Yes

I visualize my holes as mouths feeding on his cock. I repeat to myself open or take it and concentrate on opening my legs, holes, heart etc to the man who's blessing me with his hard cock. I ask him to tell me to 'open', to 'take it'; if he's the kind who likes to talk. Verbal reinforcement helps me a lot. If it hurts I say 'thank you'. I tell him it hurts only if he's the kind who would appreciate knowing that, and wouldn't feel bad or change on that account. Thank you. If he likes the talking I tell him what I'm thankful for, how he's hurting me, etc. I am full of gratitude for a man taking his pleasure in me in whatsoever way he wants. If ever I couldn't take it anymore this is really the most important thing that will keep me going. I am very conscious of the gratitude. Make tiny physical adjustments to increase the pleasure he feels inside me. If he likes it, provide pleasure in other ways: kisses, nipples, squeezes, talking. If he enjoys interacting with his fuckholes, slapping, hitting, hairpulling, spitting, fingering my mouth, pinching, choking all help build endorphins. It's only pain. As long as you aren't being bigtime ripped open it probably isn't dangerous.

Reminds me of this 1930s blues song by Lucille Bogan: " Now your nuts hang down like a damn bell sapper " And your dick stands up like a steeple " Your goddam ass-hole stands open like a church door " And the crabs walks in like people" recording: youtube lyrics: genius nuthin new under the sun

My personal experience with wearing any piece with screws is that they have a tendency to loosen then tighten themselves with movement. I wouldn't put anything threaded into my ass or anyone else's for fear that it would become attached! If you really want a spiky dick--- and I can see the appeal ---maybe consider getting a cock sheath. They come in lots of textures. I ❤️ cock sheaths in my ass.

Sarah Schulman's book Gentrification of the Mind: Witness to a Lost Imagination describes some of the ways that HRC and the like gained power by using the AIDS crisis to their advantage. How post-AIDS LGBTQetc activism and organizing differs from previous in terms of goals, decision making structure, funding, demographic composition etc. How the mass illness and death was a perquisite for these changes. (Author is an english teacher and her work is extremely readable despite how the title makes it sound very academic, it's not at all.)

I'm ftm and I have to admit I am puzzled my mtfs who want to get with gay guys. Early on in my transition I had a couple str8 guys make a go at fucking me, and the whole time they were trying to see the woman in me to make it work for them. It's not at all sexy imho. Although most str8 sex clubs/parties call themselves pan and would welcome me, I'd never go because I anticipate it would be a shredding experience. My guess on the subject of mtfs (you tell me what you think tho) is that pre transition this way of fucking became habitual. In ftms there is a similar dynamic with former dykes. People fought so hard earlier in their lives to be lesbians that they don't like to give it up. A lot of formerly "women-only" spaces are now "women and trans men/people only" to account for the number of butches who ended up transitioning who are still friends with the women. As a person who used to organize women's only spaces, I think the politics of this is pretty questionable and I now wouldn't participate in any under normal circumstances. Sometimes gay guys tell me they are "attracted to dick" etc but all else being equal, I think between the two of us I'm gonna have more luck cause I look like a dude. Sometimes I ask guys who are "attracted to dick" if they get with mtfs with cock and it just makes them squirm. A lot of men are very conservative sexually--- they are used to what they're used to and they don't want to try anything new. My experience is gay men moreso than str8 guys cause there is much higher availability if you are into something common. And really that's their prerogative. No one deserves sex from another person. 100 years ago in north america we were all called "inverts". These categories of L, G, B, T, TS, Q, I, A etc are very new and still being ironed out.

I worry about this somewhat cause I am somewhat private about sex. But I don't really know what to do about it other than try to pick guys who "wouldn't", which is pretty unrealistic. I'm sure people take such videos for their "own use" but everyone's phones are backing up to the cloud and there are data breaches all the time. So eventually something could get out even though it was unintended. I'm looking forward to the day when deep fakes are good enough that a video can be produced of anyone doing anything. So there will be plausible deniability. But really what am I afraid of anyway? I am not afraid enough of exposure that I could be blackmailed etc. I hope any video ever made with me in it doesn't land in the emailbox of a non-consenting friend or family member who doesn't want to know about my sex life. But if that ever happened I'm sure they would be mostly interested in moving on and forgetting it ever happened.

I personally really don't mind condoms but in the past years with prep being more available and a better understanding of HIV treatment, expectations have changed. The guys who are interested in the kind of sex I want do not want to use condoms. Like specific guys who used to be fine with them now refuse. Since I want to please them and there is not a really compelling reason to do otherwise, I decided to relent. Actually I will tell you the other side of the coin which is where I came from: I had to work through feelings of uncleanliness and danger with regard to the bodies of other men. And general cultural sex negativity that makes STIs seem like a much bigger deal than could be rationally justified. The fear was totally out of proportion to reality. Flu is more dangerous than chlamydia but I don't wear a respirator every time I go out in public. Any human interaction could potentially lead to communicable disease, that's just part of nature. A niche which will be filled by natural selection. This just in from the Bureau of Obvious Research! lol Who are these jokers. Hopefully having it published in a "respectable" format will make it more believable. I'm sure people have been saying this for 30 years though. This from the article which I only quickly scanned. An extremely dismissive and patronizing position. However I do note this is from 2011 which was different medically. If interested should probably check out the list of articles that cite this work as it looks like there are relevant up to date pieces. Perhaps more insightful. Also it looks like they used Freud's ideas about sex to structure their thinking. This isn't my field but isn't that a bit cray? Do serious sciientific people actually lean so hard on him nowadays? major red flag for me in terms of the usefulness of this work and the potentially limited insight the authors have into humans.

Lambskin condoms are available in Canada and probably elsewhere as the brand name Skyn. They are not believed to provide much protection against most STIs and are really more of a contraceptive. As I understand that's why they fell out of use. I have heard that if contraception is your main goal they are much better than latex/poly options sensation-wise. Because part of the function of the guts is adsorb nutrients they are not a perfect barrier especially for very small viruses. I read a really good piece of journalism a few years ago about the history of the condom and the reasons why they suck so much. It talked about how during the AIDS crisis the FDA et al realized they should probably regulate these as medical devices so just sort of arbitrarily made up a bunch of rules and tests by which to evaluate how well they worked. I wish I could find the piece. As I recall one of the tests was to fill the condom with 1L of water and if any water leaked out it was considered to be too permeable to offer protection from HIV. Which is a really ridiculous idea; wtf. And prevents the manufacture of well-fitting condoms for guys with smaller cocks. The whole thing was basically about the train wreck of regulations developed by people who really didn't know how to think about what they were doing. I can't find it tho.

tbh my hands don't really get me in trouble cause I have discipline enough to refrain from touching myself for the most part. But sometimes I cum just from the dick or whatever (especially in my ass) which is always overpowering. Or someone wants to make me cum which puts me in a position of having to pick what to obey (cumming as requested vs letting them keep using my holes afterwards). I'd rather be all things to all people if possible. ;) I've looked into chastity devices for my body and even got a bunch of piercings towards that end. I'm getting a bit demoralized on that front though. I have never seen anything that would actually be even half effective.. they are mostly designed for the "look" by people who apparently don't actually understand the anatomy they are dealing with. I'd consider what I've found to be sexy/fetish underwear or jewelry rather than functional. Anything effective would have to be custom e.g. by steelwerks or similar and it would be a $5-20k experiment. If you know anything different than I'd love to know about it. But even if I had my whole glans surgically removed, I think I would still cum from being reamed once in a while cause of dickmagic.

Short question: Bottoms, do you cum when you get fucked? If so, are you able to keep getting fucked after cumming? Is there a trick to it? Tops, how do you feel about bottoms cumming? Background: I am a trans guy (ftm) and since being on testosterone for about 10 years now I can cum much faster than before. Sometimes if I jack off I even cum in a few minutes, rather than hours (if at all) like before. However I now have a typical male reaction to cumming which is that I want to roll over and go to sleep. I do not feel like continuing getting fucked (at least want a break to recover). A very aggressive top could continue to use me but I'll probably complain about it. My bottom holes get tight and uncooperative. I don't even want to suck or be facefucked. Since I am very oriented to providing pleasure to the other person I find this behaviour unacceptable. I think I should not stop anyone from using me til they are finished. My strategy so far has been to avoid cumming. If I'm anywhere close to cumming, I don't rub myself and I use my muscles to control where the cock hits inside of me to make it a little less nice. This mostly works though once in a while my body gets carried away when someone's fucking me real good and I can't control it. Usually from being fucked in my ass for a long time. But sometimes guys want me to cum. Some guys are frustrated that I try to keep control over this, cause they want to be in charge. Or they feel more satisfied if I cum. For my part, I am perfectly happy without it. But in my efforts to be more pleasing to a wider variety of men, I would like flexibility on this. I don't need to shoehorn every guy into my fantasy after all. That's not what I want to do. So, for those who have more than 10 years of experience being a man, can anyone give me some thoughts on how to deal with this?

Hi guys, I found this forum last week through searching on the web. I feel affinity for many of the guys here. I'm a bottom in my mid 30s and have always rigorously enforced the use of condoms. It's how I was taught. Recently I started taking prep. To be honest I wasn't too excited about it, but it seems to be expected by the men I want and I aim to please. I finally managed to talk myself out of irrational fears and get fucked without condoms. I've done it a couple times and except for the convenience I didn't notice much of a difference for my part. But on the weekend this guy came over and fucked me; he left his load in my ass. No one's ever done that before him. I didn't tell him that though, to avoid weirding out this guy I just met recently. For some reason I decided to lick him clean after. I don't actually love the taste of every guy's cum (one of my shortcomings) so the reason I volunteered was because I was feeling very grateful for the fuck and wanted to show him. He wasn't over sensitive like guys sometimes are after cumming so he gave me permission to do this and enjoyed it. Then holy fuck. The taste. The taste of his cum and the musk of my ass on his cock. Wow. I don't think I ever tasted anything so delicious in my life. I sucked and licked til it was all gone. We both played with his nipples. He got hard again and I put him back in my ass only to take him out so I could taste him again. He thought this was pretty hot so while he laid on his back I switched between riding him and sucking his cock. I moved his cock all around inside me and opened my ass as sloppy as possible so I would get as much cum as possible to coat him. Sometimes, I couldn't bring myself to remove my mouth from his dick (I'm so very greedy!) so I put my fingers in my ass and got some of the juice to spread on his cock and balls, then sucked it off. Eventually he fucked me again and gave me more jizz. Then he laid back down and I went back to the same thing. Sucking him til he was clean, then putting him in my hole for a little while to get the flavor back. Back and forth. After a while he started stroking himself off while I had just his head in my mouth and came a third time straight in my mouth so I got to drink him directly. So hot to be used like a fleshlight. I'm not completely relaxed yet about not using condoms but this was a very good experience. I def want to drain those balls again.