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It’s easier to have an open relationship than to deal with the stress of getting caught cheating.

The times I cheated that was on a bf who only liked vanilla sex.  I love assplay, and he just wouldn’t engage in it—so, after a long time of not getting any, I found someone when on a work trip and it blew my mind.  I had to keep feeling that level of pleasure—so I kept on cheating for assplay.

Once I broke up with my bf, I decided one quality I needed to have for any future bf was no sexual hangups.  That rule has worked well.

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No NEED TO CHEAT when you are both turned on by total promiscuity and your partner being a slut. Basically we granted each other LICENCE TO WHORE & SCORE! BEFORE MARRIAGE! Sometimes we play together, sometimes we don't.

As liberal and limitless as that appears, there have to be boundaries, agreed upon RED FLAGS and SAFETY HATCHES!

Not neurotic shit like NO KISSING or PLAYING TOGETHER ONLY!

But for example: neediness, clinginess, couch-surfers wanting to BECOME THE THIRD but contributing nothing! And no old school hypocrite-hetero, religiously-confused, politically-populist attitudes.  say no more, hush my mouth) 

Amateurs and newbies with goo-goo eyes for just one over the other. Typically confirmed after  the first or second trick session... (really more into ONE-ON-ONE even passed the first hookup), aka aspiring monogamists, guys with evasive attitudes towards one or the other, partner-poachers wanting to BE WITH ONE of us in a relationship...

And for me the all-time dislike... the sneaking around, avoiding me, not responding at all (as an alleged REAL FRIENDLY would and hitting up on my partner when a certain one I'm thinking of, a congenital CHEATER (ex-Jehova cultist) knows I'm asleep. 

Dumb motherfuckers could HAVE THEIR COCK AND EAT IT TOO but seemingly needs the thrill of being a snake!

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3 hours ago, rawsatyr said:

No NEED TO CHEAT when you are both turned on by total promiscuity and your partner being a slut. Basically we granted each other LICENCE TO WHORE & SCORE! BEFORE MARRIAGE! Sometimes we play together, sometimes we don't.

As liberal and limitless as that appears, there have to be boundaries, agreed upon RED FLAGS and SAFETY HATCHES!

Not neurotic shit like NO KISSING or PLAYING TOGETHER ONLY!

But for example: neediness, clinginess, couch-surfers wanting to BECOME THE THIRD but contributing nothing! And no old school hypocrite-hetero, religiously-confused, politically-populist attitudes.  say no more, hush my mouth) 

Amateurs and newbies with goo-goo eyes for just one over the other. Typically confirmed after  the first or second trick session... (really more into ONE-ON-ONE even passed the first hookup), aka aspiring monogamists, guys with evasive attitudes towards one or the other, partner-poachers wanting to BE WITH ONE of us in a relationship...

And for me the all-time dislike... the sneaking around, avoiding me, not responding at all (as an alleged REAL FRIENDLY would and hitting up on my partner when a certain one I'm thinking of, a congenital CHEATER (ex-Jehova cultist) knows I'm asleep. 

Dumb motherfuckers could HAVE THEIR COCK AND EAT IT TOO but seemingly needs the thrill of being a snake!

Not that I disagree with your general, overall point of negotiating an open relationship early on, but...

And not that I want to disparage any choices you've made that work for the two of you (seriously!), but...

I don't see the need to yuck other people's yum, so to speak, for agreeing to rules that both can live with, like "playing together only." That's not my rule, but for some people, that's what it takes to be comfortable with openness, and if that works for both of them, who am I to tell them it's "neurotic shit"?

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On 7/2/2024 at 4:33 AM, craems said:

I love my partner very much, unfortunately I also really love letting strangers use me up. I have a few rules that I try to follow and I was wondering if any other cheaters have any rules to they’ve set for themselves. 
 

I never invite strangers over when my partner is home/sleeping. I have a couple regulars who breed me in my garage late at night because that’s the only time they can get away from their wives but other than that I don’t risk it. You never know who’s on the apps late at night and the chance that they might bring drama or possibly get me caught just isn’t worth it. 
 

I never leave cum inside of me when I’m around my partner. If I’m out while he’s at home, and I end up getting bred, I always stop somewhere and empty my hole out before I’m around him. Same thing with when I’m ass up if he’s at work. I always fart out the loads before he gets home. Even though it is torture wasting that cum, there’s simply no explaining an ass full of stranger cum to a partner if they catch it. So I don’t risk it.
 

I also usually don’t let guys kiss me when they’re fucking me. Even though it’s ironic, I know it’s the thing my partner would hate the most so I try not to do it. I do break my rule for older white guys though. They’re just the best kissers to me lol

Does anyone else have any rules they follow when cheating?  

I do not follow those or any other rules when I’m cheating. I’m married to a woman so cum in my ass is not a big deal. My wife is not gonna say I’m glad you didn’t kiss while cheating n

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On 9/25/2024 at 11:11 PM, JamesL100 said:

I'd be interested to read from a cheated partner if he thinks it's fun

Back when I first started getting into gay sex I had a GF I was living with who would go for a night out with the girls. She would come home with that delicious aroma of sex on her. Her panties would be soaked. I would greet her with an erection and a kiss while wondering how many dicks had been in her mouth that night. We would immediately head for the bedroom for some very hot love-making. The taste of her pussy loaded with cum was a HUGE turn-on for me.

We never talked about it but we both knew the game we were playing. I would also play around on her. There was a guy I was bottoming for and I would come home with a load or two in my ass. After getting fucked by him I would have an intense craving for straight sex and would simply just have to fuck her, maybe subconsciously I was compensating for having gay sex. I didn't spend much time thinking about it, none worrying about it, just enjoying it. This was pre-AIDS.

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