as a submissive bottom, all of my attention is focused on the play at the moment and not on my cock! i used to get embarrassed when i did not get hard during play or when being fucked, but i finally accepted it for what it is - it ain't gonna happen - and i do not care, anymore! i always explain to my Top that my staying soft is no indication of my pleasure - and once His cock has entered y ass without any lubrication - he has no doubts that i am enjoying it. my ass self-lubricates and i have multiple orgasms and cum internally. there is a big difference between being a "complete bottom" and being a "submissive bottom" and there are times when i am seeking the grand cock and times when my entire body craves being dominated and controlled and it is then that i offer my entire self totally to the Dom for whatever purpose he desires, when i am in a bottom mode it is my ass and throat that i am offering, nothing more! No matter which, my cock rarely gets hard, unless i am tweaked or stoned!