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Yep - some years ago an ex was into this. As a fetish, it was a kind of bondage/humiliation thing... He'd put my arm or leg in a cast and we'd go out. We used the purple stuff that you dunk in water and it goes rock hard over a layer of bandage. At home we did all four limbs but we never seemed to have enough for torso as well. We experimented with a lot of stuff like this - my favourite is black pallet wrap which was great for mummification and very cheap. I also have a submarine escape suit which you put on and it inflates into a cocoon from a CO2 canister. You really can't move in it once it's inflated - I guess it is designed for keeping you motionless/stable. You do need a helper to deflate it! Combining casts, wrap etc with some electro was also fun. I remember a sub friend came to visit for a weekend who's into humiliation and pain - we put a dog training remote shock collar on his arm, then wrapped it with bandages and put a cast on, so it was held in place. As I remember we used some joke-shop itching powder to make it more interesting, but it didn't really do much. We had great fun going to the supermarket, mall, cinema and generally in public. Sometimes he'd have to do a 'dare' and if he failed or chickened out he'd get a shock. Sometimes we'd trigger it at random especially in situations that would cause maximum humiliation. It was a bit like something off of Jackass, and before the days of iPhones and TikTok so he got away lightly... If you're thinking of trying this do it on yourself first. Dogs' fur and skin is a lot thicker so you should only use very low settings on the trainer device.

I think I posted before of the differences between fantasy and reality and how most guys find it difficult to make the jump into 'doing it for real'. For those of us that are (trying) it makes our job that much harder. You might not find a tattoo with my certification on my butt (yet), however there's a couple of things that give us clues. Just talking to a guy you can often judge their experience and commitment. Are they ready? Or is it at the end of a list of errands? Laying in bed wanking means they'll usually vanish once they get off on the idea they're wanted. Cleaned out and prepared to travel for accommodate NOW is a big clue. Experience and reputation are good signs. If they're from here, then look at their previous posts. Lots of posts that seem more fantastical than realistic is a red flag. Guys who only post 'me too' in discussions or just comment on porn pics are likely here just for a quick Palm-5. Also, do they know anyone you know? I hope this doesn't make me sound like a jaded old queen, but filters are sadly very necessary.

That has a touch of Mills & Boon to it...

Something amusing for a rainy evening... Head on over to [think before following links] https://textsynth.com/playground.html and seed it with an opening line, something like: Then ask the A.I. to complete the story. You get a different result every time. I got this: Having played with it for a bit I'm convinced that it creates a mashup of texts that it has been fed. It looks like it adapts names, context and things as it goes. Have a play, and post anything interesting it creates on this thread...

When I am online, one of my pet hates is when a guy's opening message to me is "I'm bored". I am never sure how I am expected to react to that... Personally, life is so full of things to learn and do, exercise, people to talk to, I can't imagine being bored ever. Tired, maybe, but never bored. I am sure a lot of guys online get off on the chase alone - and the gratification that comes from someone wanting them. Like others here, I love the hookup, and it's why I prefer to visit places to meet guys rather than do it online.

Sad about this - the last of this kind of venue. As one door closes, another opens - I note that Mitch (who runs parties like Come to Daddy) has his own venue now and will soon be opening The Lord Clyde in Deptford. @thelclondon on twitter and Facebook. It can't replace Backstreet (nothing could) but it is nice to see new places opening. Now, we all need to get off the apps and support these places!

Received and replied. Always good to hear from guys on here!

Previously, I've attended Coffee and Cream parties at Connexion in Berlin and they were great. I think they moved to Mutschmann's now. [think before following links] http://www.coffe-cream.de/dates/

Human (on a good day)

Agree: Laboratory is great, but I prefer to go when it's not a big party weekend like BLF, Folsom, Snax. If you go on a regular weekday or weekend then it's busy with genuinely up for it guys who are really into whatever the theme of the party is. On the big party weekends there'll be a massive queue and a lot of the guys are tourists who've bought a rubber jockstrap in Fuggerstrasse that weekend, hoping it be enough to get them in to the rubber party to take a peek at what goes on - they're not *really* into it.

Indeed - maybe nobody is up to his standards? lol. Not even a 'thanks but no thanks' DM. No public activity since posting this thread on May 8th. Last login on May 15th... Pretty typical for the internet these days!

Any BZ guys fancy meeting up at SOP tomorrow? Should be there 3-8pm-ish

Everything changes. We as individuals evolve - when I joined here my outlook was different than it is now. This site is partially responsible for some of those changes, but there are many influences changing us. This site has evolved too. People have come and gone. Rules have changed. When I joined Bareback was the exception, and PrEP in its infancy. Now it's the norm, and PrEP seems ubiquitous. I think those who enjoyed bareback for the thrill of the risk don't get the same hit and have moved on to things that are found more in The Backroom section. And let's not forget the world has changed - it's not the same place as it was before C19. From my own experience locally I'd say that cruising sites and apps are less busy and guys are less inclined to actually meet. Why? I don't know, but I suspect a lazy wank to some porn is a lot easier than actually going out or hooking up. It's better in cities. I accept change is inevitable - we all have some small part in steering it somehow, but none of us can expect to control the direction, except the site owner and its moderators. I don't like or agree with absolutely everything I read on this site, but so long as I feel welcome, our interests are mostly aligned and I can contribute and learn from being here, then it's all good.

Definitely up for this... Just let me know when and where!

The stretchy jelly-like rings that look like they are made of clear silicone sometimes known as Jell-o or something similar are inexpensive and effective but the material 'melts' and turns into a sticky mess if it touches certain other materials like some plastics, and the black silicon silicon toys are made from. Keep them in a plastic bag for storage so they can't touch anything and they are great.

So you often see threads on here where guys share their contact details - be it a phone number, hook-up app profile name or their nickname on a messaging app of some kind. I'm curious to know if this ever leads to anything? I will admit I did have a look at some Twitter accounts during a bored moment in the lockdown, and shared my own, but I never got any engagement either way from this.

I thought of this thread the other day when I noted that Nasty Kink Pigs have changed their policy on the use of certain words in profiles. The issues they were citing were where some otherwise innocent words had gained additional meanings over time that alluded to illegal practices. My take on what they were saying was they were not banning the use of these these words outright, but making a judgement on the context they are used in. That's going to be interesting to watch and see how it pans out.

I hope so!

So, I had a ticket to go.... but on the night I had a better offer and didn't go in the end. My friend, however, did go and I bumped into him in Scheune later that night. He said that it wasn't very busy and it was more social of a social circuit party where smoking was allowed, than a fetish party. The venue was a straight club and had odd things like a jacuzzi tub. Maybe the kind of place a master takes his sub to show off, not a place to look for someone to hook up with to play. He knew what I was looking for (non smoker looking for domination by forced smoke, gas mask play, etc) and said I'd made the right choice and hadn't missed out. I note that there were various other similar parties - Berlin Cigar Men took over Pussycat bar opposite the "Gear" shop and seemed very busy. I always say that unless you're in the top quartile of men the big parties tend to disappoint. The real fun in Berlin is in the smaller events and bars/clubs which are periphery to the main events - or even better on a normal week/weekend outside of Folsom/BLF.

Have successfully arranged to meet (and met) a few guys from here. It's likely I've bumped into a few more at Cumunion/SOP/Hampstead. I often travel around the UK and am very interested in meeting more. Send me a DM if you're interested.

This pushes us another step towards the superficial. If it's a date then how can you get to know someone in five minutes? At best it's just a visual check they aren't 15 years older than their online pics. IMO most meaningful relationships stem from spending time with people and getting to know them. If it's for hooking up then, yeah - probably works okay for that in *some* circumstances - it sound a little like cruising but a bit sanitised and less sleazy. But I enjoy the sleaziness - so not for me.

Some great responses here - the other thought I had is that unless you're a part of the fetish community then it must be quite difficult to really understand how the gear makes you feel different. And not understanding sows the seed from which is grown prejudice. Personally, wearing gear has several effects: I've never had the stereotypical body image - few people do - but everyone fixates on them. Wearing cool or interesting/unqiue gear offers a way to stand out and be noticed. Generally I tend to go for gear that is different or unique, and am attracted to those who're the same. That extends to everyday life - I tend to dress how I want, stand out, not to fit in. It's always a good excuse for a conversation starter at events. Also certain gear can be practical, and enhances activities. Armoured bike gear for instance mean that "rough" can graduate to "extremely rough". Rubber is an interesting one - the look/feel/smell/taste is very much amazing on the senses, but full coverage (inc a hood) adds to the thrill of making a truly anonymous encounter. I associate latex with a barrier and playing with someone in full rubber is like the opposite of someone wearing a condom - you can't experience their skin except their cock/ass/mouth are the only exposed parts. It leaves those parts unprotected. There are places that do made to measure latex and leather. I have a Vanson bike leathers which were made to measure. Places like Bob's Rubber, latex catfish and libidex do made to measure, but my experience here is that measuring yourself and buying online isn't as good as made to measure in person. What's missing is off the peg in XXL+ sizes, and cuts that suit dadbod/bear shapes rather than V-shapes. My partner wears M/L in regular clothing (eg Superdry). When you go shopping for gear he's an XL/XXL. Many places don't stock anything bigger than XL off the peg. Through lockdown we've experimented with making our own rubber. Using t-shirts, vests, jocks and shorts as patterns to get the shapes of the panels and then cutting and sticking the latex with the correct glue. It's really had to get a professional finish but we learned a lot doing it. Thinking back, in the 70's, when I was a kid there was a TV programme called "Mr Ben". (See link below) I often wonder how many guys my age watched that and grew up believing that you could really be a knight if you just have the right gear. I bet it put a lot of us on the path to escapism through fetishwear! And for those interested - the Skinhead/sports party at Woof was great. Link to Mr Ben video: youtube.com/watch?v=KJuj_ZT8pjU

No posts recently as I've been enjoying Berlin Leather Fetish weekend. On the train from Alexanderplatz to Nollendorfplatz (where most of the events are), two guys are sat a few seats away. They have voices that kinda carry and speaking English they stand out to me. I gather from the conversation they are both living/working in the city for a period and hooked up last night. #1: Hey we should go to "Der Boiler" (Sauna) tomorrow - it'll be fun. #2: Maybe not - its leather weekend over Easter. #1: So, it'll be busy? #2: Those fetish guys will be around and they will totally ruin it. They only dress up in the fetish gear because it's like putting on a costume to try and polish a turd. #1: Yeah, I know. Hate that. My thoughts: Gay men have been discriminated against for so long but why do we find it so easy to turn on each other like that? Most guys dress in fetish gear because it turns them on - I think there likely are a few who benefit from what it can hide, but it's not the reason people are into it. If you try shopping for fetish gear it is very hard to get anything in larger sizes or cut for the 'fuller figure', especially in London and Berlin. Made to measure is the only option. and lastly, Fuck 'em: I'm about to get my gear on and head out to Woof for the afternoon. Not only polishing this turd, but rolling it in glitter and enjoying every minute.

Was there a couple of times for the Tuesday Cumunions in Nov/Dec. I liked the less twinky, slightly older and more rufty tufty crowd. I was planning to go this month but I had some work stuff I couldn't get out of, so I'm looking at getting there for the May one.

My cynical answer is that because, it seems maybe 90% of guys online are here for only gratification and/or tittilation. Fewer are here to make friends or arrange to meet. He may be looking for the modern equivalent of phonesex? Less cynically: On the other hand, telling someone or acknowledging how hot they look or whatever actually doesn't cost much time and strokes their ego, while giving out some positive vibe/energy makes both parties feel better, so I don't think it's a bad thing. Some of us appreciate compliments, even from far off, as they don't come often enough! But, I agree, it can be a distraction if you are trying to arrange meets. As always being open and up front about what you're looking for helps. I have also had a few great meets with guys who messaged me from afar but were planning a trip to London or Berlin.