only opportunity I get to experience it. It could very well be a big disappointment for the reasons you mention (and I will make sure I have checked all info I need if I want to leave early). But at least I will have tried it. And it's only 72 hours, I'll manage to get through them even if it doesn't play out as I think it will and some of the scenarios occur that you describe. Some of the tops I will already have met at their regular parties, some will be new. So I know at least some like my hole  And I know the hosts do! Same for knowing or not knowing the other bottoms btw. But I'm a voyeur as well, so even if other bottoms get more action than me or if tops start fucking the vers tops it'll be fun. I'll volunteer to be the cameraman (if that's what some want)!

About the cost splitting. It's supposed to be fun for all and the organisers are trying to set this up to be fun for all. They want guys to return for a next time or to their regular BB parties. And they will organise it, book the house, provide the supplies etc. Travel costs are your own. And yes, they decide who sleeps where and so on, but they know all the guys and even though I don't know yet what arrangement they make I'm sure they will take personalities and 'types' into account (or I hope so...).

They are still looking at houses and haven't decided yet but (when I asked) they sent me a few pics of houses they booked the previous times to give me an idea. It may be one of these one again (if available) or another one.

Anyway, it may not be the best experience of my life as you say but I do hope it will turn out to be fun. And if not, then follow an exit strategy.