DeliciousHallway

Thanks for all your feedback and ideas! I tried this fantasy out in a sling in a bathhouse and had a blast (or few).

Yeah, you'll get a towel that you can wrap around yourself after you undress in the locker room. Never recalled people sitting there naked.

If it's your first time it might be a good idea to go there just to have a look. Some people visit these venues because they just want to use the sauna facilities and be among other men. As mentioned by others, the worst you have to expect is people gently touching you or making eye contact in the cruising area (usually a dimly lit labyrinth with different rooms for different activities). If you go there with the expectation to use the private cabins, then use the bukkake room, followed by sling and cinema, it would be totally understandable if you chicken out. Most places also have a bar, so you can have a beer or two to loosen up.

Went to a bathhouse a week ago and somehow wasn't feeling the crowd. So I decided to stay a bit at the bar and drank a few beers over roughly two hours to see if things turned out for the better. After I didn't see anything interesting I figured I'd visit the cinema room to masturbate before leaving. Arriving there I noticed that there were four people already on the benches on the side. A mat in the middle was still empty so I grabbed some lube and a few tissues, leaned back, and went to town. Somehow I still wasn't fully in the mood, however, a bit later an older man approached me and asked me if I was interested in bottoming for him. I declined and he asked if he could watch to which I agreed. The mat isn't as spacious as you would imagine a bed, so I lean against a wall with my legs dangling down towards the ground, while the guy sits next to me. It seems that the alcohol is taking a toll on me because I struggle to reach an orgasm. He seems to take notice and starts to gently stroke my legs, neck and eventually taint, working his way down to my hole. Now, even though the place is nicely cushioned, after a while the position gets uncomfortable, so I decided to lift my legs onto the mattress, effectively spreading my legs (one over his legs) so that the room has a good view of my entire bottom. The guy seemingly takes this as a hint and focuses his massage entirely around my hole, slowly prodding it. I tell him that fingering me is okay and so he proceeds. Since, he has been so gentle I instruct him a bit until he finds the right spot and ask him to put his hand lightly on my neck, not choking me, but adding a nice pressure that I like. Still fighting with being insensitive due to the alcohol I tell him that it is okay to use more than one finger. He says that he'd need some lube for that and gets up to fetch some from a dispenser. Oddly, I noticed that the was wearing a condom all the time. It doesn't fit perfectly anymore, as I imagine he must have lost his erection in between, explaining the empty front part. After returning he rotated me slightly so that I had more space and only leaned with my head slightly on a wall. This puts me up for display for the others in the room even more, which I like. He then proceeds to lube me up slowly, before stretching me with two of his fingers while holding his hand on my neck again, while becoming rougher. I don't recall exactly how the last exchange came to be, but he somehow noticed that I was getting close and asked me if I'm about to cum. When I told him that I was about to shoot in a second he removed his fingers and spread me by pulling up my left leg over his shoulder and leaned into me, effectively choking me while I reached an orgasm. This surprised me, so I put my hands on his arm which was gripping my neck. He used this moment of my confusion by jamming his cock into me, while I started to shoot, and began fucking me. After a few moments, I withdrew from his grip and position, and he got up and left. Looking back I felt weird about this encounter as he had overstepped a boundary. But now that some time has passed I notice that I still fantasize about this night. The idea of some people watching me orgasm helplessly while struggling against a choke somehow became a turn on and I think maybe power dynamics might be a fetish for me.

As some people already mentioned, you always take a gamble when going there. Sometimes the crowd is great, sometimes it's unbearable – there is nothing you can really do about it. However, maybe it might be an interesting idea to focus on the things you can actually influence. For me, that would be my expectation. If I visit with the intent of getting topped, I worry about hygiene, the right people, if I'm horny at the right time; a cascade of things that have to be fulfilled for me to have a good time or to achieve the goal I set for myself, which sets up some pressure for me. Personally, I noticed that when I go there only with the plan to relax, an encounter is a nice bonus; I'm way more at ease. Most bathhouses I went to have bars, and while you write that you don't like poppers (which team I also play in), a beer or two is a nice way of loosening up. Sometimes you'll meet a guy that isn't your type, but maybe he'd be supportive and help to watch out for you, while you do your thing.

Hey everyone, Always wanted to fulfill my fantasy of a larger barebacking event and still have a few questions about the whole ordeal. Started to open up to having sex with guys only one and a half years ago, so I'm pretty fresh and would greatly appreciate your input. Currently, I'm on PrEP, and now that I've grown a bit more confident I figured I'd celebrate it with a big bang so to say. There are a few events like this here in the Netherlands / the Horse-Fair, as well as the possibility of visiting a bathhouse with a blindfold and I haven't decided yet, so I'd be more than happy to hear your recommendations. Here are a few questions I'm curious about: - How does it work with lube? I imagine at the horse fair it could happen that I would be tied somewhere, how could I request more if needed? - Can I tap out for a break, if a stallion is too rough or would that disqualify me from the rest of the event? - Do stallions/tops usually masturbate the bottom? - Can I expect most people to orgasm inside of me? - I'm a rather feminine/smooth twink; would this be considered a turn-off by many? - Are there any additional tips/safety recommendations? Thanks a lot for your input!