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I have recently tried zinc. Have heard that mentioned many times. Not sure if it is doing anything for me yet. Shot a really big load last night but had been edging for 3 hours

Do you guys think this is a bigger issue now that open barebacking is more common? I think back 10 years and regardless what went on behind closed doors, the public expectation was a condom, so maybe people could be understood for treating that as a default. In my experience, 10 years ago, far less than 10% of the fucking I saw in open areas of baths was bareback. Recently I would say it was usually about 60%. Last time I went it was 80%. As a neg bottom who doesn't bareback, and is very picky, I hear you. I never behave this way. If it is any consolation, most of the guys I see ass up in their rooms seem to get very little action. I always attributed it to the imbalance of tops and bottoms, maybe they are just doing this. Since I started being a lot sluttier about 3 years ago I have faced this conundrum. I want to appear available to bottom but filter who I want to fuck me. I never lie in my open room, ass up to the door. I have only been in a sling once, when a guy who was fucking me standing up wanted to put me in the sling. I think I habe occupied the fuckbench twice, both when guys fucking me standing up moved me there. I never want to steal that kind of space from bigger cumsluts, or mislead tops. It is easy to just stick your ass in the air. ZIt is tough to signal "are you a top with at least 7 inches, preferably uncut, wanting to fuck me with a condom and no reciprocation?" but if i have these conditions it is kind of my problem. Occupying space reserved for no limits pigs is not the right answer.

So I actually am at a bath now. I wrote the above about 20 minutes ago then walked down the hall and found a black guy strokinghis thick 8 incher who iinvited me in. I started sucking his big cock amd hoped he would fuckme but surprised me by coming fairly quickly, shooting his load on my face then pushing it into my mouth. After a couple of minutes of squeezing the last drop of cum into mymouth he got hard again. I sucked him some more but he wasn't ready desire wise.So I lreft him to rest up. Bottom line, give your cock and desire time to recover

Among the many reasons I like to get a room at a bath house is a place to recover. I think most guys feel that way after cumming and it varies how long recovery takes. I would take a shower amd a steam for about 15 minutes then lie down for 45 or so. Generally those are the times it takes me to even tolerate any physical stimulation or really want more sex. My favorite bath has 20 channels of porn in room, so maybe that helps

It is something that is better in principal than in practice. I love sucking cock and am often more than content just to have oral (and have no doubt that I am a better cocksucker than bottom), but once I have a dick in my ass I have trouble giving the cock in my mouth proper attention unless it is over 8 inches and uncut. That being said, one of my biggest fantasies is to be bareback gangbanged by a series of guys who would each shoot their loads in me and then go directly ass to mouth fora cleaning. But that is fantasy andeven in that scenario, the pressure to give good head would not be there - just clean up like a good little slut.

I am almost 46, a bottom but in good shape and conventionally good looking. Not male model material or anything but enough that my looks are not disqualifying. I frequently get multiple guys at the baths wanting me to top them. Which is part of the problem: the overall imbalance of bottoms and tops. It is my perception that there must be at least 3 bottoms for every top, so I think part of this is just tops having the opportunity to be choosy. There definitely is an ageist component although I personally never got that. When I was in my 20s I usually hooked up with guys 35-50 and probably guys 50-65 were at least as cpmmon as my own age. So it is a bias I never had. However I am a shameless size queen with a strong preference for uncut, so a lot of this is just that we all can have our petty -but meaningful to us - preferences. I do wonder if the prevalence of hookup apps like grindr has affected this. Anecdotally, it seems like fewer younger guys are at the baths than when I was in my 20s and early 30s. If they are more likely to use social media hookup tools to self select maybe it makes it harder for other guys. Either if it means people find it e=easier to filter online or becauseit makes younger guys at the baths a scarcer ccommodity.

I had one week where I had 3 different guys each 10- 10.5 inches fuck me, but that is an outlier (and a crazy good week). I don't have much experience with bigger than that and I find true 11+ inchers to be exceedingly rare. However I think that many underestimate the number of 9.5- 10.5 inch cocks out there. My sample may be a bit skewed because most of my hookups are at the baths where there are a large number of potential partners and you can self select. I really prefer bottoming for guys who are bigger than me so the great majority of cocks that have fucked me were at least 7.5 inches. I did run some tests once where over tje span of a few months I asked some partners if I could measure them just to compare my eyeball estimate to actual measurements. I got a sample of several dozen and my estimate was never more than a half inch off. My sample was skewed more towards the larger, because that is my preference, because I figured bigger guys would be less shy about it, and because I don't really care as much about error on the low end. I wanted evidence of whether my eyes were deceptively perceiving "internet inches" or "gay inches ". But no, my guesses were pretty damn good. As to how it feels, fantastic! I don't have a ton of experience bottoming but with enough lube (preferably silicone) and taking it easy for the first 40 seconds or so, I can take a hard pounding from the big ones. I read this site for thrills, as in my real life I want to stay neg snd usually use condoms. I say usually because the one thing that can reliably make me take bare cock - at least at first - is an uncut 10 incher. while none of these three came in my ass the two uncut guys just fucked me bare without asking and the guy who was cut kept trying to stealth me by removing or tearing the condom. And it is much easier to take a big cock bare, at initial entry just for slipperiness, and later in the fuck when you would otherwise have latex chafing. I need a cock that can give me deep strokes, and being stretched by thickness is amazing.

I hate geolocation. I won't install or use apps like Grindr because of privacy concerns. I find it really creepy that someone could track where I sleep, work and recreate.

First time I got fucked I almost came. I had to make him stop and finish in my mouth, I was too embarrassed. The fourth time I got fucked was in a dark room at a bath I was standing up but bent over sucking this thick Chinese dude while this Greek guy reamed me out. My cock was swaying back and forth with the rhythm of th fucking. The guy in my mouth dumped his load and then my own cock swing some ropey precum that hit my bent over face. Again I had to stop before I came. A couple of months ago i was kneeling over the edge of the bed being fucked by a guy with 8 thick inches. He wasn't fucking really hast or hard but he was really forcing that thing in with determined full strokes, I was about two thrusta away from losing it. I don't know entirely why other than as a bottom it is not about my orgasm but I really fear cumming from being fucked

I think this is a complicated subject. I am a bottom but for almost 20 years was oral only significantly because I could never relax because of fear - both of STIs and the idea that I might not be clean. I am bi and not out, and it would have been difficult to keep around enema equipment without raising flags. A lot of my sex has been relatively impromptu, like stopping off at the video booths after work and sucking some cock through glory holes. It wasn't until I discovered that two of my local bathouses had on site douche facilities that I began to get fucked fairly regularly. Now my routine is to hit the baths, douche, shower, and relax for 30 -60 minutes then checking to make sure I am clean before lubing up and looking to get fucked. If I stay more than 4-5 hours I would usually douche again. So while I can't really imagine getting fucked without being confidently clean, I do think it is asking a little much to expect that every ass at every time will be clean. I am now astonished that many baths don't have douche facilities, as it seems so obvious and necessary. But will every guy at a bookstore, sex shop, crusing area have been able to take the time to get to a private place and douche? Should they stay home? Even if they really just planned on sucking some cock, but when presented with your beautiful cock just had to have it in their ass? What about guys who go out for dinner and hit the bars? By closing time it is probably 7 or 8 hours since they had a chance to douche and things could be less than pristine? What about guys in relationships? Do they schedule all their sex post rigourous enema cleansing? Surely occasionally they just go to bed and decide to fuck. As some others have noted the commoness of douching is a product of the last 20-30 years or so. Gay sex happened a fair amount before then. Most of my experience as a top is with women. My female partners have not been overly anal, and I have only had two who specifically asked to be assfucked, but none of them ever appear to have given a thought to douching. Usually it happened without planning. I expect that some of the time that they said they didn't want to be fucked in the ass the reason may have been that they did not feel completely clean. But in general, a lot of heterosexual anal sex takes place completely out of left field, and while the occasional accident happens it does not seem to dampen enthusiasm for the act. So I think some people need to chill. And I say this as someone whose limited, fearful and short experiences with barebacking (that led me to this site) were heavily motivated by the extreme turn on of ass to mouth. While I have never taken a load anally, every cock that has ever gone in my ass bare went straight into my mouth upon withdrawl. I have a very very strong personal interest in a clean ass. I just think that we ought to accept that not every sex act is going to take place in ideal circumstances. No reason not to aspire to perfection, but can we admit that the threat of imperfection ought not to be enough to make us stay at home jacking off?

I am not normally one who believes much of the talk of diet dramatically affecting the taste of semen. I have heard that drinking pineapple juice can give you sweeter cum but who knows. A huge part of taste is smell, and some foods really can influence the scent of sweat or urine, so I guess it could do the same for cum. Recently I had an interesting case while sucking an East Indian guy. His precum was incredibly spicy, and dare I say tasted of curry spices. I have had instances where I sucked off a guy whose clothes had cooking smells but this was not the case. He was naked and just smelled like a naked man. Also, his cum just tasted like cum. Only his precum was affected.

I am not an expert and I am always looking for advice, but I prefer to go to baths where they have douche facilities. It blows my mind that not all baths have this. I guess lots of people just clean up at home, but I am often going to the baths straight from work or other engagements. And as a bi man with a girlfriend there are some impediments to things like installing a shower shot at home. The two baths I frequent the most are the largest and busiest in town, but there are others I would go to if they had douche facilities. Plus it is free money for these clubs. I gladly pay these baths $4-5 for a 20 cent piece of hose to attach to their douche facilities. I find it impossible to relax getting fucked if I don't feel confident in the cleanliness of my ass. I am not looking for a high colonic to clean myself out for a 48 hour event fuck, nor at the other end of the scale can I even understand what a little 7 ounce (200 ml) packaged douche would begin to do. I want more than just my rectum clean, since what I am looking for is big cocks to fuck me deep. I usually give myself a good cleaning, repeatedly filling my ass and emptying it until the water both looks and smells clean. I then finger my ass with a bit of lube to open up a bit and allow the remaining water to drip out then have a relaxing shower. I then wait about half an hour and check my ass. Sometimes there might be a little water settled that I need to squeeze out. If it is clear and everything seems fine then I lube up my ass with silicone lube and go try to get fucked. This gap between douching and fucking also allows your natural ass juices to restore natural lube in your ass. Usually at this point I figure I am good for about 4-5 hours. If i went much longer than that I would consider douching again. Sometimes I find that 20 or 30 minutes after the initial clean things settle or maybe get loosened up and I have to douche again, so effectively it is rinse and repeat :-). I would say that about 30% of the time I need to repeat. I have had a couple of frustrating experiences where I just couldn't seem to get clean. Where 20 or 30 minutes after douching I felt like I needed to clean again, and the second douche didn't resolve it. After 4 repetitions I just gave up. If anyone has advice on that, I am all ears.

In general from behind. I like the feeling of being taken, and a bit at his mercy. I also don't really get into kissing so that aspect of being face to face is not important. 1. Definitely doggy. I like to be on all fours taken from behind. Doggy allows the top to grab onto my hips and slam it all the way in. 1.A I also don't object if he pushes me down so I am lying flat on my stomach with his full weight bearing down with each thrust. I don't know if you consider this a separate position or just an extension of doggy. Others? Standing up, fucked from behind. I do like this and while I am never focused on my own dick while being fucked I do find the action of my dick swinging in rhythm to the fucking very stimulating. However I find I am more likely to tense up in this position than any other and I am generally in some way I cannot fully comprehend really really bad at this position. Eager for advice but I find about half the time I am being fucked in this position I can't seem to maintain the right angle and it is frustrating for the top. At 6 feet even (about 1.83m for you SI dudes) I am a fairly common height, so I dont think that is the issue. I don't know if i need to get my ass higher or lower or pointed up or down or what. It isn't always a problem but when it is it can be catastrophic. Normally this is a darkroom scenario and I have had frustrated tops just give up and look for another hole. I have only had this once, but it did strike me as the king of face to face positions: The pile driver, with my shoulders on the bed, my ass up in the air, my legs on his shoulders and the full weight of his body driving his 10.5 inches into my ass. The fact that it was the first time I was barebacked for more than 15 seconds or so and he could just pull out of my ass and drop his wet cock down into my open mouth probably made it extra special. Not sure that I could replicate those circumatnaces. So, Doggy it is!

The last year is an interesting time scale for me because it is two totally different periods. The second half of 2012 was the sluttiest period of my life. I spent more time at baths and in darkrooms than ever before and sucked a ton of cock and swallowed lots of cum. I got fucked more than the previous 20 years put together. I didnt take any loads but got barebacked a couple of times for fairly extended periods by guys with huge cocks. I had 3 or 4 instances where I let a guy bareback me and would have taken his load if he wanted, but in each case they knew I was neg and that I did not usually bareback and did not cum in me. did take each of them ass to mouth repeatedly. I had my first broken condom experience and it was while being fucked in public on a fuck bench. I can still remember the gasps of the crowd when he pulled his 8 incher out revealing a shredded remainder of a rubber. I was fucked in a sling for the first time, while four other guys watched and jerked off and fed me their cocks. I got fucked bent over a coffee table table in a room full of men. I sucked off a guy through a glory hole while he got barebacked and then felched the load out of his ass and cleaned the top's cock off with my mouth. However the first half of 2013 has been among my least active times ever. I have been fucked once, only given about a half dozen blowjobs and fucked women 4 or 5 times. I have a history of going back and forth with levels of sexual activity. Sometimes it is because of a relationship pulling focus in a more monogamous way, but often times it is less specific. I found this site about 2 years ago when I started hitting baths and darkrooms regularly after about a 5 year absence and I was struck by how much more barebacking was happening openly in those places. I don't know if I am entering another period of relative quiet in my sexual life or if this is just a short term thing. I was certainly edging close to the precipice. The trajectory I was on was probably only days or weeks away from taking loads. In one 36 hour period in December I willingly took two 10 inchers bareback and played with another massively hung guy who repeatedly broke or removed his condom while fucking me, which I treated with an uncharacteristic level of nonchalance. I was definitely playing a much riskier game than I can accept. But I didn't specifically stop because of that fear, I just have not had the level of intense craving to have my ass and throat filled that I experienced. I went from hitting the baths 2-3 times a week to less than once a month and even when I did visit I was more frequently disappointed. It has been about four months since I had a cock in my ass. Almost two months since I had one in my mouth. I am still horny. I still think and fantasize and jerk off while watching porn, or reading sites like this or just imagining big wet uncut cocks plowing my ass and sliding into my mouth for a cleaning after. Just that whereas 7 or 8 months ago those thoughts would have compelled me to cruise for the real thing, I am seemingly more sated by fantasy and less in need of reality. So I don't know how much of a trend this is or how long it continues. Experience tells me things will turn again, but when or for how long I don't know. But the last year has certainly not been a straight line from A to B in my sexual practices.

I will cross post what i wrote in a parellel thread https://breeding.zone/threads/22056-Relaxing-the-hole I am not an expert but I went from being fucked only 6 times in my life to taking 10.5 inchers with no problem essentially overnight. My advice: 1. Douche. I actually find the act of douching loosens me up in addition to cleaning out. 2. Finger. After I douche I spend about 2 minutes with a small amount of lube working two then three fingers in and stretching my hole. 3. Lube. I like a silicone lube because it is slipperier, long lasting and doesn't get sticky. I also use a lube shooter to get it far up my ass to coat the biguns when they get there. 4. Try to relax. Don't fight the initial penetration. 5. Hold on for that first 30 seconds to a minute. Ask your top not to go too crazy for the first minute. I find that if I am allowed to get used to the dick in my ass for about 30 seconds I can take a hard deep fucking immediately after. Some tops don't like to be asked this. On the other hand I have had plenty of tops go crazy from my initial "take it slow" changing to "fuck me as hard as you can" in less than a minute once I got a taste of their big dick in my ass. 6. Ass to mouth. I could invent some fake justification like "it replenishes your juices with lubricating spit" but in reality I think it is just really really hot.