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My reaction as well. They have long been very creative a describing lack of sexual position here, I guess they are getting the somewhat official terms they need, although it it is still to vague since there are a lot of guys that don't even do oral. One of the local bathhouses has had glow stick night where you pick a color for your position. It started out with blue = top, green = verse, and red = bottom. Then due to complaints they added orange = oral only and eventually had to add purple = other. I still hear complaints that they need a color for whatever specific activity the person choosing purple is really into. While I've never been called out by the bathhouse employees, they get complaints about guys fucking in areas they think they shouldn't be or on nights that have themes that are not about fucking. A couple of weeks ago I overheard a long conversation between a customer and an employee complaining that 2 guys fucked in the slurp ramp and the bathhouse needed to do something about it. I wasn't one of the 2 guys or I might of stepped in and defended the employee since I have the feeling they hear those complaints all of the time. That's all fine and good that everyone gets to do what they enjoy, but is it appropriate for a profile on all of the hookup apps, or go to a bathhouse where guys are looking to hookup and fuck and tell anyone who will listen about the 1,001 ways to have the greatest sex ever without penetration? There are already local organizations that host parties and have online tools for cuddlers, if they aren't cuddlers couldn't they look into setting up something similar for their preferred activity or lobby the big apps to create a separate area to search for what they are looking for? Currently there is so much signal noise, that I don't think anyone is finding what they are looking for in this region of sides. At least for this non-side it makes using the apps and cruising in person extremely frustrating. I actually don't mind the glow stick nights at the baths in that I don't have to waste my time with guys who choose the oral only or other colors, as long as they haven't driven out all of the top/bottom/verse guys who actually hookup.

I was perusing Sniffies this morning, hoping to find someone actually into fucking, and came across the term "outercourse" on 3 different profiles, so I had to Google it. It is very fitting for what the majority of gay guys hooking up here in Portland seem to be looking for. Here is the easiest to understand explanation that I could find [think before following links] https://www.them.us/story/your-complete-and-queer-guide-to-outercourse. Here are my highlights or lowlights if you actually enjoy penetrative sex with a penis: "As a catch-all term, 'outercourse' describes the many sex acts and erotic activities that lie outside of internal (often called penetrative) sex. There are so many reasons queer and trans folks are drawn to outercourse" "Outercourse is often confused with foreplay — and for some people it is — but it can also be its own thing. Whereas foreplay is more like an appetizer, outercourse is about the holistic experience of sex, more of a potluck of pleasure than any single entrée." “ 'One of the main reasons people might enjoy, prefer, or prioritize outercourse in their sex lives is because it de-centers penetration as the pinnacle of sex,' adds Peak. Traditional heteronormative sex — or intercourse if we want to get specific — is often defined by the presence of cis men and centers their pleasure. Outercourse, on the other hand, upends this narrow, more hegemonic understanding of sex and what 'counts.' It allows people of all genders and bodies to imagine, speak back, and co-create the kind of connection they crave — regardless of the specific sex acts involved." "But what exactly qualifies as sexual activity, or being abstinent more generally, depends on the person. For some, anything “beyond” kissing is off the table, while others consider everything except internal sex to be chaste. With such varied definitions, it’s possible that one person’s sex is another person’s abstinence. So while there can be overlap between the physical acts of outercourse and some types of abstinence, the main difference is intention." "Whereas abstinence is about limiting or distancing oneself from sex or gratification, Stewart says outercourse is inherently about receiving and giving pleasure. Make sure to have a conversation with any potential partner about how you define sex, outercourse, and abstinence." And finally: "To get you started, there are the usual suspects: heavy petting (or touching someone, often their genitals, indirectly through their clothing), oral sex, mutual masturbation, and hand jobs. Fingering may also come into play here, which means using your fingers and hands to arouse yourself or your partner. Typically, fingering refers to touching a vulva, clitoris, or anus. Though fingering often includes internal vaginal or anal touch, it doesn’t have to. Grab some lube and use your fingers to touch your partner’s vulva with long, gentle movements to 'warm up,' before playing with their clit. Unless your partner is into it, you should avoid sharp, prodding motions. Instead use the pads of your fingers and focus on stroking motions." All of which are common in Portland bathhouse (it is not at all uncommon to encounter FTM individuals that have vaginas in gay bathhouses here). I realize it is unfair to actual lesbians, but I have been calling a lot of these men "gay male functionally lesbian," for years.

At least there is term for it, "side" that most people understand that they can use on the hookup apps now. For many years they had to get very creative with the text on their profiles that they did not fuck. Even BBRT, which is behind the times on adding "side" as a "sexual" position has added an oral only indicator that they can, and a majority of guys in Portland have set on their BBRT profiles if they still have one.

After pretty much striking out for the past 2 weekends, I did get bred tonight at what was mostly a blue ball no mating dance at Steam, that was supposed to be a CumUnion party. I'm glad I will be in Palm Springs next weekend through the following weekend, I'm getting really desperate for some good group pig fucking, the fuck scene has been even slower than usual here in Portland this winter.

You guys are lucky, I'm verse, but where I live it's mostly sides. They are absolutely convinced they have found the greatest ways in the world to have sex, and it does not include penetration or in many cases involve dick.

I will be able to attend the IBC event at CCBC on Saturday night, which seems to be an unadvertised BearUnion. If anyone wants to hookup and fuck look for the 6'2" blond bear. I really need some uninhibited group pig fucking after being stuck in Portland for the last 2 months.

I miss Club 1350 and the Cumunions I attended there.

I miss the DSC, it was my 1st and the standard I look for. The difference from the DSC, or either of the other Denver bathhouses I was familiar with was quite a shock for me when I moved to Portland, and discovered a much, much more subdued bathhouse scene. Denver definitely had it right in the late 1990's and early 2000's.

No tattoos. I guess I do have a few scars, but I think I'm willing to risk them. Face and hair color seem like my biggest risks, and I guess I could dye my hair it is very light blond so it should be fairly easy to dye without bleaching.

I'm only going to do it if it will be filmed.

Per the Western Exposure website, it looks like there is a BearUnion orgy scheduled at CCBC on Saturday the 21st from 8pm to 4am. [think before following links] https://www.westernxposure.net/bearnaked Oddly, it isn't showing up on the BearUnion, CCBC calendars or BBRT party listing. It looks like I probably can fly down on Saturday and spend a full week in Palm Springs, so I probably will.

What are your thoughts on something like this to film a scene, or wear to an orgy that will be filmed? I just want to keep my identity private, it's not a fetish thing for me. This is not me, I will have a very blond beard that won't be fully concealed, will it be identifiable.