What is with hook-up sites/apps?

[NWUSHorny]

3 hours ago, hntnhole said:

That's more than just a hint .... 

But, aren't there any fuckjoints over there?  Bars (with benefits)?  Nothing "real" ?

Maybe they aren't as noticable at fuckjoints where guys are actively fucking each other, but believe it or not some of those men do go to fuckjoints to cruise guys for attention but never actually close the deal to have sex, watch to get ideas for their JO fantasies, model their fetish gear. look for a LTR partner and etc. 

[BruxoCub]

I live in the MIDDLE of West Hollywood, where one would think that there is no shortage of fag sex to find. I work from home and can make midday play time or quickies a reality, but no one ever seems to be available for now -or- always responds wayyy later when we're close to actually making shit happen. I miss the days of swapping a few pics and sending an address or a pin.

I end up busting watching Chaturbate or Pornhub most of the time when my load could be deep in a hungry mouth or hole while waiting endlessly for a response and thinking, oh, 3 hours have gone by, this isn't happening today.

This has lead me to wandring the cruising spots in the parks more often than I ever have and checking out xxxarcades. It's often more hit than miss, but at least the scene is hot and jerking off is fun on the field to me.

Bitches. lol.

[PozBearWI]

I dumped Grindr today.  Too much spam and phishing expeditions.  I was there for hookups not BS.

[ellentonboy]

19 hours ago, hntnhole said:

That's more than just a hint .... 

But, aren't there any fuckjoints over there?  Bars (with benefits)?  Nothing "real" ?

The fuckjoints have basically disappeared.  The "Flamingo Resort", which was about a mile from where I first moved here, abruptly closed and was replaced by overpriced tiny apartments.  You could cruise there, people came from all parts of the US during the winter months and during Pride.  I suppose they were offered a dollar amount they could not say no to.  That entire area, which had some run down motels where guys stayed who could not afford the Flamingo, have been filled with people who either can't afford the costs of renting an apartment or seem to be one step away from homelessness.  Those motels are also being purchased, and have new apartment complexes being built  in their place.  The most popular bathhouse in Tampa, which was there for about 15 to 20 years, did not survive Covid as well and is closed.  The one bar that came even close to having the type of activities that Ramrod is known for, called 2606 in Tampa, also remodeled and closed off it's play area.  I don't believe it's open any longer.  I can't honestly think of any bar in Saint Pete or Tampa where some kind of minor sexual activity could occur.   There is one adult book store that had a back room, interesting it was right across the street from the "Flamingo Resort" closed it's back area during Covid, anytime I drive by the parking lot it is empty now,  ABS still exist in Tampa, but that really doesn't interest me.  There is one remaining bath house, but again, I have seen postings that there are few patrons.

There is a cruise type of park near where I live, and many guys on Sniffies often post they are "hosting in their car" there.  However, I know of individuals who have been "ticketed" by undercover police for having sex in vehicles.  Since I don't wish to end up on the  Florida Sexual Offenders list, I have declined invitations to play there.

I admit I get messages on NKP, and BBRT, but I have decided to stick with the guys I have played with previously, as all the parties know what to "expect" so to speak.  The "thrill of the chase" has been overshadowed by my desire to stay out of jail.  So as far as public sex and the few remaining cruising areas, I've decided are just not worth the risk.

Tampa/St Pete is NOTHING like Lauderdale/Miami - boy do I miss my old job and having the opportunity to "patronize" some of those establishments.

[hntnhole]

Well, I'm sorry to know that.  From a lot of the responses, it seems that the days of "facilities" being almost everywhere, to a retreat to the ether-based cruising.  

I'm sorry it's devolved into such a regrettable situation ☹️   I guess I've been luckier than a lot of guys, in that I've lived in sexually wide-open places all my adult life.  

[PozBearWI]

23 hours ago, BruxoCub said:

I live in the MIDDLE of West Hollywood, where one would think that there is no shortage of fag sex to find. I work from home and can make midday play time or quickies a reality, but no one ever seems to be available for now -or- always responds wayyy later when we're close to actually making shit happen. I miss the days of swapping a few pics and sending an address or a pin.

I end up busting watching Chaturbate or Pornhub most of the time when my load could be deep in a hungry mouth or hole while waiting endlessly for a response and thinking, oh, 3 hours have gone by, this isn't happening today.

This has lead me to wandring the cruising spots in the parks more often than I ever have and checking out xxxarcades. It's often more hit than miss, but at least the scene is hot and jerking off is fun on the field to me.

Bitches. lol.

Man @BruxoCub what the heck?  If not in West Hollywood, where???  Or is that no longer a gay mecca?  I know neighborhoods change.  My old Chicago haunts have almost all moved.  I wonder the future of Steamworks.  

But, is real live man to man sex on the decline?  Could the cause of our current social unrest be "too little sex"?  Do we need a whole "Lets Fuck" campaign?  🙂

 

[VersGuyAnon]

Waste of time 

[NWUSHorny]

5 hours ago, hntnhole said:

Well, I'm sorry to know that.  From a lot of the responses, it seems that the days of "facilities" being almost everywhere, to a retreat to the ether-based cruising.  

I'm sorry it's devolved into such a regrettable situation ☹️   I guess I've been luckier than a lot of guys, in that I've lived in sexually wide-open places all my adult life.  

Make sure you check out the local scene if you ever decide to make a move. It can be quite an adjustment to move from a sexually wide open place to one that isn't ☹️

Luckily I've been traveling some recently.

[Labtmguy]

I have had good and bad luck with them. Sniffies seams to work best for me after I weed out the 100 or so flakes and picture collectors. Adam4adam in all my years I have never meet anybody from there, all talk no action.                        Grnder I have not met one person from either. 
as far as most the rest I have tried the free version a with the same zero luck. 
The sex clubs in LA seam to work pretty good for me as well. If sniffies is having an off night. 

[hntnhole]

16 hours ago, NWUSHorny said:

Make sure you check out the local scene if you ever decide to make a move

You're right.  I did that when I decided to relocate to a warmer climate.  Flew down here to Ft. L. for a few days, and that was it.  I doubt I'll relocate yet again.  

[norefusal]

6 hours ago, Labtmguy said:

I have had good and bad luck with them. Sniffies seams to work best for me after I weed out the 100 or so flakes and picture collectors. Adam4adam in all my years I have never meet anybody from there, all talk no action.                        Grnder I have not met one person from either. 
as far as most the rest I have tried the free version a with the same zero luck. 
The sex clubs in LA seam to work pretty good for me as well. If sniffies is having an off night. 

to me sniffies and grindr are separate beasts. 

to make the analogy: grindr is like a 90s gay bar, sniffies is like a 90s reststop off the highway😜

the only sites i got zero hookups from are the really niche ones like recon or buddy that cater to bdsm or chasers. 

apps: grindr was by far my best success. scruff, growlr, daddyhunt, etc were like bars in the sense i'd hookup some  as "fresh meat" but then the trail would go stale. 

adam4adam and squirt were sim, a few early hookups and then long months of "why do i bother" before not bothering 

sniffies is like the toxic ex i keep going back to. it's not healthy but hey, what's a sex addict to do

[BruxoCub]

23 hours ago, PozBearWI said:

Man @BruxoCub what the heck?  If not in West Hollywood, where???  Or is that no longer a gay mecca?  I know neighborhoods change.  My old Chicago haunts have almost all moved.  I wonder the future of Steamworks.  

But, is real live man to man sex on the decline?  Could the cause of our current social unrest be "too little sex"?  Do we need a whole "Lets Fuck" campaign?  🙂

 

Lot's of gays here who visit the clubs on the weekends.
They end up cruising local spots or lurking for a host on evenings - which is alright sometimes.

The residents, while there seems to be many gays;
most of the people in my building and on my block are straight singles or couples.
I've noticed a shift the past few years of couples trying to scoop in on this rent-controlled goodness.

Gays that are around during the day are mostly hanging around collecting pics and not-committing to a hookup,
waiting for a mythological perfect daddy, or are the same ol' same ol' daily cumdumps spun out on some drug.

This will be my 4th summer living here (love my place), but I've only had a handful of daytime hookups.
It's a damn shame! Lots of loads on my dining room floor. A few FWB's would be fun!

[NWUSHorny]

7 hours ago, norefusal said:

to make the analogy: grindr is like a 90s gay bar, sniffies is like a 90s reststop off the highway😜

If that analogy works, it would explain why I like sniffies better. In the 90s I was, and still am big on cruising the local spots for quick fucks, bar hookups usually take more time, conversation and effort. I wish sniffies worked for me locally, I do have good luck with it when I travel outside the PNW.

[norefusal]

33 minutes ago, NWUSHorny said:

If that analogy works, it would explain why I like sniffies better. In the 90s I was, and still am big on cruising the local spots for quick fucks, bar hookups usually take more time, conversation and effort. I wish sniffies worked for me locally, I do have good luck with it when I travel outside the PNW.

it's like those grab bags they used to have when we were kids, you never know what you're gonna get. hot dad in baseball w sweet dick you just drained as he leaned against his f150: could be MAGA, or could be grand marshall of the local pride parade. alll bets are off😜

[Sfmike64]

On 5/7/2024 at 8:15 PM, PozBearWI said:

I dumped Grindr today.  Too much spam and phishing expeditions.  I was there for hookups not BS.

Is it just me or have the phishing scams with Asian guys exploded in the past few months on Grindr ? They have weirdly bad English syntax. Then usually want to switch to WhatsApp. That's the giveaway for me.