Where does race come into this? The author is in a bathhouse (was it frequented mostly by white men, they usually are at least the ones in Toronto are), he's naked, face down on the pillow in a room with the door open. While it's not an invitation to fuck it's sure sounds like an invitation to touch. Are you ok with young, attractive white men touching you in those circumstances? If so it's not race it's age and body type. Take the advice of some of the other posters and sit up with you back against the wall and watch who stands at the door. If you like him then starts stroking, if not then hands off and look slightly away. And remember it's a bathhouse for pet's sake you'll run into all types, some you want some you won't and that it's all about sex.