Selfish Bottoms

[Tiboer]

Are you a selfish bottom?

Some bottoms want all the attention on them so work to dissuade the other bottoms by making them feel bad about themselves.

I’ve heard “you smell,” “you haven’t cleaned out well enough,” “He’s not that into you.”

Hilariously, now when I look back on it, when I was sucking another bottom, he let out a loud scream, “Ouch!  You hurt me!”  It was ridiculous at the time because I know my mouth did nothing of the sort—but it killed the mood and I soon left.

A few times, when my then-bf would have a third over, that third would try to diminish me in front of my bf.  Seriously? Do you think my bf is going to throw me aside and fixate on you?

[blackrobe]

17 hours ago, Tiboer said:

Are you a selfish bottom?

Some bottoms want all the attention on them so work to dissuade the other bottoms by making them feel bad about themselves.

I’ve heard “you smell,” “you haven’t cleaned out well enough,” “He’s not that into you.”

Hilariously, now when I look back on it, when I was sucking another bottom, he let out a loud scream, “Ouch!  You hurt me!”  It was ridiculous at the time because I know my mouth did nothing of the sort—but it killed the mood and I soon left.

A few times, when my then-bf would have a third over, that third would try to diminish me in front of my bf.  Seriously? Do you think my bf is going to throw me aside and fixate on you?

In my opinion what you are describing isn't selfish behavior, it's asshole behavior. 

Bottoms who play these games deserve long-lasting censure, throw them out, give them no dick, and spread the word. At an ABS I've had a guy tell me I'm not clean when I know I'm definitely clean and lubed to a depth of 10 inches. A tall athletic man with a hefty 9" dick said I looked and smelled good to him, and fucked and bred me in front of the other guy. I was clean as a whistle and his nut felt amazing when he came. Guy watching sour-faced? Total Asshole.

I was on my knees sucking a daddy newly arrived from work at a group event. I was sucking him to relieve his work stress and get him in the mood for the evening. An asshole bottom literally tried to take the man's dick out of my mouth so he could have it. Both of us were appalled at his behavior. So much so, the daddy (he was the most hung guy there) pushed him away and loudly promised me his load after he'd tried out some other holes, a promise he kept.

Being polite, piggy, and prepared isn't just good manners, it's good for your reputation. That hung daddy and I get together and have epic daddy/son fucks now.

[Rillion]

Selfish bottoms are the ones that arrive early and camp out in the sling at the sex club and stay there forever, even when no one is giving them any attention. 

[Falls727]

Just now, Rillion said:

Selfish bottoms are the ones that arrive early and camp out in the sling at the sex club and stay there forever, even when no one is giving them any attention. 

I absolutely fucking hate that!! When you ask them to move they get pissy. You don’t own the sling and not every guy wants to fuck you. Get over yourself and let others get fucked and bred in the sling. 

[verbalBTTM]

Selfish bottom's are a serious mood killer. Last time I was at paddles for a cum union party, there was this one guy who would try to break into any scene of guys messing around just to try to steal some dick.

 

I was playing with this one guy and I was slapping my cock on his hole when that guy came over and grabbed my cock & just looked right at me. As if I forget to put his fries in his bag and wouldn't leave. After a minute of this, the guy I was playing with decided to go upstairs to get back into things next to 3 others guys messing around. Again just as I'm fucking this guys mouth to get hard again I see the same guy come up the stairs, then starts to interrupt a pretty hot scene. After that my dick could smell the desperation and I was just done for the night. Months later I hooked up with the guy I was messing around and I asked about what happened after I left. He said that guy just bothered everyone. 

 

Anyway the point of this rant is to say if you're in total bottom mode I get it, you need dick. However you're not the only one and sometimes there's a good reason you're not getting why no one is fucking you. Don't be selfish, desperate, or try having some courtesy for other men in need.

[hntnhole]

One easy answer to the problem, would be Tops simply avoiding him in the first place ..... or withdrawing when that issue rears it's homely head. 

We Tops aren't that far away - we can hear it too.  

 

[hungry_hole]

On 7/11/2025 at 12:20 PM, Falls727 said:

I absolutely fucking hate that!! When you ask them to move they get pissy.

When I see a bottom taking over a sling or fuck bench, I always try to make him cum, and when he does, he's gone and I can jump in. 

[verbalBTTM]

8 minutes ago, hungry_hole said:

When I see a bottom taking over a sling or fuck bench, I always try to make him cum, and when he does, he's gone and I can jump in. 

Dude that's like employing the $2.00 move on the price is right. Fucking brilliant 

[TightBott7]

As I favor Alpha tops, it’s from them that I hear complaints about selfish bottoms, mostly about about having to be fucked in a certain way or bottoms who promise to take a hard pounding but then cum while they are being fucked and ask the top to stop the fuck because it hurts.

[nanana]

Probably different times and situations call for the butt-centric theatrical bottoms versus bottoms that want a connection with the man behind the dick and  what non-stereotypical archetypes please him. 

[TownTravellerMan]

On 7/10/2025 at 4:39 PM, Tiboer said:

 

Hilariously, now when I look back on it, when I was sucking another bottom, he let out a loud scream, “Ouch!  You hurt me!”  It was ridiculous at the time because I know my mouth did nothing of the sort—but it killed the mood and I soon left.

What the hell?

Where the hell do you run into these mean girl bottoms lol. 

If i recall in the past I never ran into pushy bottoms. I did see bottoms camped out bent over or in slings at like fuck events. But they didn't stay there the whole time. They just seemed more like professional or dedicated to wanting to take loads which is respectful. 

I'm curious of the age of the bottoms you interacted with. Bottoms throwing schoolyard lunchtime insults is absolutely wild. 

That kinda does make me nervous with more group play. I had a bottom take an opportunity I passed and didn't take with a guy i was playing with and got hard but that was on me. They weren't rude or mean either. I guess I was really lucky in the past at group parties or orgies or fuck events bottoms were respectful. 

I still am iffy on an encounter of a hot top signaling me to follow him into a room and a bottom kinda rushed passed me and went into the room with the top but locked the door. Even though the situation still ended in my favor because I got together with him and got fucked by him. 

I didn't need any more reasons to be nervous of group play but reading all this gives me more caution lol. 

[phillygwm]

On 7/17/2025 at 2:57 PM, hungry_hole said:

When I see a bottom taking over a sling or fuck bench, I always try to make him cum, and when he does, he's gone and I can jump in. 

But after he's cum is the best time to fuck him! 🤣

On 7/10/2025 at 4:39 PM, Tiboer said:

A few times, when my then-bf would have a third over, that third would try to diminish me in front of my bf.  Seriously? Do you think my bf is going to throw me aside and fixate on you?

This is a surefire way not to get invited back.  I'm a top and I hate rejection as much as anyone but if someone has made it clear that he isn't into me, I move on.  Usually somebody will want my dick, even if we're not each others' first choice.  

Whether someone is a top or bottom is beside the point.  Assholes are assholes.