Married (to a woman) bottoms, how do you get it in?

[Anonversecuck]

Assuming you're not out to your wife and have to be on the dl about it. How do you find the time? Does she not get suspicious of your activities? 

[Guest]

Unfortunately I have to limit playing for when I travel for work or when she travels for work. I’ve tried to find a regular guy or group of guys that I could be more friends with so I would have an excuse of meeting up with the guys for a beer or watching a football game but so far I’ve been unsuccessful. The ideal situation would be that my wife actually meets them so she isn’t suspicious. It would also keep me getting used because I wouldn’t want them to tell my wife. It would be kind of mutual but they would untimately control my ass. 

[evilalex]

good luck

[Guest Memphian]

When I was married it was usually business trips.  I didn't discover cruising adult theaters until later.  I would visit one on the way home, but only to lock myself in a booth and jack off to porn.  I was so naive I didn't even realize guys were hooking up in there.  And really, when I was younger I had no intention of hooking up with a man.  

Now that I'm divorced my GF doesn't live with me but she is prone to showing up to my house unannounced, so if I head to the theater I have to have an excuse ready in case she texts me. 

But I've been fucked by a lot of married guys.  Some can get away for a lunch meeting, or meet up on the way home.  Weekends are also good because they tell their wives they are going to the hardware store or what not.  

Obviously you need an alternate email address, and I use Google Voice to text or talk to fuck buddies.  

 

 

[Anonversecuck]

10 hours ago, us3myass said:

Unfortunately I have to limit playing for when I travel for work or when she travels for work. I’ve tried to find a regular guy or group of guys that I could be more friends with so I would have an excuse of meeting up with the guys for a beer or watching a football game but so far I’ve been unsuccessful. The ideal situation would be that my wife actually meets them so she isn’t suspicious. It would also keep me getting used because I wouldn’t want them to tell my wife. It would be kind of mutual but they would untimately control my ass. 

Having a good close buddy that gets along with the wife and doesn't raise suspicion but secretly uses your ass to get off is rather hot!

[versamarried]

We both had different work from home days so when I was home I would host or travel. In between those days I would think of any normal reason to get out of the house at night and try to find a hookup. Definitely a lot harder to get any kind of action but better than none. The trick was to always make your reason semi truthful. Just so happens in between leaving the house and doing what you said you were you happened to find a bare cock buried deep in your ass while you begged for cum.

[JamieSLUT]

I have a gf and kids for years. Because of my job I do travel a lot and can have some fun with a daddy that enjoys daddy/son time with me. 

 

[Cuteguy69]

Me my wife know about it 

it’s more easy like that 

the only thing she doesn’t like is when I arrive at 2 am she preferred quick hookup

[CrispyWd4]

Once tried to talk to her about it, just she wasn’t interested (never got as far as how I feel, was just sounding her out on the subject of involving others in the bedroom). So I play in secret - occasionally travel on business, or try to find guys free daytime near my office. Limits the options somewhat. 

[Guest]

Way back when I was still working back in the early 2000's, was out on the road all the time, so was no problem with the action. Wasn't long after the company closed up on us and the big money stopped coming in that the other half decided to walk out, so still no problem today. 

Way back in the 90's though, she must have had some suspicions about my activities, as she would bring up the subject about if I liked being fucked in the arse, and sometimes would even try to use one of her dildoes on me, but it was never confirmed if she actually knew for sure or was just hinting she would like to see it actually happening to me.

[Guest deleted1107]

This is indeed a complicated subject. My take on it is that there will come to a point in your life where you become comfortable about who you are and what you’re all about.... where what you think and how you feel as a man are one in the same... that’s the largest hurdle from my life experience. As you reach out on forums like this you’re you begin to get a sense of how, what, when, who, and where you can get together with another guy. The sneaking round aspect never works in my opinion so as one person put it in a prior post, if you can integrate that person into your life as a friend or simply a work associate it may be helpful. In the end, only you can decide how you will move forward... it’s your life journey... live it and let things evolve as a normal course of living. Just my take.

[Guest SubAssNH]

I haven't,  to this point. Would take the wife being gone for a weekend and a top able to host on short notice. And me pulling the trigger on what has been a long time fantasy,  but one which is a big mental hurdle. 

[bimaine69]

I travel frequently for work, and usually play while on the road.  Occasionally connect at home for daytime fun if working from home, but most of my hookups are while I'm traveling.

[TimSon]

Like some of the other married, bi-bottoms here... I usually play when I travel. I don't do gay clubs, or bookstores, usually hook-up online, or at hotel bar. 

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[Guest dad2bttm5]

I had like only 1 or 2 man sex encounters per 4 to 6 years up till a year ago, then I reconnected last year with a guy who would only top me safe back in 2011.  I found out he was poz undetectable in 2017 summer – met him twice then but chickened out to take his load in the summer as I did not understand fully the U=U thing. I finally took the plunge in December of 2017 and took his load, and had more man sex in 2018 than the previous 20 years combined. He is very careful, and we are pretty much exclusive for bare sex, except for one other bottom “boy friend”. I shut it down this summer, as I had issues with guilt / wife. But the craving is still there for him and his cock. It has always been anon. I texed him tonight. I am thinking it’s about time to take some more loads. What’s the vote? Should I start up with him again?