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I had made the reservation, but it turns out the timing for me is just really bad this year, so I can't make it to MAL after all. I'll try to do IML instead. If anyone wants my room reservation, let me know - I have a corner room reserved - should be pretty nice.

Honestly, no clue..

Posts in the members' blog area have to be approved before they go live. I delete probably 25% of what gets posted there because it's the wrong section of the site to post that particular thing (and I can't move from blog to forum)...

Not exactly true. Social scientists currently define the terms "straight" and "gay" to be about what relationship the person wants to be in. So there are lots of "straight men who have sex with men" (straight MSMs). So it's perfectly normal to want a relationship with woman and sex with men.

You'll be getting most of your loads in saunas and you want to try to stay neg... Forget about it... YOU WILL BECOME POZ if you routinely take anonymous loads. It's one thing to ask a date their status and expect honesty, but it's absurd to ask an anonymous top their status and expect honesty.

From chatting with you I know you have dreams and aspirations... You're also a bit reserved and cautious... All of those things could be issues as a sub slave. Letting your owner call the shots takes a certain mentality when it's 24/7/365... That said, you'd be perfect in many ways...

I know viral load is highest right after infection, but how long does that last before it drops? Is bisexstud still in the period when high viral loads are expected?

I used to use Gun Oil, but now prefer Wet Platinum...

Moved the thread to the NYC sub-forum - makes more sense here...

There are problems with it and getting it work reliably has been almost impossible. I can't keep asking my host to restart things, and I don't have the time right now to get to the bottom of it. I'll get to it when I can, but it will be a few days.

My loads tend to be bigger and thicker if it's been a couple days (or more) since I last came. When I give a bottom a big load I figure it's better than a small one. But from my perspective a good load is one where you feel a big thick load blasting out of your dick into the bottom and it goes on for a while - pulse after pulse of thick white jizz (not that it's ever seen since it's going up the bottom's ass, but I can tell it was a big load).

You're hot boy... My bf and I could use a boy like you when we move into a bigger place at the end of the year.

Hey guys... Thanks for the responses... PM me... Probably won't be getting serious about looking for a sub until we move and have more space. But subcub - since you're in NYC, we can to a little test run...

These days it seems doctors like to put people on meds as soon as they test poz. That just really bothers me... I've worked in pharmaceutical marketing years ago - even on drugs that are now banned by the FDA... I see drugs as a last resort, not a first resort... Just stop for a second and think about all the drugs that are household names that have been pulled from the market or have had big lawsuits because of serious, life-threatening side effects... I looked up on YouTube to see if there were videos related to drug side effects lawsuits and found tons of them... (for acne) (for birth control) (for depression) (for smoking cessation) (for seizures) (for diabetes - I worked on the marketing for this one) (for hair loss) (for seizures - I worked on this one as well)Fosamax (for osteoporosis) (for seizures - I've had a doctor insist I take this when I didn't really need it)...and the list could go on and on... You don't want to find out there's a serious problem with a drug AFTER you've been taking it for a few years... The thing is that when you're HIV+ the drug companies have an out - they can blame any side effects on your compromised immune system. Meanwhile there's big money in ARVs. I used to have a doctor who specialized in HIV care (even though I was neg), and just about every time I went to see him there was a drug rep in his waiting room. There is huge incentives for doctors to prescribe ARVs as well as social pressure. The drug companies are pumping out study after study showing early use of ARVs is beneficial but those studies are just based on a few years of following patients (at most) - when the patients will be on the drugs for decades... Then influential doctors who are paid by the drug companies basically tell all the other doctors that it would be malpractice not to put poz guys on meds quickly. That really is how it works - I've worked for companies who recruited those doctors and then sent them off to "consulting meetings" at places like ski resorts, top golf destinations, etc. We're talking about putting someone on really powerful drugs for 30, 40, 50, even 60+ years and it seems like there's zero discussion of the possible/probable side effects over that period of time. I also get the sense that a current is developing in the scientific / medical / public health communities that poz guys need to go on meds to protect neg guys. That the vaccine for HIV is ARVs. But this thinking is based on the idea that the health of neg guys is more valuable and worthwhile than the health of poz guys. I'm not saying poz guys shouldn't take ARVs. There will be a time when the benefits of ARVs outweigh the side effects. After all, HIV is usually deadly if left untreated. But putting someone on ARVs before you know how the person's body responds to HIV just seems wrong on many levels. One size does not fit all. For example, certain people have genes that make it more likely that their body can "control" HIV and keep viral loads fairly low (e.g. GG or GT on marker rs2395029). These people don't need to go on ARVs nearly as quickly as everyone else. The doctors don't even test to see if the patient has genetic markers for HIV control. The tests would cost maybe $100, yet putting the patient on ARVs will cost thousands of dollars every month for decades and decades... I guess I'm just anti-drugs. I'll take them when I absolutely need them, but not before. I've had too many issues with "top notch" doctors who didn't really know what they were talking about and wanted to put me on meds "just to be safe" - problem was the drugs didn't help, and the side effects were worse than the problem they were supposed to fix. Thoughts?

Just gave a load to one of my favorite bottoms - a hot little muscular Latino...

"Go Advanced" when you reply and add it as an attachment.

I know I'm a bear, but I don't embrace the idea enough to tattoo my body with a bear claw...

"A tear down there" is one of the reasons why I'm a top today. I used to be versatile. It hurt like hell when I'd get fucked and I'd often bleed. Then I started getting into topping and found it suited me. If I still wanted to bottom I'd have surgery and fix things...

Swiss researchers say your risk zero, or close to zero IF the person is consistently undetectable and has no other STDs. Read my old blog posts on the topic... http://www.rawtop.com/blog/2008-07/hiv-declared-no-longer-fatal http://www.rawtop.com/blog/2008-02/update-on-the-swiss-statement-about-undetectable-viral-loads

Latin Boyz is one of those sites I promote (on more than one site) because I just love the models. The photographer just has this way of getting really hot guys to bend over, spread their ass and show their hole. More often than not it gets me hard and I want to fuck/breed the model. Very few sites elicit that response from me.

Do you mean BarebackThatHole.com?

Some of you mentioned memberships to hookup sites - this is in the porn discussion forum so when I ask what you're paying for, I mean what porn sites are you paying for. I've either unapproved those posts or edited mentions of hookup sites out.

Raw Fuck Club has videos from Dark Alley Media. They're very "poz friendly" but it's not a site about bug chasing or gift giving.

No - don't shave... If any parts are unruly then get a beard trimmer and make the hair shorter... But stubble is not nice... It's one thing if you're naturally smooth and there are just a few straggling hairs here and there, but you're naturally sorta hairy...

The site is not illegal. It's protected under the First Amendment / free speech. But at the same time there is discussion of things here that are not legal in all jurisdictions. For example sex in bars in NYC isn't legal, but the discussion of it is legal. I don't want law enforcement using what they see here against the members.