Do You Discuss HIV Status Before Barebacking?

[rawflipfuck]

I haven't asked in years anyone's HIV status, and rarely do I get asked mine. I like to go to the park to do some cruising, and that isn't a topic you're bringing up in that situation anyway.

[jagmanaz]

Doesn't come up much  these days.   Guess Prep makes guys figure take care of self so not really a topic unless you are hoping for a poz load.

[Davidc]

Was at the Sauna yesterday fucking a random bottom in the dark room , he wasn’t going to be the one for my load more of a warm up guy.

There was another top hovering so as i pulled out he stepped up , just ah he was about to cum (heavy breathing , deep strokes) the bottom said don’t cum in me, the top pulled out and came over his hole and walked off.

I stepped back in and kept fucking with my dick coated in the other guys gum.

Fucked it in to him and left.

We both respected his wishes

[VersGuyAnon]

Considering I'm normally backing onto a glory hole or bent over in the darkroom, it's a no, but if anyone asked (maybe on the rare occasion I'm in a cubicle) I have no problem discussing it.   

[Wombat2765]

I never used to.  But since deciding that I want to join the Brotherhood, I ask prospective Tops.  As a top I am never asked so don’t provide the information.

[VistaCaBB]

Generally don't bring it up unless they do.  Haven't been tested in a long time so just say Clean and they reply the same.  Probably lying, no idea. 

[ktopper]

I was recently tested (end of March), came back HIV Neg. I have updated my profile to reflect this.

I have topped guys who I knew were poz, several times actually. I stayed neg. So I don't worry about it. When I was still having sex with my wife I was much more careful and either wore a condom or, later on, got tested often.

[yunghungtop]

No. This is a very 1999 concept. 

[NWUSHorny]

12 hours ago, bbsyd2765 said:

I never used to.  But since deciding that I want to join the Brotherhood, I ask prospective Tops.  As a top I am never asked so don’t provide the information.

Since I think I caught it by indiscriminately sticking my dick in cum filled holes at fuck clubs and orgies (I didn't bottom bareback, only topped), you would be better off asking bottoms if they have POZ cum in their holes. Of course bottoms in that situation are extremely unlikely to know the status of the cum in their slutty holes, I know I never ask.

[ThisBoyBottoms]

I only do if I think he might be a different status than me and it doesn't say on his profile.

[barebro]

In principle I love the idea of neither asking nor telling, but I can't help the fact that poz loads turn me on very much, so if another dude hasn't said but there are clues that he might be toxic, I usually can't help but ask questions to get clues and try and figure it out.

[PozToxVersPig]

Probably gonna be an unpopular response but my answer is YES, I do, and I'm about to start making neg dudes chasing sign a release of liability.  It fucking sucks but I'm serious.  I got scared shitless just recently when some guy in a group situation threatened to call the cops because I (according to him) was too high to have the ability to consent to sex, let alone with HIV positive guys.  He wanted the cops to legit come arrest the dudes.  (Wrote about it here)  Shit end to some hot nasty fucking.

The bottom isn't ever liable in most any case, but the top is by law required to tell the receiving party about their status prior to sexual activity and the bottom must be of sound mind to consent.   I put my status on my profiles, front and center for this reason.  It still becomes a he said he said situation though if you tell the guy, and then the next morning the bottom has remorse and says "oh, he never told me that."  

Now you're charged with "Attemped Murder" - seriously, that's the charge.

I don't stealth for a similar reason...and honestly, a really slutty bottom who begs for HIV is so much hotter to me than some dude who's just clueless.

The Bathhouse/gloryhole/anon scenario is tough.  I'm not gonna stress about that one for now because I love getting bred that way and I don't care what their status is and I won't change my mind about wanting their load.  But all bottoms are not like me....