Does it matter if the bottom cums?

[RotzBBengel]

22 minutes ago, NLbear said:

Being a bottom doesn't necessarily make me submissive. Yes. I do want to cum. Fuck me until I cum handsfree. I want a massive orgasm!!! And then again!

Agree. Making the bottom cum with just his dick is the best way for a Top to prove his expertise at fucking. 

[Searchingforit]

When I bottom I don't want to cum until the top has bred me because I find I lose interest after cumming. That said,  if he fucks me and I cum from the stimulation he is giving me being deep in my arse so much the better - ansl orgasm!

[Fitanoncumswallow]

Most of the time I could care less if I cum while getting fucked. If I'm at the local bookstore or random cruise spot, and I'm getting fucked I'm happy just taking as many loads as possible. I'll probably breed a random hole or feed a cocksucker when I'm ready to leave. If I'm doing a rare 1 on 1 hookup in a private setting I'll manage to get myself off. 

 

However it does feel nice cumming with you have a raw cock up your ass.

[berlin-local]

Hmm, when I bottom I ususally do not care about getting off myself.
My goal is always getting someone else off, ideally deep inside me.
That is what gives me the most pleasure in an encounter. :3

[PozPigCumDump]

On 6/23/2024 at 10:39 PM, BreedingTop71 said:

I have never really cared, I always felt the pleasure of the bottom comes from making the top breed him… never had a bottom complain, always kept coming back for more. Lately, i got into a conversation with another top and he always makes sure his bottoms cum. I thought it was dumb, but now i am curious…what do you guys think?

OP said: "I have never really cared". I assume this relates to an anonymous encounter where the bottom is there to be bred. Getting the load is good enough for the bottom. I see no obligation for the top to stick around, unless there is a personal connection.

OP said: "Lately, i got into a conversation with another top and he always makes sure his bottoms cum. I thought it was dumb..."
I believe the context matters here, so maybe there is a misinterpretation of where the sex takes place and under what circumstances. If the person who says that he makes sure that his bottoms cum was referring to a 1-1 encounter, personal, more intimate, then I don't find it "dumb" per se. But then it's also the bottom who may want to signal that he's ready to cum, so sticking around is the nice thing to do. If the bottom is happy with just the load, then I don't see the reason for the top to stick around and make sure the bottom cums. 

Since most of the encounters and breeding on this site involves insatiable bottoms (myself included), I don't see a need for the top to make sure the bottom cums. Unless there is some sort of fetish, once the top unloads, the two should part ways with no further expectations.

[hntnhole]

10 hours ago, PozPigCumDump said:

Unless there is some sort of fetish, once the top unloads, the two should part ways with no further expectations.

For me, this is the "default" position. 

Any other outcome should be mentioned prior to the fuck, and if agreeable to both, acted upon, assuming it's a 1-1 hookup.  

In the event the fuck is spectacular for one or both, sure - why not go for repeats sometime?  But that's the exception; not the rule or expectation.  

 

[allrise]

I prefer the top to just fuck and breed me and not expecting me to cum. 
In a bathhouse, I def won’t cum until I have taken several loads.

[hotguynkansas]

not in the slightest! that's where cages come in handy!

[LICMan]

As a bottom, I do not want to or care to cum. My only interest is getting my top to cum, at least once.

[Iker80]

Like shooting a load? Getting fucked properly is a total complete experience for me, so no worries if I shoot or not. First time a guy hit my prostate right I had this massive warmth coming from my prostate like a heater turned on inside it and then the pleasure. Each time it got better I thought that's the maximum, then it went better. I've felt my prostate ever since, even just squeezing my butt I can feel it in there. I think that guy found the on switch. When he shot his load and pulled out I put my legs around him and pulled him straight back in, then the second time he tried to pull out I did the same. I don't know where I was, I'd just had the best feeling I'd ever had and felt proper satisfied but also wanted more. And it wasn't like it happened once, I was in that feeling for multiple minutes at a time during parts of the fucking. That's a lot of the best feeling you've ever had. I'd have had my prostate worked more, but no way I needed to shoot a load after that. I've since had full prostate orgasms, he just had me getting close, but doesn't matter, on the edge or proper full prostate orgasm, I'm a happy guy by the end and don't need to shoot a load.

But nothing wrong with a guy wanting to shoot a load. A fun spanish guy I've been meeting recently likes spooning, me fucking him, kissing and me wanking and edging him. He likes being taken care of and made to cum. We cum together same time. Another guy I play with, he likes to focus on getting fucked but then wank afterwards, he says he has extra intense orgasms after getting fucked. Other guys I top, some want to cum, some don't. I think go with the mood, see what a guy likes. But don't expect, for some of us like me we'd just being doing it to check a box not because we need it.