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I was inspired by the discussion of what defined "pig sex" in this thread.  There have been other discussions where same terms have been used to mean different things.  So, I turned to AI to ask - "What are the top 1000 slang terms used by gay men in the US since 1960s" and had them organized by recency and prevalence.  Prevalence was a measurement of how frequently these words occurred in gay online forums/sites within the last 20 years, ranked HIGH, MEDIUM, LOW.

THERE ARE VERY FEW TERMS on this list that I've ever heard and certainly never used.  Have you?

What slang terms are missing?  Comment below.

SLANG TERM, DEFINITION, and ORIGIN
** 100-footer **  DEFINITION: An obviously gay or lesbian person (as if visible from 100 feet away)  ORIGIN: US, mid-20th century, likely from gay communities to describe flamboyance
** 420-Friendly **  DEFINITION: Weed-friendly **** Open to weed use  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** AC/DC **  DEFINITION: Bisexual  ORIGIN: 1970s, US/UK, from the rock band or electricity (alternating/direct current) symbolizing both ways
** Ace-flux **  DEFINITION: Fluctuating asexuality  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Achillean **  DEFINITION: An umbrella term for attractions and relationships between men, regardless of their sexual or romantic orientation  ORIGIN: Recent, 2010s, referencing ancient Greek mythology (Achilles) and Leonardo da Vinci's sexuality; also known as MLM (man-loving-man)
** Aftercare **  DEFINITION: Emotional/physical care post-scene **** Emotional care **** Dominant partner  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Alice Blue Gown **  DEFINITION: Effeminate gay man  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, US, possibly from a song or color associated with delicacy
** Alpha pup **  DEFINITION: Leader pup  ORIGIN: Pup play
** Anal assassin **  DEFINITION: Slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: 2000s, UK/US, derogatory term implying aggressive anal sex
** Anon pic **  DEFINITION: Anonymous body photo  ORIGIN: App culture
** Aromantic **  DEFINITION: No romantic attraction  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Arse bandit **  DEFINITION: Slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: 1980s, UK, derogatory from "arse" (ass) and bandit implying theft or invasion
** Artiste **  DEFINITION: A gay man who excels at fellatio  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, US gay slang
** Asexual **  DEFINITION: No sexual attraction  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Auntie **  DEFINITION: An older, often effeminate and gossipy gay man  ORIGIN: Early 20th century, US/UK gay slang
** Baby gay **  DEFINITION: Someone who’s newly out and is generally pretty clueless about everything **** Newly out or inexperienced gay person  ORIGIN: 2010s, modern queer slang, from coming out experiences **** 2000s–2010s slang
** Baby queen **  DEFINITION: New or inexperienced drag queen  ORIGIN: Drag culture
** Backgammon player **  DEFINITION: Slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: Late 18th century, Britain, from backgammon as euphemism for sodomy
** Banjee **  DEFINITION: Street-tough, urban style; often masc, working-class  ORIGIN: Black and Latinx queer communities
** Bareback **  DEFINITION: Condomless sex  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s porn and hookup slang
** Basket shopping **  DEFINITION: Checking out a man's crotch through clothing  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, British/US gay slang, "basket" refers to the bulge
** Bathhouse / Baths **  DEFINITION: Gay male sex club with saunas, rooms, etc.  ORIGIN: Early–mid 20th century urban gay culture
** Bathhouse Betty **  DEFINITION: Man who spends a lot of time at bathhouses  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century bar slang
** Baths **  DEFINITION: Bathhouses frequented by gay men for sexual encounters  ORIGIN: US, mid-20th century, from gay bathhouse culture
** Bathsheba **  DEFINITION: Gay man who frequents bathhouses  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, US, play on "baths" and biblical name
** Batty boy **  DEFINITION: Slur for a gay or effeminate man  ORIGIN: 1990s, Jamaica/UK, from "batty" meaning bottom
** BB / Bareback **  DEFINITION: Condomless sex; raw sex  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s
** Beach bitch **  DEFINITION: A gay man who frequents beaches and resorts for sexual encounters  ORIGIN: US, mid-20th century
** Bean queen **  DEFINITION: Man attracted to Latino men  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century fetishizing slang
** Bear **  DEFINITION: Hairy, chunky, chubby, muscly, beardy gay man, often with big bellies **** Large, hairy, rugged gay man  ORIGIN: 1980s, US gay subculture, from bear-like appearance; popularized in Bear Magazine **** Late 1970s–80s; Bear Magazine and bar culture
** Bear Chub **  DEFINITION: Larger man seeking bears  ORIGIN: 
** Bear daddy **  DEFINITION: Older bear with daddy vibe  ORIGIN: Bear subculture
** Bear4Bear **  DEFINITION: Bears seeking bears  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** Beard **  DEFINITION: A person used as a date, romantic partner, or spouse to conceal one's sexual orientation **** Person used to hide sexuality  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, US, from "bearding" to hide identity **** 1990s–present
** Beat **  DEFINITION: An area frequented by gay men, where sexual acts occur; also, looking flawless (face or body)  ORIGIN: Australia for location (mid-20th century); for compliment, from drag/ballroom culture, 1980s-1990s US
** Bedroom queen **  DEFINITION: Queen who mostly does drag at home/online  ORIGIN: Social media era
** Beefcake **  DEFINITION: Muscular, attractive gay man  ORIGIN: 1940s, US, from "beefcake" photos of muscular men
** Beige Flag **  DEFINITION: Keeping someone on hold  ORIGIN: 
** Belle **  DEFINITION: Young gay man  ORIGIN: 1920s-1930s, US Prohibition era slang
** Benching **  DEFINITION: Keeping someone on hold  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Bent **  DEFINITION: Gay, as opposed to straight  ORIGIN: UK, early 20th century, from "bent" meaning crooked or not straight
** Beta pup **  DEFINITION: Submissive pup  ORIGIN: Pup play
** Binding **  DEFINITION: A technique in which individuals wear tight clothing to hide and flatten breasts  ORIGIN: 1990s-2000s, transgender and queer communities
** Bisexual **  DEFINITION: A person emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to both men and women  ORIGIN: Late 19th century, medical/psychological term; entered common use in 1960s-1970s with bisexual movement
** Block **  DEFINITION: Remove user  ORIGIN: App feature
** Body pic? **  DEFINITION: Request for body photo  ORIGIN: App culture
** Body'ody'ody **  DEFINITION: Emphasizing impressive body **** Emphasizing impressive physique  ORIGIN: Drag and pop culture slang **** Drag/pop culture
** Boi **  DEFINITION: Youthful, androgynous or submissive person  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s queer and kink communities
** Bona **  DEFINITION: Good, attractive  ORIGIN: Polari; more UK-centric but known among some US queer history buffs
** Bondage bottom **  DEFINITION: Submissive in bondage  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Bondage pig **  DEFINITION: Person who loves heavy bondage  ORIGIN: Kink
** Bondage top **  DEFINITION: Dominant in bondage  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Boot worship **  DEFINITION: Boot-focused kink  ORIGIN: Leather scene
** Bootblack **  DEFINITION: Person who shines boots at leather events  ORIGIN: Leather culture
** Boots **  DEFINITION: A verbal exclamation point added to statements for emphasis **** Intensifier meaning “very”  ORIGIN: 2010s, from ballroom/drag culture, US **** Drag culture
** Bop **  DEFINITION: An amazing, ass-shaking, and/or iconic song  ORIGIN: 2010s, modern queer slang
** Bottom **  DEFINITION: A receptive partner in intercourse **** Receptive or submissive sexual role; Submissive partner; Feminine-coded role  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, US gay slang from sexual positions **** 20th-century gay sexual slang
** Boy **  DEFINITION: Younger or submissive partner  ORIGIN: Long-standing; used in leather and BDSM contexts
** Brat **  DEFINITION: Sub who playfully resists  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Brat Tamer **  DEFINITION: Dom who handles brats  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Breadcrumbing **  DEFINITION: Leading someone on  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Bro (gay context) **  DEFINITION: Casual, masculine gay man  ORIGIN: 2000s–2010s
** Bromance **  DEFINITION: Intense but non-sexual male friendship; often used jokingly in gay contexts  ORIGIN: 2000s mainstream slang
** Bromosexual **  DEFINITION: Straight-presenting man with strong gay friendships or a gay man with “bro” vibe  ORIGIN: 2010s pop slang
** Brosexual / Bromosexual **  DEFINITION: Gay man with “bro” vibe  ORIGIN: 2010s slang
** Browning **  DEFINITION: Anal sex  ORIGIN: 1920s, US gay slang
** Bug party **  DEFINITION: Gathering centered on HIV transmission fetish (very niche)  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century underground slang
** Bugchaser **  DEFINITION: Person seeking HIV infection (controversial, stigmatized)  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century underground slang
** Bug-phobic **  DEFINITION: Fearful of HIV-positive people (stigmatizing)  ORIGIN: Community slang
** Bull queer **  DEFINITION: A gay man who exclusively tops in intercourse  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, prison slang
** Bum chum **  DEFINITION: Slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: UK slang, from "bum" (ass) and chum (friend)
** Bumder **  DEFINITION: Rare slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: UK slang, blend of bum and bender
** Bummer **  DEFINITION: Slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: UK slang, from bum
** Bussy **  DEFINITION: Portmanteau of "boy pussy"; a male anus in anal sex context  ORIGIN: 2000s-2010s, US queer slang, popularized online
** Busted **  DEFINITION: Messy, unkempt, or poorly presented  ORIGIN: 2010s, from drag culture
** Butch **  DEFINITION: A person who identifies as masculine **** Masculine-presenting queer person (often lesbian, but used among gay men too)  ORIGIN: 1940s-1950s, lesbian communities but applies to gay men **** Early 20th century; popularized via working-class and bar cultures
** Butchy femme **  DEFINITION: A gender expression between femme and futch  ORIGIN: 2010s, queer gender terms
** Cake **  DEFINITION: The booty  ORIGIN: 2010s, modern slang
** Camp **  DEFINITION: Exaggerated and amusing, associated with gay men or femininity  ORIGIN: Early 20th century, from Polari/queer culture; popularized in 1960s
** Camp Queen **  DEFINITION: Queen known for campy style  ORIGIN: Drag culture
** Castro clone **  DEFINITION: Hyper-masculine, uniform-style gay man (flannel, mustache, jeans)  ORIGIN: 1970s San Francisco Castro district
** Castro gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man associated with San Francisco Castro  ORIGIN: 1970s–present; SF regional
** Catfish **  DEFINITION: Fake profile  ORIGIN: 2010s
** CBT **  DEFINITION: Cock and ball torture  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Chaos Gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man with chaotic energy  ORIGIN: 2020s memes **** 2020s
** Chaser **  DEFINITION: Someone attracted to a particular type, e.g., larger men  ORIGIN: 1990s, from bear/chubby subcultures
** Chastity **  DEFINITION: Wearing a chastity device  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Chelsea boy **  DEFINITION: Fashionable, gym-toned gay man (NYC Chelsea stereotype)  ORIGIN: 1980s–90s New York neighborhood stereotype
** Chem-friendly **  DEFINITION: Open to drug use  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** Chemsex **  DEFINITION: Sex involving stimulants  ORIGIN: 2000s public health term
** Chi chi man **  DEFINITION: Slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: Caribbean, 1990s, derogatory
** Chicken **  DEFINITION: A youthful gay man **** Young, often naive or underage boy  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, US/UK **** 20th-century gay slang; also in Polari
** Chickenhawk **  DEFINITION: Older man seeking much younger men  ORIGIN: 20th-century gay slang
** Children **  DEFINITION: Members of a house or younger queer folks  ORIGIN: Ballroom culture
** Chill? **  DEFINITION: Asking about drugs/sex  ORIGIN: App shorthand
** Chocolate queen **  DEFINITION: Man attracted to Black men  ORIGIN: Fetishizing slang; often criticized
** Chosen family **  DEFINITION: Non-biological support network  ORIGIN: 1990s–present LGBTQ culture
** Chub **  DEFINITION: Larger, heavier gay man  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century body-positive subcultures
** Chub4Chub **  DEFINITION: Larger men seeking each other  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** Chubby **  DEFINITION: Obese man  ORIGIN: 
** Circuit bunny **  DEFINITION: Younger man who follows circuit parties  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s
** Circuit daddy **  DEFINITION: Older man who still does circuit parties  ORIGIN: 2000s–2010s
** Circuit Gay **  DEFINITION: Man who attends circuit parties  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Circuit kween **  DEFINITION: Camp spelling of “queen” for circuit-loving person  ORIGIN: 2010s internet slang
** Circuit party **  DEFINITION: Large, often multi-day gay dance/party event  ORIGIN: 1980s–90s; tied to club and drug culture
** Circuit queen **  DEFINITION: Man who frequently attends circuit parties  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s circuit culture
** Circuit twink **  DEFINITION: Young man who frequents circuit parties  ORIGIN: 2000s–2010s
** Clean **  DEFINITION: HIV-negative (stigmatizing)  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** Clock **  DEFINITION: To notice or call out something (often a flaw)  ORIGIN: Ballroom/drag slang
** Clockable **  DEFINITION: Easy to recognize as queer or trans  ORIGIN: Ballroom and drag slang
** Clocked **  DEFINITION: Recognized or called out  ORIGIN: Ballroom culture
** Clone **  DEFINITION: A San Francisco or New York denizen with exaggerated macho behavior  ORIGIN: 1970s-1980s, US, from Castro clone look (mustache, jeans)
** Close friends thirst **  DEFINITION: Sexy content for “close friends”  ORIGIN: 2020s
** Closet **  DEFINITION: Metaphor for hiding one’s sexuality  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century; “coming out of the closet” popularized later
** Closet / Closeted **  DEFINITION: Hiding sexuality; Not publicly out  ORIGIN: 
** Closet case **  DEFINITION: Person hiding their homosexuality  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century
** Closet queen **  DEFINITION: Gay man who hides his sexuality but is known in gay circles  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century bar slang
** Closeted **  DEFINITION: Keeping one's sexuality a secret  ORIGIN: 1960s-1970s, from "in the closet" metaphor
** Club kid **  DEFINITION: Young, flamboyant nightlife personality  ORIGIN: 1980s–90s New York club culture
** Club queen **  DEFINITION: Queen who mainly performs in clubs  ORIGIN: Drag and nightlife culture
** Cock gobbler **  DEFINITION: Vulgar slur for a gay man who performs fellatio  ORIGIN: 2000s, US derogatory slang
** Cocksucker **  DEFINITION: A person who practices fellatio, usually a gay male  ORIGIN: Early 20th century, derogatory but reclaimed
** Coming Out **  DEFINITION: Publicly acknowledging one’s sexuality or gender identity  ORIGIN: 20th-century gay communities; metaphor from debutante “coming out”
** Cottagecore gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man into pastoral, cozy aesthetics  ORIGIN: 2020s internet culture
** Cottaging **  DEFINITION: Having or seeking anonymous gay sex in a public toilet  ORIGIN: UK, 1960s, from "cottage" as public restroom
** Cruise bar **  DEFINITION: Bar known for cruising  ORIGIN: Mid-late 20th-century gay bar culture
** Cruising **  DEFINITION: Seeking a casual gay sex encounter  ORIGIN: Ancient Rome historically; modern 20th century US/UK
** Cub **  DEFINITION: A young bear, perhaps with a smaller frame **** Younger or smaller bear  ORIGIN: 1990s, bear subculture **** Bear subculture
** Cuffing Season **  DEFINITION: Winter relationship trend  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Cut/Uncut **  DEFINITION: Circumcised/uncircumcised  ORIGIN: App shorthand
** Daddy **  DEFINITION: A typically older gay man  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, from paternal figure; popularized in 2010s
** DDF **  DEFINITION: Drug- and disease-free (stigmatizing)  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s
** Demisexual **  DEFINITION: Attraction after emotional bond  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Dicklicker **  DEFINITION: Vulgar slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: 2000s, US derogatory
** Disco dolly **  DEFINITION: Gay man who loves disco/club dancing  ORIGIN: 1970s–80s
** Discreet **  DEFINITION: Wants privacy; not out  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** Dish **  DEFINITION: Attractive person; also gossip  ORIGIN: Polari and US gay slang
** DL (Down-Low) **  DEFINITION: Men who have sex with men but identify as straight/hidden  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s discourse, especially in Black communities
** Dog Gay / Cat Gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man whose personality aligns with dog/cat stereotypes  ORIGIN: 2020s memes
** Doing the most **  DEFINITION: Trying too hard  ORIGIN: 2010s slang
** Dolly eek **  DEFINITION: Pretty face  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, Polari (UK gay secret language), backslang for "eek" (face)
** Dom **  DEFINITION: Dominant partner  ORIGIN: BDSM culture
** Down-Low **  DEFINITION: Homosexual or bisexual activity kept secret by men  ORIGIN: US, 1990s, African American communities
** Drag **  DEFINITION: Dressing as the opposite gender, often for performance **** Gender performance; Drag queen/king art form  ORIGIN: Shakespearean, "dressed as a girl" acronym; 19th century theater **** Older theatrical slang
** Drag mother **  DEFINITION: Experienced queen who mentors newer queens  ORIGIN: Drag culture
** Drama queen **  DEFINITION: Person (often gay man) who overreacts theatrically  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century slang; popularized in gay and mainstream culture
** Dropping pins **  DEFINITION: Hinting at one's homosexuality  ORIGIN: 1920s-1930s, US, from "dropping hairpins" to signal subtly
** Dungeon **  DEFINITION: Kink play space  ORIGIN: Leather/BDSM
** Dungeon monitor (DM) **  DEFINITION: Safety supervisor  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Edging **  DEFINITION: Prolonging arousal  ORIGIN: Kink
** Elder gay **  DEFINITION: Older gay man, often jokingly  ORIGIN: 2010s internet slang
** Electro play **  DEFINITION: Electricity-based kink  ORIGIN: BDSM
** En femme **  DEFINITION: The act of wearing clothes stereotypically of the opposite sex  ORIGIN: French, 20th century cross-dressing
** ENM **  DEFINITION: Ethical non-monogamy  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Era **  DEFINITION: Describing a way of acting during a certain period  ORIGIN: 2010s, modern slang
** Exhibitionist **  DEFINITION: Likes being watched  ORIGIN: Kink
** Extra **  DEFINITION: Taking anything to the next level **** Over-the-top behavior  ORIGIN: 2010s, ballroom culture **** 2010s slang
** F3-LOWer **  DEFINITION: A typically effeminate gay man  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century
** Face pic? **  DEFINITION: Request for face photo  ORIGIN: App culture
** Fag hag **  DEFINITION: Woman who primarily socializes with gay men  ORIGIN: Mid-late 20th century; now often seen as dated/offensive
** Fag stag **  DEFINITION: Straight man who enjoys company of gay men  ORIGIN: 1990s, US, counterpart to "fag hag"
** Faggot / Fag **  DEFINITION: Strong slur for gay man; sometimes reclaimed  ORIGIN: Early 20th century; widely used as insult
** Fairy **  DEFINITION: Slur for gay men, reclaimed **** Effeminate gay man; often derogatory  ORIGIN: 1920s-1930s, US; from effeminate stereotype **** Late 1800s/early 1900s urban subcultures
** Family **  DEFINITION: Coded term for other gay/queer people  ORIGIN: 20th-century bar and community slang
** Faun **  DEFINITION: Gay man with hairy legs but less body hair  ORIGIN: 2010s, US gay body type slang
** Feeling My Oats **  DEFINITION: Living your best life  ORIGIN: 2010s, from RuPaul's Drag Race
** Fem / Femme **  DEFINITION: Feminine-presenting man **** Feminine-presenting gay man  ORIGIN: 20th-century queer slang **** 1990s–2000s queer slang
** Femboy **  DEFINITION: A feminine or androgynous male  ORIGIN: 1990s-2000s, online communities
** Fem-leaning **  DEFINITION: Mostly feminine  ORIGIN: App culture
** Fierce **  DEFINITION: Intense confidence in looks or actions  ORIGIN: 1980s-1990s, ballroom
** Finocchio **  DEFINITION: Slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: Italian-American, from "fennel" implying softness
** Fire Island gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man associated with Fire Island summers  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Fire Island queen **  DEFINITION: Man who spends summers partying on Fire Island  ORIGIN: 1970s–present; New York regional
** Fish / Fishy **  DEFINITION: Looking convincingly feminine (like a cis woman) in drag  ORIGIN: Ballroom and drag culture; contested usage today
** Fish queen **  DEFINITION: Queen who looks very feminine  ORIGIN: Drag/ballroom slang
** Fistee **  DEFINITION: Person receiving fisting  ORIGIN: Kink
** Fister **  DEFINITION: Person who performs fisting  ORIGIN: Kink
** Flit **  DEFINITION: Effeminate gay man  ORIGIN: 1950s, from Catcher in the Rye
** Folx **  DEFINITION: A shorter alternative to folks  ORIGIN: 2010s, inclusive language
** For The Gods **  DEFINITION: Executing something perfectly  ORIGIN: 2010s, drag/ballroom
** Friend of Dorothy **  DEFINITION: A gay person **** Coded phrase meaning gay man  ORIGIN: 1930s-1940s, shibboleth from Wizard of Oz/Judy Garland **** Mid-20th century
** Friend of friends **  DEFINITION: Coded phrase for queer person  ORIGIN: Various 20th-century closeted contexts
** Fruit **  DEFINITION: Derogatory term for gay man  ORIGIN: Early–mid 20th century; linked to “fruity” meaning effeminate
** Fruit fly **  DEFINITION: Woman who spends a lot of time with gay men  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century bar slang **** 1990s–2000s
** Fruit stand **  DEFINITION: Place with many gay men  ORIGIN: Playful slang
** FWB **  DEFINITION: Friends with benefits  ORIGIN: General slang; co-used in hookup culture
** Gay **  DEFINITION: Homosexual man (often reclaimed or neutral in community contexts)  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century onward, originally clinical/derogatory but widely reclaimed
** Gold star gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man who has never had sex with a woman  ORIGIN: Late 20th century, joking/slang origin
** Grindr fingers **  DEFINITION: The specific way people hold their phone while using Grindr  ORIGIN: 2010s app culture meme
** Grindr goblin **  DEFINITION: Someone who uses Grindr obsessively or in a chaotic way  ORIGIN: 2020s internet slang
** Group play **  DEFINITION: Sexual activity involving more than two people  ORIGIN: Kink and hookup culture
** Handsome **  DEFINITION: Attractive man (often used ironically or affectionately)  ORIGIN: General gay slang
** Hawk **  DEFINITION: Person who aggressively pursues younger partners  ORIGIN: 20th-century slang (see Chickenhawk)
** House **  DEFINITION: Chosen family / ballroom family unit  ORIGIN: 1970s–80s ballroom culture
** House mother **  DEFINITION: Leader/mentor of a ballroom house  ORIGIN: 1970s–80s ballroom scene
** Hung **  DEFINITION: Having a large penis  ORIGIN: Sexual slang, widespread in apps/profiles
** Intern **  DEFINITION: Younger/less experienced gay man (joking)  ORIGIN: 2010s–2020s internet slang
** IP (Internet Prince) **  DEFINITION: Attractive man whose face is never shown (only body/torso pics)  ORIGIN: 2010s–2020s app culture
** Isaiah **  DEFINITION: Older gay man who gives unsolicited life advice  ORIGIN: 2020s meme slang (from TikTok/Instagram)
** Kiki **  DEFINITION: Casual chat / gossip session  ORIGIN: Ballroom and AAVE-influenced queer slang
** Kink **  DEFINITION: Sexual fetish or non-normative practice  ORIGIN: BDSM / leather subcultures
** Kink-friendly **  DEFINITION: Open to partners with kink interests  ORIGIN: App / profile shorthand
** Kiwi **  DEFINITION: New Zealander (sometimes used in travel/hookup contexts)  ORIGIN: General slang with gay app usage
** League **  DEFINITION: Level of attractiveness / dating market value  ORIGIN: 2010s–2020s dating slang
** Leather **  DEFINITION: Leather fetish or leather community aesthetic  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century gay leather subculture
** Leather daddy **  DEFINITION: Older dominant man in leather gear  ORIGIN: Leather/BDSM culture
** Link? **  DEFINITION: Request for current location / address for hookup  ORIGIN: Early–mid app culture
** Looksmaxxing **  DEFINITION: Maximizing physical appearance through grooming/fitness/surgery  ORIGIN: 2020s internet slang (orig. incel → queer/meme usage)
** LTR **  DEFINITION: Long-term relationship  ORIGIN: 1990s–present personal ads / apps
** Lucky Pierre **  DEFINITION: The middle man in a threesome  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, US/French origin joke/song
** Masc **  DEFINITION: Masculine-presenting gay man  ORIGIN: 2010s app culture
** Masc4Masc **  DEFINITION: Masculine man seeking masculine partner  ORIGIN: 2000s–2010s dating/app culture
** Miss Thing **  DEFINITION: Playful/sometimes shady address for another gay man  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century Black/Latinx queer communities
** Mo **  DEFINITION: Shortened form of “homo”  ORIGIN: 20th-century bar slang
** Monogamish **  DEFINITION: Mostly monogamous with some flexibility  ORIGIN: 2010s, popularized by Dan Savage
** Mother **  DEFINITION: Leader/mentor figure in ballroom or drag  ORIGIN: 1970s–80s ballroom scene
** Mother Superior **  DEFINITION: Leader of a group of gay men  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century US extension of “mother”
** MSM **  DEFINITION: Men who have sex with men (clinical/public health term)  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century epidemiology
** Mug **  DEFINITION: The face  ORIGIN: 2010s drag slang
** Muscle mary **  DEFINITION: Very muscular, often vain gay man  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century bar slang
** Naff **  DEFINITION: Tacky, uncool  ORIGIN: Polari → British mainstream slang
** Nance / Nancy **  DEFINITION: Effeminate gay man  ORIGIN: Early 20th-century English/American slang
** Neg **  DEFINITION: HIV-negative  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century HIV/AIDS communities
** Neg4Neg **  DEFINITION: HIV-negative seeking same  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Neg-friendly **  DEFINITION: Open to HIV-negative partners  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century profiles
** Negotiation **  DEFINITION: Pre-scene discussion / boundary setting  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Nelly **  DEFINITION: Effeminate gay man (sometimes affectionate, often mocking)  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century
** Nipple play **  DEFINITION: Nipple stimulation kink  ORIGIN: Kink
** No Fats, No Fems **  DEFINITION: Exclusionary phrase rejecting fat and feminine men  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century personal ads → 2010s apps
** No tea, no shade **  DEFINITION: “No offense,” often before/after criticism  ORIGIN: Drag and ballroom culture
** NSA **  DEFINITION: No strings attached (casual sex)  ORIGIN: 1990s–present hookup slang
** NSA fun **  DEFINITION: No-strings sex  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Omi **  DEFINITION: Man  ORIGIN: Polari
** On prep **  DEFINITION: Taking PrEP  ORIGIN: 2010s
** On the scene **  DEFINITION: Actively participating in gay social life  ORIGIN: Mid-late 20th-century bar culture
** Open **  DEFINITION: Non-monogamous  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** Open to **  DEFINITION: Willing to try (kinks, types, etc.)  ORIGIN: App culture
** Orbiting **  DEFINITION: Watching someone’s stories but not engaging  ORIGIN: 2010s social media
** Otter **  DEFINITION: Slim, hairy gay man  ORIGIN: 2000s, bear subculture
** Out **  DEFINITION: Openly gay  ORIGIN: 20th-century adaptation of “coming out”
** Pageant queen **  DEFINITION: Queen focused on pageant competitions  ORIGIN: Drag pageant circuits
** Palone **  DEFINITION: Woman  ORIGIN: Polari
** Pansy **  DEFINITION: Effeminate gay man; insult tied to “sissy”  ORIGIN: 1920s “Pansy Craze” in US nightlife
** Period **  DEFINITION: Emphatic end to statement  ORIGIN: 2010s, AAVE/Southern Black gay slang
** Pig **  DEFINITION: Man who enjoys intense or “dirty” sex  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century kink/leather communities
** Pig pit **  DEFINITION: Group kink space  ORIGIN: Leather scene
** Pig sex **  DEFINITION: Intense, uninhibited, often kinky sex  ORIGIN: 1990s-2000s gay leather/BDSM scenes
** Ping me **  DEFINITION: Message me on an app  ORIGIN: 2000s messaging culture
** Pink dollar **  DEFINITION: Economic power of gay consumers  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century marketing slang
** Pinkwashing **  DEFINITION: Using LGBTQ friendliness to distract from other issues  ORIGIN: 21st-century political slang
** Piss play **  DEFINITION: Watersports kink  ORIGIN: Kink
** Plant Gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man obsessed with houseplants  ORIGIN: 2020s meme culture
** Platinum gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man with even less heterosexual experience than “gold star”  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century joking slang
** Platinum star **  DEFINITION: Gay man born by C-section who never had sex with women  ORIGIN: 2000s, from Will & Grace joke
** PNP (Party & Play) **  DEFINITION: Sex + meth/party drugs  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Pocket gay **  DEFINITION: Very short gay man (often joking)  ORIGIN: 2000s–2010s slang
** Poly **  DEFINITION: Polyamorous  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** Poof / Poofter **  DEFINITION: Slur for gay man (more UK)  ORIGIN: 20th-century British slang
** Porpoise **  DEFINITION: Chubby, smooth gay man  ORIGIN: 2010s, US gay body type slang
** Potato queen **  DEFINITION: Asian man attracted to white men  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century fetishizing slang
** Power Bottom **  DEFINITION: Energetic / assertive receptive partner  ORIGIN: 2000s US gay slang
** Power top **  DEFINITION: Assertive, dominant top  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s
** Poz **  DEFINITION: HIV-positive person  ORIGIN: 1990s, from positive
** Poz party **  DEFINITION: Gathering of HIV-positive men  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century HIV communities
** Poz4Poz **  DEFINITION: HIV-positive seeking same  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Poz-friendly **  DEFINITION: Open to HIV-positive partners  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s dating/hookup profiles
** Prawn **  DEFINITION: Fantastic body, unattractive face  ORIGIN: Recent, UK/Australia?
** PrEP / On PrEP **  DEFINITION: Taking PrEP medication  ORIGIN: 
** Prep-friendly **  DEFINITION: Open to partners on PrEP  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Primal **  DEFINITION: Animalistic kink style  ORIGIN: 2000s
** Protein Gay **  DEFINITION: Gym-focused gay man  ORIGIN: 2010s slang
** Punk **  DEFINITION: Smaller, younger gay man forced submissive  ORIGIN: Prison slang, mid-20th century
** Pup **  DEFINITION: Gay man into puppy play kink  ORIGIN: 2000s, US leather/BDSM community
** Queen **  DEFINITION: Flamboyant or effeminate gay man  ORIGIN: Early 20th century, slur reclaimed
** Queer **  DEFINITION: Umbrella term for LGBTQ; reclaimed from slur  ORIGIN: 1890s slur → reclaimed 1990s AIDS era
** Queerplatonic **  DEFINITION: Deep non-romantic partnership  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Read **  DEFINITION: Calling someone out sassily / humorously insult  ORIGIN: 1980s ballroom / Paris Is Burning
** Realness **  DEFINITION: Authentic self / convincingly embodying a category  ORIGIN: 1980s ballroom culture
** Red Flag **  DEFINITION: Warning sign in dating/personality  ORIGIN: 2020s dating slang
** Rice queen **  DEFINITION: Man (often white) attracted to Asian men  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century fetishizing slang
** Rigger **  DEFINITION: Person who ties rope (bondage top)  ORIGIN: Rope bondage
** Rope bottom **  DEFINITION: Person who enjoys being tied  ORIGIN: BDSM / rope bondage
** Roster **  DEFINITION: List of dating/hookup prospects  ORIGIN: 2020s slang
** Rough trade **  DEFINITION: Dangerous or hyper-masculine sexual partner  ORIGIN: 20th-century gay bar/street slang
** Rubber pup **  DEFINITION: Pup in rubber/latex gear  ORIGIN: Kink
** Rubberman **  DEFINITION: Man into rubber/latex  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Safeword **  DEFINITION: Word to stop play  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Sapiosexual **  DEFINITION: Attracted to intelligence  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Scene **  DEFINITION: Kink session / BDSM environment  ORIGIN: BDSM culture
** Scene queen **  DEFINITION: Person heavily involved in nightlife/club scene  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century club culture
** Scruff guy **  DEFINITION: Man using Scruff app; often bearded/masc  ORIGIN: 2010s app culture
** Sero-neutral **  DEFINITION: No preference on HIV status  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Serosort **  DEFINITION: Choose partners based on HIV status  ORIGIN: Public health / community slang
** Serve **  DEFINITION: Presenting oneself, especially a look  ORIGIN: 1980s ballroom
** Service bottom **  DEFINITION: Bottom who prioritizes pleasing the top  ORIGIN: 2000s kink/sex-positive circles
** Service top **  DEFINITION: Top who prioritizes sub’s pleasure  ORIGIN: 2000s kink/sex-positive circles
** Serving **  DEFINITION: Presenting a strong look or vibe  ORIGIN: Ballroom → mainstream
** Shade **  DEFINITION: Subtle or indirect insult  ORIGIN: 1980s ballroom culture
** Shadow pic **  DEFINITION: Dark, obscured photo (for privacy)  ORIGIN: App privacy culture
** Shadowban **  DEFINITION: Hidden from others (app/social)  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Sickening **  DEFINITION: Incredibly amazing  ORIGIN: 2010s drag
** Side **  DEFINITION: Gay man who prefers not to have anal sex  ORIGIN: 2010s non-top/bottom discourse
** Side eye **  DEFINITION: Subtle disapproval expression  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Side piece **  DEFINITION: Secondary / casual partner  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** Sir **  DEFINITION: Dominant title (leather/BDSM)  ORIGIN: Leather/BDSM
** Sis (queer usage) **  DEFINITION: Friendly address, often between gay men  ORIGIN: AAVE and queer slang
** Sissy **  DEFINITION: Effeminate boy/man; insult  ORIGIN: Long-standing English insult
** Size queen **  DEFINITION: Gay man who prefers large penises  ORIGIN: Mid-late 20th century gay sexual slang
** Slay **  DEFINITION: Doing something exceptionally well  ORIGIN: 1970s-1980s ballroom; popularized by RuPaul/Beyonce
** Sling **  DEFINITION: Leather/metal sex sling  ORIGIN: Leather scene
** Sling Pig **  DEFINITION: Person who loves sling play  ORIGIN: Kink
** Snow queen **  DEFINITION: Gay man (often Black) attracted to white men  ORIGIN: 1990s US
** Snowballing **  DEFINITION: Passing semen mouth-to-mouth  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Sober only **  DEFINITION: No drugs/alcohol  ORIGIN: 2010s–present
** Soft block **  DEFINITION: Subtle block/unfollow  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Soft boy / Soft Gay **  DEFINITION: Sensitive, emotional, gentle gay man  ORIGIN: 2010s–2020s aesthetics
** Soft Launch **  DEFINITION: Subtle introduction of a new partner online  ORIGIN: 2020s social media
** Spill the Tea **  DEFINITION: Reveal gossip  ORIGIN: Ballroom culture
** Spiritual gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man focused on spirituality/wellness  ORIGIN: 2000s–2010s
** Squirrel friends **  DEFINITION: Group of gay friends  ORIGIN: 2010s, US drag culture
** Squish **  DEFINITION: Innocent, non-romantic infatuation  ORIGIN: Recent
** Stats? **  DEFINITION: Asking for height/weight/age  ORIGIN: Early hookup apps
** STEM gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man in science/tech/engineering/math  ORIGIN: 2010s–2020s
** Sticky rice **  DEFINITION: Gay Asian man attracted to other Asian men  ORIGIN: 1990s US/Asian communities
** Story thirst **  DEFINITION: Sexy Instagram story  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Straight-acting **  DEFINITION: Gay man who presents as stereotypically straight  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century bar/personal-ad slang
** Sub **  DEFINITION: Submissive partner  ORIGIN: BDSM culture
** Sup? **  DEFINITION: Minimalist opener  ORIGIN: Early app culture
** Swish **  DEFINITION: Effeminate  ORIGIN: US, mid-20th century
** Switch **  DEFINITION: Enjoys both top and bottom / dom and sub  ORIGIN: 1990s BDSM/gay sex
** Tap **  DEFINITION: Quick like/interest signal on apps  ORIGIN: Grindr/Scruff feature
** Tea **  DEFINITION: Gossip or truth  ORIGIN: Early 20th century tearooms → 1990s ballroom
** Tea dance **  DEFINITION: Daytime dance event, often Sunday afternoon  ORIGIN: Mid-20th-century gay social events
** Tea room **  DEFINITION: Public restroom used for anonymous sex  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century US slang
** Tea-room queen **  DEFINITION: Man who frequents tea rooms for sex  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century
** Thirst Trap **  DEFINITION: Sexy photo posted to attract attention  ORIGIN: 2010s social media
** Thirsty **  DEFINITION: Desperate for attention or sex  ORIGIN: AAVE / internet slang
** Tomgirl **  DEFINITION: Boy with feminine traits  ORIGIN: Recent (opposite of tomboy)
** Tongzhi **  DEFINITION: LGBTQ member in Chinese  ORIGIN: 1980s, from "comrade"
** Top **  DEFINITION: Dominant or inserting partner  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century sexual positions
** Torso pic **  DEFINITION: Shirtless body photo  ORIGIN: App culture
** Trade **  DEFINITION: Masculine-presenting hookup partner (historic & modern)  ORIGIN: Early 20th-century Polari/US → 2000s apps
** Trade queen **  DEFINITION: Man obsessed with picking up trade  ORIGIN: Bar slang
** Traveling **  DEFINITION: Looking for hookups while traveling  ORIGIN: App culture
** Twilight **  DEFINITION: To leave a bar/scene quietly or fade out socially  ORIGIN: Localized bar slang
** Twink **  DEFINITION: Young, slim, smooth gay man  ORIGIN: 1960s-1970s (possibly from Twinkie snack)
** Twink death **  DEFINITION: Idea that a twink loses desirability with age  ORIGIN: 2010s internet slang
** Twunk **  DEFINITION: Muscular twink (twink + hunk)  ORIGIN: 2000s–2010s
** U=U **  DEFINITION: Undetectable = Untransmittable  ORIGIN: 
** UB2 **  DEFINITION: “You be too” (HIV-negative)  ORIGIN: App shorthand
** Unblock **  DEFINITION: Reverse block  ORIGIN: App feature
** Uncuffing Season **  DEFINITION: Spring breakups  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Undetectable (U=U) **  DEFINITION: HIV viral load undetectable  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Unicorn **  DEFINITION: Bisexual person, often mythical / rare  ORIGIN: 2010s poly/LGBTQ+ slang
** Vada **  DEFINITION: To look at someone  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century Polari (from Italian "vedere")
** Verified **  DEFINITION: Profile verified  ORIGIN: App feature
** Vers **  DEFINITION: Versatile in top/bottom  ORIGIN: 1990s abbreviation
** Village queen **  DEFINITION: Gay man associated with NYC Greenwich Village  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century NYC regional
** Vogue / Voguing **  DEFINITION: Stylized dance form from ballroom culture  ORIGIN: 1970s–80s Harlem ballroom
** Voyeur **  DEFINITION: Likes watching others  ORIGIN: Kink
** Walrus **  DEFINITION: Older, chubby, hairy gay man  ORIGIN: 2010s US gay body type slang
** WeHo gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man associated with West Hollywood scene  ORIGIN: 1990s–present LA regional
** Werk **  DEFINITION: Exclamation of approval; to perform fabulously  ORIGIN: Drag culture; popularized by RuPaul
** Wolf **  DEFINITION: Lean, muscular, hairy gay man  ORIGIN: 2000s bear subculture
** Woof **  DEFINITION: Scruff “like” signal  ORIGIN: Scruff app
** Yas / Yass **  DEFINITION: Emphatic yes / enthusiastic approval  ORIGIN: 1980s ballroom → viral 2010s
** Zaddy **  DEFINITION: Stylish, attractive older man  ORIGIN: 2010s US, blend of "zazzy" and daddy
** Zhuzh / Zhoosh **  DEFINITION: To style, spruce up, or improve appearance  ORIGIN: Polari → queer/fashion circles
 

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8 hours ago, PozToxVersPig said:

I was inspired by the discussion of what defined "pig sex" in this thread.  There have been other discussions where same terms have been used to mean different things.  So, I turned to AI to ask - "What are the top 1000 slang terms used by gay men in the US since 1960s" and had them organized by recency and prevalence.  Prevalence was a measurement of how frequently these words occurred in gay online forums/sites within the last 20 years, ranked HIGH, MEDIUM, LOW.

THERE ARE VERY FEW TERMS on this list that I've ever heard and certainly never used.  Have you?

What slang terms are missing?  Comment below.

SLANG TERM, DEFINITION, and ORIGIN
** 100-footer **  DEFINITION: An obviously gay or lesbian person (as if visible from 100 feet away)  ORIGIN: US, mid-20th century, likely from gay communities to describe flamboyance
** 420-Friendly **  DEFINITION: Weed-friendly **** Open to weed use  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** AC/DC **  DEFINITION: Bisexual  ORIGIN: 1970s, US/UK, from the rock band or electricity (alternating/direct current) symbolizing both ways
** Ace-flux **  DEFINITION: Fluctuating asexuality  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Achillean **  DEFINITION: An umbrella term for attractions and relationships between men, regardless of their sexual or romantic orientation  ORIGIN: Recent, 2010s, referencing ancient Greek mythology (Achilles) and Leonardo da Vinci's sexuality; also known as MLM (man-loving-man)
** Aftercare **  DEFINITION: Emotional/physical care post-scene **** Emotional care **** Dominant partner  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Alice Blue Gown **  DEFINITION: Effeminate gay man  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, US, possibly from a song or color associated with delicacy
** Alpha pup **  DEFINITION: Leader pup  ORIGIN: Pup play
** Anal assassin **  DEFINITION: Slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: 2000s, UK/US, derogatory term implying aggressive anal sex
** Anon pic **  DEFINITION: Anonymous body photo  ORIGIN: App culture
** Aromantic **  DEFINITION: No romantic attraction  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Arse bandit **  DEFINITION: Slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: 1980s, UK, derogatory from "arse" (ass) and bandit implying theft or invasion
** Artiste **  DEFINITION: A gay man who excels at fellatio  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, US gay slang
** Asexual **  DEFINITION: No sexual attraction  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Auntie **  DEFINITION: An older, often effeminate and gossipy gay man  ORIGIN: Early 20th century, US/UK gay slang
** Baby gay **  DEFINITION: Someone who’s newly out and is generally pretty clueless about everything **** Newly out or inexperienced gay person  ORIGIN: 2010s, modern queer slang, from coming out experiences **** 2000s–2010s slang
** Baby queen **  DEFINITION: New or inexperienced drag queen  ORIGIN: Drag culture
** Backgammon player **  DEFINITION: Slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: Late 18th century, Britain, from backgammon as euphemism for sodomy
** Banjee **  DEFINITION: Street-tough, urban style; often masc, working-class  ORIGIN: Black and Latinx queer communities
** Bareback **  DEFINITION: Condomless sex  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s porn and hookup slang
** Basket shopping **  DEFINITION: Checking out a man's crotch through clothing  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, British/US gay slang, "basket" refers to the bulge
** Bathhouse / Baths **  DEFINITION: Gay male sex club with saunas, rooms, etc.  ORIGIN: Early–mid 20th century urban gay culture
** Bathhouse Betty **  DEFINITION: Man who spends a lot of time at bathhouses  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century bar slang
** Baths **  DEFINITION: Bathhouses frequented by gay men for sexual encounters  ORIGIN: US, mid-20th century, from gay bathhouse culture
** Bathsheba **  DEFINITION: Gay man who frequents bathhouses  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, US, play on "baths" and biblical name
** Batty boy **  DEFINITION: Slur for a gay or effeminate man  ORIGIN: 1990s, Jamaica/UK, from "batty" meaning bottom
** BB / Bareback **  DEFINITION: Condomless sex; raw sex  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s
** Beach bitch **  DEFINITION: A gay man who frequents beaches and resorts for sexual encounters  ORIGIN: US, mid-20th century
** Bean queen **  DEFINITION: Man attracted to Latino men  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century fetishizing slang
** Bear **  DEFINITION: Hairy, chunky, chubby, muscly, beardy gay man, often with big bellies **** Large, hairy, rugged gay man  ORIGIN: 1980s, US gay subculture, from bear-like appearance; popularized in Bear Magazine **** Late 1970s–80s; Bear Magazine and bar culture
** Bear Chub **  DEFINITION: Larger man seeking bears  ORIGIN: 
** Bear daddy **  DEFINITION: Older bear with daddy vibe  ORIGIN: Bear subculture
** Bear4Bear **  DEFINITION: Bears seeking bears  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** Beard **  DEFINITION: A person used as a date, romantic partner, or spouse to conceal one's sexual orientation **** Person used to hide sexuality  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, US, from "bearding" to hide identity **** 1990s–present
** Beat **  DEFINITION: An area frequented by gay men, where sexual acts occur; also, looking flawless (face or body)  ORIGIN: Australia for location (mid-20th century); for compliment, from drag/ballroom culture, 1980s-1990s US
** Bedroom queen **  DEFINITION: Queen who mostly does drag at home/online  ORIGIN: Social media era
** Beefcake **  DEFINITION: Muscular, attractive gay man  ORIGIN: 1940s, US, from "beefcake" photos of muscular men
** Beige Flag **  DEFINITION: Keeping someone on hold  ORIGIN: 
** Belle **  DEFINITION: Young gay man  ORIGIN: 1920s-1930s, US Prohibition era slang
** Benching **  DEFINITION: Keeping someone on hold  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Bent **  DEFINITION: Gay, as opposed to straight  ORIGIN: UK, early 20th century, from "bent" meaning crooked or not straight
** Beta pup **  DEFINITION: Submissive pup  ORIGIN: Pup play
** Binding **  DEFINITION: A technique in which individuals wear tight clothing to hide and flatten breasts  ORIGIN: 1990s-2000s, transgender and queer communities
** Bisexual **  DEFINITION: A person emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to both men and women  ORIGIN: Late 19th century, medical/psychological term; entered common use in 1960s-1970s with bisexual movement
** Block **  DEFINITION: Remove user  ORIGIN: App feature
** Body pic? **  DEFINITION: Request for body photo  ORIGIN: App culture
** Body'ody'ody **  DEFINITION: Emphasizing impressive body **** Emphasizing impressive physique  ORIGIN: Drag and pop culture slang **** Drag/pop culture
** Boi **  DEFINITION: Youthful, androgynous or submissive person  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s queer and kink communities
** Bona **  DEFINITION: Good, attractive  ORIGIN: Polari; more UK-centric but known among some US queer history buffs
** Bondage bottom **  DEFINITION: Submissive in bondage  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Bondage pig **  DEFINITION: Person who loves heavy bondage  ORIGIN: Kink
** Bondage top **  DEFINITION: Dominant in bondage  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Boot worship **  DEFINITION: Boot-focused kink  ORIGIN: Leather scene
** Bootblack **  DEFINITION: Person who shines boots at leather events  ORIGIN: Leather culture
** Boots **  DEFINITION: A verbal exclamation point added to statements for emphasis **** Intensifier meaning “very”  ORIGIN: 2010s, from ballroom/drag culture, US **** Drag culture
** Bop **  DEFINITION: An amazing, ass-shaking, and/or iconic song  ORIGIN: 2010s, modern queer slang
** Bottom **  DEFINITION: A receptive partner in intercourse **** Receptive or submissive sexual role; Submissive partner; Feminine-coded role  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, US gay slang from sexual positions **** 20th-century gay sexual slang
** Boy **  DEFINITION: Younger or submissive partner  ORIGIN: Long-standing; used in leather and BDSM contexts
** Brat **  DEFINITION: Sub who playfully resists  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Brat Tamer **  DEFINITION: Dom who handles brats  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Breadcrumbing **  DEFINITION: Leading someone on  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Bro (gay context) **  DEFINITION: Casual, masculine gay man  ORIGIN: 2000s–2010s
** Bromance **  DEFINITION: Intense but non-sexual male friendship; often used jokingly in gay contexts  ORIGIN: 2000s mainstream slang
** Bromosexual **  DEFINITION: Straight-presenting man with strong gay friendships or a gay man with “bro” vibe  ORIGIN: 2010s pop slang
** Brosexual / Bromosexual **  DEFINITION: Gay man with “bro” vibe  ORIGIN: 2010s slang
** Browning **  DEFINITION: Anal sex  ORIGIN: 1920s, US gay slang
** Bug party **  DEFINITION: Gathering centered on HIV transmission fetish (very niche)  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century underground slang
** Bugchaser **  DEFINITION: Person seeking HIV infection (controversial, stigmatized)  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century underground slang
** Bug-phobic **  DEFINITION: Fearful of HIV-positive people (stigmatizing)  ORIGIN: Community slang
** Bull queer **  DEFINITION: A gay man who exclusively tops in intercourse  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, prison slang
** Bum chum **  DEFINITION: Slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: UK slang, from "bum" (ass) and chum (friend)
** Bumder **  DEFINITION: Rare slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: UK slang, blend of bum and bender
** Bummer **  DEFINITION: Slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: UK slang, from bum
** Bussy **  DEFINITION: Portmanteau of "boy pussy"; a male anus in anal sex context  ORIGIN: 2000s-2010s, US queer slang, popularized online
** Busted **  DEFINITION: Messy, unkempt, or poorly presented  ORIGIN: 2010s, from drag culture
** Butch **  DEFINITION: A person who identifies as masculine **** Masculine-presenting queer person (often lesbian, but used among gay men too)  ORIGIN: 1940s-1950s, lesbian communities but applies to gay men **** Early 20th century; popularized via working-class and bar cultures
** Butchy femme **  DEFINITION: A gender expression between femme and futch  ORIGIN: 2010s, queer gender terms
** Cake **  DEFINITION: The booty  ORIGIN: 2010s, modern slang
** Camp **  DEFINITION: Exaggerated and amusing, associated with gay men or femininity  ORIGIN: Early 20th century, from Polari/queer culture; popularized in 1960s
** Camp Queen **  DEFINITION: Queen known for campy style  ORIGIN: Drag culture
** Castro clone **  DEFINITION: Hyper-masculine, uniform-style gay man (flannel, mustache, jeans)  ORIGIN: 1970s San Francisco Castro district
** Castro gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man associated with San Francisco Castro  ORIGIN: 1970s–present; SF regional
** Catfish **  DEFINITION: Fake profile  ORIGIN: 2010s
** CBT **  DEFINITION: Cock and ball torture  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Chaos Gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man with chaotic energy  ORIGIN: 2020s memes **** 2020s
** Chaser **  DEFINITION: Someone attracted to a particular type, e.g., larger men  ORIGIN: 1990s, from bear/chubby subcultures
** Chastity **  DEFINITION: Wearing a chastity device  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Chelsea boy **  DEFINITION: Fashionable, gym-toned gay man (NYC Chelsea stereotype)  ORIGIN: 1980s–90s New York neighborhood stereotype
** Chem-friendly **  DEFINITION: Open to drug use  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** Chemsex **  DEFINITION: Sex involving stimulants  ORIGIN: 2000s public health term
** Chi chi man **  DEFINITION: Slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: Caribbean, 1990s, derogatory
** Chicken **  DEFINITION: A youthful gay man **** Young, often naive or underage boy  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, US/UK **** 20th-century gay slang; also in Polari
** Chickenhawk **  DEFINITION: Older man seeking much younger men  ORIGIN: 20th-century gay slang
** Children **  DEFINITION: Members of a house or younger queer folks  ORIGIN: Ballroom culture
** Chill? **  DEFINITION: Asking about drugs/sex  ORIGIN: App shorthand
** Chocolate queen **  DEFINITION: Man attracted to Black men  ORIGIN: Fetishizing slang; often criticized
** Chosen family **  DEFINITION: Non-biological support network  ORIGIN: 1990s–present LGBTQ culture
** Chub **  DEFINITION: Larger, heavier gay man  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century body-positive subcultures
** Chub4Chub **  DEFINITION: Larger men seeking each other  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** Chubby **  DEFINITION: Obese man  ORIGIN: 
** Circuit bunny **  DEFINITION: Younger man who follows circuit parties  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s
** Circuit daddy **  DEFINITION: Older man who still does circuit parties  ORIGIN: 2000s–2010s
** Circuit Gay **  DEFINITION: Man who attends circuit parties  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Circuit kween **  DEFINITION: Camp spelling of “queen” for circuit-loving person  ORIGIN: 2010s internet slang
** Circuit party **  DEFINITION: Large, often multi-day gay dance/party event  ORIGIN: 1980s–90s; tied to club and drug culture
** Circuit queen **  DEFINITION: Man who frequently attends circuit parties  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s circuit culture
** Circuit twink **  DEFINITION: Young man who frequents circuit parties  ORIGIN: 2000s–2010s
** Clean **  DEFINITION: HIV-negative (stigmatizing)  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** Clock **  DEFINITION: To notice or call out something (often a flaw)  ORIGIN: Ballroom/drag slang
** Clockable **  DEFINITION: Easy to recognize as queer or trans  ORIGIN: Ballroom and drag slang
** Clocked **  DEFINITION: Recognized or called out  ORIGIN: Ballroom culture
** Clone **  DEFINITION: A San Francisco or New York denizen with exaggerated macho behavior  ORIGIN: 1970s-1980s, US, from Castro clone look (mustache, jeans)
** Close friends thirst **  DEFINITION: Sexy content for “close friends”  ORIGIN: 2020s
** Closet **  DEFINITION: Metaphor for hiding one’s sexuality  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century; “coming out of the closet” popularized later
** Closet / Closeted **  DEFINITION: Hiding sexuality; Not publicly out  ORIGIN: 
** Closet case **  DEFINITION: Person hiding their homosexuality  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century
** Closet queen **  DEFINITION: Gay man who hides his sexuality but is known in gay circles  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century bar slang
** Closeted **  DEFINITION: Keeping one's sexuality a secret  ORIGIN: 1960s-1970s, from "in the closet" metaphor
** Club kid **  DEFINITION: Young, flamboyant nightlife personality  ORIGIN: 1980s–90s New York club culture
** Club queen **  DEFINITION: Queen who mainly performs in clubs  ORIGIN: Drag and nightlife culture
** Cock gobbler **  DEFINITION: Vulgar slur for a gay man who performs fellatio  ORIGIN: 2000s, US derogatory slang
** Cocksucker **  DEFINITION: A person who practices fellatio, usually a gay male  ORIGIN: Early 20th century, derogatory but reclaimed
** Coming Out **  DEFINITION: Publicly acknowledging one’s sexuality or gender identity  ORIGIN: 20th-century gay communities; metaphor from debutante “coming out”
** Cottagecore gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man into pastoral, cozy aesthetics  ORIGIN: 2020s internet culture
** Cottaging **  DEFINITION: Having or seeking anonymous gay sex in a public toilet  ORIGIN: UK, 1960s, from "cottage" as public restroom
** Cruise bar **  DEFINITION: Bar known for cruising  ORIGIN: Mid-late 20th-century gay bar culture
** Cruising **  DEFINITION: Seeking a casual gay sex encounter  ORIGIN: Ancient Rome historically; modern 20th century US/UK
** Cub **  DEFINITION: A young bear, perhaps with a smaller frame **** Younger or smaller bear  ORIGIN: 1990s, bear subculture **** Bear subculture
** Cuffing Season **  DEFINITION: Winter relationship trend  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Cut/Uncut **  DEFINITION: Circumcised/uncircumcised  ORIGIN: App shorthand
** Daddy **  DEFINITION: A typically older gay man  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, from paternal figure; popularized in 2010s
** DDF **  DEFINITION: Drug- and disease-free (stigmatizing)  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s
** Demisexual **  DEFINITION: Attraction after emotional bond  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Dicklicker **  DEFINITION: Vulgar slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: 2000s, US derogatory
** Disco dolly **  DEFINITION: Gay man who loves disco/club dancing  ORIGIN: 1970s–80s
** Discreet **  DEFINITION: Wants privacy; not out  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** Dish **  DEFINITION: Attractive person; also gossip  ORIGIN: Polari and US gay slang
** DL (Down-Low) **  DEFINITION: Men who have sex with men but identify as straight/hidden  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s discourse, especially in Black communities
** Dog Gay / Cat Gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man whose personality aligns with dog/cat stereotypes  ORIGIN: 2020s memes
** Doing the most **  DEFINITION: Trying too hard  ORIGIN: 2010s slang
** Dolly eek **  DEFINITION: Pretty face  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, Polari (UK gay secret language), backslang for "eek" (face)
** Dom **  DEFINITION: Dominant partner  ORIGIN: BDSM culture
** Down-Low **  DEFINITION: Homosexual or bisexual activity kept secret by men  ORIGIN: US, 1990s, African American communities
** Drag **  DEFINITION: Dressing as the opposite gender, often for performance **** Gender performance; Drag queen/king art form  ORIGIN: Shakespearean, "dressed as a girl" acronym; 19th century theater **** Older theatrical slang
** Drag mother **  DEFINITION: Experienced queen who mentors newer queens  ORIGIN: Drag culture
** Drama queen **  DEFINITION: Person (often gay man) who overreacts theatrically  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century slang; popularized in gay and mainstream culture
** Dropping pins **  DEFINITION: Hinting at one's homosexuality  ORIGIN: 1920s-1930s, US, from "dropping hairpins" to signal subtly
** Dungeon **  DEFINITION: Kink play space  ORIGIN: Leather/BDSM
** Dungeon monitor (DM) **  DEFINITION: Safety supervisor  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Edging **  DEFINITION: Prolonging arousal  ORIGIN: Kink
** Elder gay **  DEFINITION: Older gay man, often jokingly  ORIGIN: 2010s internet slang
** Electro play **  DEFINITION: Electricity-based kink  ORIGIN: BDSM
** En femme **  DEFINITION: The act of wearing clothes stereotypically of the opposite sex  ORIGIN: French, 20th century cross-dressing
** ENM **  DEFINITION: Ethical non-monogamy  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Era **  DEFINITION: Describing a way of acting during a certain period  ORIGIN: 2010s, modern slang
** Exhibitionist **  DEFINITION: Likes being watched  ORIGIN: Kink
** Extra **  DEFINITION: Taking anything to the next level **** Over-the-top behavior  ORIGIN: 2010s, ballroom culture **** 2010s slang
** F3-LOWer **  DEFINITION: A typically effeminate gay man  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century
** Face pic? **  DEFINITION: Request for face photo  ORIGIN: App culture
** Fag hag **  DEFINITION: Woman who primarily socializes with gay men  ORIGIN: Mid-late 20th century; now often seen as dated/offensive
** Fag stag **  DEFINITION: Straight man who enjoys company of gay men  ORIGIN: 1990s, US, counterpart to "fag hag"
** Faggot / Fag **  DEFINITION: Strong slur for gay man; sometimes reclaimed  ORIGIN: Early 20th century; widely used as insult
** Fairy **  DEFINITION: Slur for gay men, reclaimed **** Effeminate gay man; often derogatory  ORIGIN: 1920s-1930s, US; from effeminate stereotype **** Late 1800s/early 1900s urban subcultures
** Family **  DEFINITION: Coded term for other gay/queer people  ORIGIN: 20th-century bar and community slang
** Faun **  DEFINITION: Gay man with hairy legs but less body hair  ORIGIN: 2010s, US gay body type slang
** Feeling My Oats **  DEFINITION: Living your best life  ORIGIN: 2010s, from RuPaul's Drag Race
** Fem / Femme **  DEFINITION: Feminine-presenting man **** Feminine-presenting gay man  ORIGIN: 20th-century queer slang **** 1990s–2000s queer slang
** Femboy **  DEFINITION: A feminine or androgynous male  ORIGIN: 1990s-2000s, online communities
** Fem-leaning **  DEFINITION: Mostly feminine  ORIGIN: App culture
** Fierce **  DEFINITION: Intense confidence in looks or actions  ORIGIN: 1980s-1990s, ballroom
** Finocchio **  DEFINITION: Slur for a gay man  ORIGIN: Italian-American, from "fennel" implying softness
** Fire Island gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man associated with Fire Island summers  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Fire Island queen **  DEFINITION: Man who spends summers partying on Fire Island  ORIGIN: 1970s–present; New York regional
** Fish / Fishy **  DEFINITION: Looking convincingly feminine (like a cis woman) in drag  ORIGIN: Ballroom and drag culture; contested usage today
** Fish queen **  DEFINITION: Queen who looks very feminine  ORIGIN: Drag/ballroom slang
** Fistee **  DEFINITION: Person receiving fisting  ORIGIN: Kink
** Fister **  DEFINITION: Person who performs fisting  ORIGIN: Kink
** Flit **  DEFINITION: Effeminate gay man  ORIGIN: 1950s, from Catcher in the Rye
** Folx **  DEFINITION: A shorter alternative to folks  ORIGIN: 2010s, inclusive language
** For The Gods **  DEFINITION: Executing something perfectly  ORIGIN: 2010s, drag/ballroom
** Friend of Dorothy **  DEFINITION: A gay person **** Coded phrase meaning gay man  ORIGIN: 1930s-1940s, shibboleth from Wizard of Oz/Judy Garland **** Mid-20th century
** Friend of friends **  DEFINITION: Coded phrase for queer person  ORIGIN: Various 20th-century closeted contexts
** Fruit **  DEFINITION: Derogatory term for gay man  ORIGIN: Early–mid 20th century; linked to “fruity” meaning effeminate
** Fruit fly **  DEFINITION: Woman who spends a lot of time with gay men  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century bar slang **** 1990s–2000s
** Fruit stand **  DEFINITION: Place with many gay men  ORIGIN: Playful slang
** FWB **  DEFINITION: Friends with benefits  ORIGIN: General slang; co-used in hookup culture
** Gay **  DEFINITION: Homosexual man (often reclaimed or neutral in community contexts)  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century onward, originally clinical/derogatory but widely reclaimed
** Gold star gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man who has never had sex with a woman  ORIGIN: Late 20th century, joking/slang origin
** Grindr fingers **  DEFINITION: The specific way people hold their phone while using Grindr  ORIGIN: 2010s app culture meme
** Grindr goblin **  DEFINITION: Someone who uses Grindr obsessively or in a chaotic way  ORIGIN: 2020s internet slang
** Group play **  DEFINITION: Sexual activity involving more than two people  ORIGIN: Kink and hookup culture
** Handsome **  DEFINITION: Attractive man (often used ironically or affectionately)  ORIGIN: General gay slang
** Hawk **  DEFINITION: Person who aggressively pursues younger partners  ORIGIN: 20th-century slang (see Chickenhawk)
** House **  DEFINITION: Chosen family / ballroom family unit  ORIGIN: 1970s–80s ballroom culture
** House mother **  DEFINITION: Leader/mentor of a ballroom house  ORIGIN: 1970s–80s ballroom scene
** Hung **  DEFINITION: Having a large penis  ORIGIN: Sexual slang, widespread in apps/profiles
** Intern **  DEFINITION: Younger/less experienced gay man (joking)  ORIGIN: 2010s–2020s internet slang
** IP (Internet Prince) **  DEFINITION: Attractive man whose face is never shown (only body/torso pics)  ORIGIN: 2010s–2020s app culture
** Isaiah **  DEFINITION: Older gay man who gives unsolicited life advice  ORIGIN: 2020s meme slang (from TikTok/Instagram)
** Kiki **  DEFINITION: Casual chat / gossip session  ORIGIN: Ballroom and AAVE-influenced queer slang
** Kink **  DEFINITION: Sexual fetish or non-normative practice  ORIGIN: BDSM / leather subcultures
** Kink-friendly **  DEFINITION: Open to partners with kink interests  ORIGIN: App / profile shorthand
** Kiwi **  DEFINITION: New Zealander (sometimes used in travel/hookup contexts)  ORIGIN: General slang with gay app usage
** League **  DEFINITION: Level of attractiveness / dating market value  ORIGIN: 2010s–2020s dating slang
** Leather **  DEFINITION: Leather fetish or leather community aesthetic  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century gay leather subculture
** Leather daddy **  DEFINITION: Older dominant man in leather gear  ORIGIN: Leather/BDSM culture
** Link? **  DEFINITION: Request for current location / address for hookup  ORIGIN: Early–mid app culture
** Looksmaxxing **  DEFINITION: Maximizing physical appearance through grooming/fitness/surgery  ORIGIN: 2020s internet slang (orig. incel → queer/meme usage)
** LTR **  DEFINITION: Long-term relationship  ORIGIN: 1990s–present personal ads / apps
** Lucky Pierre **  DEFINITION: The middle man in a threesome  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century, US/French origin joke/song
** Masc **  DEFINITION: Masculine-presenting gay man  ORIGIN: 2010s app culture
** Masc4Masc **  DEFINITION: Masculine man seeking masculine partner  ORIGIN: 2000s–2010s dating/app culture
** Miss Thing **  DEFINITION: Playful/sometimes shady address for another gay man  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century Black/Latinx queer communities
** Mo **  DEFINITION: Shortened form of “homo”  ORIGIN: 20th-century bar slang
** Monogamish **  DEFINITION: Mostly monogamous with some flexibility  ORIGIN: 2010s, popularized by Dan Savage
** Mother **  DEFINITION: Leader/mentor figure in ballroom or drag  ORIGIN: 1970s–80s ballroom scene
** Mother Superior **  DEFINITION: Leader of a group of gay men  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century US extension of “mother”
** MSM **  DEFINITION: Men who have sex with men (clinical/public health term)  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century epidemiology
** Mug **  DEFINITION: The face  ORIGIN: 2010s drag slang
** Muscle mary **  DEFINITION: Very muscular, often vain gay man  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century bar slang
** Naff **  DEFINITION: Tacky, uncool  ORIGIN: Polari → British mainstream slang
** Nance / Nancy **  DEFINITION: Effeminate gay man  ORIGIN: Early 20th-century English/American slang
** Neg **  DEFINITION: HIV-negative  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century HIV/AIDS communities
** Neg4Neg **  DEFINITION: HIV-negative seeking same  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Neg-friendly **  DEFINITION: Open to HIV-negative partners  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century profiles
** Negotiation **  DEFINITION: Pre-scene discussion / boundary setting  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Nelly **  DEFINITION: Effeminate gay man (sometimes affectionate, often mocking)  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century
** Nipple play **  DEFINITION: Nipple stimulation kink  ORIGIN: Kink
** No Fats, No Fems **  DEFINITION: Exclusionary phrase rejecting fat and feminine men  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century personal ads → 2010s apps
** No tea, no shade **  DEFINITION: “No offense,” often before/after criticism  ORIGIN: Drag and ballroom culture
** NSA **  DEFINITION: No strings attached (casual sex)  ORIGIN: 1990s–present hookup slang
** NSA fun **  DEFINITION: No-strings sex  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Omi **  DEFINITION: Man  ORIGIN: Polari
** On prep **  DEFINITION: Taking PrEP  ORIGIN: 2010s
** On the scene **  DEFINITION: Actively participating in gay social life  ORIGIN: Mid-late 20th-century bar culture
** Open **  DEFINITION: Non-monogamous  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** Open to **  DEFINITION: Willing to try (kinks, types, etc.)  ORIGIN: App culture
** Orbiting **  DEFINITION: Watching someone’s stories but not engaging  ORIGIN: 2010s social media
** Otter **  DEFINITION: Slim, hairy gay man  ORIGIN: 2000s, bear subculture
** Out **  DEFINITION: Openly gay  ORIGIN: 20th-century adaptation of “coming out”
** Pageant queen **  DEFINITION: Queen focused on pageant competitions  ORIGIN: Drag pageant circuits
** Palone **  DEFINITION: Woman  ORIGIN: Polari
** Pansy **  DEFINITION: Effeminate gay man; insult tied to “sissy”  ORIGIN: 1920s “Pansy Craze” in US nightlife
** Period **  DEFINITION: Emphatic end to statement  ORIGIN: 2010s, AAVE/Southern Black gay slang
** Pig **  DEFINITION: Man who enjoys intense or “dirty” sex  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century kink/leather communities
** Pig pit **  DEFINITION: Group kink space  ORIGIN: Leather scene
** Pig sex **  DEFINITION: Intense, uninhibited, often kinky sex  ORIGIN: 1990s-2000s gay leather/BDSM scenes
** Ping me **  DEFINITION: Message me on an app  ORIGIN: 2000s messaging culture
** Pink dollar **  DEFINITION: Economic power of gay consumers  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century marketing slang
** Pinkwashing **  DEFINITION: Using LGBTQ friendliness to distract from other issues  ORIGIN: 21st-century political slang
** Piss play **  DEFINITION: Watersports kink  ORIGIN: Kink
** Plant Gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man obsessed with houseplants  ORIGIN: 2020s meme culture
** Platinum gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man with even less heterosexual experience than “gold star”  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century joking slang
** Platinum star **  DEFINITION: Gay man born by C-section who never had sex with women  ORIGIN: 2000s, from Will & Grace joke
** PNP (Party & Play) **  DEFINITION: Sex + meth/party drugs  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Pocket gay **  DEFINITION: Very short gay man (often joking)  ORIGIN: 2000s–2010s slang
** Poly **  DEFINITION: Polyamorous  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** Poof / Poofter **  DEFINITION: Slur for gay man (more UK)  ORIGIN: 20th-century British slang
** Porpoise **  DEFINITION: Chubby, smooth gay man  ORIGIN: 2010s, US gay body type slang
** Potato queen **  DEFINITION: Asian man attracted to white men  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century fetishizing slang
** Power Bottom **  DEFINITION: Energetic / assertive receptive partner  ORIGIN: 2000s US gay slang
** Power top **  DEFINITION: Assertive, dominant top  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s
** Poz **  DEFINITION: HIV-positive person  ORIGIN: 1990s, from positive
** Poz party **  DEFINITION: Gathering of HIV-positive men  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century HIV communities
** Poz4Poz **  DEFINITION: HIV-positive seeking same  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Poz-friendly **  DEFINITION: Open to HIV-positive partners  ORIGIN: 1990s–2000s dating/hookup profiles
** Prawn **  DEFINITION: Fantastic body, unattractive face  ORIGIN: Recent, UK/Australia?
** PrEP / On PrEP **  DEFINITION: Taking PrEP medication  ORIGIN: 
** Prep-friendly **  DEFINITION: Open to partners on PrEP  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Primal **  DEFINITION: Animalistic kink style  ORIGIN: 2000s
** Protein Gay **  DEFINITION: Gym-focused gay man  ORIGIN: 2010s slang
** Punk **  DEFINITION: Smaller, younger gay man forced submissive  ORIGIN: Prison slang, mid-20th century
** Pup **  DEFINITION: Gay man into puppy play kink  ORIGIN: 2000s, US leather/BDSM community
** Queen **  DEFINITION: Flamboyant or effeminate gay man  ORIGIN: Early 20th century, slur reclaimed
** Queer **  DEFINITION: Umbrella term for LGBTQ; reclaimed from slur  ORIGIN: 1890s slur → reclaimed 1990s AIDS era
** Queerplatonic **  DEFINITION: Deep non-romantic partnership  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Read **  DEFINITION: Calling someone out sassily / humorously insult  ORIGIN: 1980s ballroom / Paris Is Burning
** Realness **  DEFINITION: Authentic self / convincingly embodying a category  ORIGIN: 1980s ballroom culture
** Red Flag **  DEFINITION: Warning sign in dating/personality  ORIGIN: 2020s dating slang
** Rice queen **  DEFINITION: Man (often white) attracted to Asian men  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century fetishizing slang
** Rigger **  DEFINITION: Person who ties rope (bondage top)  ORIGIN: Rope bondage
** Rope bottom **  DEFINITION: Person who enjoys being tied  ORIGIN: BDSM / rope bondage
** Roster **  DEFINITION: List of dating/hookup prospects  ORIGIN: 2020s slang
** Rough trade **  DEFINITION: Dangerous or hyper-masculine sexual partner  ORIGIN: 20th-century gay bar/street slang
** Rubber pup **  DEFINITION: Pup in rubber/latex gear  ORIGIN: Kink
** Rubberman **  DEFINITION: Man into rubber/latex  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Safeword **  DEFINITION: Word to stop play  ORIGIN: BDSM
** Sapiosexual **  DEFINITION: Attracted to intelligence  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Scene **  DEFINITION: Kink session / BDSM environment  ORIGIN: BDSM culture
** Scene queen **  DEFINITION: Person heavily involved in nightlife/club scene  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century club culture
** Scruff guy **  DEFINITION: Man using Scruff app; often bearded/masc  ORIGIN: 2010s app culture
** Sero-neutral **  DEFINITION: No preference on HIV status  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Serosort **  DEFINITION: Choose partners based on HIV status  ORIGIN: Public health / community slang
** Serve **  DEFINITION: Presenting oneself, especially a look  ORIGIN: 1980s ballroom
** Service bottom **  DEFINITION: Bottom who prioritizes pleasing the top  ORIGIN: 2000s kink/sex-positive circles
** Service top **  DEFINITION: Top who prioritizes sub’s pleasure  ORIGIN: 2000s kink/sex-positive circles
** Serving **  DEFINITION: Presenting a strong look or vibe  ORIGIN: Ballroom → mainstream
** Shade **  DEFINITION: Subtle or indirect insult  ORIGIN: 1980s ballroom culture
** Shadow pic **  DEFINITION: Dark, obscured photo (for privacy)  ORIGIN: App privacy culture
** Shadowban **  DEFINITION: Hidden from others (app/social)  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Sickening **  DEFINITION: Incredibly amazing  ORIGIN: 2010s drag
** Side **  DEFINITION: Gay man who prefers not to have anal sex  ORIGIN: 2010s non-top/bottom discourse
** Side eye **  DEFINITION: Subtle disapproval expression  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Side piece **  DEFINITION: Secondary / casual partner  ORIGIN: 2000s–present
** Sir **  DEFINITION: Dominant title (leather/BDSM)  ORIGIN: Leather/BDSM
** Sis (queer usage) **  DEFINITION: Friendly address, often between gay men  ORIGIN: AAVE and queer slang
** Sissy **  DEFINITION: Effeminate boy/man; insult  ORIGIN: Long-standing English insult
** Size queen **  DEFINITION: Gay man who prefers large penises  ORIGIN: Mid-late 20th century gay sexual slang
** Slay **  DEFINITION: Doing something exceptionally well  ORIGIN: 1970s-1980s ballroom; popularized by RuPaul/Beyonce
** Sling **  DEFINITION: Leather/metal sex sling  ORIGIN: Leather scene
** Sling Pig **  DEFINITION: Person who loves sling play  ORIGIN: Kink
** Snow queen **  DEFINITION: Gay man (often Black) attracted to white men  ORIGIN: 1990s US
** Snowballing **  DEFINITION: Passing semen mouth-to-mouth  ORIGIN: 1990s–present
** Sober only **  DEFINITION: No drugs/alcohol  ORIGIN: 2010s–present
** Soft block **  DEFINITION: Subtle block/unfollow  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Soft boy / Soft Gay **  DEFINITION: Sensitive, emotional, gentle gay man  ORIGIN: 2010s–2020s aesthetics
** Soft Launch **  DEFINITION: Subtle introduction of a new partner online  ORIGIN: 2020s social media
** Spill the Tea **  DEFINITION: Reveal gossip  ORIGIN: Ballroom culture
** Spiritual gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man focused on spirituality/wellness  ORIGIN: 2000s–2010s
** Squirrel friends **  DEFINITION: Group of gay friends  ORIGIN: 2010s, US drag culture
** Squish **  DEFINITION: Innocent, non-romantic infatuation  ORIGIN: Recent
** Stats? **  DEFINITION: Asking for height/weight/age  ORIGIN: Early hookup apps
** STEM gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man in science/tech/engineering/math  ORIGIN: 2010s–2020s
** Sticky rice **  DEFINITION: Gay Asian man attracted to other Asian men  ORIGIN: 1990s US/Asian communities
** Story thirst **  DEFINITION: Sexy Instagram story  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Straight-acting **  DEFINITION: Gay man who presents as stereotypically straight  ORIGIN: Late 20th-century bar/personal-ad slang
** Sub **  DEFINITION: Submissive partner  ORIGIN: BDSM culture
** Sup? **  DEFINITION: Minimalist opener  ORIGIN: Early app culture
** Swish **  DEFINITION: Effeminate  ORIGIN: US, mid-20th century
** Switch **  DEFINITION: Enjoys both top and bottom / dom and sub  ORIGIN: 1990s BDSM/gay sex
** Tap **  DEFINITION: Quick like/interest signal on apps  ORIGIN: Grindr/Scruff feature
** Tea **  DEFINITION: Gossip or truth  ORIGIN: Early 20th century tearooms → 1990s ballroom
** Tea dance **  DEFINITION: Daytime dance event, often Sunday afternoon  ORIGIN: Mid-20th-century gay social events
** Tea room **  DEFINITION: Public restroom used for anonymous sex  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century US slang
** Tea-room queen **  DEFINITION: Man who frequents tea rooms for sex  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century
** Thirst Trap **  DEFINITION: Sexy photo posted to attract attention  ORIGIN: 2010s social media
** Thirsty **  DEFINITION: Desperate for attention or sex  ORIGIN: AAVE / internet slang
** Tomgirl **  DEFINITION: Boy with feminine traits  ORIGIN: Recent (opposite of tomboy)
** Tongzhi **  DEFINITION: LGBTQ member in Chinese  ORIGIN: 1980s, from "comrade"
** Top **  DEFINITION: Dominant or inserting partner  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century sexual positions
** Torso pic **  DEFINITION: Shirtless body photo  ORIGIN: App culture
** Trade **  DEFINITION: Masculine-presenting hookup partner (historic & modern)  ORIGIN: Early 20th-century Polari/US → 2000s apps
** Trade queen **  DEFINITION: Man obsessed with picking up trade  ORIGIN: Bar slang
** Traveling **  DEFINITION: Looking for hookups while traveling  ORIGIN: App culture
** Twilight **  DEFINITION: To leave a bar/scene quietly or fade out socially  ORIGIN: Localized bar slang
** Twink **  DEFINITION: Young, slim, smooth gay man  ORIGIN: 1960s-1970s (possibly from Twinkie snack)
** Twink death **  DEFINITION: Idea that a twink loses desirability with age  ORIGIN: 2010s internet slang
** Twunk **  DEFINITION: Muscular twink (twink + hunk)  ORIGIN: 2000s–2010s
** U=U **  DEFINITION: Undetectable = Untransmittable  ORIGIN: 
** UB2 **  DEFINITION: “You be too” (HIV-negative)  ORIGIN: App shorthand
** Unblock **  DEFINITION: Reverse block  ORIGIN: App feature
** Uncuffing Season **  DEFINITION: Spring breakups  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Undetectable (U=U) **  DEFINITION: HIV viral load undetectable  ORIGIN: 2010s
** Unicorn **  DEFINITION: Bisexual person, often mythical / rare  ORIGIN: 2010s poly/LGBTQ+ slang
** Vada **  DEFINITION: To look at someone  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century Polari (from Italian "vedere")
** Verified **  DEFINITION: Profile verified  ORIGIN: App feature
** Vers **  DEFINITION: Versatile in top/bottom  ORIGIN: 1990s abbreviation
** Village queen **  DEFINITION: Gay man associated with NYC Greenwich Village  ORIGIN: Mid-20th century NYC regional
** Vogue / Voguing **  DEFINITION: Stylized dance form from ballroom culture  ORIGIN: 1970s–80s Harlem ballroom
** Voyeur **  DEFINITION: Likes watching others  ORIGIN: Kink
** Walrus **  DEFINITION: Older, chubby, hairy gay man  ORIGIN: 2010s US gay body type slang
** WeHo gay **  DEFINITION: Gay man associated with West Hollywood scene  ORIGIN: 1990s–present LA regional
** Werk **  DEFINITION: Exclamation of approval; to perform fabulously  ORIGIN: Drag culture; popularized by RuPaul
** Wolf **  DEFINITION: Lean, muscular, hairy gay man  ORIGIN: 2000s bear subculture
** Woof **  DEFINITION: Scruff “like” signal  ORIGIN: Scruff app
** Yas / Yass **  DEFINITION: Emphatic yes / enthusiastic approval  ORIGIN: 1980s ballroom → viral 2010s
** Zaddy **  DEFINITION: Stylish, attractive older man  ORIGIN: 2010s US, blend of "zazzy" and daddy
** Zhuzh / Zhoosh **  DEFINITION: To style, spruce up, or improve appearance  ORIGIN: Polari → queer/fashion circles
 

I didnt realize there where so many terms, I guess being in the south I don’t see a lot of those terms.

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2 hours ago, AirmaxUK said:

I see the terms Wataa and Chudai used on social media posts and was hoping to see a definition here.  

I’ve been trying to figure out those two for a while. I actually do know what they mean now and I will write up a response once I’m back to my computer… Essentially it started as code words which enabled people in oppressed countries where being gay was not OK or looking at porn pornography was not OK to be able to search for and find porn gay or sexual content. 

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Here are some that I know or have had to Google when I saw them show up repeatedly on hookup profiles that I don't see on the list:

     ATM

     cock block/cock blocker

     cuddle buddy

     DTF/down to fuck

     frot

     gouinage

     gooning/gooner

     HJ

     picnic

     spooner

 

     

 

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18 hours ago, PozToxVersPig said:

** Cock gobbler **  DEFINITION: Vulgar slur for a gay man who performs fellatio  ORIGIN: 2000s, US derogatory slang

I sucked the dick of a good 'ole boy in his car after a Bama/Ole Miss game over in Oxford back in the late 80's. After he filled up my mouth with a big load and watched me swallow it all he called me this.

I didn't take it as a slur. 😄

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On 1/22/2026 at 11:58 PM, PozToxVersPig said:

 

What slang terms are missing?  Comment below.

 

** Helium Heels **  DEFINITION: A top who turns into a bottom when presented with any large dick.  ORIGIN: 2010s Grindr and other apps

 

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4 hours ago, topblkmale said:

 

** Helium Heels **  DEFINITION: A top who turns into a bottom when presented with any large dick.  ORIGIN: 2010s Grindr and other apps

 

In California in the 80s, we used "Helium Heels" to describe any guy whose heels magically floated in the air when on his back in the presence of another man...

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2 minutes ago, Ieatcumholes said:

In California in the 80s, we used "Helium Heels" to describe any guy whose heels magically floated in the air when on his back in the presence of another man...

Your and @topblkmale make me laugh.  I've never heard this, and also....was "air head" not good enough?  LOL

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2 hours ago, topblkmale said:

** Helium Heels **  DEFINITION: A top who turns into a bottom when presented with any large dick.  ORIGIN: 2010s Grindr and other apps

AFAIK, this term predates the 2010s by at least 20 years. I remember it being in broad use in Sydney in the late 1980s and early 1990s. It was used to describe a bottom who was pretty easy.

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14 hours ago, Ieatcumholes said:

In California

In Chicago too .... 

Who, I wonder, had the time to compile this list? 

If it was a bottom, maybe his hole grew shut for lack of use?  Or if it was a Top, maybe his dick fell off for the same reason?  

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14 hours ago, Ieatcumholes said:

In California in the 80s, we used "Helium Heels" to describe any guy whose heels magically floated in the air when on his back in the presence of another man...

I thought "helium heels" was a common one. I remember it in Illinois in the late 80's and early 90's, Texas in the mid to late 90's and Colorado in the late 90's and 00's. Maybe it has fallen out of favor, but it had a long run across most of the country.

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