What's it like being hiv wish I was

[Eddie1281]

Hi there I'm Danny from Liverpool UK always wanted to be poz but can't find any guy that wants to do it all I get is jokers pretending to be poz Ami in a minority of the ones that want to be poz it's not like I want to spread it around as I'm a bottom just do t want to go in to 2025 neg and a virgin meaning never been with a guy I have been with a woman and there nasty miss can anyone help me please please 

[Bear4Breeding]

Honestly Danny. Stay Neg as long as you can.  That is just my opinion.

[1hornyjohn]

Hi Danny

I'm poz and have been since 2020. I'm on meds and undetectable.  Every 6 months I visit Dean Street clinic in London for sexual health check and to get another 6 months supply of meds.

Otherwise my life, sexual and non sexual, is much the same. In one way, I no longer worry about HIV because I've got it! But with the advent of PrEP you can live a more exciting sex life (that said,  get checked for STIs and treated if necessary). Not sure I'd deliberately try to get pozzed nowadays.  

If you are poz and on meds, life is a bit more complicated and inconvenient.  

[hntnhole]

On 12/11/2024 at 6:07 AM, 1hornyjohn said:

Not sure I'd deliberately try to get pozzed nowadays

Thanks for that interesting perspective, 1hornyjohn.

When a guy comes to the conclusion that he's able to get all the sleazy sex he wants, and do so in relative safety from serious illness, why not enjoy that advantage?  Yes, there are medications that will preserve life, and allow a guy to indulge in sexual behavior that he needs in relatively good health.  Yes, there are occasional infections from the lesser bugs that have been around forever, and are easily treated.  But virtually complete protection from a disease that ripped through our community, killing many and emotionally injuring countless more, is an enormous accomplishment.  

We should be thanking whatever we pray to that we can continue our fantastically beautiful lives, in whatever way we need to live those lives, and in relatively great sexual health.  

[PozBearWI]

On 12/11/2024 at 5:07 AM, 1hornyjohn said:

Hi Danny

I'm poz and have been since 2020. I'm on meds and undetectable.  Every 6 months I visit Dean Street clinic in London for sexual health check and to get another 6 months supply of meds.

Otherwise my life, sexual and non sexual, is much the same. In one way, I no longer worry about HIV because I've got it! But with the advent of PrEP you can live a more exciting sex life (that said,  get checked for STIs and treated if necessary). Not sure I'd deliberately try to get pozzed nowadays.  

If you are poz and on meds, life is a bit more complicated and inconvenient.  

I would add being poz and not on meds has its inconvenience as well.  

[NWUSHorny]

I found out I was a HIV positive and had stage 4 cancer at the same time. As someone who never wanted to be HIV positive and as someone who at age 55 still hopes to live and enjoy many more years of life, I think you need to consider some of the implications that may come from your decision:

HIV will very likely have a negative impact on your health and lead to a premature death if left untreated

While treatments are improving, they still have negative side effects for some individuals, and some individuals develop resistant strains

If you have another health issue, your HIV treatment may prevent or hinder the treatment for the other issue

That being said almost 7 years after my dual diagnosis I'm still alive and healthy again. I'm also fully able and do indulge in risky sexual activities without worrying about catching HIV, but I could be doing the same thing with the benefit of PREP. However with PREP, I would be able to suspend the treatment if I had another health crisis or side effects from the treatment, which is no longer an option since I am HIV positive. For me at least it is worth noting that I would pursue the cure that several cancer patients have achieved if my cancer were to recur. I'm told if I do have a recurrence my only viable treatment option would be for a stem cell transplant, and at least for me it would be worth pursuing a donor that has genetic resistance to HIV.

[1hornyjohn]

1 hour ago, PozBearWI said:

I would add being poz and not on meds has its inconvenience as well.  

True but I didn't want to give the impression life as a poz man on meds is a total bowl of cherries. It's certainly much better in the 2020s than it was 10, 15, 20 or more years ago.

[Poz50something]

On 12/12/2024 at 3:07 PM, hntnhole said:

 

When a guy comes to the conclusion that he's able to get all the sleazy sex he wants, and do so in relative safety from serious illness, why not enjoy that advantage? 

 I would have given my left arsecheek to have had Prep when I embarked on a rather nihilistic periods where I raw fucked anyone. The end result was a positive diagnosis. Prep is a godsend, because it's being responsible, and piggy at the same time. But so is Doxyprep. It's pretty much a prevention against bacterial sexually transmissible diseases.

 Yes, there are occasional infections from the lesser bugs that have been around forever, and are easily treated.  

I wouldn't consider Hep B or A to be a lesser disease. For several months after I go Hep B, I was really sick and weak. The thing is - there are plenty of really debilitating incurable diseases such as Hep C or HPV that aren't tiddlywinks. Yes Hep C is also associated with intravenous drug use, but there have been cases where patients have transmitted the disease via sex.  

 

[hntnhole]

Thanks for pointing that out, Poz50something.  

I'm old enough to remember when hiv first appeared, and I suppose the abject horror those of us active at the time went through has not completely cleared my mind.  At this point, I doubt it ever will. 

I suppose almost all of us of a certain <polite cough> age will ever be truly rid of those hellish memories.  The flip side though, is how deeply thankful we are for the advances in healthcare, starting relatively short time after the horrors appeared, and continuing to advance the state of the medical arts to this day.