At what point does a bottom become a cumdump?

[Cumeslave]

When I started taking dicks and loads through GH I considered myself a cumdump. From safe only to any load any time went pretty fast!

[phillygwm]

I've always thought of a cumdump as someone with few/no standards.  They're there to take on all cummers.  Often face down/ass up and impersonal.  I'm merely a sperm donor and they're a human fleshlight.  Cumdumps are there for body count.  Not someone you cuddle/make out with.

[hntnhole]

On 8/14/2025 at 5:05 PM, PozBearWI said:

Damn, I hate that all the "sauna's" have closed in Wisconsin.  Maybe things will change given President slut and they'll reopen? 

Maybe - I hope  you're right.  But, given P.S's track record, he'll keep deflecting until his last breath.  Somehow though, I doubt he'd spare any group of people, if he had a moment's worth of thought that he could demean any particular subset of Americans  and save his own corpulent ass. 

[rawfuckingonly]

51 minutes ago, hntnhole said:

Maybe - I hope  you're right.  But, given P.S's track record, he'll keep deflecting until his last breath.  Somehow though, I doubt he'd spare any group of people, if he had a moment's worth of thought that he could demean any particular subset of Americans  and save his own corpulent ass. 

The President doesn’t give a shit about closed gay bathhouses in Wisconsin. 

Edited 11 hours ago by rawfuckingonly

[TownTravellerMan]

This is such a great question and people have great responses. It's something I'm either trying to figure out myself. I did get pretty good advice a little while ago basically someone telling me it's okay to be a whore,  slut, or cumdump if you want. Just be sex positive about what you want to be and not let others judge you. I have never really heard the term sex positive before but I love it. 

I did used to think about getting fucked everyday and I did the prep. Would follow a routine to clean myself out every morning and then be online constantly looking for the next hunt or load or go to bars or clubs and get load counts. Hell I had a system and a good amount of fuck buds and I could sort of plan to start the night getting fucked by a top who liked to fuck quick and was one and done and then go to another top that liked loads in me and liked to add one or two. This is before going to either hook up with someone or several guys or going to a bar or bath house like place and take multiple guys/loads. And yes bending over in a bar or public place was so easy for me to get many guys to fuck and breed me that I lost count of loads sometimes. 

So strange I rarely caught anything lol prep was just coming out back then and not really available. As fun as it was the issue with being a cumdump for me was letting it take control over everything. Waking up and just focusing on trying to find someone to hook up with or moving onto so many different guys and not really appreciating the ones I had. The hunt has always been fun or interesting whether online or in person. But it can be tiring on all fronts. 

The reputation thing is also spot on. The reputation of being a cum dump is something you need to own I think. It's probably harder if you don't have a lot of friends or support. Then you have to deal with however guys percive you. But what someone mentioned about a cumdump being someone you don't take home and cuddle just fuck somewhere and leave can definitely be true. 

But maybe things have kinda changed on views of cum dumps now. Maybe because prep exists, it's really common especially when you see it in public bars or bath houses. Also the guys that are being the biggest cum dumps are usually really attractive so that in itself might keep away some of the stigma. Because in a sense being a whore or slut has been kinda trendy in the past especially those who can pull it off. 

Eh. I already know why I kinda can't be one right now. Several reasons. But me saying that sort of feels like I'm repressing it which I think I am. I'm not doing it to make myself look better or feel better or superior by not being one especially in public. At the same time this is always something I wondered about it in the back of my mind in the past and even currently. But what if someone potentially that might be a fun hook up, friendship or more saw you out being a cum dump and their opinion of them lowered. 

Well while I just thought of this using some common rationale what are they doing at a place where guys hook up and whore around whether public or not. And if they do judge you for that then they probably are not someone you really want to get with because their view on sex like that might be negative. 

I've always been iffy about dark rooms though. They can be fun but It's always amazed me how some guys might not want anything to do with you in a bar or public place or just in the light. But in a dark room even if they see you going in they might follow and play with you. And after might go back on not wanting anything to do with you. 

I know that's not every guy and every situation but I've noticed it in the past. Or more recently. I've also had the experience at book stores where in a room a guy is really intimate or passionate regardless of what act involved in they state some kind of limit like "Oh I don't fuck guys in places like this or no I don't do that with guys here". But then again they are also at the place. 

I am probably overthinking all this way too much. I had clear and concise thoughts in my head but thinking of everything is becoming foggy. It could be with my situation where I am kinda "free" that maybe I'm letting it lots of repressed feeling and actions i couldn't do over these past years. Ironically someone I spoke to recently I told him a little of my experiences lately and he told me I'm a cum dump in a good way though. I told him this is light compared to how I used to be and his response was "light". I just might not be able to escape it. 

I wonder if being subservient natured sexually kinda fates or leads you into it. I can easily tell from past, present and future that if I run into a top that wants to whore me out I will not turn them down. I mean I've already kinda shown that. 

That makes me kind of wonder if you take any and all loads if a top orders you and you do it be subservient if that also makes you a cum dump. This was probably too much on this but I've thought about all of this way too much. Next my thoughts on couples with open relationships but I think I'll wait until I play with one again I need a refresher.