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Besides hanging out here, I'm really into Photography and follow Jared Polin on YouTube. His catchphrase is "I Shoot RAW" (as opposed to JPEG) and he sells t-shirts on his website with various designs that say "I Shoot Raw". He won't ship to the UK but I got a few shipped to a friend in the US and then sent across. They certainly attract all kinds of attention even in the local Tesco's!

To frame my experiences, I live in medium sized town in The Chilterns, south Buckinghamshire, population 120,000 about 30 miles from central London. YMMV. BBRT: In my town there isn't enough guys nearby to make this worthwhile. Closest guy is 6miles away. Only use it when travelling to a big city like Birmingham, Manchester, London. NKP: Again nearest guy is 6-7 Miles away and nearest top is 22 Miles away. This site seems more extreme, but the guys are fantasies and phantoms. When travelling in cities, there's a lot of "horny talk" but meets almost impossible. I am guessing guys are high and looking to get off with their hands. Grindr: More locals, but after a coupe of years its the same dozen or so guys on here all the time. Skews to the younger demographic and as I'm in my mid 40's I find myself being chatted up and then asked for £££ often. Especially near the end of semesters! Grindr when travelling is a much better experience. Fabguys: Seems to be more guys who are on the DL or being "discrete". Can be good very occasionally but can be a high time waster. Scruff: A few more locals, older demographic. Around here it seems to be a majority of guys looking for something more than a bit of fun. Recon: Very thin membership around here, but quite good focus on fetish interests. Have met most guys from here over the years. Expensive. Squirt: I mostly use their database of cruising spots when out and about. Never met anyone from here. Romeo: I really like the design of the app and site. In mainland Europe it's the best by far. In the UK, membership is thin and patchy, mostly big cities. It used to be good for catching travelling europeans in London, but not great with locals. My one criticism is that they allow you to set your location to anywhere, so you can end up talking to someone who you think is in Berlin, but in effect they are in Glasgow and visiting next month, just fishing. It's also not the place to find bi/straight guys on the DL, as it comes off a bit too gay to them. Sniffies: Too few people online to be viable here. Breeding.zone: This isn't a hookup site, but worth a mention because I have met a couple of great guys through corresponding on here. WhatsApp Groups / teleGram Groups etc.: There's a number of these for different interests. A lot of noise, fakery, and queeney princess behaviour - not much action. There was one that was 700+ messages a day, which is unmanageable. To be honest, I don't bother with the apps as much as I did. You can waste a whole night and not get a meet. Much better to drive to the local cruising spot, sauna, or head to somewhere like Hampstead or The Vault, where the chance of success is 100x better.

Ok here's my idea: Go on Amazon or eBay and search for "Biohazard" - thanks to the game Resident Evil, there's a ton of stuff with biohazard logos - pins, badges, bandanas, wristbands, necklaces, stickers, glow in the dark stickers, t-shirts, temporary tattoos... Pick something that's visible and we'll know who's who.

^^^ This is more important than anything you'll ever wear.

With you there... I went to a school that was fairly strict about uniform and sports kit (which was part of the uniform). I used to be a regularly forget items of my kit so I had to borrow items from friends or the lost property box. Borrowing from a friend was best if someone had PT or Rugby in the morning and you had it in the afternoon. Sometimes taking it home that night and giving it back the next day. I think this is why I am so sensitive to male pheromones.

Definitely a big fan here and have a massive collection - and as far as clothing goes, black Adidas gear seem to be very #Berlin. Shame Adidas never really got a handle on the Sneaker fetish side of things as much as Nike did. It's common to see a nice shiny Adidas Chile tracksuit worn alongside some Nike TNs, Shox, or Airmax 90s. You never see guys lusting quite the same after a pair of Adidas EQTs...

I am thinking of having a clear out of some of the fetish gear that doesn't see much use, and while some stuff like boots could be sold on eBay I was thinking of giving Second Skin a try. ( I have some reluctance to use eBay as they have return policies that in my experience stacked very hard in favour of the buyer. I sold a DSLR camera in mint condition on there and the buyer returned it, claiming it was broken - it was returned and what was returned was clearly another camera and broken. Since I didn't have the foresight to record the serial number before shipping, eBay wouldn't help. ) Curious to know if anyone has used Second Skin to buy or sell, and how it worked out. Link: [think before following links] https://secondskin.co If you want an invite code, send me a direct message.

If it was planned on a naked night then go enjoy yourselves but count me out.

The (now ex) manager of our local Deichmann Shoe store used to surf Grindr and invite guys into the stockroom of the store - sadly not for much more than a blowie.

This is my philosophy too - a hard cock is the only criteria. All comers welcome.

I'd be up for it - suggest we have a way of identifying fellow BZ members from regular punters. Any ideas? Agree it needs a good mix - if it was all bottom/sub guys it would be no fun.

Either saved for freezing and later use as lube or I have a cumdump sneaker that gets it.

Ah well, if it makes you look better then it's *not* compensation, its complementary. ...and perhaps I should have sprinkled a few smileys my text - it was supposed to be a little humorous and ironic, not intending to be malicious. My BF watches "Glow Up" and it's a running joke that one of the judges on there has a really silly moustache that seems to only serve to annoy me intensely. So facial hair is an easy button to push for me. I haven't seen one on those yet, but it sounds almost as annoying as a man-bun. <insert smiley>

It really depends on the beard and the type of guy. The ridiculous twiddly hipster styles are a big turn off. Guys that are balding and try to compensate with a beard are a no. Massive sideburns "chops" on their own - no. Goatees on their own - no. Guys who colour their hair to stop it going grey but then don't bother with their beard - also no. Big bushy Father Christmas beards - no. Unkempt - no. "I can't be arsed to groom properly so I'll grow a beard" beards are also a no. Well kept short trimmed and tidy a bit longer than stubble on a bear/muscle guy - perfect. Rough sandpapery stubble also great.

That's one side of the coin: you can't see the guy so you imagine it's your favourite crush. The other side of the coin: getting off on really truly not knowing who it is or anything about them, what they look like, what they sound like... no clues. I'm 80% into the latter... and more so since attending some of the 'horsefair' type events where the bottom guys are blindfolded and hooded and never see the tops. It was very horny and strangely liberating experience.

This is why I have always separated relationships and sex and although sex can be addictive at times, it is never prioritised over my relationship.

Not everyone on the spectrum has the same behaviours, so this sounds like a broad brush. There's a bunch of characteristics that might place you on the spectrum if you identify with more than a few of them, but they are pretty diverse: [think before following links] https://www.nhsinform.scot/illnesses-and-conditions/brain-nerves-and-spinal-cord/autism-spectrum-disorder-asd#characteristics-of-autism Many adults learn to work around some of the traits as they mature so they might not totally obvious, but manage more or less to confirm to societal norms. It's only recently that the world seems to be opening up a bit to celebrate the strengths of those on the spectrum rather than medicate or therapize us into normality. Personally speaking, I can get ultra focused, and almost addicted to an idea. That happened with casual encounters, bareback culture, and poz guys. So yeah, I guess it put me at risk to an extent. It's also why I generally avoid chems as that kind of focus and an addictive substance is a recipe for a disaster.

[think before following links] https://www.squirt.org/Cruising/cruising_details.asp?listingid=41031 I don't wholly agree with the Squirt description. Weekday afternoons and most early evenings when it is still light it seems to be M/M, after twilight more M/F crowd. Discretion needed as there are a lot of dog walkers and families at the weekend. Mostly it seems to be around the car park, but there is a massive rock hidden in the woods at ///nanny.empty.stops where people go to have fun. (What3Words)

That's really good news!

Yes, they have a cloakroom where you can leave your clothes, but not all parties are 'naked'. By far my biggest issue with the Vault afternoon/after work crowd is that guys show up expecting to get fucked and haven't cleaned out as they've been at work all day. That leave a risk of a dirty surprise. It happened often enough to make me wary...

Haha, Oh yes, Mini Cooper Guys. I know them. I live quite close to a nature reserve that can be cruisey - apart from that it is a really nice place to walk and exercise so we're usually there 3x a week in the daytime. You get to recognise people. I find it quite amusing that Mini Cooper guys will post on Squirt that they're going there or that they are there and are up for fun. You'll then see Mini Cooper guy sat in his car glued to his phone oblivious to his surroundings. He'll sit there for five - maybe ten minutes, and then speed off dramatically with lots of wheelspin showering bystanders with gravel. You'll usually then see a post on Squirt a bit later saying 'its not worth bothering'. Now if you hop on the apps (and he's usually on every single one) and try to engage while he's there you'll get ignored, and a bit later after he's gone home and had a wank, a message saying he didn't notice me and its a shame as he liked to have hooked up but he's all spent now. Next time? Maybe, but he plays the exact same game every time. I suspect he gets off on the idea of the anonymous hookup but has trouble bridging fantasy to reality. The real seam of gold at this particular place isn't Mini Cooper Guy, it's White Van Man. The spot seems very popular with tradespeople, builders, farmers and labourers looking for some relief on their way home. There's a tow truck driver who parks up there in between callouts on quiet days, who's particularly nice. Once you're practised at making anxious 'straight' but bi-curious guys comfortable, it's a great source of cum. They won't go near people like Mini Cooper Guy. (And I bet that pisses him off)

This isn't new - I've seen this kind of thing going on since I started out in the mid 90's. The tech we carry with us makes it easier and worse: I've seen people using the torch function on their mobile or smartwatch to illuminate a dark room. The apps seem to push this. A point I've made elsewhere, search filters are binary - you set them up to find a 20-39 yr old tattooed top poz muscle bear into bondage and watersports and it will filter all the non matching profiles out leaving a handful of perfect matches. Truth is there are a ton of guys who match 80% of your criteria who get filtered and you miss the opportunity and experience of engaging them. I've never been a fan of the pup scene - it doesn't turn me on because for see it seems to lack the sleazy edge that more traditional fetish scenes are built upon. It's a "Disney" fetish - sanitised and acceptable. I've always held the opinion that what we see in porn, read on the forums here, and experience in interactions with profiles on sites like BBRT, NKP, BZ etc is 90% fantasy and 10% reality - and getting guys to jump from the fantasy to the reality is REALLY hard. In my opinion you have to find your people IRL - the bars, clubs, or cruising spots where they hang out. Lockdowns made that hard, but it's beginning to recover a bit.

I used to visit berlin in the days when I was a lot bigger, and I think it massively depends on the places where you go. I always study the schedules and have a Plan A and a Plan B just in case. I've never seen or heard of on the door discrimination at Laboratory for their usual parties, although Snaxx has a reputation for stricter door policy we've never had a problem - but I hear the door guy dislikes tourist twinks. Like most places, be prepared than once inside you will be pretty much invisible to most guys if you're not conforming to the ideal type. Biohazardmen at Connection was similar - easy to get in, but tough going in the cruising spots. I (and others) have been turned away from entry to Jaxx (too old when I was 43). The guy on the door of New Action who is the owner of New Action and Slut Club in Hamberg begrudgingly let us in, but was *exceptionally* rude to us. He told my friend he should pay triple entrance fee because of his size. Actually I remember a barman at Slut Club coming on to the same bear-ish friend, only to ask him in the darkroom "I don't want to do anything, I just wanted to know, how do you even have sex if when you look down you can never see your penis?" On the positive side, some of the smaller less commercial clubs and venues are *far* more welcoming... to name a few: Scheune, Bull Bar, Ajpnia, Woof, Quaelgeist, Bose Buben... We've always avoided the tourist seasons of BLF and Folsom as the city is saturated with ultra competitive bottom guys, and I think a lot of the locals are put off by that. Much better to plan a more relaxed trip during normal times and experience Berlin with real Berliners.

I thought he was on ThisVid, but it seems not - or not any more. He does have an account on Nasty Kink Pigs but it looks inactive for some time.