Do You Discuss HIV Status Before Barebacking?

[Poz50something]

1 hour ago, PozBearWI said:

and often in our minds we overstate the risk.  that HVL poz load might have as much as a 2% chance of infecting us.  True, a chance.  But a 98% chance it won't.

Thing is,of all the various and sundry STDs out there, HIV is the one thing that makes people who aren’t up to date with the science of HIV/AIDS nervous as cat  on Tina.  I get that HIV can kill, but there are other stds that aren’t a walk in the park either. 

[viking8x6]

Moderator's Note:

This post is NOT in the Backroom. Please leave the poz fetish material out of it.

[lias28]

On 5/6/2025 at 9:04 PM, PozSchism said:

My thoughts too! Well said.

So I hope you start your way to be a good whore and take every load. Will be fun to teach you.

[ffWhole]

On 5/8/2025 at 3:36 PM, PozBearWI said:

and often in our minds we overstate the risk.  that HVL poz load might have as much as a 2% chance of infecting us.  True, a chance.  But a 98% chance it won't.

I think I had a lot of 98%... 😁

[PozBearWI]

@ffWhole individual results always vary.  

[SomewhereonNeptune]

1 hour ago, PozBearWI said:

@ffWhole individual results always vary.  

More because seminal fluids are not as effective in carrying the HIV payload as blood, yes? Ya know, since your mileage may vary. 😉

[ffWhole]

And probably because my hole is like a very well lubricated garage, even though I can use my muscles to massage the cock inside of me.

So no tears and blood...

Edited May 16 by ffWhole

[jd13]

I don't think I ever asked any guy his status before he fucked me bareback and shot his load in me. I'd just offer my ass.

At first (2012ish) this was because I didn't really want to know. I figured I'd probably end up getting HIV anyway, and was always surprised when i didn't.

Later on (2015-16ish), when 'undetectable = untransmissible' became a bit more widely known, I didn't ask because I understood statistics. In UK cities like Manchester or London, around 95-96% of poz guys were UD (and hence not infectious), but 1 in 20 'neg' guys were actually not neg at all, but had undiagnised HIV (and hence potentially very infectious). Work through those statistics, and you could see (back then), that any answer (especially the intuitively 'right' one) to 'are you neg or poz?' was functionally meaningless.

Then (2017-18 onwards) PrEP came along and I got on it, so didn't need to ask. Post-pandemic here in the UK, so many guys are on PrEP now that the question is almost irrelevant. These days (2023 onwards) I'm not on PrEP, for Backroom reasons, and so that's why I don;t bother asking these days.

Changing reasons, over the years but the lack of asking has always been the same! 🤣

[Norcalfukkr]

Nope, I don’t ever ask status. I rarely am asked mine either. In fact, if a guy is carrying a charged load I am 100% more interested in riding him bareback. 

[BBBxCumDumpster]

For some reason, I'm having trouble finding dick over 40. If a guy is under 30, then I remind them in case they didn't read my bio, that I'm poz and undetectable. Once I have that out of the way, I'm good to go.  With older guys, I never ask. Neither do they. 

[fuzzybttm]

Back when PrEP was much newer and U=U was much less well understood, things like condoms, PrEP, HIV status, etc came up a lot more often when guys would ask.  But I haven't had anyone utter a peep in years regarding that.

[Tosk]

On 5/6/2025 at 4:49 PM, mikeinjersey said:

Exactly the way.  right  before I cum  I get a Huge smile and say another one pregnant 

I want to feel a top drop cash on my back in a bathhouse or booth and tell me it’s for child support and use it to stay longer and get more babies to keep his company.

[Olderkinkybiguy]

Back in the day when I was more of a whore, I never asked if I was fucking them. On the occasion I was going to bottom, I was more likely to ask their status, but not always. Now that a lot of guys are on PrEP, and U=U has been scientifically proven (I have been undetectable over 20 years) I typically don’t discuss, unless they bring it up. 
 

the only hookup site I am on now is BBRT, so in my opinion, I assume most everyone online doesn’t care, but I do list my status as undetectable usually. 

[Rillion]

I disclose in my profiles that I'm neg and on prep. I don't bring it up as I don't particularly care l, although I would probably be less likely to hit up a guy that was poz and not on meds, haven't seen too many guys advertise that and since I'm not chasing I haven't gone out of my way to find those guys. I usually top so I'm not too focused on my partners status. 

[jmw003]

When I was younger yes, every time. Over the last decade I almost never do.