blackrobe Posted 1 hour ago Report Posted 1 hour ago 24 minutes ago, PozBearWI said: Indeed, for a long time I've struggled to understand how sex with an adult would have damaged me. One of the coaches in high school was a stud I craved, even when I didn't really understand why. I find it hard to believe that if he had made a first move; or if I had (obviously I wasn't ready, brave enough, or such); that would have somehow damaged me. Sex at its core is something we discover. It seems to me by design to be a trial and error, trial and succeed sort of human experience. [...] I totally get being strongly drawn to someone and not even being able to articulate why or connect it with sex. That describes me pretty well before I was raped as a kid. The impact of your first sex isn't the kind of thing you can imagine, regardless of who initiates. Lots of factors play into whether it's an ecstatic or traumatic experience. Quote
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