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[Cumdump4now]

I have a general question and would like to explain some things. I guess I am bi? I never check men out. Such as looks package ass etc. It does not turn me on. I always check women out. Now the twist. About once a week I post an ad for anon pump and dumps at my place. I am blindfolded face down ass up and lubed. Porn playing. I love taking anon loads and prefer bare. No load turned away. Could care less about looks age race etc. Probably explains why I don't get turned on by seeing men? I am a total bottom. I have no urge to top. I just love the fact about not seeing who is pounding me and love when he plants deep inside me. Hot as hell. Not sure what that makes me but thought I would post and any feedback would be awesome. Thanks.

[bimaine69]

You check out women, but not men.  Do they turn you on?  Do you have relationships with women?

 

I can sympathize with you on that.  I'm married and bi, and love women, both women in general and my wife specifically. I have sex with women. I get turned on by sexy women and actively are attracted to them.  I have a great relationship with my wife, and could easily be attracted to and have relationships with other women.  But I also like sex with men.  I can appreciate a handsome man, and enjoy the company of men, but I don't feel romantically attracted to men.  I just like fucking with men.  I started topping, getting the oral and anal sex that was missing in my marriage, but progressed to giving head and eventually bottoming as well.  Come to find out, I enjoyed bottoming more than topping, and have really expanded my awareness, availability, and fun as a result.  I still get turned on by women, and continue to fuck my wife all the time.  But some occasional cock, balls, asses and cum really turn me on as well.  I have a desire for sex with men that is just different than what I have with women.  Isn't bad, just different.  Am I gay?  I don't think so, as I don't feel emotionally connected to any man like I would (and am) for a woman.  I just like sucking cock and getting fucked every once in a while.

[travelingbi]

This is a great example of why specific labels like "Gay, Bi, Str8" are very limiting. Sexual identity is along a sliding scale. Some exclusively attracted to the same sex. Some exclusively to the opposite sex. Some equally attracted to both. And sexual attraction and romantic attraction can be totally different. Attraction can also can be and often is fluid. I consider myself exclusively gay both sexually and romantically. I've had male sex partners that are only romantically attracted women. But, they enjoy sexual relations with both m & f. I've also had a lot of sexual partners that would be considered exclusively str8 both sexually and romantically, but they like being "serviced" by gay men. They enjoy being sucked off, rimmed and sometimes even enjoy fucking men. But only in an active, top role. In many cultures, this has historically been acceptable. Even though I'm completely gay, I have had sex with some women in a 3way situation with their bi husbands. I have no issue eating pussy, sucking tits or even fucking a woman. In fact, I've really enjoyed sucking the husbands cum from the wife's pussy. But, without another male being involved, I have no interest in females. So, even though I've had sex with women, I would never consider myself in any way bi. 
I know a lot of gay men believe that there is no such thing as bi. That bi men have just not accepted their gay identities. But, I just don't believe that to be true in all cases. In my many decades of having sex with men, I'd guess that nearly half those men would not consider themselves to be gay. They either identify as str8 or bi or somewhere in between. 
I look at sex as recreation. I seperate romantic sex from just purely recreational sex. And so do men that identify as str8. Their romantic sex is with women, but they can enjoy recreational sex with men. 

[Bicycledude]

Another guy from Maine here. I am also married to a woman and I deeply love her. For a long time, I felt that I was bi because I have always been attracted by men. As I have gotten older, I now identify as a gay man who is married to a woman. Sexual identities come in all flavors, I guess.

Should I end up a widower, good chance I would end up in a relationship with another man. However, I would never leave my wife. That being said, I enjoy meeting other men, but not women, for recreational sex.

[john54476]

@bicycledude  that is exactly where I am at!

 

[ErosWired]

22 hours ago, travelingbi said:

Sexual identity is along a sliding scale

Exactly this. There’s even science backing it up.

In general, going about my day-to-day life, I don’t “check out” men or women” it doesn’t occur to me to think of random contacts as potential sexual contacts, and even if I did, it would make no sense that any of them would be attracted to me.

So it’s only in the specific context of when I set aside time to be sexual that I pay any attention to what I find attractive, and since I do my sex play with men, I generally find men attractive.

BUT

I would not have a relationship with a man. I was married for 17 years to a beautiful woman, and I still love her very much. From time to time I see other women whose beauty takes my breath away - but I never think of them in sexual terms. They are to be cherished, protected, enabled, admired, loved, and, when and only when they wish it in the context of a relationship, made love to. I remember a quote that went: “A boy fucks girls; a man makes love to women.”

Therefore, because I have had sex with women and theoretically could again, and because I also currently have sex with men... lots of men... I consider myself Bi. Because labels.

But really, for an autistic like me the whole sexuality thing is a gargantuan nuisance, and I wish it would all just go away, and then my label could read: ___________.

[ConversionPiglet]

Here is my second cents worth.  You sound normal;  just relax and stop worrying about right or wrong with your life.  Enjoy the here and now and live your life as today will be your last day.   Like others mentioned before, sexual desires and identity is fluid with one day liking one thing and tomorrow enjoying something else.   Just relax and be happy with yourself and enjoying the moment and let life unfold before you and don't worry about what others think or preceived about you; and welcome to the family.  Your among friends here.

[Guest Binudenative]

- I have been attracted to both the girls and boys, men and women, as long as I can remember in becoming sexually active. The fellow closeted boys-men on the reservation and the surrounding areas were all discrete but I never felt in it was wrong to be naked with another male sucking his cock, and being naked, on my elbows or hands and knees being fucked in the ass, doggy style getting fucked. It's normal to me. There have been times in I have had sex with a woman, or girlfriend, and later that day, I am naked and ass up being penetrated by a cock from a fellow closeted native male.. 😉 You are awesome! I am the same too in TECHNICALLY, I have been versatile but I really prefer to bottom and have a cock inside of me, then topping. I love being submissive.