Has anyone been blackmailed or been exposed with photos and videos of you getting fucked, etc?

[Guest Ptolemyblue2000]

Many amateur/ homemade porn videos cover or leave out peoples' faces. It is way hotter to be exposed though. Has anyone felt the consequences of letting guys keep your pics and vids and then use them against you later? 

 

 

[Kimberley]

Been exposed but did not like that at all

[sluttony]

I'd imagine that like me, if people wanted their faces to be shown, then we'd allow it. Since we don't...

Which is one of the reasons I don't allow anyone to take pics/video on their phones. They want them, they use mine and then I'll forward the redacted pics/vids over. And that is never up for discussion.

And it isn't just my sex life - I am a very private person by nature, so even if someone knew my full details they'd find almost nothing about/from me online. I worked out many, many, years ago that anything you post online effectively stays there forever (and I do mean years ago - way before social networks were a thing).

Exposing people against their will just isn't on. There are some people who it could put into direct harms way, for one thing.

Edit: I've just remembered I was working in one city about 12/13 years ago and hooked up with a guy. Unknown to me, he waited outside the next morning, and followed me from the hotel I was staying.

He started to send me text messages from another phone number detailing the people I'd met and ultimately telling me things he wanted to do and I was to meet him in the bar of the hotel one evening and if I wasn't there he'd "expose me" to colleagues. Now for me, that was annoying and not frightening because I've nothing to hide from said colleagues, nor, despite the fact I don't shout about my sexuality from the rooftops, am I ashamed in any way of it.

And believe it or not he actually showed up! He soon changed his tone when I threatened to call the police and show them the text messages. And I was deadly serious.

He claimed that he thought it would just be a bit of harmless fun, but I found it anything but.

So that's my experience of it. Not really what you meant, I know, but just one perspective.

Edited March 15, 2021 by sluttony

[CumDumpSLT]

I was blackmailed by a coworker once and then exposed. I lent him my laptop but forgot to log out, all my whole second life was on there, pictures and videos of being a dirty cum dump bottom slut. All raunchy and [banned word] kinks, mostly me getting gang banged raw. I let him own me for a little while and when I had enough and stopped he sent all my co workers those pictures and videos. I guess deep down inside I wanted to get exposed being that careless. The whole thing was really humiliating and I wound up getting fired but at the same time it turned me on lol

[Guest]

This is hot

[LittleCumSewer]

not been blackmailed but been filmed sucking cocks, getting fucked and taking loads without being told. sometimes I would jus be sucking some guys cock or bent over getting railed in a public restroom or something and looked over to see some random guy pointing his phone at me. i have also came across pics and vids taken by random guys that I didn't know were doing it. plus I get fucked blindfolded so often that so many guys maw have videos of me without me knowing

[bisexualguy1978]

Without knowing I was filmed having a good time with 2 other guys in a public area (fucking my FB with a random top). This area is perfect for outdoor sex, as it is the only outdoor area where it is legal to have outdoor sex (Oeverlanden in Amsterdam). We were in a somewhat secluded area, but it’s unavoidable you get watchers regularly. Sometimes that fine, with the right persons, the more the merrier when you want them to join in.

As usual, guys were coming and going but a certain guy was standing a little far away and had a shoulder bag, which felt ‘odd’ from the start (posture and the way he held the bag). He just stood there and did not respond to anything so I (we) ignored the guy. At some point, I shot my load in my fuckbuddy and shifted position with the other top so he could suck my cock clean. At that time I started paying a bit more attention to the environment and saw him getting a little nervous. Which was strange as nothing had changed in the setting, apart from me paying more attention to him, and he was standing there already for 10 minutes (which is quite long in that area).

I thought I noticed a little lens glare on the bag and I started walking to the guy as it came into my mind it might be a camera. The guy started running away and in his hurry jumping over a branch dropped the bag showing the camera clearly. I was butt-naked and didn’t want to chase the guy for a while so I let him go.

I didn’t like this situation, at all. At that time there was quite some negative media coverage of the area as people where getting harassed and beaten-up. I was getting worried I would find myself online somewhere, but I hoped it was just some random [banned word] guy that jerks off at home to it. The guy was relatively old and looked a little shabby so didn’t fit the group of people that were in the media harassing people.

I guess being in a public area i can't complain to much, but on the otherhand you also can't just start filming people in any setting.

I have been filmed before, but in a setting where I usually knew everyone and had an understanding of what would happen to the footage. One time I was filmed without my consent, but at that time I was quite young (to young to elaborate here probably), and that footage also luckily stayed within a specific group of people.

[ErosWired]

3 hours ago, bisexualguy1978 said:

I guess being in a public area i can't complain to much, but on the otherhand you also can't just start filming people in any setting.

I don’t know the specifics if the law in the Netherlands, but in the United States, you may not have had any reasonable expectation of privacy in your situation (by your account you knew perfectly well you would probably be watched and might even invite voyeurs to participate, so you could hardly say you expected to be private - in fact, a case might be made fir exhibitionism on your part). Given this, in the US, the guy with the camera might have been well within his rights to film you. Such cases are usually considered on the merits of the specific circumstances, and I’m no lawyer, but I have a hard time seeing you find much sympathy from a judge.

 I also have to ask you, if you knew that that particular area was risky for getting men harassed and beaten, wouldn’t you have put yourself at risk simply from being seen there live doing what you were doing, video or no video?

 I totally get the public fucking vibe. Some of my best experiences have been from being used in front of (and by) an audience. But I wouldn’t put myself in physical or legal danger for it. Was the risk part of the attraction?

[backdoorjimmy]

I wasn't blackmailed but for about three years there was a clip of me sucking dick on Pornhub. I couldn't do anything about it because there was no profile associated with it, but I knew who uploaded it and wasn't happy. But it was just a single clip in a sea of millions of other clips of guys doing the same, and it only had about 15,000 views. My face was fully visible and I talked in it so my voice was clear. I didn't know about it for over a year and once I found it there were about 60 comments mainly saying how lucky I was to hook up with someone with a nice dick.

When Pornhub did its purge I checked my bookmark and it was removed so unless it's on another site I'm guessing it's gone for good.

[bisexualguy1978]

15 hours ago, ErosWired said:

I don’t know the specifics if the law in the Netherlands, but in the United States, you may not have had any reasonable expectation of privacy in your situation (by your account you knew perfectly well you would probably be watched and might even invite voyeurs to participate, so you could hardly say you expected to be private - in fact, a case might be made fir exhibitionism on your part). Given this, in the US, the guy with the camera might have been well within his rights to film you. Such cases are usually considered on the merits of the specific circumstances, and I’m no lawyer, but I have a hard time seeing you find much sympathy from a judge.

 I also have to ask you, if you knew that that particular area was risky for getting men harassed and beaten, wouldn’t you have put yourself at risk simply from being seen there live doing what you were doing, video or no video?

 I totally get the public fucking vibe. Some of my best experiences have been from being used in front of (and by) an audience. But I wouldn’t put myself in physical or legal danger for it. Was the risk part of the attraction?

For me it’s the same as your experience. The anonymous fucking and the fact people are watching. Btw there is no legal risk, as in that public area it is actually legally allowed. It’s somewhat complicated as in The Netherlands we have a ruling called ‘gedogen’, basically saying. “it’s is formally illegal, but it is also formally tolerated”. (bit comparable to our marihuana situation). Because it is allowed, it can be pretty busy there 🙂

Two laws apply in The Netherlands (actually more European law) for the filming.
1.       Article 10 of the European Convention on Human Rights (basically meaning freedom of expression and information gathering)
2.       Portrait rights (which is part of author rights, basically our privacy law)

In this case the guy technically is allowed to film without consent, as it takes place in a public environment.
However, he is not allowed to make it public in any way. So, if he wants to jerk of to it, he stays within his rights. The moment he makes it public (sharing it in any way), it would be against the law. Using Freedom of expression as an excuse to share, will not be succesfull in The Netherlands as the Privacy law is considered more important in that case (unless he blurrs our faces, in which case it would be allowed again)

So that’s why I mentioned I hoped he is one of the guys that jerks off to it. What does it matter if a guys jerks of to this in the privacy of his home, or on the spot where you can see him. That’s fine. Reason I responded to the situation was because I do not know his intention, I cannot assess if he wants to violate my right to privacy.

In regard to going to an area where you know people are out to harass and beat people, I can give a simple response. I don’t want to give in to ignorant people who think it’s fine to bash gay/bisexual people. I’m not scared of a confrontation, if they hurt me, I hurt them. Off course if it is 1 versus 10, then it just using common sense and avoid the situation by walking away when you feel unsafe.
Luckily the police took the situation seriously and started patrolling more, etc. The situation has improved quite a lot now.

There is a video called 'Oeverlanden' on the Xhamster website. That's the area. You can clearly see peoples faces there. In any case, you need to be careful when you have sex in public. Wether it is due to possibility of getting harmed, doing illegal stuff (if outside that area), or getting filmed.

Edited March 18, 2021 by bisexualguy1978
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[Ding]

On 18.3.2021 at 02:24, backdoorjimmy said:

Ich wurde nicht erpresst, aber ungefähr drei Jahre lang gab es einen Clip, in dem ich auf Pornhub einen Schwanz lutschte. Ich konnte nichts dagegen tun, da kein Profil damit verbunden war, aber ich wusste, wer es hochgeladen hatte und war nicht glücklich. Aber es war nur ein einziger Clip in einem Meer von Millionen anderer Clips von Leuten, die dasselbe taten, und es hatte nur ungefähr 15.000 Aufrufe. Mein Gesicht war vollständig sichtbar und ich sprach darin, so dass meine Stimme klar war. Ich wusste über ein Jahr lang nichts davon und als ich es fand, gab es ungefähr 60 Kommentare, die hauptsächlich sagten, wie viel Glück ich hatte, mich mit jemandem mit einem schönen Schwanz zu treffen.

Als Pornhub seine Bereinigung durchgeführt hat, habe ich mein Lesezeichen überprüft und es wurde entfernt. Wenn es sich also nicht auf einer anderen Website befindet, ist es vermutlich endgültig verschwunden.

Dont worry Pornhub is an Empire xvideos xhamster redtube youporn and so on is all from pornhub. So he removed this tape also from other sides. The dude behind pornhub make many sites and try to makenpornhub more official (more buissnesslike)

[gwmxyz]

On 4/1/2021 at 7:21 AM, Ding said:

Dont worry Pornhub is an Empire xvideos xhamster redtube youporn and so on is all from pornhub. So he removed this tape also from other sides. The dude behind pornhub make many sites and try to makenpornhub more official (more buissnesslike)

Somehow official and businesslike doesn't turn me on.   To remove as X-Tube did everything, without warning because it wasn't paid for porn seems daft.   I'd have thought fucking for money was a far higher risk area than doing it for pleasure.  Blackmail's never hugely worried me.  In fact a guy where I worked got into hot water once for taking clients to a strip club where he boasted that things went a lot further with the girls in some other city.  Embarrassing as it might have been, there was also a client who gave him some new business.  "I didn't know you had an office in that city until I read the strip club story" says the client.