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On one or two occasions guys have e-mailed me (through A4A) asking, with a very antagonistic tone, "How could you, an HIV positive guy, bareback?" I didn't respond to the e-mails. I probably muttered to myself "Fucking Asshole" as I deleted the message. I also seem to recall both guys who wrote me deleted their profile from the site - one hit wonders, of a sort.
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Coming to AIDS2012 conference?
Hotload84 replied to whthole4u's topic in Washington D.C. / Baltimore Metro Areas
I'm surprised I haven't seen anything in Philadelphia Gay News, the local fag rag about the AIDS 2012 Conference - after all, Philly is only 120 miles from Washington. I hadn't even heard the conference is convening later this month. Here's the website: http://www.aids2012.org/ -
Good summary, Matias47!
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Same for me!
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"'Manly/masculine' is, to me, a heterosexist cultural construct built on stereotype, and also entirely subjective and relative. Ditto 'feminine'. Calling a male 'less manly' than another male is an insult that goes all the way back to the first schoolyard. When the bullies called you a sissy, did you take it as a compliment? Probably not. It was meant to rob you of your self-esteem and power.'" Building on Einathens' observation I suppose is the question how does the individual who is described as less manly respond to the (presumably negative) construct? Whereas some with perhaps a frail sense of self-worth, may be crushed, others possessing a strong sense of self-confidence will find such descriptions to be meaningless. Perhaps this is an aspect of the Ayn Rand protagonist that I found admirable: someone who, as a consequence of his sense of self-worth, seemed generally immune to the barbs of society.
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Like you, Einathens, I need "...wonder, awe, mystery or faith" in my world, notwithstanding, or perhaps because so much life is measuring - time, resources, results. Shame is out there, of course, but more simply born of taking taking the easy way out, where my sense of morality demands I take the high road. Ayn Rand certainly had good plot lines, and some of her arguments were worthwhile, but if I was looking for a writer who found the correct balance between selfish and self-aware, I would look at Taylor Caldwell. Her protagonists embraced the fullness of the human condition: flawed, yet striving to better themselves. In this I would find my own aspiration.
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I agree, Einathens, so I've separated your posting from the discussion where you posted it. I'll also add, that when I generally cringe when I read stories and/or postings that suggest (or clearly assert) a bottom is less of a man than a top, but I surmise some guys really get off on the argument, so generally I've left such postings alone (although I would still undertake normal editing - for egregious syntax, grammar, spelling and plot-line problems). I for one admire the skill level of a consummate bottom who can readily take the biggest and widest of cocks up his ass, and can't imagine why doing so makes him less of a man. Frankly, I wish I were better at bottoming!
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A good sexual partner knows what turns-on his or her mate, and such knowledge is born of individual-specific knowledge as well as general experience. Guess you have both in abundance, TheBreeder.
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I have experienced some of the reticence you've been noting in yourself, Rubio2001: the prospects of contracting one type of VD or another really gives me pause when I'm contemplating a night (or afternoon) of debauchery. I occasionally have gone whole-hog, so to speak, but far more often decide not to - just to reduce the likelihood of contracting something. HIV has been, overall, manageable for me, and my doctors and I get along well. I'm not sure I'd be able to face them quite so cavalierly if I had to explain how I contracted syphilis or some other exotic form of VD. I know my reticence puts a cramp on my sexual outlets, but it's my decision, and I'm not complaining.
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There is certainly a degree of visceral pleasure, Subtenor, in the thought of the healthcare insurance companies disappearing from the face of the earth, but it's hard to imagine we would ever have the collective courage to accept the chaos that would immediately follow such a collapse. I agree with Mike_thierlot - a single payer arrangement is a much more sensible arrangement, but how to get there? Crash-and-burn or incrementally? I'd choose the later, and trust the future to continuously tweak the arrangement with the hope we would eventually adopt a better system.
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My Super Pozzing Experience!!!
Hotload84 replied to noexitfastlane's topic in Bug Chasing & Gift Giving FICTION
Quite an experience, Noexitfastlane! Although you indicate this was an actual experience, I've moved your posting to the Bug Chasing & Gift Giving FICTION section because it will get more notice here. Thanks for posting! -
We struggle with collectivism and individualism, Mikealec. Moreover, reaching a consensus is all the more troublesome when it entails money (as in the healthcare debate) or the loss of perceived status (as in the same-sex marriage argument). Sometimes we get it right, sometimes we fuck-up. Moreover, because the way we tally votes is skewed by political boundaries, the majority does not always get its way. Finally, add into the mix the challenge of the court system, where the multiple levels of courts at the state and federal levels, each interpreting the laws with the strengths and weaknesses of the individual (not to mention the roll of money and/or profile in determining outcome), it's no surprise American can reach decisions that are, perhaps, counter-intuitive, if not counter-productive.
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I imagine everyone has a way of expanding his scope of experience. Some guys can make the move without much outside support, others need to be guided. Guess the two guys you encountered, TheBreeder, found it convenient to utilize your services in expanding their repertoire. Glad they chose a guy with such expertise.
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One would think the Affordable Care Act ("Obamacare") will make it easier to get insurance, particularly where pre-existing conditions are at issue. I understand, moreover, the insurance companies cannot charge higher prices for policies issued to such individuals - so I should think it will be a boon to our community generally, and specifically may reduce the fear-factor related to post-seroconversion medical costs.
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Sounds like quite an experience, Jacobs. I've cleaned your story up a bit - run on paragraphs are very, very hard to read, and there were quite a few stray key strokes that distracted from the excellence of your work. Thanks for posting.
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Thanks for the invitation to friend you, Uncut Brit. Wish I got to England more often - I'd love to meet you in person!
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The Gold Wedding Ring and Bareback Cock
Hotload84 replied to DarkroomTaker's topic in General Discussion
I understand, Einathens, and concur. Your standard may well result in foregoing liaisons where the man's spouse is indifferent to philandering, but absent a way of weeding-out such instances, good call. -
Nice changes, RawTOP. Thanks for your work.
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Very well written, Pigboy23! Thanks for posting your (apparently autobiographical) tale of debauchery! Keep up the good reporting.
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The Gold Wedding Ring and Bareback Cock
Hotload84 replied to DarkroomTaker's topic in General Discussion
Why not, Einathens? Why do you draw a line with married guys? -
The Gold Wedding Ring and Bareback Cock
Hotload84 replied to DarkroomTaker's topic in General Discussion
On the rare occasions I've noticed a wedding band, the thought the guy is cheating on his wife is an interesting twist. To the best of my recollections, none of those I've encountered have been any more concerned about safe sex than gay guys, so yes, the thought he could take an extra something home to his wife is an additional, (admittedly perverse) twist. -
Very nice story, Spermpig. I've cleaned-up the stray astericks and re-arranged some of the paragraphs - but the plot of your story needs no improvement. Well done.
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Damn. I served 13 years in the Navy and never had any action as enticing as that portrayed in this story. I certainly missed-out, didn't I?
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Both Matias47 and Psssilverbear are right: bottoms who are fearful of seroconverting should assume all guys are poz, and prepare accordingly. The ambiguity in the word 'clean' makes it useless: asking about HIV status, or known STDs, or the cleanliness of a bottom's ass are all fair game, but in the absence of elaboration, 'clean' can mean all of the above or one or another of them. The onus is on the party asking the question to be specific. As an aside, when I'm asked "Are you clean?" I've taken it to be a polite inquiry as to the state of my ass. Like Pssilverbear, I wouldn't play with a guy if I knew I had a generic STD, so my answer to an inquiry about as much would be "No, I have no STDs." Similarly, if a guy asks whether I'm poz, a rare inquiry to be sure, I would answer accurately.
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Yeah - Douglas did have a certain brutality in his approach to topping. I admired any bottom who could accommodate Douglas' cock without shrieking with in agony. In comparison, Al Parker, who also was very well endowed, generally seemed to be a considerate top.