"Side" Status on Profiles

[Iker80]

I also am finding guys online now who ask me to hug with them. That's everything they want they say. Being tall and big I think they like me for that. I'm curious what they're about. Are they gay or bi? I mean they're on an app for men so probably somewhere in that place, but just hugging isn't a type of sex. And I know guys can hug as friends, I have some experience of that. It was sleeping/hugging fully clothed and didn't cross any weird boundaries. I'm sure he's fully straight.

[TownTravellerMan]

1 hour ago, Iker80 said:

I also am finding guys online now who ask me to hug with them. That's everything they want they say. Being tall and big I think they like me for that. I'm curious what they're about. Are they gay or bi? I mean they're on an app for men so probably somewhere in that place, but just hugging isn't a type of sex. And I know guys can hug as friends, I have some experience of that. It was sleeping/hugging fully clothed and didn't cross any weird boundaries. I'm sure he's fully straight.

The younger thing you mentioned before makes sense. And yeah anal can take prep work and time but I don't mind the prep because the payoff is worth it. 

That's actually kinda wild. Do they message you and be like "let's hug". I have not come across that. You are right that's not sexual. I don't really have preference for tall or short but maybe some guys like tall guys. 

Do their profiles say if they are straight or gay or etc. Some have the option for cis now which is kinda crazy. I assume that means straight? Lol

[FelchingPisser]

1 hour ago, TownTravellerMan said:

...Some have the option for cis now which is kinda crazy. I assume that means straight? Lol

Cis is being born the sex you say are as opposed to what you have transitioned to.

[Lilyjameson]

I always thought the guys who call themselves sides in these apps have a problem figuring out their sexuality so I just ignore and block them.

[Iker80]

1 hour ago, TownTravellerMan said:

The younger thing you mentioned before makes sense. And yeah anal can take prep work and time but I don't mind the prep because the payoff is worth it. 

That's actually kinda wild. Do they message you and be like "let's hug". I have not come across that. You are right that's not sexual. I don't really have preference for tall or short but maybe some guys like tall guys. 

Do their profiles say if they are straight or gay or etc. Some have the option for cis now which is kinda crazy. I assume that means straight? Lol

It's like that, they ask to hug without asking for other things. It's a recent thing for me. I haven't taken a guy up on the idea, I'm not sure what to think about it. But I do think wanting to be hugged can make bigger guys seem better because they fit easier around you. Some I see are gay or bi, others unknown. My only hugging with a known straight guy is my stepbrother. It happened first when we were at the cabin and it was very cold and he was ill. We had clothes on because it was cold, even with the blankets, and we wouldn't hug naked anyway. Sometimes when we're out there and it's cold we still do. He likes it, it just is something that sometimes happens. I know it's nice to feel safe and that's all for him, and that's all I want it to be. I don't think that feeling would happen with a random guy though, but also I think maybe to feel safe is what the guys online want? However, the difference is we know each other properly and I always look after him. So it's different when I hug him vs. a guy you don't know from online. But of course people will have to accept what they can get when they have needs.

Cis is the opposite of trans, it means you're born the gender you are. It actually has no connection with sexuality. I'm a cis man and bi.

[YVRbugchaser]

I'm not sexually compatible with 'sides' so I avoid them and usually block them.  

[drscorpio]

The hookup apps (and the dating ones too) are all about finding someone who wants to do the things you enjoy doing. I don't mind guys who don't do anal having a term to make it clear where they stand. I would rather the sides find one another; that sounds like less frustration for them and for those of us who think fucking is the most important part.