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I will only have bareback sex so if a top insisted on a condom, I would have to turn them down.

I've met tops that said on their Grindr profile that they only practiced safe sex, but I went ahead and met them anyway.

Interestingly enough, in person, those same tops ended up willingly fucking me without a condom... and giving me their load.

 

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3 hours ago, INcumdump said:

Interestingly enough, in person, those same tops ended up willingly fucking me without a condom... and giving me their load.

I've encountered bottoms who are the same ... "safe sex only" in their Grindr/Scruff profiles, but never mention condoms once the sex starts.  My theory is that they're concerned about being "outed" to friends who may know their profiles, so they're using the socially-acceptable response to the safer-sex question.

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I always refuse hook ups that want to use a condom, I will not negotiate. I only fuck around with fellas that enjoy the sexual freedom like myself. If someone is wanting to use a condom, they know that there’s a risk and they’re afraid…and I do not like mixing those feelings with my sexual experience. I even go soft when I’m watching a good porn and see a condom being used…no matter how hard they try to hide the top of the condom with their hand. If you want to use a condom when fucking, I’m not your guy, sorry.

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On 8/4/2023 at 8:26 AM, jcklvrga said:

Are there others here like me? As a sub bottom on the one hand I don't like to turn down an interested top. But, when a top insists on condom use honestly I lose all interest in sex with them and turn them down. Do you let tops that require condoms fuck you? And the whole time someone with a condom is fucking me I cannot stop thinking the condom will come off and get stuck up my ass...have had that happen where I have to pull a condom out of my ass..hate that.

The one time that happened I was the fool insisting on it. Long story short, he didn't vocalise an orgasm but sent me to the bathroom to find the mysterious disappearing condom. It was split along most of it (and this guy had an average sized dick and wasn't rough either) and there was a lot of thick creamy fluid. I commented this to him because the lube was one of those awful thin clear water based ones.

In the past i have had a couple of neg tops insist but i think in the future I'd just challenge them to fuck me bare and if they are truly neg nothing will happen, due to me still being neg and other STIs generally being symptomatic if they are likely to spread bottom to top. If they are poz then neither of us requires protection anyway

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5 hours ago, INcumdump said:

I will only have bareback sex so if a top insisted on a condom, I would have to turn them down.

I've met tops that said on their Grindr profile that they only practiced safe sex, but I went ahead and met them anyway.

Interestingly enough, in person, those same tops ended up willingly fucking me without a condom... and giving me their load.

 

Tbh it seems like very few gays are actually pro condom. Is it all just an attempt to appease the straights?

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It’s not really a refusal cause he was never gonna fuck me, a piece of plastic was. Real Men take risks and enjoy a creamy, sloppy pussy. Raw is law! 
 

Condoms are only cool when they are found with a load still in them, but never cool when tried to use with me. 

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17 hours ago, PigFaggot2904 said:

Long time friend of mine (almost 20 years) is a huge pig & nasty piss daddy, but never fucked bareback until PrEP came along--he's in his late 50s, and he had a partner in the 1990s who died of AIDS complications.  The sex was hot, but knowing a condom was in the way, was always a bit of a buzz kill.  In addition, even in my 20s, I couldn't stay hard when fucking with a condom but it was required for sticking it in my friend's hole--his body, his boundaries.  For the first time recently, I got to feel his bare dick in my hole--all 8" of it.  It was heavenly.

Fuck yeah. A long time ago I used to hook up with a talented pig who always insisted safe sex in deference to his husband. When PrEP came along, I felt his raw welcoming fuck hole soon after. It was like topping for the first time.

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13 hours ago, valldelxeno said:

other STIs generally being symptomatic if they are likely to spread bottom to top

This is incorrect. I have got STIs as a top many times from people who were completely asymptomatic (or certainly who appeared to be - I have no way of knowing whether their ass was itching).

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